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writes:I have been casually dating this guy since December, seeing him when both of our sched.s allowed, but we were never exclusive. We talked briefly about having a relationship in February and decided to keep progressing as we were by taking things slow and seeing where they go. Lately he has been treating me more and more like his girlfriend, holding my hand, putting his arm around me, kissing me in public and sleeping over just to cuddle. We see each other more and talk more regularly now as well.Should I bring the relationship topic up again or just see how things go? I don't want to get stuck in the friends with benefits rut.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust an update for everyone who gave me advice. I am officially dating him exclusively. He brought up the subject himself and said he wanted things to get more serious! Thanks everyone for your accurate advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow would I ask him outright? Is there anyway to do it without being insistant?
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (11 June 2008):
 You have to establish where you stand with him and I honestly think the only way to do this is to ask him outright. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for being honest. I just don't know if I am jumping the gun if I bring up the relationship thing again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): There's a whole lot of grey area, I know. You don't know how he feels about it; if he hasn't made it clear don't assume he wants you to be his gf. I'm sorry that I can't be of more help but, i'm betting he's perfectly fine with things as is. Obviously you don't mention other girls/guys you've been with when you're together but only you'll know if he wants to/is ready to be exclusive. Trust your own judgment, nobody here knows him better than you do obviously. If you think he wants to, then go ahead and ask, if that's what you want. If he says no, well, you didn't want to get stuck in that type of relationship anyway, so you can decide what to do from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): OMG! I'm in the same situation. The conversation finally came up on his end and he said he wanted to be exclusive. I say wait until he brings it up---you'll know he really means it if he does.
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