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writes:My boyfriend is living with his baby mama...So my boyfriend recently (4 months ago) had a baby with his last girlfriend. We have been dating for seven months and I really like him. He is so sweet and really goes out of his way to make sure that I know I am special. He lives with his baby mama because he loves his little girl and really wants to be with me. Its a weird situation because all he tells me about is how they both fight all the time, but he wants to be in the childs life. I really look up to him for pulling through on his daddy duties! He provides and pays for most of the expenses. He has not told baby mama about me, because he is afraid of losing the baby and her walking out on him (which i understand would be terrifying) but I am confused will this go on forever. I dont have kids so i dont know how this baby mama and child situation goes? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2012): Serpico: What is a "baby mamma?"
Mother of sperm depositor's out-of-wedlock child, male of species is a "baby daddy," implies nothing beyond a breeding relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2012): omg you should leave him before you fall more in love with him. obiusly hes lying to you, why would he lie to his baby mamma bout you.. he still can get half of custody or pay child support.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (28 November 2012):
What is a "baby mamma?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2012): "So my boyfriend recently (4 months ago) had a baby with his last girlfriend. We have been dating for seven months and I really like him."
Which means he started "dating" you when baby mama with whom he is still shacking up was six months knocked up.
"He is so sweet and really goes out of his way to make sure that I know I am special."
As previous aunts stated, he's telling you what you want to hear. You're a piece on the side.
"he tells me about is how they both fight all the time"
He's lying.
"he wants to be in the childs life. I really look up to him for pulling through on his daddy duties! He provides and pays for most of the expenses."
Those are his obligations as a father, that's what he's supposed to be doing.
"He has not told baby mama about me, because he is afraid of losing the baby and her walking out on him"
He hasn't told baby mama he has a piece on the side whom he started banging while his girlfriend was pregnant because she'd toss him out on his ear, as she should and as she will as soon as she discovers what a lying, cheating scumbag he is.
"I dont have kids so i dont know how this baby mama and child situation goes?"
It goes like this: You don't start screwing guys who are living with their knocked-up girlfriends, and you don't keep screwing guys who continue to live with their baby mamas because you should know they're lying, cheating scumbags.
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (28 November 2012):
 Sugarplum is exactly right. He is telling you what you want to hear. If is relationship with his baby's momma was platonic, he would not be hiding you from her. He is living with her because they are still in a relationship.
Don't get caught up in this game, no good will come from it. Move on and find someone who isn't involved with someone else.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (28 November 2012):
 Hi , irrespective of how sweet he is, you are the other woman and he is only telling you what you want to hear. You are looked upon having an affair with him as he is hiding you and is still with his baby's mum.
If he really want to be with you, he would have left this woman and would not be keeping you in the closet. Time to move on before years pass and you are again on this website trying to recover from a broken heart.
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