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I get horny during my period. My boyfriend won't...

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Question - (5 June 2008) 22 Answers - (Newest, 25 July 2008)
A female United States age 22-25, *attie90 writes:

hi everyone quick question when im on my period i get super horny and i want sex but my bf wont have sex with me bc im bleeding how can i convince him 2 have sex with me? plz can anyone tell me what 2 do he wont go into the shower with me when i want sex bc he doesnt want our relationship 2 b just abt sex neither do i but i really want sex at the time what can i do 2 make him have sex with me during my flow?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008):

Period sex is not harmful read about it in this article: http://www.epigee.org/menstruation/sex.html

Be careful not to pressure him too much because, though it's rare; I've heard of guys leaving a girl if everything is about sex (my bf did it with his ex)

if you do have period sex do it in the middle of your period when the flow is less. Go to the bathroom before hand. Wash anything you can stick towels in there wash with water. Rub yourself first so you are horny and I have found the blood flow will STOP .. have your fun with him and the contractions will cause it all to be stopped for an amount of time (not sure if this is true with everyone but works with me)

Tell him how you feel that you need him and it's perfectly healthy and of course - that you love him. Puppy eyes! (and his favourite things!)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008):

I think we all know that if men were in our position they would cry and whine and threaten if we didn't have sex with them...men tend to like sex when they want it so what's wrong with helping your woman out and returning the favor? I say if you are taking care of business for him then he should too. Periods are nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed or even grossed out about and the sooner both men and women realize that the better.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008):

I solved the problem by using the Instead 'softcup'.. Works 'neat' for me... Stops all the mess, and infact, my boyfriend doesn't even know!

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A male reader, crischateu United States +, writes (8 July 2008):

I love women as women in their natural state be it small breasts, underarm hair or menstruating. It’s silly to ignore these lovely creatures when they are wound up. I personally see two married women at least once a month. They only need me during their periods. Their husbands have decided to ignore them when they need them most. The Husbands loss.

They both know I’m just an outlet for them and they are very thankful for my openness in sharing this most beautiful and natural period with them. ‘Jennifer’ who has irregular periods likes getting a quick lick and then likes to fuck and smear the blood on to my chest. ‘Alisa” is a very heavy bleeder she is 26 days on the nose. She likes to get eaten while on her period a little fucking and then to straddle my face for her final cum. She always gives me a kiss after (getting a little red too) before helping me clean it off.

In college, I was sitting in a girls room when she complained about her jock head boyfriend not helping her when she was “ragging,” I said “what an idiot.” 20 minutes later I was sharing the horniest time of month with her and a couple months later she told her roomie who was thankful for the help too.

Guys don’t skip out on your women during her time of need. You’re missing some of the best sex ever. If you do skip out who knows what she will do. I’ll get all the clean up work and I’m probably sharing some of the most meaningful sex your wife/ GF has in their whole lives.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008):

You can't. Its what he thinks

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008):

this is usual u need to b very careful while ur bleeding it cud harm u and if u insist u may loose ur bf coz boys do not want to loose their fluid when it cud harm their bloved, some does but who truly loves will never do it. best way to control it is reading good books, staying away from loneliness means being around ppl and avoid sexual material it will help u so that u will enjoy a powerful healthy sexual life later with ur lover bf...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008):

throw a towel down and do it, or there is always the shower.

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (7 June 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntOMG that happens to me too. Women are at their most horniest when they are on a period. But my fella will not have sex with me whilst I am on, I don't blame him either as it is messy and very unpleasant.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008):

I too was horny in my younger days when I had period. My husband had no problem in having sex with me during that period. If your bf is not interested, just don't force him to do. I was interested in oral sex but my hus was not. I never mentioned any thing about it to him. Thats it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008):

I am 60. I remember in my younger days I used to have real sexual intercouse with my wife during those days she had bleeding. This was the only time she asks me directly to do it and had intercourse without much foreplay. I never used to feel bad about it since she enjoyed it most and reach orgasam quickly. Yes, ladies do become horny during this peiod due to hormonal activity. Mejority of them avoid intercourse during this peiod due to mess there.

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A female reader, Need To Be Fixed United States +, writes (7 June 2008):

I would tell you boyfriend exactly how you feel.... basically what you just told us...and if he is still non compliant with your needs i'm sure there will be a time he wants oral sex and you dont want to give it...... give a little take a little.... relationships are about compromise, not selfishness...........

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A female reader, nIcE Canada +, writes (6 June 2008):

nIcE agony auntMaybe in the shower, yuou could suggest that, its not messy because it'll just wash away

good luck

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A female reader, chubblesjz212 United States +, writes (6 June 2008):

chubblesjz212 agony auntlol the same happens to me the only difference my boyfirend likes to have sex with me whenever....but in ure case i would have a conversation with him about how he views the whole situation and see if he's comfortable with it. if not just masturbate. :) and tell him the whole relationship isnt soley based on sex but when a girl is horny she's horny...he should handle his buisness and not have u wanting to be lusting over others so....tell him to get on that!

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A female reader, birdynumnums Canada +, writes (6 June 2008):

birdynumnums agony auntWe get pretty used to the sight of blood because we have to, but most guys are quite squeamish about the sight of it. I would stick to masturbation and not try to get him to do something that he really doesn't like. I'm sure that you wouldn't want him pressuring you to do something that you were really squeamish about either. I think for the most part, the majority of men and most women don't enjoy this, even though a lot of women do feel horny during their period. Having an orgasm or two stimulates the contrations of the uterus and seems to encourage the flow and hurry the period along as well, so masturbating does help.

Anybody engaging in this with someone that they aren't sure about the sexual hisotry of should wear a condom, however (as a general rule, certainly not addressed to the poster of the question).

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008):

hello dear,

once me and my husband try it, it was our first 3 months together, i feel horny too when i have my days but i try to control it because i am ashame to let my husband know it, but maybe he feel it, and maybe he wanted me to experience that too. we tried just few times but thats it. after then we did not do it again. we both dont really much like it too.. we just put it on experience but sometimes is enough i think. i think its the matter of how you two talk about it and must be with feelings and no pressure in between.. good luck....... gladyz

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A female reader, Fiona xxx United Kingdom +, writes (5 June 2008):

Fiona xxx agony auntI have never had sex on my period with any guy. Men don't go for this even at the end of the period or the start if there is less blood. Just doesn't seem practical for either person.

Often a way of saying no to sex if you have not known somebody long enough was to say I had my period. Of course I was, so not a lie, but it kept hands off. he he.

You both need to feel right about any kind of sexual thing. You wouldn't want to feel pressured.

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A female reader, Fiona xxx United Kingdom +, writes (5 June 2008):

Fiona xxx agony auntI have never had sex on my period with any guy. Men don't go for this even at the end of the period or the start if there is less blood. Just doesn't seem practical for either person.

Often a way of saying no to sex if you have not known somebody long enough was to say I had my period. Of course I was, so not a lie, but it kept hands off. he he.

You both need to feel right about any kind of sexual thing. You wouldn't want to feel pressured.

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A male reader, Dr. Reality Check United Kingdom +, writes (5 June 2008):

Dr. Reality Check agony auntYou're probably just gonna have to control yourself till it's done. I won't touch my girlfriend sexually while she's on her period - it's just not nice. It's a personal preferance thing, and if he doesn't wanna do it he probably wont budge.

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A female reader, lexilou United Kingdom +, writes (5 June 2008):

lexilou agony auntSome men just dont like bodiy functions and sex mixed together and you have to respect that, its messy and sticky and not everyone enjoys it. My hubbie is happy to do it, (he used to be a butcher so isnt afraid of blood!) but I prefer not to.

However I too get really horny when I have my period so I'll sort him out first and then he does me by concentrating on the clit and top of the mound with his hands but doesnt venture anywhere near the messy area. Works well for us!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008):

This seems to be a hangup among younger men so I don't honestly know how you're going to convince him. Maybe show him this answer:

I recently had a relationship with a girl over half my age. We had little time together as it was a holiday romance but as she was commencing her flow, I thought "Shit, that's the end of that!" How wrong I was! She was so damn horny, so young and pretty and so sexual and, much like yourself, admitted that she was sooo turned on at this time, the sex we/ I experienced was off this planet!!!

Baby, nothing wrong with a little mess - same consistency, different colour! Very sorry if that sounds crude but man, if the feeling is high, don't deny!

I wish you luck Miss and I hope your guy takes full advantage of a potentially sexually explosive time of the month!

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A male reader, Short timer United States +, writes (5 June 2008):

Short timer agony auntIts hard to learn sel-control but you must learn how to for your boyfriends sake. dont make the person you love do somthing that they dont want to do.

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A female reader, inneedofattention United Kingdom +, writes (5 June 2008):

inneedofattention agony auntif your boyfriend is uncomfortable with this, dont pressure him, its not fair. how would you like it if he constantly pressured you into doing something you didnt like, for example have sex with a woman in front of him, whilst he videoed it? you wouldnt but it would be considered worse as your a girl. Dont. your pressuring him and its just as wrong even if hes a man. i really hope you can sort this out, hunni, you horny girl lol.

all my luck and love, in need of attention. xxx

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