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12 July 2012: In October of 2002, I moved from The San Francisco Bay Area, back to my hometown of Dallas Texas. In November I got a job at the wonderful world of Wal-Mart (said sarcastically) I worked back in receiving, my job was a soft-lines processor. I was ...
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Boyfriend can't accept that I have to communicate with my baby's daddy. How can I get this to work?
Q. My boyfriend and I have just separated over the fact that I have to communicate with my baby's daddy. He feels that I am to only speak to him when it comes to the child face to face and not over the phone. I told him how this would be when my baby ...
A. 19 November 2012: Unfortunately, when someone is that unreasonably insecure and jealous, there isn't anything YOU can do - it's on him. He has to decide whether or not he wants to be with you bad enough to accept the fact that your child's father is going to be a ... (read in full...)
He told me I may not be the one he wants but I'm the one he needs!
Q. The title says it all. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months and we've been recently having fights about the direction of our relationship. He always tells me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me and is in love with ...
A. 18 November 2012: I remember being told something very similar to that when my husband and I were dating. At the time it did hurt a little, but I also knew where he was coming from. I was the complete opposite of what he had always considered to be his "ideal" girl. ... (read in full...)
I found email my b/f wrote to his ex before we met and now I can't believe anything he has ever told me!
Q. I've been in a relationship with my fiance for 3 years now and we have a 14 month old child together. When we met he'd not long come out of a relationship and told me he'd been with the girl for a couple of years and she'd manipulated him into ...
A. 16 November 2012: Most women want to believe that their boyfriend's exes are all broom riding, snaggled toothed witches - so that's what they're told. He was telling you what he thought you wanted to hear. As unrealistic and naive as it is, people find comfort in the ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if your husband encourages it?
Q. What should I do? My husband of almost ten years and I talk about everything. He knows exactly what I like and he satisfies me but I have been having a fantasy about being in a threesome. My husband likes the idea but doesn't think the other guy ...
A. 7 November 2012: This has "bad idea" written all over it. Dear Cupid's archives are full of questions from people who have gone down this road, only to have severe regrets afterward. In truth, the reality NEVER lives up to the fantasy.
If you value your marriage... (read in full...)
I know he is married and I should leave him alone but I can't
Q. In love with a married man.I know he is married but he doesn't always wear his wedding ring. He hasn't worn it in months. He has stared at me often, called me baby and made it obvious that he is attracted to me. The last day of work before break he ...
A. 6 November 2012: Let's say for arguments sake that he is interested in you. Why would you want to get involved with a man who is willing to cheat on his wife? Is that the kind of character you want in a man?
Think about this very carefully. You're setting yourself... (read in full...)
He acts like every little problem is doomsday. Is this relationship viable? For a long term future together?
Q. I am losing feelings for my boyfriend. I am 44, he is 47. We have been dating for almost 2 years. He works too much and we hardly ever see each other. I keep telling myself that I'm getting used to it...but I'm not. I feel sorry for myself...
A. 31 October 2012: Aside from the liking sports thing, your boyfriend sounds EXACTLY like my ex husband. Perfectionist, task oriented, takes everything personal, easily angered, over reacts to even the smallest of problems....
I can honestly tell you that it isn't... (read in full...)
Is my Bf involved sexually with an older lover? He says no. His text to her implies yes. What can I do?
Q. Am I over reacting or what? My boyfriend has an older lady friend who stays at our house quite frequently, helps us out a lot. They've been friends longer than I've been around and she's like 20 years older than him so I never thought twice ab...
A. 29 October 2012: I've seen this type of situation more then once, and in all cases, there has been cheating going on. A member of the opposite sex in introduced into the relationship, under the guise of friendship - Allowing the other partner to become comfortable ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said I smelled bad during oral sex. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend went to eat me out and he said that I "smelled bad" he didn't say it was fishy, just smelled bad. What can I do to fix this? I know I don't have any infections. Is there any soaps, cleansing pads, etc. I could use to fix this? Thanks!...
A. 29 October 2012: There are a couple of things you can try to help stay fresh, in between washings - Such as deodorizing feminine sprays. You can find them in the supermarket with the other feminine hygiene products - Scented baby wipes work nicely too. Other then ... (read in full...)
Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.
Q. This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...
A. 20 October 2012: How can you say that you are so in love with your boyfriend, and then perform a sex act on a other man?
Just because you're not giving blow-jobs to your boyfriend, doesn't mean that it's OK to give them to someone else. Not only is it cheating... (read in full...)
My cousin's husband was shamelessly hitting on me and I told him to back off and yet somehow my cousin thinks I'M the desperate one who's flinging herself on a married man!
Q. Please help! Last month, my cousin's hd hit on me. they've been married for almost six years now, and i recently moved back home and live close to them (about ten minutes on foot), so i see them every day. they had a little family get together and...
A. 6 October 2012: I have a sneaking suspicion she already knows the truth. You're mostly likely not the first person she has caught her husband flirting with, and I doubt you'll be the last. She's in denial about it, and it is easier for her to blame you, then it is ... (read in full...)
I need advice about a crush on a teacher.
Q. I have a massive crush on my teacher and recently I have found myself completely enamored with her armpits. Whenever she raises her arms I can't help but stare at her underarms, and every single lesson, I get an erection. I also get turned on by the ...
A. 5 October 2012: Like all crushes, as long as you don't feed it, it will eventually die - Especially if you find some girls your age to turn your attentions toward.... (read in full...)
Is this cheating? My boyfriend went out with his friends and he had a private nude lap dance provided for his enjoyment.
Q. I've never posted on anything like this before but I'm really not sure what to do. A few weeks my boyfriend went out with his friends just for a night on the town with the boys. At beginning of the night he and his friends went to a strip club ...
A. 4 October 2012: Well, in my opinion it's definitely inappropriate behavior for a man in a committed relationship. If you and your boyfriend haven't set these types of boundaries, yet, then maybe it is time to.
Have a talk with him about how the situatio... (read in full...)
Married to a Serial Cheater. Our baby will be born in January. And your advice about what to do about this situation would be?
Q. I am married to what I think is a serial cheater. We have been together 7 years married for 4 years. Once caught him on sex dating websites, with hidden email accounts and we put an end to it and communicated on what and why he did it and some of h...
A. 4 October 2012: My best friend's ex husband is a serial cheater. Left his first wife for his second wife, and left his second wife for his now third wife. If she's smart she wont get pregnant, because his cheating seems to be centered around his inability to handle ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend romantically roleplays with others, would I be wrong to ask her to stop?
Q. Ok so I'm in a rather unique situation right now. I'm in a long distance relationship with my current girlfriend and she is an avid roleplayer on various forums with multiple people. The problem lies whenever she romantically roleplays with someone. ...
A. 6 September 2012: When it comes to the world of online romantic role-play, those lines between the "character" and the real person, often get blurred. I've been there, and I've seen the damage it can do. You're well within your rights to ask her to stop.... (read in full...)
15 year old pupil is hitting on me - her teacher. Should I report this?
Q. I am in a terribly difficult situation. I have been teaching for 20 years and this is the first I’ve ever had this particular problem. There is a girl in one of my classes; she is very young, 14/15 years old, a child. Now I have had students have ...
A. 5 September 2012: Absolutely you should report it, you have to protect yourself. You may also want to ask that she be moved into another class.
Do everything you can to minimize the amount of time you and her see each other.
This is a very dangerous situat... (read in full...)
I made a sex joke about her mom
Q. Hi agony aunts :) well I'm having more problems with my girlfriend. Last night she was angry with me because I made a sex joke about her mom. We got into a huge argument and she told me I wasn't funny, I take things too far, yada yada. And I wasn't ...
A. 24 August 2012: Well, I think making a sex joke about her mother was probably a little inappropriate. However, it sounds to me like your relationship is pretty toxic, even without that joke.
The two of you clearly have some issues that you've been unable t... (read in full...)
B/f will not any responsibility for what he has done, it makes me concerned about our future together
Q. I am hoping someone could give me some advice about this, as I’m really confused and I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or not… My boyfriend and I have been together for just under 3 years, and although we have had some disagreements in...
A. 24 August 2012: I doubt this is the first time he has exhibited this lack of responsibility for his actions, and it wont be the last.
This type of behavior usually follows a pattern of entitlement. There's no responsibility or accountability when you feel lik... (read in full...)
My husband has been sneaky lately and I found a flavored condom in his pocket that he blamed on our son!
Q. Lately, my husband of 9 yrs. has been a little sneaky. he talks to all kinds of women, first of all he's a photographer OK. Now it's one particular friend that he tells her he loves her. Just recently, while I was doing laundry,a flavored condom ...
A. 23 August 2012: It does seem a little odd that you son would put a condom in the pocket of your husband's jacket. Does your son wear that jacket on occasion? I would definitely question this further.... (read in full...)
Will having a threesome with my wife ruin our relationship? She's the one who brought it up.
Q. My wife asked me to have a 3sum with another female. I'm up for the idea but I thought about it more and I don't know how it will change our relationship, am I not pleasing her enugh, she orgasms at least three time every time we have sex. What she ...
A. 23 August 2012: Even if ground rules are laid down, and you don't actually have penetration with this woman, you're still going to be touching her in sexual ways, right? The problem is, the reality NEVER lives up to the fantasy. After the deed is done, someone ... (read in full...)
I am not happy with my day to day lifestyle
Q. Hi. I'm a british teenager, 17 and I'd like advice. I am not happy with my day to day lifestyle, and i know that only i can change that. Instead of spending my life on my laptop, i'd like idea's of things to do that don't cost much/nothing atall. A...
A. 23 August 2012: Does your community have a recreation center where you can get involved in any kind of sport or hobby? You could also find somewhere to do some volunteer work. It's free and very rewarding, and it looks good on college applications.... (read in full...)
Counseling is helping and I don't know where to turn.
Q. There is no easy way to get into this so I will get steaight to the point. I have always had a disfunctional family. (Dad beat my mom etc every day she was always in hospital he was an alcholic just a bit of background on that) the thing is I was ...
A. 23 August 2012: If the concealing isn't helping, it's because you haven't been able to open up with the truth. Anything you tell your therapist is confidential, so it's safe to talk to him/her without fear of anyone else finding out.
As long you continue... (read in full...)
I'm upset that my boyfriend didn't get me anything for my birthday
Q. I'm kind of bothered by the fact that my boyfriend didn't care to get me anything for my birthday. I'm not materialistic and I don't really want any specific item but like the saying goes, "It's the thought that counts" and I feel like he didn't p...
A. 22 August 2012: Those little things really do matter. When someone cares enough to go that extra little distance, it can be the difference between a tolerable relationship and a great relationship, in my opinion.
How long have you been together? How is your rel... (read in full...)
I am a cheater but is that really so bad?
Q. I am cheating on my GF. should i stop. i cant help it i like the excitement of chasing new women and when i see a beautiful woman im curious how it feels to be with her. but i like having something guaranteed at home. but people make it seem like a ...
A. 21 August 2012: you say no one is getting hurt, but that isn't entirely true. Your girlfriend will be devastated when she finds out, and trust me, she will eventually find out.
What about the girls your cheating with? there may come a time when one of them wan... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my girlfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid, So recently my girlfriend told me that she wants to have sex with me. But the problem is that I don't know if I should go for it and our LDR relationship is only 1 month old. She told me that I'm the only serious boyfriend she ev...
A. 21 August 2012: No, you should absolutely NOT have sex at school, and you especially shouldn't have sex with a girl you've only known for one month. Don't be in such a hurry to give it away.... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to have a threesome with him and his brother.
Q. Um...my friend(who I really like) wants to try and have a threesome with him, me, and his brother. I agreed but now nervous. I really like him but I don't want him to think I'm just the type whose up from anything. He told me, he wouldn't mind going ...
A. 21 August 2012: He doesn't want to go out with you, but he wants you to have a threesome with him? Don't do it, you'll be tossing your self respect right into the garbage.
You say you don't want him to see you as slutty. Judging by the fact that he sees you as n... (read in full...)
My mother has a problem with me being two months older then my boyfriend.
Q. And so dear cupid,my relationship has started going very well.but my new problem is that I'm two months older than my boyfrnd.we so into each other.but my sisters and my mum seem to have a problem with it.what do I do.I'm so into him.leaving him ...
A. 20 August 2012: your mom is upset over a two month age difference.....REALLY???
There has to be more to it then that, there is something else going on here. I am finding it very difficult to believe that an adult would be THAT ridiculous.... (read in full...)
How can I satisfy my sextual urge without cheating on my wife?
Q. I am alone in a foreign land. My wife and family are not with me. How can I satisfy my sextual urge without cheating on my wife? ...
A. 20 August 2012: Most men use masturbation, have you tried that? Aside from that, there isn't anything other then being involved with a real woman, and that would be cheating on your wife.... (read in full...)
How do I tell people these things? Without feeling embarrassed or stupid about it?
Q. I was talking with my friend the other day and she asked me "what's the thing you've done in life that you're ashamed of and wish you had never done?" I said i don't know because i hate telling people the real answer. The truth is, the thing i'...
A. 17 August 2012: You're not obligated to share any information about you, with ANYONE. Don't feel like you need to open up the embarrassing parts of your life, just to satisfy some nosy person's curiosity.... (read in full...)
My two year old is not progressing vocally the way people tell me he should. Do I have cause to worry?
Q. My beautiful toddler has just turned 2. He's not talking though. He makes sounds but no real proper words except grandma and mama which he uses to describe everything. He is a good communicator and lets me know what he wants non-verbally, an...
A. 17 August 2012: No two children progress at the same rate. According to my mother and grandmother, when I was two, you could carry on a conversation with me. My daughter spoke her first word at eight months, but by age two she was still mixing two and three words ... (read in full...)
Is it worth staying with my fiance after he disrespected me so badly?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for almost two and a half years. We met online and after we met in person and dated for a while, I moved in with him where he lived (he lived in Louisiana and I lived in Arizona)but we decided it would be a nice ...
A. 16 August 2012: There is no excuse for this type of behavior. I'm curious, when you "made up" did he apologize for his behavior, or did he just make you feel so stupid that you were the one who broke down and apologized? I'm betting that you were the one who did ... (read in full...)
I am a separated woman trying to date. After you've read it all do you think I should see a therapist?
Q. Apologies! This situation description isnt as short as I'd hoped it would be. Click back if you dont want to read a long story. I want responses, but if I dont get any because my post is too long, at least I'll have cyber-vented! My husband an...
A. 16 August 2012: Yes, let this one be. it sounds like he has issues that you don't need in your life, right now. You put the ball in his court, and he pretty much dropped it.
HoneyPie is right, you're not the one who needs to see a therapist.... (read in full...)
We haven't had physical contact since we married, could he be cheating?
Q. i have been married for eight years love my husband to bits but we have not had any physical contact since we got married, is this normal? do you think he is having sex with someone else, i feel like i have turned into his mother, i really feel i ...
A. 16 August 2012: Have you sat down and discussed this with him? Tell him how you feel, ask him why he isn't intimate with you.
Have you tried initiating sex? Do you get any physical contact at all, like hugs or kisses?... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with him on my own? Or avoid him altogether?
Q. I am 24 years old, So I met this guy at a club last night I was with one of my girlfriends, so he was with one of his friend, anyways that club was quite empty, it was just four of us, he started a conversation and my friend was sitting next to him, ...
A. 15 August 2012: I think if you're interested in him, I can see know reason why you shouldn't meet up with him, on your own. If you keep canceling because your fiend keeps flaking out on you, then he might loose interest.... (read in full...)
My fiance cheated on me because he jumped to conclusions, please help!
Q. My fiance were supposed to get married april 2013. I was planning a surprise trip for his bday in october. I have a male friend who is a travel agent and since it was a surprise, went through him to buy the tickets book the hotel. I paid him cash ...
A. 12 August 2012: This is definitely a communication and trust issue, which are two of the biggest relationship killers. He thought you were cheating, but instead of confronting you, and discussing it like a mature adult, he went out and cheated AND arranged for you ... (read in full...)
His sister is trying to muscle in my planned new house.
Q. Background: My fiance and I have been together for about three years now, and currently live together in a one bedroom apartment. Our relationship is healthy and stable, we are each other's best friends. We are planning on getting married and buying ...
A. 5 August 2012: You need to have a long hear-to-heat with your fiancé, because the two of you need to be on the same page with this, or it is going to cause some serious damage to your relationship.
I completely understand you not wanting to share your new marr... (read in full...)
Dad will disinherit me if I marry my guy. Is my Dad just being paranoid about my Fiance? Or does he have a point?
Q. Hi! Last night I told my estranged father I'm getting married in the Fall. He threw a fit and said if I do he will disinherit me and we won't talk anymore. When I asked him why he said that if we got divorced I'd have to support him financially ...
A. 31 July 2012: In my opinion, your dad does not have a point. You can't place money above love and come out a winner.
Your fiancés mother is right. you will be gaining a husband you love, and who loves you, and his family. I get the impression you and your fat... (read in full...)
I've lost interest in a great guy because of the way he looks! Am I just scared of comittment? Or am I a shallow jerk? Or both?!
Q. I think I have lost interest in someone that I would like not to lose interest in, for shallow reasons. I'm not sure if I'm suffering from commitment phobia or if I'm just a shallow jerk, or both. I had a crush on a guy that managed a local ...
A. 31 July 2012: I think you need to do this poor man a favor, and let him go. If you can't except him for who is is, at this moment, then no amount of change is going to be good enough for you. As soon as he "fixes" one thing, you find something else. If it really ... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend left me for another guy and I then trashed her place. Is there any hope for reconciliation?
Q. My ex-girlfriend and I dated for almost four years. We had an incredible bond, and shared a close life together. We also lived together, up until recently. Years ago, I left her for someone else, due to communication issues, but then we got back ...
A. 29 July 2012: Your relationship was not as close of a bond as you think. BOTH of you cheated on each other. This would not have happened if you really loved each other and were as close as you are trying to convince yourself of.
- Why would she want to be wi... (read in full...)
He still hasn't stopped communicating with her
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for five years, about 10 months ago he became friends with a girl. I was immediately uneasy about this friendship as he was very secretive and kept everything under the table so to speak. I only ever saw her ...
A. 29 July 2012: First time you confronted him, he laid the guilt on you, making you feel like you were the bad guy for having legitimate suspicions.
Second time you confronted him, he "pretended" to understand where you were coming from, and agreed to cut cont... (read in full...)
I am scared because my online friend says he is coming to take me back to the States!
Q. Dear Aunts, What am I supposed to do when my boyfriend of 3 years whom I met online decided to come meet me, when everyone in my family thinks that I shouldn't be with him. He is someone that I met on facebook. Although we don't meet on a regula...
A. 29 July 2012: I think you need to listen to your family. you shouldn't be thinking of marriage, or moving away with someone you've never met.
The fact that he says he is coming to "get" you, instead of "get to know you better", is mot a good sign. Also the fact... (read in full...)
I've lost interest in a great guy because of the way he looks! Am I just scared of comittment? Or am I a shallow jerk? Or both?!
Q. I think I have lost interest in someone that I would like not to lose interest in, for shallow reasons. I'm not sure if I'm suffering from commitment phobia or if I'm just a shallow jerk, or both. I had a crush on a guy that managed a local ...
A. 27 July 2012: When you are TRULY attracted to a person, you don't nick-pick their physical features to pieces. It doesn't necessarily mean you're being shallow, you're just not as a attracted to him as you thought you were.
In the beginning, you were crushing... (read in full...)
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