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12 July 2012: In October of 2002, I moved from The San Francisco Bay Area, back to my hometown of Dallas Texas. In November I got a job at the wonderful world of Wal-Mart (said sarcastically) I worked back in receiving, my job was a soft-lines processor. I was ...
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What do I do? Who do I choose? Please help!
Q. I have a dating problem. I'm 16 years old and I've been dating this guy and have been for 7 months. The problem is that I like another guy who lives on the block down from me. We've known each other for seven years and I've liked him for quite ...
A. 22 December 2012: If you don't love your boyfriend, then you seriously need to let him go - BUT as far as this other guy is concerned, he isn't available. He has a girlfriend - so unless he plans on leaving her, there is no choice to be made there.
Serio... (read in full...)
I am totally into him. And he's leaving for abroad in January. But has he just pranked and punked me? Was he never into me?
Q. the whole story began in february. actually we had holidays but i did an extra uni course and stayed at the student's dormitory and so did some other students... there was my neighbour who is single. he came over to watch tv and chat a few times...
A. 22 December 2012: Well I'm not sure what you think is so perfect about him. Every time you turn around, he is kissing and fondling some other girl. Honestly, he sounds like a total tool - he's definitely a player.
It's good that he's leaving in January. Take adv... (read in full...)
In the last year my fiance's desire has gone down, and where once he lasted an hour, now it is five minutes.Any suggestions to improve things?
Q. i have been with my fiancce for a large part of my teen years. We are engaged now. When we started having sex he used to last about an hour or longer in bed. but lately this year our sex life has gone down hill for me. he doesnt do foreplay an...
A. 22 December 2012: Him not lasting is only a fraction of your problem. It sounds like in the intimacy department, he has completely checked out. He's only having sex to satisfy HIS physical needs, and that is very selfish of him.
Your needs are not being taken ca... (read in full...)
My guy is going bald - HELP!!!
Q. My guy is going bald!!!!!! I dont want to leave him, but he looks too elder than me! What do I do? He is ready to do anything if I have the solution..Pls help me! He is just 25! and Am 23 !! :-( :-( Am so sad abt his baldness..Am trying to support ...
A. 22 December 2012: Oh I totally agree with YouWish, especially about Patrick Stewart (yummy) - Bald can be VERY sexy. My husband has a gorgeous head of hair, but baldness is in his family. I told him that when he starts losing his hair, he's going to help it along and ... (read in full...)
I broke up with her but now I don't feel right without her. I'm confused about my feelings. What should I do?
Q. i am sooo confused My gf and I went out for about 1 month and i broke up with her, as i didnt feel it was the right time. When I was with her i wasn't that bothered but when i'm not with her i really want her. I really have no idea what to do, ple...
A. 22 December 2012: Maybe it took you being without her for you to realize what you had when you were with her.
One month really isn't hat long - You didn't give the relationship much of a chance to blossom. Ask her out again, and tell her you think you might ha... (read in full...)
I've had an epiphany regarding my past and present relationships and am wondering if anyone else has ever experienced this.
Q. I have been thinking a lot about my past and present relationships recently because I've noticed that I tend to stay with people for far longer than I sometimes should. I know it's not that I'm afraid to be alone, because I have been happily single ...
A. 22 December 2012: I think to some degree it is actually normal for people to want to be better then their partner's ex - especially if you know the ex, or know anything about them.
I see this even in the most confident of people. I think it's a subconsc... (read in full...)
I can't get past the fact that my husband had lap dances from strippers before we were married.
Q. I have known my husband for abt 10 yrs now, married for 6 and we both are very happy, committed and loving to each other, expecting our first baby now. But just the other day, I was talking of pregnancy stretch marks and he goes - dont worry ho...
A. 20 December 2012: You were living in two different countries, and still "evaluating" your relationship. During that time he went to strip clubs and got some lap dances, while you had a few one night stands that involved actual sexual intercourse, and you're upset ... (read in full...)
I have a beautiful friend, and I'm jealous to the point where I don't want to hang out with her in places where she draws a lot of attention.
Q. I have a dilemma. I have this friend, a girl, who I know for the past 5 years. She is very sweet, and we are not that terribly close, but we see each other we really enjoy each other company. The thing that about 9 months ago she broke up ...
A. 20 December 2012: I agree with Scorpio - If you have a boyfriend, then why do you care so much about getting attention from other men in bars and clubs? You're not available to act on that attention, but she is.
Otherwise, yes - Plan other activities with you frie... (read in full...)
I feel like he's using me for oral sex and doesn't value our friendship anymore, what should I do?
Q. Hey guys, hoping you will be able to shed a little light on this situation I'm in. There's this guy I've known for awhile, and before we became friends we fooled around (oral sex) over the summer. After this however, we became close friends. There ...
A. 20 December 2012: Stop doing this to yourself - this guy has not once ounce of respect for you. It's time you start respecting yourself - you're worth so much more then this.
Respect has to begin with you, and if you don't have any for yourself, no one else is ... (read in full...)
Old crush from highschool poked me on Facebook?
Q. A guy I had a big crush on in high school just poked me on Facebook. I haven't seen him for 2 and a half years since I left my hometown for college. In high school we were always staring at each other but we only spoke a few times. We were both ...
A. 19 December 2012: Facebook pokes don't mean anything other then just a non verbal/written way of saying hello. It's just another way of getting someone's attention. If you like him then you should accept his friend request.... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, then got upset at me joining a dating website, so he joined the same site. What do I make of this?
Q. He dumped me just over a month ago, out of the blue. we were serious and talked about a future. He said he wanted to be alone, not date anyone and focus on his kids. Since then I have told him how much I love him and want to work it out. He has r...
A. 18 December 2012: He doesn't know what he wants - but he wants to make sure you stay single so that you're available when and if he ever figure it out.
Don't allow him to manipulate you in that way. Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't - there is no middl... (read in full...)
He says "it's not what I think it is". But why am I not enough for him? Why does he need to talk to other girls?
Q. Question Especially geared for the men MrX and I have been dating since June. We are monogamous with each other (sexually) I know most of his friends, but not his family and although we act like it, he really won't commit to saying he's my a...
A. 18 December 2012: When you say he's talking to them "romantically" - what do you mean?
As far as whether or not what you did being deplorable - You saw some red flags - you had a supposition - so you acted on it. I'm not going to judge you for that, but it's obv... (read in full...)
Conflicted: Is it really love? If so, now what? If not, how can I escape?
Q. I am trying to decode this relationship I am in. I am having an affair (reluctantly) with a married man and I am also married but have been separated for years. He refuses to let me go. He has tried with my encouragement, but he is very weak for me ...
A. 18 December 2012: So you are not the first woman he has cheated on his wife with?
"He says he has never felt this way about any woman."
You're not the first woman he has used this line on, either. I would be willing to bet he used it on the first woman he che... (read in full...)
I was abused in the past. Do I have the right to become celibate in my relationship?
Q. After years of having sexual problems, I have decided to become celibate. This is due to extreme anxiety and depression before and after sex that stems from emotional and slight sexual abuse. I was never forcibly raped, however, no matter how hard...
A. 17 December 2012: Of course you have a right to be celibate - but you don't have the right to expect your boyfriend to just roll over and willingly accept that.
Sex is a very important part of a normal healthy relationship, especially when you love someone.... (read in full...)
How can I get closure with husband weeping around about lost young lover?
Q. How to get closure when husband's young EA lover keeps him hanging on? I recently found out my husband, 58, of 30 years, had been having an emotional affair for the last 18 months with a young female friend, 28, who already has a live in boyfrien...
A. 12 December 2012: "He is not rich or handsome and I really cannot see what is in it for her."
Daddy issues - As disgusting as that sounds, she sees him as some sort of father figure
Everyone here is correct - As long as he is living in your home, still in c... (read in full...)
How can I show my husband that he should turn to me, not other women friends?
Q. My husband and I have gone through a lot and it takes 2. In the past I have been very jealous and controlling and judgmental the point where he feels he doesn't really see me as a good friend to come to to talk to. So needless to say he has found ...
A. 11 December 2012: He's manipulating you into "allowing" him to hang out with single women. He's disrespecting you, and your marriage. BOTH of you need to be in counseling, together, not just you. Marriage ios a two way street, and when they're problems, they need to ... (read in full...)
Does he just prefer being married or does he really not know how to behave?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 and half years has been pressuring me to marry him. I have been unsure because we have been making up and breaking up perpetually, over his use of dating sites. He seems to overlook how much it upsets me, even though he doesnt go ...
A. 11 December 2012: He could be the type who needs the security of a committed relationship, while he fools around on the side.
What concerns me, though, is that you already know he has a history of being unfaithful, and yet you're still with him. There are some maj... (read in full...)
I need some help in writing a love message In my gf birthday card.
Q. I need some help in writing a love message In my gf birthday card. We have been together for nearly a year and it's serious. This is her first birthday together with me. So I would like to write a special message, or have some tips. Something's ...
A. 7 December 2012: Close your eyes and think on all the things you love about her - Think about how those things make you feel - Think about how you felt the first time you saw her, held her hand, kissed her, made love to her (if you've done that)- Then let all those ... (read in full...)
How do users and abusers live with themselves?
Q. Dear Cupid I have a generic question, the abusive boy friends or the ones who use people for their purpose and throw them away like dirt, how do they live with themselves, knowing that they hurt several people. I have a bf I believe soon to ...
A. 7 December 2012: They don't believe they are doing anything wrong. Everything they do is somehow rationalized and justified. The only time the behavior is wrong, is when it's being done to THEM. Then they go into full victim mode. BTW, the "act" of going to chur... (read in full...)
Should I tell my engaged co-worker that I have feelings for him?
Q. I want to tell a co worker that I have feelings for him. I have liked him for a few months and the only problem is that he is engaged. The weddings not for like 2 years though. I wasn't planning on saying anything because he's not available. But ...
A. 7 December 2012: Even though they're having problems, and even though his fiancée may be "mental", he is still engaged. You stepping in and telling him how you feel, will only make a bad situation worse.
He isn't available, so leave him alone and allow them to ... (read in full...)
Why did she keep cheating on me and treating me so badly?
Q. I'm recently out of a 4 year relationship and a traumatic one at that. The problems began 2 1/2 years ago when she started cheating on me..the other guy was a random she met on craigslist one night when i was not around. Their fling lasted on ...
A. 5 December 2012: "I'm so confused as to why she would constantly do this to me?"
Because you allow her to. By constantly chasing after and he and tacking her back, you have told her that you are willing to put up with this behavior.
Get some counseling for y... (read in full...)
Are the disabled unlovable?
Q. How does anyone get a girlfriend? I'm 24, almost 25, and every woman I ask out rejects me. I've tried over and over again. I use a wheelchair, but I'm finishing a degree in Web design/development to start a career in Web design and my specific ...
A. 5 December 2012: I have a disability (visually impaired) and it has never interfered with my love life. Aunt Honesty is absolutely right - you need to change your approach. Find a way for these women to get to know you on a friendship level before asking them out. ... (read in full...)
I thought we were in a committed relationship, but he's been dating someone else while dating me.
Q. I have been dating a man for 9 months now. All along I have considered this a serious, mognogamous relationship. I recently found out that until about a month ago he had been dating another woman as well. I was crushed, but he said until now he ...
A. 5 December 2012: Save yourself some heartache down the road, and kick this one to the curb. That type of deception, this early in a relationship, is a major red flag. not to mention the fact that when you caught him, instead of taking responsibility for his actions, ... (read in full...)
I know I can't have my cake and eat it too but I'm confused and not sure what is the right thing to do
Q. Where should I start, ok ill start here, 2 years ago I ended a 3 year relaxationship with a girl that i never had a connection with other than sex lol and we had nothing in common, I was miserable and she didn't love me, but we had awesome sex and ...
A. 4 December 2012: With your religious background and knowledge of scripture, you know all to well what happens when one flirts with temptation. Today she's sleeping on your couch, tomorrow she's coming over when your wife isn't home. Even though you know it's wr... (read in full...)
I let her go so she could move on, like she wanted, and now she's upset.
Q. So my ex-girlfriend and I broke up about a year ago, and since them we remained friends. Her reason for breaking up with me was because she had to concentrate on school and she didn't want to struggle with choosing to give her time to her family or ...
A. 2 December 2012: In addition to everything CindyCares said, I think she was enjoying being chased by you. She didn't want to be in a relationship with you, but she liked the attention she was getting from you - so she threw you a bond every once in a while, to give ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me and wants to be with me, so why is he not making it happen?
Q. well my story of how me and my mm got together started out at work. Began innocent talking and sharing our life experiences/feelings. It felt great for the both of us as we hadn't had that in such a long time. It progressed into staying late ...
A. 2 December 2012: Firstly, and I know this isn't what you want to hear, but he never had any intentions of leaving his wife. If he had, he would have done so when she found out he was cheating, AGAIN. Now that's not to say that she might end up kicking him out - But ... (read in full...)
My dad saw one of the dirty pics that I had sent my B/f!
Q. Ok so me and my boyfriend now have a long distance relationship... in order to keep things "interesting"... we send each other pictures. The other night I sent him a bunch of pictures and they were sitting on my desktop. The next day I was in the ...
A. 2 December 2012: Yeah, I agree. I would definitely leave the subject alone. I think if your dad knew it was you, and it bothered him, he would have said something to you at the time.
To avoid any further embarrassment, though, I would get your pictures off of y... (read in full...)
She is a weak woman who thinks with her heart and not her head. what is wrong with her?
Q. hi i got myself into a tissy and i my conscious is getting the best of me. sometime ago i connected with a woman on a dating site. i didnt tell her i was bi and not divorced and occassionally sleeping with my husband and my man boss. she thinks...
A. 2 December 2012: Yes, compassionate caring people, who know right from wrong, are what's causing ALL the worlds problems.....REALLY????? YOU are the one who lied YOU are the one who manipulated her into trusting you Oh no, but it couldn't be your fault - You'... (read in full...)
She is a weak woman who thinks with her heart and not her head. what is wrong with her?
Q. hi i got myself into a tissy and i my conscious is getting the best of me. sometime ago i connected with a woman on a dating site. i didnt tell her i was bi and not divorced and occassionally sleeping with my husband and my man boss. she thinks...
A. 1 December 2012: What's wrong with you? You're bragging about taking advantage of someone's trust. You're wearing it like a badge of honor.
This isn't a good thing you've done, it's a mean and spiteful thing. You did it deliberately, and therefore IT is your fau... (read in full...)
It seems like my girlfriend is getting too close to her male friend, they act like we did when we first started dating!
Q. My girlfriend has recently started talking to another guy she goes to school with frequently and I'm beginning to question the truth behind their friendship. She says that he is merely her best guy friend since her and I don't go to the same school, ...
A. 30 November 2012: You see the same pattern of behavior between him and her, that existed between you and her, when your relationship was in the "new" stage. Trust your feelings on this one,
I think you have reason to be concerned.
It isn't appropriate ... (read in full...)
Has he crossed boundaries, should I make something of his behavior?
Q. I was at a meeting last night and the usual innuendo was going on. After the meeting I went down the pub with two of the men one of which I know quite well being my partner's friend. The other guy had gone outside for a cigarette so when we sat d...
A. 29 November 2012: I would say that if his behavior is making you uncomfortable, then yes, he is crossing boundaries. You also have to ask yourself, how would your partner feel about this behavior? If this friend of his acts this way toward you, only when he isn't ... (read in full...)
Is my behavior my fault, or the fault of the person who caused me to behave this way?
Q. SIMPLE QUESTION: if i tell someone (in this case a family member) not to do or say a certain thing b/c it'll get me really angry, and then they go ahead and say or do what gets me angry anyways, and i blow up and get mad, am i at fault, or ...
A. 29 November 2012: YOU and YOU alone are the only one responsible for how you act. It doesn't matter what anyone else is doing or saying, YOU are the one who is supposed to be in control of what YOU say and do. Blaming your behavior on those around you is like saying ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated...should I take him back?
Q. My boyfriend of 1 1/2 yrs has cheated on me with another woman that he said he knows for many years. He said is nothing serious, he helps her out when she needs him and he can count on one hand how many times he had sex with her while we been ...
A. 28 November 2012: No, you should absolutely NOT take him back. He is a serial cheater - he isn't going to change - and if you want a healthy happy relationship, it isn't going to be with him.
Healthy relationships are based on trust, and you already know that you... (read in full...)
I have so many questions and so many concerns about whether or not I can trust him.
Q. part of my boyfriends job is to drag women into traps. he makes them think he loves them so they fall in his love and then he tests their real emotions towards some stuff. he promised to stop this job in a week, after the last file he is deali...
A. 28 November 2012: I fear that you are being fed a line of bull. I have never EVER heard of a job like this. What is the purpose behind it? What company runs a study of this nature, and where does the money come from to pay his salary?
Something about this just doe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is living with his baby mama...
Q. My boyfriend is living with his baby mama... So my boyfriend recently (4 months ago) had a baby with his last girlfriend. We have been dating for seven months and I really like him. He is so sweet and really goes out of his way to make sure that I k...
A. 28 November 2012: Sugarplum is exactly right. He is telling you what you want to hear. If is relationship with his baby's momma was platonic, he would not be hiding you from her. He is living with her because they are still in a relationship.
Don't get caught u... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friends fiancee she's being cheated on?
Q. I've recently found out that my friend is cheating on his fiancee. It wasn't a drunken one night stand either. He's been meeting up with this girl for quite some time now behind her back. I don't know his fiancee, but since i've found out, should I ...
A. 27 November 2012: This is a very tough call. Do you have proof of this, so it isn't just your word against his? If I were the fiancée, I would want to know, and she certainly deserves to know - but telling is going to destroy your friendship, are you ready for ... (read in full...)
How do I preserve my libido when my husband is preoccupied with other women?
Q. I have really no problem with my husband's occasional preoccupation with other women, such as cashiers that he jokes with for the most part. I don't feel much jealously at all. HOWEVER, when he wants sex with me, that is when I get a bit ...
A. 27 November 2012: His preoccupation with other women is being very disrespectful to you. It's time to sit him down and have a heart-to-heart chat about this. You need to let him know exactly how this is making you feel, and that it's affecting your desire to want sex ... (read in full...)
Is our hight difference causing our problems with some sexual positions?
Q. hi, im 5ft3 and my this guy im seeing is 5ft11, we havent reached the bf and gf step yet as we're both working non stop and meet only for 1hr or 2 sometimes. there's a substantial height different between us, we stuggle to have sex because of the h...
A. 27 November 2012: The hight difference isn't what causes the issues with sexual positions - That's usually attributed to the length of the mans penis - Also your body types, whether or not you're thin or overweight. These two things are what determine his full ... (read in full...)
Indian parents have found out about my American boyfriend and I'm in trouble.......
Q. My dad somehow got into my phone and read my messages with my boyfriend and my best friend (who I tell EVERYTHING to). He found out that I was dating him and that I had kissed him. My parents are totally against "casual" relationships. They thi...
A. 20 November 2012: I feel for you, you're in a tough situation - But you're still a minor, and you have to be obedient to your parents - while you're still living at home, and they're supporting you.
When you're eighteen, it will be a different story. You'll b... (read in full...)
How do I stop being paranoid over his FWB ex?
Q. Okay, Aunties I need my fears eased. Seven years ago, my fiance had a friends with benefits relationship with a woman for a year. She ended it with him because another woman got jealous. The whole situation is bizarre. The fwb ex-girlfriend e...
A. 20 November 2012: His relationship with this woman was seven years ago - You're the one he's with now. Retroactive jealousy can damage a relationship, so do yourself a huge favor and let it go.
It seems she isn't even into men anymore, she's seeing another woman. L... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't accept that I have to communicate with my baby's daddy. How can I get this to work?
Q. My boyfriend and I have just separated over the fact that I have to communicate with my baby's daddy. He feels that I am to only speak to him when it comes to the child face to face and not over the phone. I told him how this would be when my baby ...
A. 19 November 2012: Unfortunately, when someone is that unreasonably insecure and jealous, there isn't anything YOU can do - it's on him. He has to decide whether or not he wants to be with you bad enough to accept the fact that your child's father is going to be a ... (read in full...)
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