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writes:im not complaining about the fact my bf wants to wear a condom. we started with them then after 8 months we just used the pill now 6 months later he wants to use them again which i dont mind but why would a guy want to start using them again? he wont discuss why with me
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 It is possible that he wants to be doubly sure that you won't
get pregnant as the pill is not 100% safe or due to human error ,you forget to take them .
It is possible also that he may not trust you with the pills
because you might want to get pregnant or tricked him.
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (7 June 2008):
He might have an STD. But if he doesn't last that long in bed maybe he learned that useing a condom will make him last longer. Maybe it is just to please you. You should hold off on having sex until you find out the really reason and get some STD test done to be certain! But if he wont tell you why then i wouldn't have sex anymore!
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reader, Emivia  +, writes (7 June 2008):
 You need to sit him down and tell him that even though it might be embarressing to tell you why he suddenly wants to wear condoms again because it's making you a little concerned as you don't understand it.
Good Luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): Perhaps he has an STD, or he has herpes. Perhaps he is not sure about you and your health background
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reader, lexilou +, writes (7 June 2008):
 It could be as smiles says maybe he is worrying more about pregnancy for some reason, or maybe he's been a naughty boy and doesnt want you to catch anything, or maybe something has come to light like an ex contacting him regarding a sexually transmitted disease and he doesnt want to tell you.
The only other option I can think of sounds horrible so dont take offence but he could have even recently found out you've given him a disease and doesnt want to tell you in case you dont believe him and assume hes been sleeping elsewhere, but I would think if that was the case he would tell you so you can get sorted out too.
The only answer here is to ask him straight out and refuse to have sex until you know as its not fair to keep something like this from you and your mind will come up with all sorts trying to figure this out x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): hmmm...that's suspicious. If I were you I would definitely make a big deal about it and not drop it until he gives you an answer.
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reader, Dr Pete + ♥, writes (7 June 2008):
What sort of relationship do you have when he won't even tell you why he wants to use a condom! If that is his view, why are you even having sex with him? You shouldn't accept that answer even if you were having a one night stand with someone.
There are many reasons he could be using a condom: he could be worried about pregnancy (contraceptive pill is not 100%), he could be worried about an STD - either him or you (contraceptive pill does not protect against STD's), or he could be using them because they help him "last" longer. Only he knows the actual answer.
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reader, baby duck +, writes (7 June 2008):
 I think it is smart to use two forms of birth control since none of them work 100% of the time.
However, having sex with someone that won't answer your questions is not a good thing ... does he refuse to answer? Does he say that he does not know? I mean, what if he knows he has some kind of disease and does not want to tell you, but does not want to harm you. Still ... you have a right to know.
It's perfectly understandable that we all have things that we want to keep to ourselves. However, there are things that we owe ... and discussing methods of birth control and reasons for them, with a sexual partner would be one of them.
Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): He might have an infection.
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reader, Smiles  + ♥, writes (7 June 2008):
 There could be various reasons, and only he can honestly tell you! But a few things to consider: could be the risk of pregnancy, the pill is not always safe, using condoms is additional protection; protection against AIds!
If is troubling you very much, I suggest you discuss it with him, but if it makes him more comfortable, and you are okay with it, please tell him that. Let him know you appreciate the extra caution and protection, because which ever way, that is what it is intended for!
Good luck!
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