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writes:hi , i 've been married for 6 months, last night my husband told me about his dream , he was making sex with me and one of my friend.. and everytime we do love he keeps repeating my friends names that he would like if they will watch us making love (everytime he picks different names). do u think is it normal? is it what we call his fantasy ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): Oh SY, never use your partner's name while having sex if you are in a new relationship. My wife and I both made that mistake when we started dating. :( Honey or dear or babe is much safer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): My wife and I talk about our fantasies, but not while we are having sex. When we are having sex we concentrate on each other, not some fantasy. That does not mean that I don't fantasize while having sex with her. The thing is that I would never talk to her about it while having sex. I do it to make sex better for her and me.
When I was younger and we hadn't had sex for a couple of days, I would sometimes orgasm too fast. I would think about something boring to make me last longer, but would have to think of something erotic to get me back to where I wouldn't last too long. I would change my thoughts after she had an orgasm. I finally told her what I had done and she thought it was so cool. She appreciated that I made sex a little less enjoyable for me to make it better for her. If I were to tell her what I was thinking while having sex then it would have just ruined the sex for her. If your hubby is fantasizing to get his timing right then he should just do it in silence.
Now that I am older I sometimes have to fantasize about erotic things to finish if we have sex every day. I think there was one day between being young and old when the timing was perfect without trying to control it. :)
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Omg! I would kill my boyfriend if he did this! How do you feel about it? You need to talk to him and tell him to stop because its not normal. X
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reader, dan026 +, writes (29 June 2009):
 No it's not normal and very disrespectful to you. The fantasy itself, such as having other women involved, is common but to verbalize it to you, especially during intercourse, is not normal. If I were with a girl and she did what you man did I would throw her out of bed! Does this not anger you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): I honestly don't know if this is normal, but that's not really what matters. It matters how you feel about it and if it bugs you. If you don't like it, then you need to inform him of this so that he will stop! Becuase i don't care what percent of the men's population says other women's names in bed.. it would NOT settle with me if my husband did.
~Sy.
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