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writes:Ok where to begin i really need advise ive talked to my freinds and ive also talked to family and they all have told me the same thing. I been going out with a girl for almost 2 years now she means the world to me and i can honestly say that i love her. She also says she loves me and says that she really means it also. about a week ago she gets all upset cause i havent been giving her space she says and breaks up with and from there on she has been making me sick i cant eat or sleep ive lost weight and the stress is over welleming. we talked and she said we can stay together and work it out but once again it seems im doing all the work as she yells and fights with me and i dunno what to do. If i say fine you have it your way i have a strong feeling i will never see her again and it hurts so much i dont wanna loss her Reply to this Question
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reader, bobbay123  +, writes (1 June 2008):
I think it's hard to accept this, but things are never gonna be the way they were.
I think things arent going to fix thereselves, and if they did I'd be so happy for you.
It sounds like your mental and physical health is bad at the moment.
I think you need to move on and forget this girl quickly before you do yourself some serious damage.
I think you need some time away from a relationship and once you feel ready, perhaps you can find another girl.
Please post back soon and update us on how you're doing. =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): I'm going to go the other way on this one and say that maybe her complain is a genuine one and you just aren't listening. If she feels smothered, cut down on the cuddles, hugs, and kisses. Give her space. Not space as in a break from the relationship, but just a little breathing room. My ex was always all over me to the point where I litterally felt like I was being smothered and, although I understood that he was trying to show his affection, all it did was make me angry because I felt like I couldn't breath.
You have to be willing to back off just a bit. If you can't do that then this just isn't the girl for you. She obviously loves you because she was willing to give you another chance, but try to see things from her end...through her eyes. Sometimes a girl would really just like you to stay arms length away during a convo rather than have your arms wrapped around her or just sit down and watch a movie together without her having to be on your lap or having you sit so close. These are just little things that maybe you do without realizing. Then again, I could be wayyyy off. Good luck either way
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reader, lexilou +, writes (1 June 2008):
 You have to decide if she is worth it, she may continue this pattern for a while and it will only hurt you more as time goes on.
Sit her down and ask her calmly why she feels the need to scream and shout at you. Maybe she is just not happy and if she is not willing to try in this relationship then you should maybe consider backing out now and finding someone who will treat you better than this. You deserve happiness too x
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reader, toni246 +, writes (1 June 2008):
I dont think that the relationship is fair on you. When in a relationship its suppose to work both ways and not just one way. If she is like this i dont think you should be with her no more and just try and find someone else. Tell her that you cant do all the work and if you dont change its got to be over. If someone is like this within you constantly shes not worth it
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