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26-29,
*ahana
writes:hey, well i met this guy a while ago and we've just started going out,he's 18 and im 13 and we live quite far apart from each other,he treats me really well and everything, but sometimes he tells me that girls at his college come on to him sit on his lap n kiss n that. And i really get upset, we are both muslim and he said that he wont do anything to hurt me,so what im tryn to say is, is he a player? or he just aint he right for me?thanks for any respnds
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reader, Rahana +, writes (19 June 2008):
Rahana is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks so much i see what you mean thanks alot :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Either way... If he is a player or if he is not the right guy for you... Then you shouldn't be with him.
He says he won't hurt you... But by letting girls sit on his knee and kiss you he'd betraying you... And hurting you. You deserve MUCH better.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (19 June 2008):
 He's bascially trying to get YOU to sit on his lap and kiss him and maybe wants to go a bit further and thinks by making you jealous he can pressure you into something you are not ready for. If he ever says if you loved me you would..... run a mile.
Yes he is playing you and you are too young to be with this guy. x
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (18 June 2008):
 Normally i would go with age gaps are not a big deal, that age is only a number, that five years is nothing, and strictly speaking thats true. However you are three years under the legal age of consent and the age gap between the pair of you becomes massive. He could get in to an awful lot of trouble where anything of a sexual nature happen between you, even face a jail sentence. Do you think he tells his college buddies that he is seeing a 13 year old, because my hunch would be he does not. My only advice here is to tell you that at this stage in your life you are to young to be dating an 18 year old man. When you are 18 and going to college, going to pubs, partying etc, would you consider dating a 13 year old?...
All the best x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): hmmm, it sounds as though he is trying to make you jealous. by telling you those things. im sure if he really cared about you then he wouldnt let any other girls come on to him. so maybe he cares for you but not as much as you would like. i think the best thing is to talk to him about it. but just keep calm when you do, because getting angry and yelling just makes things worse.
Best of Luck!
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