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I always thought Valentines day was about the guy treating the girl. Now my boyfriend thinks I don't care.

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Question - (4 February 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 5 February 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *laMich88 writes:

This Might Sound Bad But I had No Idea That I was Supposed to Buy Something for My Boyfriend For Valentines Day. We're Going on 4 years Now and Every Year he always Does something Extreme For me and I Love it! Though I have Never Bought Him Anything for Valentines Day. I honestly thought that was the day the guys do for the girls. My boyfriend mentioned something to me about never have gotten him anything for Vday and I feeel realllly bad. So what do I get him!? Am I supposed to be all Romantic and what not?? Pleasse give me some ideas on what to do for him for Vday!! Thx!

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (5 February 2010):

TasteofIndia agony aunthttp://www.excitations.com/

I thought this website was really great for pretty crazy gift ideas. It's based on giving experiences rather than stuff. So cool!!

You've got some great ideas, you shouldn't have trouble figuring something out!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010):

Well my boyfriend doesn't see the point of valentines day lol as he says you don't need just one day to tell someone you love them,it should be everyday but yes he gets me stuff and he loves getting gifts aswell!

Chocolate,aftershave,t-shirt,Card of course...Teddy...keyring with a picture of yourself! Photo of yourself! Photo album of pictures of the two of you!

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A female reader, junebug81409 United States +, writes (5 February 2010):

get him something he has been talking about or does he have a fav sports team?get he something that will surpise him and make sure the sex is good!lol if vday was just for girls than it woulda been called treat ur girl day.lol.i dont know ur man but mine would like a itune card or sex toys for us or even like a dirty movie!maybe new ring or jewlery?jersey sports shirt of his fav team.tickets to a concert,something for his car or truck,make him breakfast in bed even if u have to learn new recipes, does he want a pet?if he does and ur ready for the responablity than get him one!hope u find something to give him that is from the heart.

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A female reader, mystiquek United States + , writes (5 February 2010):

mystiquek agony auntI've always treated Valentine's Day as a special day for both the guy and the girl. Guys like special treatment too! If we don't go out, I fix his favorite things, a little soft music, candlelight, maybe some balloons, and a small gift. Oh..and guys DO like chocolate! At least mine does. Just be creative..obviously the poor guy feels slighted. Some men really don't care, but I think they might like being surprised. My guy ALWAYS gets something more than a card. And in return, I am always treated very well.

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A female reader, Brooklyngirl United States +, writes (4 February 2010):

Brooklyngirl agony auntIt's not a one sided thing! It's for couples! Couples who love eachother and want to express their love on this special day.

Four years, and this never came up before? Just look at the Valentines Cards in stores....."To my wonderful husband"..."To the man I love"..."To the one who changed my life"....you get the picture now, don't you?

Gifts don't have to be extravagant...just meaningful and from the heart!

Men love to be made to feel special just as much as we do!

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A male reader, Illithid United States +, writes (4 February 2010):

Illithid agony auntHeck yes it's a day for couples to be romantic for each other, both ways. The boyfriend usually picks his girl up, pays for fancy dinner, brings flowers or chocolate, etc. But the girlfriend is expected to be romantic too and not just by dressing up and kissig a lot. My ex used to spend as much as I did. I still have several of her VDay gifts.

interesting fact: in Japan, Valentines is exclusively a day for girls to give gifts to guys. There's an entiirely separate day when the guys return the favor.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (4 February 2010):

Fatherly Advice agony auntI am an advocate of the, Valentines day is treating your girl, school of thought. But, guys need treats too. It is much too hard to relax and enjoy your treat if you are worried about treating him. So, some have proposed that we have a day in march (usually the 14th)for treating the guy in your life. We guys are pretty simple in our needs. So in order to keep it simple for you ladies they decided to call the day, "Steak and a Blow Job Day". Simple, definitive, and pretty much guaranteed to make you man happy.

Just tell your boyfriend that you were unaware of this and you are planning to make it up to him this year. Depending, of course, on his performance on V Day. Honestly my wife and I started separating the holidays just a few years ago and it is easier for everyone. We are a little nontraditional on our romantic desires. A big steak puts me to sleep. But I treat her with what she likes on her day and she treats me on mine. It is nice for him to know in advance that you have something planned for him.

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A female reader, Smellyellie United Kingdom +, writes (4 February 2010):

Smellyellie agony auntyeah men love it as valentines day is a day for you both to feel special and enjoy a lovely day together. I think most men would just be happy with a card for the day as they dont want all the stuff that we want really. But then again it depends on the man.. i have never met him so e may like nothing better then a box of choclates :)

Seriously though if you feel that bad why dont you do something to make up for it and come up with ideas i read today in a magazine that men like sharing valentines day together as a coupleso make sure that everything that you do on that day is together and that he is included to feel special and make sure that he knows that you love him. :)

hope this helps x

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