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12 July 2012: In October of 2002, I moved from The San Francisco Bay Area, back to my hometown of Dallas Texas. In November I got a job at the wonderful world of Wal-Mart (said sarcastically) I worked back in receiving, my job was a soft-lines processor. I was ...
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I've lost interest in a great guy because of the way he looks! Am I just scared of comittment? Or am I a shallow jerk? Or both?!
Q. I think I have lost interest in someone that I would like not to lose interest in, for shallow reasons. I'm not sure if I'm suffering from commitment phobia or if I'm just a shallow jerk, or both. I had a crush on a guy that managed a local ...
A. 31 July 2012: I think you need to do this poor man a favor, and let him go. If you can't except him for who is is, at this moment, then no amount of change is going to be good enough for you. As soon as he "fixes" one thing, you find something else. If it really ... (read in full...)
I've lost interest in a great guy because of the way he looks! Am I just scared of comittment? Or am I a shallow jerk? Or both?!
Q. I think I have lost interest in someone that I would like not to lose interest in, for shallow reasons. I'm not sure if I'm suffering from commitment phobia or if I'm just a shallow jerk, or both. I had a crush on a guy that managed a local ...
A. 27 July 2012: When you are TRULY attracted to a person, you don't nick-pick their physical features to pieces. It doesn't necessarily mean you're being shallow, you're just not as a attracted to him as you thought you were.
In the beginning, you were crushing... (read in full...)
I'm really concerned about the way my mother's boyfriend is treating my younger brother.
Q. My mum and her partner moved in together 6 months ago, I'm going to be honest I've never liked him. This weekend I've spent the weekend at their house and I'm apalled by the way that he treats my brother who is 13 and I'll try and list some ...
A. 25 July 2012: Verbal abuse does not build confidence, it destroys it. I've never understood how any parent can just sit idly by and allow their "significant other" to abuse their children.
No offense, but your mother has her head up her ass. This isn't going to... (read in full...)
I spent some of my savings. Do I tell my partner?
Q. Spent some of my savings. should i tell him? I am currently saving and in a relationship with someone I have talked about buying a house with, nothing is set in stone but he knows my goals and how much money I have saved. In the past I have ha...
A. 19 July 2012: You weren't even together when you spent the money, so technically it isn't really even any of his business. If you're worried that he's going to be upset over it, then you have bigger problems then spending YOUR money.... (read in full...)
Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years?
Q. Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years? I'm starting to lose hope! It seems like loads of people are finding their partners cheating on them on line, sexting, etc :( Can anyone be satisfied just by ...
A. 19 July 2012: I believe it is absolutely possible for two people to remain faithful, for their entire marriage. I'm of the mind-set that when you're truly ion love, and happy with what you have, you don't go looking for something else.
I spent the majority... (read in full...)
The Beginning of A Wonderful New Life.
Q. In October of 2002, I moved from The San Francisco Bay Area, back to my hometown of Dallas Texas. In November I got a job at the wonderful world of Wal-Mart (said sarcastically) I worked back in receiving, my job was a soft-lines processor. I was ...
A. 16 July 2012: We discussed children at great length before we got married. He never wanted them, That's one of the reasons we fir so well together. We love the spontaneous lifestyle we're able to have, because we don't have little ones to be responsible for. I ... (read in full...)
Now that he has a new girlfriend, I'm jealous, should I delete my ex from Facebook
Q. Should I delete my ex from Facebook? We dated two years ago and have been friends for two years. But for the past couple of months, I've been obsessing over him after learning of his new girlfriend. It's distracting me from my studies and completely ...
A. 12 July 2012: If you're spending even five minutes a day obsessing over him and his new girlfriend, then yes, delete him and concentrate on your studies. What you're doing isn't healthy. I don't know who broke up with who, or even why you broke up, but the fact ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help our relationship get past this?
Q. Me and my husband have been fighting. We have 2 kids and have been married for almost 6 months; but have been together for 2 years. The other day we got into a big fight and it quickly escalated to us yelling, he accidentally pushed me down when he ...
A. 11 July 2012: I agree with Jinxx, you've been through this before, and said yourself that these little things are how it all started. Do not make excuses for his behavior, because that puts you in denial of what is really happening.
If you and your husband ... (read in full...)
Is he nervous or does he not find me attractive?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together almost 4 years (I was 14 when we got together and he was 15). When we first got together we didn't even discuss sex and just kept with kissing and fooling around. Once we had been together a year we decided ...
A. 10 July 2012: He's nervous, and it's completely normal. This was his first time, as well, so I'm sure there was some performance anxiety. The two of you have been together for four years, so it's obvious that you love each other, so pleasing you is very ... (read in full...)
I'm having little sister trouble, I need some advice!
Q. Hey! So, my little sister is 4. I'm 13. She is always messing with me and giving me dirty looks and hurting me (most common injuries, scratches, pinches, hard kicks, suffocation (she sits on my face.), hair pulling), she calls me stupid and lots of ...
A. 10 July 2012: It sounds to me like she is just wanting some attention from her big sister. Maybe other methods have failed, so this is the only way she knows how to get it.
Try spending some sister time with her, teach her things, read to her.....play with her... (read in full...)
I feel like my friends and I are growing apart.
Q. Okay, hey! I feel like my friends and I are growing apart, we have almost nothing in common anymore (once I decided I was too old for watching Disney Channel, Justin Bieber and whatnot). Every conversation we have is rather forced and they call sa...
A. 10 July 2012: You're growing up, your tastes are changing, it happens. Like IAmHereToHelpYou said, try and find some common ground with them. At the same time, expand your horizons, and go o out and meet new people. Make friends with those you have more in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a fetish for plus size women, and I am thin. He has profiles on multiple dating sights for men with fat fetishes. I need some advice please!
Q. Ok so my bf of nearly 4 years have been on and off for a few months as he keeps messaging other girls and lying to me. He blames this on the fact that I am a 'control freak' by which he means I don't care for him getting drunk and trying to buy ...
A. 10 July 2012: I totally agree with what "You Wish" said
He may have a personal preference for overweight women, but that really isn't the issue. He is cheating on you, and cheating is cheating, regardless of the physical attributes of the person he is doing it... (read in full...)
If things are going great in a relationship, what is a reasonable amount of time to expect a marriage proposal?
Q. If things are going great in a relationship, what is a reasonable amount of time to expect a marriage proposal? We are both in mid thirties, been together going on 2 years. When is it time to walk away in search of finding someone who will wanna get ...
A. 10 July 2012: The time frame is really subjective, depending on the people involved.
Have the two of you had any conversations about the future of your relationship? If not, then start there, find out where he thinks your relationship is headed, and where he... (read in full...)
His ex can do no wrong, and me and our baby are stuck in the one room with AC while I' get continually criticized!
Q. I have been needing some outside advice about this situation for some time. This is a bit long, so thank you for bearing with me. My husband and I have been married for 2 years, and we have a 6 month old daughter together. The main problem...
A. 9 July 2012: What he is telling you, makes no sense at all. So what if the new owners kick her out, why has he made that his concern? She is not his responsibility, you and his daughter are. He's chosen to emotionally and financially support his ex girlfriend, ... (read in full...)
His ex can do no wrong, and me and our baby are stuck in the one room with AC while I' get continually criticized!
Q. I have been needing some outside advice about this situation for some time. This is a bit long, so thank you for bearing with me. My husband and I have been married for 2 years, and we have a 6 month old daughter together. The main problem...
A. 9 July 2012: He is forcing his wife and daughter to suffer, so he can pay his ex girlfriend's bills?
If he claims he HAS to subsidize his ex girlfriend, then he is either still in love with her, or she is holding something over his head. The fact that he ... (read in full...)
He's in to role play and I have no idea
Q. Several months ago, my bf had mentioned that he can get bored sexually after a while and that he liked to role play. I was a little surprised (i've never done anything like his) and he said that he was talking something like after a year in the ...
A. 8 July 2012: Yes, with role play, you act out a fantasy, and you are pretending to be someone else. There are all kinds of role play scenarios. Some of them incorporate forms of BDSM in varying degrees. There is a website called lovepanky.com. It is a sexual ... (read in full...)
I was stood up. Should I call him out on it?
Q. I have been/was in love with a guy for a year now. This is how it played out: - started casually talking as classmates who go to the same college. We immediately clicked and talked every day, for hours- he was extremely charming, intelligent, edu...
A. 7 July 2012: "he's a narcissistic, self centered, selfish person who only cares about his needs being satisfied."
These are very undesirable qualities, not only in a boyfriend, but for a friend as well. This is the behavior of someone you really don't need in ... (read in full...)
I don't think she will ever like me!
Q. I just don't think I'll ever get her to like me!...... My fiancee's female friend that is. He and I have been together for 5 years. I am 23, my fiancee is 25, the female friend is 34. They are from the same town in their home country, she had a ...
A. 7 July 2012: First I would stop buying her things, and stop being her chauffeur. All the good deeds in the world are not going to make her like you. Next I would sit your fiancé down and have a long hear to heart with him. Tell him exactly how you feel, hold ... (read in full...)
He left me out of his birthday celebrations ...
Q. Today is my boyfriend of 3 years birthday. We have spent my birthdays and his with friends and family and even had our own little celebrations. I had told him last week that I found a babysitter and that we could hang out. Birthdays are special and ...
A. 7 July 2012: If this is the first year you haven't been included, then I think, yeah.....there could be a problem. Did you ask him why you were left out?... (read in full...)
I want a new relationship but I don't want to leave my fiance
Q. I have been with my fiance for over 3 years but lately I just feel like I want a new realationship but I don't want to leave him. I love him and have a 1 year old daughter with him I just miss the passion and intensity of a new relationship and ...
A. 7 July 2012: Sounds like your relationship has gone stagnant. How long have you been engaged, has a wedding date been set? Sometimes just moving into a new phase of the relationship can bring back that "new" feeling.
In a new relationship, you're attentiv... (read in full...)
Is my husband just trying to be nice to get me to stop the alimony payments?
Q. im so confussed my husband of 20 years left me for a much younger girl. old enough to be his daughter. they are now living together and have been for 5 months since i threw him out. im still very much in love with him and would have him back. he ...
A. 7 July 2012: After twenty years of marriage, it would not be unheard of to still have residual feelings for someone, even if you no longer want to be married to them. But I agree with Aunt Honesty, what your husband is doing to you is cruel.
He could be telli... (read in full...)
He won't commit but is hurt seeing a photo of me with another guy?
Q. Hi, i am currently seeing this guy and i like him alot... We have been seeing each other for 3 months, both come out of a long relationship. At the beginning he was great, he couldn't do enough for me... he was great with my two children from my ...
A. 6 July 2012: It seems he doesn't know what he wants. He "things" he doesn't want a relationship with you, but then he sees a picture of you with another guy and it sparks jealousy.
Until he figures out what he wants, there isn't a whole lot you can do about th... (read in full...)
How can I resist such an unethical temptation?
Q. How can I resist such an unethical temptation? I had the hots for this teacher at my college for quite a while, but did not act on it. My crush had began to wear off, when I got told from a senior the strong advances he had made on her, despite him ...
A. 6 July 2012: Yes, you definitely know that this would add an unwelcome layer of drama and heartache to your life, not to mention it might interfere with your school work, in a very negative way.
I get the impression that you are a sensible person, Karlos i... (read in full...)
Do you think this could be more then friendship?
Q. I am 40 years old and coming out of a dead relationship. By chance during an office reorganisation I ended up sitting at a desk next to a girl that I knew a little bit but not well. She is the same age and single, divorced. We sat beside each other ...
A. 6 July 2012: You mention catching a meal after work, going to her house to watch a movie, but have you guys gone out on any "official" dates, yet? If you haven't, I think you should start there and see what kind of reaction you get. If she's open to pursuing a ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is abusive, I'm not sure?
Q. Hi.... I am in a bit of a situation. I am 25 years old and had a number of long term relationships. I have been in a relationship with this one guy for the past year and a bit and i think it got to a point where it is abusive. We have done a lot of ...
A. 5 July 2012: One thing you need to understand, is that he is not your responsibility. It doesn't matter how much you feel the need to help him, HE is the one who has to help himself.
And yes, all women claim that their abusive man would never hurt them....... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is abusive, I'm not sure?
Q. Hi.... I am in a bit of a situation. I am 25 years old and had a number of long term relationships. I have been in a relationship with this one guy for the past year and a bit and i think it got to a point where it is abusive. We have done a lot of ...
A. 5 July 2012: It doesn't matter how sorry he says he is, he isn't doing anything to change the behavior. This is a very toxic relationship, and you need to be free of it. It is very unhealthy for you, and as long as you stay with him, you are enabling him to ... (read in full...)
Will my wife be noticeably affected, physically, and during lovemaking, by our seven month time apart ?
Q. Im going to visit my wife in about a week . We are in a LDR . Its the longest we have gone without seeing each other , the last time we had sex was 7 months ago . My question is .... how do i satisfy her on out first time after so long.... i kn...
A. 5 July 2012: The longest I went was a year and a half, and yeah.....my first time "back in the saddle", so to speak, was a little uncomfortable and I was sore for a few days. Everyone is different, though, so I don't know how she will react after seven months.
... (read in full...)
Some varied ideas sought, please, on ideas for a first date to ensure it is good?
Q. Well i'am planning on going out with this girl and i was wondering...what would be the best place to go out on a first date? My plans where to go to a romantic french restaurant, that got amazing reviews with an amazing chief or so it has been said...
A. 5 July 2012: Me personally, I wouldn't want the super romantic restaurant, first time out, but every girls taste is different. I've just found that a relaxed setting makes it a lot easier to get to know someone, and there are no pretenses or expectations. I ... (read in full...)
Should I perform oral sex on my B/f just to make him happy? Or should he respect my decision and not make me feel bad for not doing it?
Q. My long distance boyfriend keeps asking me to perform oral sex on him. We have had numerous discussions sometimes resulting in arguments in which I explain that I'm not comfortable doing so and he tells me it would make him happy so I should. Before ...
A. 29 June 2012: No, you should not do anything that you are uncomfortable doing, and he should have respect for that.
Don't allow him to pressure you, manipulate you, or threaten you into doing something you don't want to do.
Please don't allow him to use... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has become so controlling it's a problem but I can't break up with him because I love him!
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 21. We've been in a serious committed relationship for almost a year. At first I wasn't very expressive and romantic towards him cuz I was just getting to know him and I am a very shy person.. He was very patient and kind ...
A. 29 June 2012: You're on your way to becoming a physically abused woman. All the classic signs are there, it's just a matter of time before he starts hitting you. You may love him, but he does not love you. He needs the ego boost he gets from knowing he has ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is below average, so - does size really matter?
Q. Here's the deal. My boyfriend (whom I love very much and plan on spending my life with) is on the small size. And by small size...I mean a good deal below average (both in length and girth). And I realize that this probably shouldn't bother me, but ...
A. 28 June 2012: If you're as in love with him as you say you are, then his size would not be the slightest issue for you. Why on earth would want him to take pills that have a list of nasty side affect a mile long, and don't work, besides?... (read in full...)
Can I endure my hellish future in-laws? Is it worth it? Could he do more to protect me from their malice?
Q. Hi there, hoping someone can help me... Got engaged about a year ago to X...love him to bits, I've never felt so comfortable or happy with someone. However,his family... is a different story. I'll start off mentioning that his parents spli...
A. 28 June 2012: I am going to straight up tell you from personal experience, it is NOT worth it. When your partner's family mistreats you, and goes out of their way to let you know they can't stand you, it makes for a miserable relationship.....especially when your ... (read in full...)
If I get the chance to return to his state again, should I try to find out if he still likes me?
Q. My ex and I dated for 6 months and we broke up 1.5 years ago. But for the past 6 months I think about him all the time. Every day I dream about what it would be like if we could start over. Our relationship was long distance. I was a freshman at the ...
A. 28 June 2012: So when you had the opportunity to get back together with him, you had no feelings for him, then when you want back ho,, suddenly you wanted to be with him? By the time your feelings resurfaced, was he already dating someone else? Because that ... (read in full...)
Does he really love me?
Q. Sometimes when i think about my relationship i feel like im the luckiest girl order times it's like my bf's playing with my feelings. it all because he has never been jealous even when i chat with guys he's just curious to know them. im saying this ...
A. 27 June 2012: Jealousy is not an indication of love. Perhaps in his previous relationship he had some insecurity and self esteem issues. Maybe he has worked though them, and feels very comfortable with you.
He obviously trusts you, and believe me, that is ... (read in full...)
Should I wait and hope he breaks up with his girlfriend?
Q. Hey, I have known this guy for a couple of years now and we always have got along and flirt lots etc but he now has a girlfriend and he still flirts with me all the time and his friends always hint that he likes me. the other day one of his friends ...
A. 27 June 2012: You should not sit and wait for him to end a relationship, Just because they are having trouble, does not mean they aren't attempting to work out their issues. You also should not, in any way, interfere with them working on their relationship. IE, ... (read in full...)
Guilty of leaving my wife and son for my mistress! What should I do?
Q. This is a tough one. I been separated from my wife of 10 years for 9 months now. We have a loving 2 year old boy. The reason for the separation is because I fell in love with my mistress. I been living with her now and we now have a relationship ...
A. 27 June 2012: So right about the time your son was born, was when you started cheating on your wife? You say you have deep feelings for your mistress? Well at one time you also had deep feelings for your wife.....obviousdly. So what's going to happen when you ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a married man and don't know how to handle things
Q. I'm in a tough situation. I'm seeing a married man. I've known him since I was around 14 years old, I've also been in love with him since the day we met. We had a fling back in high school. After high school, I took off and left the state. He ...
A. 27 June 2012: I'm not sure exactly what it is that you're wanting help with. Are you wanting him to leave his wife for you? Are you having feelings of guilt because you are contributing to the breakdown of someone else's family. I know this isn't what you w... (read in full...)
Dating an older man, I don't want to stop but what's the point if it won't progress?
Q. Dear Cupid I am 21years old and I am currently dating a 33 year old man.I know that is a big age difference but age is nothing but a number right? We have been dating for almost two months and I really like him. I have never met a man like him ...
A. 26 June 2012: If you're not getting the affection and attention that you are seeking, and you've talked to him about it, and he's said that is just the way he is, then he isn't going to change. Couple that with the fact that he moving to another country, I say ... (read in full...)
Is she interested in a threesome or not?
Q. I have discussed with my wife having a threesome. We were watching porn one evening and I asked her if she would prefer mfm or fmf, she said mfm of course if she was to do it and she was not that interested. Ok....I did get an answer. The ...
A. 26 June 2012: Tread very carefully with this. You said you've had threesomes before, but are you really prepared watch your wife enjoy having sex with another man? For most people, the reality never lives up to the fantasy. Don't pressure your wife into doing ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for your pubic hair to grow back?
Q. Okay ladies, I have a question for you. How long does it take for your pubic hair to grow back? I tried shaving almost all of it off, thought I liked it at first, but now I can't stand it...the maintaining is too time consuming and I am startin...
A. 26 June 2012: I keep my "area" shaved all the time. I don't think I've ever encountered a friction rash, but I use a lot of baby powder. Always pure cornstarch, never talc.
Anyway, it doesn't take long to grow back, at all. It's just getting past the first co... (read in full...)
How can I make him jealous on Facebook?
Q. Im dating a guy and everything is going on well. The only problem is sometimes i don't feel like he loves me. So i have come up with a plan that is to make him jealous. I know it might sound silly but thats the only plan i can think of. He really ...
A. 26 June 2012: Jealousy is NOT an indication of love. It's a nasty little emotion, brought on by fear, mistrust, and insecurity.
If you feel the need to play these childish games with your "boyfriend" then clearly you are not mature enough to be in a relation... (read in full...)
Can a friendship turn into more? Or will you always be stuck in the friend zone?
Q. Can you guys tell me if it is possible for a friendship to develop into a romantic relationship between you and your good guy friend? Or will you always just remain in the friends zone with each other... Is it better to take your time and ...
A. 26 June 2012: That's the way it happened between me and my hubby. We worked together, and we became friends. We just enjoyed each other's company. we liked to do the same kinds of things, watch the same types of movies, exetera... There may have been some s... (read in full...)
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