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writes:part of my boyfriends job is to drag women into traps. he makes them think he loves them so they fall in his love and then he tests their real emotions towards some stuff.he promised to stop this job in a week, after the last file he is dealing with right now is closed. i know the women hes dealing with right now and they are no where near making me jealous, i simply love him and trust that business is business.he doesn't go to bed with them, he simply chats with them until they meet somewhere and they spell their dark secrets out to him.i trust him but lately i have been having these thoughts that maybe he is acting on me too! i may be the one he loves, i may be the one he comes to everyday and warship, he does get down on his knees whenever i'm sad of the issue and kisses my hand not to leave him. i seem different but am i really?you must know that at our fifth month i read his chats with one girl and said:"your a cheater i want a breack up" and thats where he told me about his job and that she is not the only girl and that he was waiting until he finishes these two "files" and then he'll come clear to me.he had told me about such a mission that he did once in the past "pre-me", yet i can't go to his boss and ask because he will simply refuse to comment as always.you also need to know that within these 5 days i faced a huge financial trouble in which he knew and solved anonymously.1)is he a bad person for doing what he does?and is all the job thing a lie?2)we have been together for 5 month and he all ready knows all my secrets and he is actually one of them, this means that he loves me right?3)the women under-study usually hit on him first and thats why he is the one to solve their problem,should i ask him to replace his current phone number with a new one? or should i expect such move from him?4)is it trust that it doesn't kill me when he is with them? or isn't my love pure?5) should i not talk to him during the week he is finishing his relationships with these girls?i truly thank your help and answers
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answers all
they are his exes and thats why he is chosen to seduce them because they normally love him still, add to that he doesn't talk to them to know their sex lives, he does to know their loyalty.
anyways i will dump him, and guys please i'm not stupid, at some point i knew he is cheating i was simply hoping he would change.
thanks again really, talking the hurtful truth is probably what i need to wake up.
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (29 November 2012):
 What a mystery trap and so forth call sherlock Holmes
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 November 2012):
 he's a cheater and a liar.
plain and simple.
tell him "don't contact me any more I'm done" then change your number if you like... but at bare minimum block his number, his facebook/twitter and his email.
move on.
be by yourself a bit and work hard on not being so easily duped...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 November 2012):
 LOL, Who is he working for, " M "? Judi Dench ? ....Never - James Bond would never be so unclassy to frame normal citizens to know their sexual secrets :)
Yeah right- all spies go around telling they ARE spies to their employees, so that said employess can blab it left and right , including to girls they have known since barely 5 months .
Oh come on , spies work for governement agencies, your government agencies must have better things to do than snoop on the sex life of common citizens. Plus, again, how do you explain that these ladies hit on him first ? why do they volunteer to be spied on ?
That's ridicolous, you can't really believe this kind of nonsense, can you ?
Unless, his is a criminal organizaion who finds the dirt on people to blackmail them later, again, that's not a work, that's a felony !
Just ditch him with no further explanations, turn your back on him and move on.
But, please don't jump at once into another relationship head first, if you have not retrieved some critical thinking and reasoning ability first. Otherwise the next guy could be telling you that the reason why he is sexting other women.. is because he is actually an undercover Martian on a mission on Earth to find out how Earth dwellers have sex,- and you would believe him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question ImmortalPrincess, CindyCares and Sageoldguy1465, thanks for your answers.
i do want to leave him...should i just disappear and change my phone number? or should i tell him first?
note: he is an accountant but his boss who is a spy asks him to check on the girls who are in the cooperation they both work in.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 November 2012):
 How stupid would you have to be to spend even another MINUTE with this jerk?????
Good luck..
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (28 November 2012):
I agree with Immortal Princess, you are being fed total BS by some scumbag with a lot of nerve and a very active imagination.
Come on, which job on earth could possibly entail this kind of assignment ? ... Dragging women in traps ? ..maybe if he were a spy , but only if the ladies were goverment authorities or army hot shots in some rival country , otherwise , who cares about knowing a normal woman's sexual secrets , and how can they be used to make money ?!
Or,... he is a blackmailer. He drags women in traps, gets them to confide in him, ...then he asks them money to keep his mouth shut. This is not a job, this is a crime ! people end up in jail for several years for this stuff !
There's no way that any legit study, conducted by an authorized outfit, a Ministry, an University, a medical facility ....would be done this way, under false pretense and without the consent of the interviewed women.
And if they are the unwilling partecipants in a study - how would they hit on him FIRST ? What does he do, stays on line all day long waiting that maybe if he is lucky, some woman will hit on him that may be useful for his research ? that's a very unscientific method, it would take years before any study could be completed , doing it this way.
I know that many of us , when we are in love, totally loose our mind and our logical thinking ability, but , if you are really so gullible to swallow this crap, you reach an all-time Guinness Book record.
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (28 November 2012):
 I fear that you are being fed a line of bull. I have never EVER heard of a job like this. What is the purpose behind it? What company runs a study of this nature, and where does the money come from to pay his salary?
Something about this just doesn't sound right. I think you need to leave this one alone, and move on. You're being lied to. He's taking advantage of your feelings for him, and your willingness to believe him.
You caught him cheating, and this is the story he made up in order to get out of trouble.
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