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writes: Since I been dating I have never had a guy that that has been faithful to me. They all cheated. The guy that treated me the best was married and he said he never had any dealing with his wife, because they were done. If he was still living with her does that make him a cheater also? If I dated someone while it took so long to leave her does that mean I'm a cheater even if I waited for many years? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Thanks for your advice everyone. We are no longer together. He broke up with me last year, but calls every once in a while. I'm single working and going to church, and trying to forcuse on me.
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 sometimes you fall for someone and it doesnt matter of the situation, wether there married or not....if you have never had a man be faithful to you then your meeting the wrong ones...you need to look were your meeting them? id avoid married men if you can as that is alot of baggage before youv even started! Not all men cheat....so keep on looking but make sure you have plenty of respect for yourself and pick a nice man who will be faithful and truthful!
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 Oh dear,
Seems like you have had a pretty bad go of it. And I agree with some posters below that since you knowingly took part in this, that you are just as much to blame. Even though it is likely that this guy would have cheated on his wife with someone else had it not been you.
However I am going to agree with Baby Duck that you have the chance to change your situation if you take action, Obviously it has been eating at you because you sought out advice. and that in itself speaks volumes that you may be turning a corner.
Since you say all your men have cheated on you, can you point to one characteristic in all of them that attracted you to these dopes in the first place? That would be a good place to start if you want to do some soul searching
Why do you want to wait for someone you cheated with? Chances are he will cheat on you as well. If he has sex with his wife(and how can you say he doesen't for certain, since you aren't in his Bedroom with them?).
Regardless the first thing you need to do to begin to rectify this in your own mind is to physically divorce yourself from this situation.
What makes you think he will ever leave his wife. He can screw both of you. Keep you for his mistress and keep his veneer of perfect family life with her. It's a great deal for him, but for you, it will continue to suck total ass.
You made a great leap forward by coming here, but you will sabotage your own happiness if you continue this path. You need to have the self respect to say to yourself that you as a human being deserve better than to be a sexual sideshow attraction for this tool.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): you were his mistress while he is married. so you and him are both cheaters. you want your married man to be faithful to you, how about him being faithful to his wife. after all he is still living with her and they are still legally married?
but if you have moved on to greener grass then no, its not cheating. but becareful, your men will cheat since you also have been a cheat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): yup he was cheating - you weren't cheating (he was the one in a relationship)
so ... if he has left his wife then he is no longer a cheater...
and now what happens next?
Star.x.
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