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Question - (1 July 2009) 6 Answers - (Newest, 2 July 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, *ovnlife writes:

My mother in-law wants to move in should i let her it not just her its her grandaughter to because my boyfriends brother is in the army and his mother is watching his child until next year when he comes home we already have 2 kids and 1 on the way even we have a really big house but i am still loving our own space and i like being the queen of my castle

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A female reader, lovnlife United States +, writes (2 July 2009):

lovnlife is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thsnk you all and i decided not to let her move in and needless to say my hubby wasnt happy about it he feels like this is his house to and know he sayd he feel like he dont have no say so i told him that when he wants some private time alone with me and his moms around then what aint like he can tell her to take a hike lol thanks alot for your help

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A female reader, kellyxxx United Kingdom +, writes (2 July 2009):

kellyxxx agony auntDon't let her move in, things would get too complicated and you should be enjoying time with your family(kids and partner) not her too. Sure, visits and stayovers are fine but she is a mother herself and in most households there is only room for one mother figure, anymore than that over a period of time can lead to clashes! X

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (2 July 2009):

Honeypie agony auntYou need to at least have a WAY out in case it turns out that it is TOO much work for you. Maybe set a trial of 3 months and see how it goes?

I'm guessing you are a stay at home mom? If so, does that mean YOU will be taking care of your BIL's child? Not her?

Like I said more questions pop up then answers.

Be honest with your husband. As far as her sexuality, I wouldn't worry. Kids are smart, but they don't judge. At least not til others ( usually an adult) have told them something is wrong..

Good luck.

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A female reader, lovnlife United States +, writes (2 July 2009):

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Thanks everyone for your answer and to honeypie she says she gone help with bills and the kids she dont have a car and she works partime.my kids are 5 and 1 and my hubby wants her to come he all like i mean thats my mom and i want to help her did i mention she is also a lesbian not that it bothers me but i have a lil boy and lil girl i am not ready to explain that life style to my 5 year old do i stand by and let my guy have his way or do i stop this disaster before it starts and thank you kellyxxx and oldersister for your answer to

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (1 July 2009):

Honeypie agony auntI wouldn't do it personally. Just because I don't want another queen bee in the castle, except if it was MY own mother.. Not nice of me, but being honest.

How is the relationship with the two of you? ( MIL and you?) How old is the child? WHAT is the reason for her wanting to move in? Is it permanent? It is something that is "normal" in your husbands family? As in cultural thing. How about finances? Does she bring "anything" to the table? ( her own car or whatnot?) Or does she expect to live of you and your husband.. What does your husband want?

Sorry, I have more questions then answers for you.

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A female reader, kellyxxx United Kingdom +, writes (1 July 2009):

kellyxxx agony auntThen just have a chat with her or your partner and explain that its not what you want. Just explain that you already have kids and you don't want the pressure of another one too. What does your partner want? I doubt that when your mother in law is having sleepless nights because of the new baby crying she will want to move in anyway. X

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