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writes:Hi guys - I just really needed advice about how I've been trying to deal with my weight for like a year now.I'm 17 and I weigh 7 stone, i fit into size 6 and 8 but sometimes wear 10's and 12's because i like baggy clothes.I know it may seem I am being petty but I genuinly have a serious issue with my weight. I have no self esteem whatsoever and really really wish to lose weight and have been trying to do so for too long now. People say I am skinny enough, but in all honesty when i look in the mirror, i HATE my figure with a passion. I used to have an eating disorder (3 years ago) but now I'm too afraid to go back down that road again, but somehow I'm determined to do so.EVERYTHING i eat I HAVE to count the calories and add them up to how much I have already eaten, i never over eat and never reach 2000 calories in a day. But this obsession is seriously causing me to be extremely frustrated with myself. Is there any healthy way and EASY way I can lose weight? I really feel i need help, I want to lose weight very fast. Please help guys! Thank you.
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reader, Capo1990 +, writes (24 November 2009):
hi,
i'd just like to say how relieved i am to finally hear there is someone exactly like me! i'm 19, 5ft 6 and 7and a half stone which apparently classes me as underweight but that does NOT translate to what i see in the mirror.
like you i was anorexic.it was the hardest most horrible thing i've ever had to go through and i lost all my friends, my hair and all my confidence.
i thought if i gave up dancing i would get over the whole 'body image' thing but 2 years on trying to get on with my life my weight is my main focus and it is so frustrating. im about to turn 20 and i still feel out of control and to be honest it's really getting me down.
i really want to lose weight but more than anything i'd like food to stop controlling my life.
just thought id let you know that you're not alone x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): MY God knock it off you are thin. And I am sure that you are a serious KNOCK OUT
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): I totally understand what you feel like. In fact, I'm in the same position as you. I haven't had an eating disorder like you , but I'm around the 7 stone mark (I'm 16 years old btw), which is for me labelled underweight and I still want to lose weight as I seem to look fatter in pictures and I feel like I'm constantly gaining weight for some weird reason, even though I'm not. I think that all you need to do is to keep up what your doing NOT (before people get at me for this) to make you lose more weight, but to maintain your current weight.
People are right at the end of the day. You don't need to lose weight, and at the end of the day neither do I.
My advice to you is to do anything which raises your self esteem, not saying for you to be a narcissist but take pic of yourself until you find a nice one. Take more like that and look back at yourself and see how you are pretty. It doesn't hurt to self indulge in that a bit ;) Dress up, even if you aren't going out to see what you look like, go to the shops and try one really nice dresses to see what you look like and seriousl just LOVE yourself a bit! :) I'm sure you find there is something about yourself you love and focus on that. If you always feel like you weigh to much and are unhappy with your self appearance, its gonna show to other people! It really works, trust me! I was totally paranoid, but one day I went out shopping, bought a bunch of new clothes I liked after trying on a ton, then put them on for school them next day, walked into school feeling that I looked pretty and everyone suddenly commented on it saying that I did! So if I can do it even though I'm not really pretty, but probably am the same height and weight as you, you definitely can!
Take care and good luck! 3 Try it out sometime!
xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): It sounds like you still have an eatting disorder sweety, just because you are eatting and you're not forcing it up again, it doesn't mean that you don't have a dissorder.
You don't need to loose weight. I'm tiny and I weigh 8 stone and I wear 6s or 8s. You should go and see your doctor about how you're feeling.
They may be able to help you stop feeling like this.
It would be terribly unhealthy for you to loose anymore weight.
I hope you feel better soon.
Good Luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): hi there,
wen i was 12 yrs old my mum fort i had an eating disorder. my life was misreble 4 bout 6 monthes. i weighed then bout 4 stone. that seems quite little cause i was tall but i luved ma food. she put me on like this reigene where i had to put on 5Ibs every 2 weeks. i gained weight like crazy just to prove to her that i hadnt got an eating disorder. then wen she finally believed me i lost the wieght to under 3 stone. i was rushed to hospital after i had collapsed but i still felt like i was fat,. i recovered and im no 22 yrs old. i look bac at the pics nd i feel like i was soooooo stupid. i spent half of wat shuld hav bin my teenage yrs in hopital. im now a healthy size 10 nd love my curves nd ive found out how much men do too! plz let u do the right fing, ignore the mirror nd enjoy ur life. u dont want an early grave.
gd luckxxx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (6 June 2008):
 No there is no healthy way to lose weight when you already weigh as little as you do. Its not weight loss you need help with its your self esteem and confidence issues and I think the only way to do this is to talk to someone. The good thing here is you recognise you have a problem and have admitted to having an eating disorder before but you are obviously still not full recovered.
I have been as low as just over 7 stone and at 5ft 3 and a bit was seriously underweight but I still saw myself as fat, its only now when I look back at the photos from that time of my life I see how skeletal I had become, I looked awful and older than my years.
Its not easy to overcome low self esteem but you can with support so its time to ask for help, go and see your doctor and let him know what is going on in your head. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): I think you must starting loving yourself. Accept your body as it is, look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself loud.....I love myself! Also pay attention to your self confidence....your personality...I am sure if you combine al these qualities you will be a very pleasant young person, and remeber, it is not just the looks that count! I suggest you stop worrying about a weight problem which does not seam "real" and pay attention enjoying who you are!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): The thing is, there's never going to be a healthy way to lose weight when you're that thin already. It's so unhealthy for you, but instead of me ranting, listen to the facts.
You hate your figure. It's obviously not because you're fat because you musn't be if you fit into 6s and 8s. Getting thinner is not going to make your figure lovely you know! A flatter stomach may be achieved, but what about your breasts? You'll lose your beautiful womanly curves, and that is NOT attractive in the slightest. Have you ever heard a man say he loves a really thin woman? No! They want something they can hold on to and love. You're not fat, you're the perfect weight if not a little underweight. Please, stop this nonsense because you'll ruin your looks and body. Imagine an anorexic person, their ribs showing and legs like insect legs. It's not beautiful OR feminine, it's a desperate cry. So please, love who you are because losing weight will only develop into a serious problem.
A good friend of mine's mother died from anorexia when he was just 8 years old. You CAN die from these eating disorders. You battled a disorder once, don't put your body under the strain of doing it again.
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