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writes:So my ex has a nude photo of me, well he works with me and my current boyfriend. I found out today that he has shown this picture to quite a few people I work with. My boyfriend hasn't found out about it yet, but I want to be the one to tell him. I'm just not sure how I should break it to him. Any advice?Also, does anyone have any idea as to why the ex would do this?! He has a girlfriend who he is out of town to visit currently.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): Your boyfriend should hear this from you, rather than some random stranger. If you tell him, at least you can tell him your side of the story. If he hears it from someone else, I'm sure he will take it badly and it will affect your relationship.
You urgently need to tell your ex that what he is doing is illegal and unless he deletes the photo and stops showing it to anyone else, you will contact the police and prosecute him.
Your ex is a jerk, he should have respected your privacy and what you used to share. I hope you haven't shown him the dignity of having anything else to do with him because he certainly doesn't deserve that. Sort this out with your ex, sort it out with your boyfriend. Have nothing more to do with your ex and hopefully the whole situation will pass you all by.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 He is doing it to hurt you and its working. You could tell your boyfriend what is going on but I fear your ex is just looking for trouble with this, telling your bf could cause problems but him finding out from someone else could too so the first thing to do is to ask your ex for it back without showing him you are upset about it, just be firm with him and explain its really not his place to be doing this and ask him how his girlfriend would feel in your place and what she would think if she knew about this. If that doesnt work then your only option is to talk to your boss as this is a form of harrassment x
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reader, bobbay123 +, writes (1 June 2008):
I know a girl who's had this done to her.
She gave it to him when they were exchanging naked photos with eachother.
They broke up and he spread a picture of her naked all over our school.
She (for some reason) didnt do the same, but I think that made her the better person.
I believe he has done it because he is jealous of you and your boyfriend, And maybe he wants you back, but he knows its too late and he cant go back now.
This would be his way of trying to tell himself he doesnt want you back by making your life a living hell.
Just tell your boyfriend about him and how you exchanged naked photos. Hey! We all have ex's and sometimes we've done some crazy things with them, and I think thats something that new partners need to accept and live with.
I'm sure he'll understand, and perhaps if you explain that your ex has been showing lots of people then maybe your boyfriend could try and talk some sense into him!
Possibilities are endless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): I think i would speak to my manger at work about this one. He should never get away with doing that! After u have spoken to your manager i would tell your new boyfriend. hope things work out ok. And remeber your managers there to help and support you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): You showed a level of trust i him when you gave/posed for the picture, and he has betrayed that trust. Ask yourself why he's doing this? Is he trying to hurt you or cause trouble for you?It sounds as though he isn't totally over you yet.Ask him to stop showing the photo, and if he doesn't threaten legal action against him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): Ask your ex for the photo back.
Tell him that his showing it to people is really hurting you and to please give it back.
He's not being very nice.
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