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writes:My guy is going bald!!!!!! I dont want to leave him, but he looks too elder than me! What do I do? He is ready to do anything if I have the solution..Pls help me! He is just 25! and Am 23 !! :-( :-( Am so sad abt his baldness..Am trying to support him but I really want a solution ...! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2012): Imagine waking up tomorrow to discover that you had a weird medical condition. You would start getting a little bit fatter every day for the rest of your life, until you leveled off at being very overweight sometime in the coming years. Imagine that there was NOTHING you could do about this. No dieting, exercising, etc, would make more than a slight difference. Nothing would reverse it. Nothing would even stop it from worsening for more than a couple years.Now imagine that society found it perfectly acceptable to make jokes and poke fun at you for being fat. Right to your face. Imagine if most people didn't understand that the condition was impossible for you to control. This is what its like for young men to go bald.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (23 December 2012):
 Im very clean cut n ppl give me crap all the time. Why? Cause theyre jealous. Have him talk to a doctor n support him if ur not satisfied with the way he looks split up. That idea of the sort isnt new to me.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (22 December 2012):
 I think all the aunties covered it. My fella started thinning around 26, but he started wearing his hair short and looks foxy as all get out. He doesn't need to wax it shiny, but a short haircut makes the thinning out or receding hairline virtually unnoticeable.
Patrick Stewart!! Yes...
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (22 December 2012):
 Hi
Your poor boyfriend, I hope you were alot more tactful when you spoke to him. He can't help going bald if its hereditary - has he had it checked with the doctor?
Ime a bald man fan but each to their own. Just hope he shows more understanding towards you if something physically changes. If you had children for instance, got stretchmarks and your boobs changed...........
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 December 2012):
 Remember, what cant be cured must be endured. You cant really do anything to stop the balding, its hereditary and based on genetic background so just accept it and get used to it.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (22 December 2012):
 Unless you want to pay for his hair transplants, there's nothing you can do about it.
How would you like it if he stopped being attracted to you because you were getting wrinkles because you were getting older? Probably pretty mad at him...think about it. It's not like he can stop the aging process, just like you can't.
If it's so much of a big deal that you can't be attracted to him anymore, break up with him. Those are your options. But don't be surprised if he gets pretty upset with you when you tell him WHY you're breaking up with him!
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (22 December 2012):
 I find balness really attractive and prefer bald/shaved over men with loads of hair...it must be a personal taste thing.
It's not really up to you to find a solution, it's about supporting your husband in how he feels and what he wants to do.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2012): I hope for your boyfriend's sake that you showed more consideration for his feelings when discussing this 'problem' with him than you did in your posting here. Men are usually very sensitive about losing their hair, particularly if baldness starts at a young age, and to know that our partner was embarrassed about it to the point of considering leaving us would be crushing.
You're in the minority of women if baldness is that much of a turn off for you. Sean Connery, Andre Agassi, Bruce Willis etc. managed to attract rather a lot of female admirers, despite what they lacked in the locks department!
If it's really that much of an issue for you both, there is a fish oil based product called Nourkrin that I took when I started going bald at the age of 17. My hair loss stabilized and didn't get any worse again til I reached my late 20s. Whether that was due to the tablets or just my own genetic predisposition though I couldn't say, plus it was very expensive.
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (22 December 2012):
 Oh I totally agree with YouWish, especially about Patrick Stewart (yummy) - Bald can be VERY sexy. My husband has a gorgeous head of hair, but baldness is in his family. I told him that when he starts losing his hair, he's going to help it along and shave it all off.
In most men, hair loss is hereditary - but it can also be cause by some illnesses, and some types of medications. You can have him see a doctor to make sure there isn't anything external causing it - but other then that, or shelling out thousands of dollars on treatments and products that don't work, there's nothing you can do about it.
It isn't going to change who he is, it's only going to change the way he looks.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 December 2012):
 Oh man. I know you can't change how you feel, but personally, I think bald is SMOKING HOT! I had a massive crush on Patrick Stewart/Jean-Luc Picard from Star Trek when it was on. When he said "Come!", I very nearly did!
Anyways, I digress. I am saddened that the entirety of your feelings for him are based on his appearance. Baldness is hereditary, and even if he gets hair plants/Rogaine/etc, there's really not much one can do about it unless it costs a lot of money. That being said, does HE care about being bald or not? If he is comfortable with it, you must love him as he is, or let him go so that he is free to find someone else who doesn't care how much hair is on his head.
But I must say again, bald is HOT and utterly DELICIOUS! I don't consider a bald guy to look old, unless he's actually old! My husband will never be bald, but I wouldn't hold it against him if it happened!
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