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*omance_boy18
writes:hello everyone, just a simple question, is it wrong to tease a female bestfriend? like hugging too much, acting romantic toward her a lot, being overly nice to her, holding her hand. i only want to be friends and only like her as a friend though
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reader, GoGreen126  +, writes (26 December 2009):
Good luck.
My best friend did the same thing to me. I love him, but he didn't mean much of any of it.
A word of warning: please don't say things you don't mean. If she uses the "L" word, please don't until you're ready. It hurts if he doesn't say it back, but it hurts way more if he was lying.
--GG
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reader, romance_boy18 +, writes (24 December 2009):
romance_boy18 is verified as being by the original poster of the question well thank you all for your help, it really helped but it was kinda too late though cuz she did fall for me, but i also started to have feelings for her as well. so i guess it turned out differently then what i expected.
thanks again for your guys help and marry christmas!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): Ok I'm a guy and I could see the women responding.I will agree it is wrong.When girls do that to us and we hate it.It's leading her on with false hope.That is just plain mean to do.When guys tease it is definitly an (ioi) indicator of interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): YES, you are wrong. it says that you are sending out the wrong message and even though you may not intend it to happen, she may miread the signs. and yes, she would really be hurt.
so perhaps ease off on the touching. to me too much of touching = intimacy. stop playing with this girls mind.
if you are not interested in her romantically then stop behaving romanitcally with her. friends do not deliberately lead friends on.
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reader, tjazzy  +, writes (14 December 2009):
Sounds like you like her more than a friend but you're trying to test the waters first without hurting yourself. My advice? Unless you're willing to actually date her, cut it out.
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reader, whoopslady  +, writes (14 December 2009):
 it is wrong!! if she is he,will you hold HIS hand?ACTING romantic?if you both are sure that you are only friend,she is possible not mind.if you can sense that she is a little LIKE you,what you are doing is totally wrong.
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reader, amazonlady  +, writes (14 December 2009):
I think it's wrong, you're misleading her. Granted, everyone likes attention and someone there for comfort, which is why you may be doing this, but it's not fair to do it at her expense.
You are giving her false hope. She could end up falling for you, thinking you are feeling the same and it's building her up for a huge fall. To her, it would be seen as a perfect coupling - falling in love with your best friend. So if you don't feel that way about her, stop with the conflicting actions.
I would suggest stopping now and having a chat with her to say that you feel you've been acting inappropriately when you're supposed to be only friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): I think it's wrong. You're misleading her and making her a fool. What happens if she falls in love with you? And you say "haha, I was just joking". What if a woman teased you that way?
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (14 December 2009):
It's not wrong, per se. But if she misinterprets your actions, it'll wrench you apart before you can say "oops". Emotions are fragile--treat them as such.
If you value her friendship, be upfront about why.
--GG
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reader, Illithid +, writes (14 December 2009):
 We all tease one another in some way. Friends pick on each other, that's fine and normal. But sometimes, innocent teasing CAN cause hurt feelings and can break apart friendships pretty swiftly.
So sure, hug her, hold her hands, etc, but make SURE you TELL HER in no uncertain terms that you're just joking, that you're not really interested as more than friends, that you're just having fun. Even STILL, she may hold out hope that you're not really joking and may actually like her.
So if she likes you, knock it off before she gets her hopes up and her heart broken. If she's only just interested in being your friend and she knows you don't mean it either, by all means have fun.
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