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writes:ok, i know how it sounds, but im in love with my teacher. it is not a crush, and people piss me off when they think they know better how im feeling then i do, just beacuse im 6 short months away from legaly being an adult. My friends see how he is around me and have sworn to me since before they knew i liked him that he liked me. when i dress provocativly, he cant look at me. he doesnt reprimand me as much, and we have had serious convos about anything and everything. i think he likes me too, and he says things that equal out to he still wants to see me later. he'll randomly walk to me at random times and tease me about random things. he doesnt pay as much attention to my friends as he does to me. i love him so much. it hurts to not be with him. he is the most original and beautiful person alive, he could get fat or go bald or do anything, and i wouldnt care. he is smart and funny....he is everything.....what do i do?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Isn't it summer vacation for you? Hopefully you'll feel differently by next fall.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Do nothing until you are no longer in school with him as a teacher. Then you can have a conversation with him and find out if he's remotely interested in you. True love should be able to wait until the time is right. A crush is impatient and irrational. So if you feel this is love, then you should be able to be patient and think things through. If you can't, then this is a crush.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Love is a very strange and difficult and magical feeling and when people tell you its just a crush I can see why you get annoyed, youre right they cant tell you how you feel. But they are mostly talking from experience. Many of us have thought we were in love but dont know what real love is til much later in life and can look back at past loves and see the difference.
So Im not going to say its a crush, you are feeling love for him but where do you see this going?
Is he married?
How old is he?
Would you want him to lose his job over you and be removed from college/school permanently?
Do you want to have to leave because of the scandal it will cause?
Its easy to let our emotions get the better of us but as you do sound mature then do the mature thing and steer clear, dont wear provocative clothing to illicit a reaction but just treat him as a friend. If it moves to another stage AFTER you have left then so be it, it was meant to be but at this stage you both have too much at stake to even contemplate this x
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reader, ILOVEHIMSOMUCH +, writes (16 June 2008):
ILOVEHIMSOMUCH is verified as being by the original poster of the question well, he's 27, and completely single. i know way too much about his personal life....lol, just kidding, but i do know most everything. i dont know what kind of hints to drop....what should i do?
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Yes, we all see these types of issues around these parts,and yes, it will strike some nerves. I'm not sure what it is you are asking for though. Are you asking for advice on how to handle these feelings for him in a realistic way? First off, is he married? That would be a big no-no, and you know better than that, I'm sure. Secondly, are you sure he likes you in that way, and wants to pursue you? Most of the time, these teachers dont really want to act on their fantacies of hooking up with their young students, because they know their career and livelyhood are at major risk. He may in fact have a thing for you, but knows not to dive in to the deep end, if you know what I mean. It isnt your age that strikes my concern, you seem mature (although you are not legal just yet) I just wanted to clear that up. I'm just throwing out the possability that perhaps he dosnt really want to have that kind of relationship with you. (we know we cant always count on our friends to give us realistic opinions). If you are serious, and nothing anyone will say can stop you from going after him, then the best way to do it would be dropping hints, and making them more obvious as you get results that you are looking for. But, if you get 1 result that tells you he isnt into it, drop it right there, before you make things very akward between you two. Good luck, hope you make a wise decision. xx
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