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writes:the whole story began in february. actually we had holidays but i did an extra uni course and stayed at the student's dormitory and so did some other students...there was my neighbour who is single.he came over to watch tv and chat a few times (i don't know if he only did thiy because he was bored)he liked one of my pics on facebook although he isn't very active on there and came over again in my room...once some friends who also live in the dormitory and i were really drunk and when we got home we actually thought he was also at a party but he was at his room and we talked in fron of his door and one girl said "well i go no, i am not the one who likes him" which was refered to another girl.a few days later he told me "i've heard everything" and made jokes because he also heard about me vomitting...(so i am nor sure what he meant with this...)once i just spontaneously asked him if he wants to go to the cinema and first he was like "oh lets ask elisabeth too" but she wasn't at home so we went alone (hmm i think he just was so surprised that he just couldn't say no and now i think he likes elisabeth at least a bit)i never said directly that i am into him but it is possible that elisabeth told him thisit was strange because we are more shy around each other but he was a perfect gentlemen and at the end he just said "we can do this gladly again"we also always stares us into the eyes and sometimes he just came over because once he wanted to know something i could absolutelly not know or once he needed a rubber...summer and holidays came and he liked one of my facebook status.since he is a big fan of music and is in a choir and plays an instrument and i worked at a operette which is on a big stage which is in a lake (i thought it would be romantic) i wrote him on facebook if he likes operettes and later it came out that he was at a excursion this weeks and i guess he hadn't a phone with internet yet but i am sure he had it at least on his laptop and he never replied...when the holidays were nearly over a friend and i invited the dormitory people for a party in my town and later at night he did some grinding on me, smacked my bottom and stared at me (but he loves to dance and to touch people and smacked elisabeths ass too when he passed her)in the dormitory again nothing really happened, just sometimes he playfully teased me, my birthday was at sunday and i was sad because he didn't write but the next day he saw me he congratulated me instantly...when we are alone we are more shy with each other than when friends are also there...i know he and elisabeth kissed at least when they were drunk (she is a good friend of him and she is a ^^^t and kisses and sleeps with different guys every week but yet he dances with her)this week we had 2 partiesat thursday he was pretty flirty and we touched a lot (but he also sometimes teases and touches a girl who has a bf since 4 years and he knows), he even drawed me on my door because we have such a "we put stickers on another or on anothers door" insider going for a few days but he didn't had stickers anymoreand yesterday first he was nice as always.He even cook something special for me (i am vegetarian and another guy did the steaks and he loves to cook and made my meal, before they went to the supermarket he asked if i like greek cheese and i wasn't really enthusiastic and i once said i love mushrooms and i don't know if it was coincidence or he only made something with mushrooms because they also used them in the other meal or if he remembered that i mentioned it), he wrote some french students from abroad who live here a text message (i was also sad about this because after all this time we never changed numbers) after some time he kind of ignored me but i had to go because i had a test todaylater this evening he kissed another girl and i don't know what else they did but they were all really drunk (she also lives in the dormitory but only for a few months now and actually they hardly have spoken to each other and she looks kind of similar to me)when my friend told me this i was really sad and when i got home from the test i looked at the dormitorys kitchen becaused i heard voices and wanted to see my friend but they all sat there (he and the girl he kissed and probably spend the night with and all the others) so i quickly closed the door and went in my room it was hurting me and i was ^^^^ed because i had some dirty plates left but i didn't want to go to the kitchensuddenly he knocked on my door and i was surprised and now i just feel super pranked i am actually convinced that he is a super nice guy, he is lovely to everyone, donates to poor people, don't use girls (he said in september to a friend that he hasn't had sex since his ex which is nearly 3 years ago although he knows one chick is crazy over him) so i wouldn't call him a player but i feel totally pranked!he leaves the country for a semester abroad in january which might be the best for me to get over himbut what do you think of all that? did he just play with me? how should i behave if we see again? i stilllike him because he seems so perfect but it so hurts...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2012): CandidCally - a 'rubber' where I am from is an eraser (for using with pencils) so maybe this is what the OP is referring to?
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reader, Candid Cally  +, writes (22 December 2012):
If he isn't having sex, why would he come over to borrow a 'rubber?'
If you would like his phone number, you should ask if he would like to exchange numbers with him.
If you like him, you need to tell him an see if he feels the same.
Because you seem shy around him, there is a good possibility that he is interpreting your behavior as not being interested in him as more than a friend or acquaintancez
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (22 December 2012):
 Well I'm not sure what you think is so perfect about him. Every time you turn around, he is kissing and fondling some other girl. Honestly, he sounds like a total tool - he's definitely a player.
It's good that he's leaving in January. Take advantage of the time he is gone - make a conscious effort to get over him. I think you would have nothing but heartache with this one.
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