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The Art of Arguing. What helps you to resolve issues in your relationship?
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28 May 2015: There's a song by Ne-Yo that absolutely cracks me up now whenever I hear it. "When You're Mad" talks about how sexy it is when your partner gets angry and more than implies the joys and benefits of make-up sex! Deep within my nature, I do hav...
Jack and Jill Are Crushing
No replies yet... 28 August 2011: Jack thought Jill was hot. She wore short, jean skirts with leggings underneath. She had nice legs. Her shirts were always nicely filled and her lips looked very...lush. She was smart too. Really cool. Jill though Jack was cute. He was funny, h...
Nice Guys
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28 June 2011: Nice guys- a lot of us have overlooked them, rejected them, or simply ignored them. Then, we become interested and they're married. So, it's like a chick flick scene where a pretty girl tells her nice guy admirer that he's too much like a brother ...
Virginity
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7 November 2010: Every time I see a sex question posted by a young girl 13-15, I cringe and tell myself, "Don't you dare read this." Myself stubbornly refuses to listen, blows me a raspberry, and reads on - hell is sometimes unleashed. The questions which affect me ...
A Glimpse into Love
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10 October 2010: I'm the kind of girl who goes around barefoot, fights pessimism daily, and has thoughts wild enough to graze with antelope. I've heard love on the radio- songs that sigh heartbreak or gush with joy at finding someone who truly grasped their he...
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How do I get older women to notice me?
Q. what is the best way for older females to notice me? im 19 i like females from 25 and up to 45. people help me out. im not ugly or anythin i look good . i mean alot of women my age want to go out with me. but ilike older women. any advice well be ...
A. 4 October 2010: Oh ok, I understand better now. The thing is, younger guys have a bad rep. Older women they're out to find experienced lovers and then, leave it at that. Some of them have kids and who they bring home to meet the most important people in their lives ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or am I too suspicious??
Q. My boyfriend of 7 months is the first boy in my life. 3 months ago I found that he has been on many dating sites, all of them of sexual nature and he said it is old and that he doesn't use it anymore. I found old emails of him praising his ex ...
A. 3 October 2010: You're right, just because a man does/buys things for you, it doesn't mean they can't ever cheat. The emails to his ex were before you met...but the fact that he hasn't deleted his profile on these dating websites put up a few red flags.All I can ... (read in full...)
Found out 2 weeks before his wedding there was someone else and I am still seeing him!
Q. I am seeing this man for coming 4 yrs, after one yr together I found out he was cheating on me, the other girl mailed me some of their pics together. I confranted him, he cried n beg me to forgive him n I did and he promised that he will end the ...
A. 3 October 2010: No, he doesn't love you. What you love, you treat like gold, you sacrifice for. You've made many sacrifices for him and yet, he treats you like dirt, shouts at you and leaves you right after sex. If he loved you, he'd make time to see you and not ... (read in full...)
He's not circumcised, what do I do?
Q. Hey, this is a stupid question but...when I'm kissing my bf, he puts my hand on his erect penis, and I'm not really sure what to do! He's not circumcised, so I'm wondering if I should move my hand so that the head pops in and out of the foreskin ...
A. 3 October 2010: From what I've read, yes you should use a lubricant like oil or lotion. If you pull the skin down too far (especially without lubrication), it can be painful. Because the skin is so sensitive, you only need to cup your hand around the penis and move ... (read in full...)
Fiance killed in war, I'm only living for our unborn child
Q. My fiancé and I had been together for what would've been six years in November; since we were 15. While he was on leave from the Air Force, he proposed five months ago and we set the date for 11/11/11. Which, coincidentally, would have been our ...
A. 3 October 2010: No one really ever gets over a loss, we grieve, we anger, and one day we realize it gets a little number and we eventually move on. But, we always have a piece of our heart missing...and we always think of what was taken from our lives. Your child ... (read in full...)
Question about cheating in a marriage..all answers welcome!
Q. What is the main reason a man would cheat o his wife or girlfriend? Especially married men! :) and What would be the main reason for a woman to cheat on her husband or boyfriend? Especially married woman! :)...
A. 3 October 2010: Hm...broad question but everyone's different. From men, I've heard the reasons/excuses: my wife is not attractive anymore, our sex life is boring, my spouse didn't pay me any attention anymore, I was curious about her, I was drunk! I was far from my ... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt when having sex? Or is to big?
Q. Well every time me and my husband have sex and he puts all his penis in it hurts alot I feel like if he's touching something that it hurts why is that? Does somebody have that, Or what is it?...
A. 2 October 2010: Well, it could be that he is hitting your cervix which is at the end of the vagina. Some women fid that pleasurable, but others find it very uncomfortable and painful. He could try being more gentle or simply not going in all the way. What a lot of ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant again yet when things go wrong he spits on me and runs home to his momma
Q. hi i have been in this marriage for 4 1/2 years and we have been together a year before we married i love him sometmes i ask my self why because of how he acts like a spoiled 31 yr old brat we have 2 kids and i have 1 child from a highschool ...
A. 2 October 2010: You sound like someone strong- dilligently going out there to find work and support your family. I applaud you for that and for trying to make it work with your...husband (for lack of a better word). He doesn't want to try and solve his problems ... (read in full...)
My fiance's best friend is a horrible influence! What can I do?
Q. My girlfriend/ fiance of 2 years has changed lately her girlfriend who is single and is man crazy is always wanting my fiance to go out and drink with her just found out that she is smoking pot again and want my fiance to get high with her. When ...
A. 2 October 2010: Gotta agree with Dirtball, a lot of women have "those" friends and men usually hate "those" friends :p the best thing to do is communicate your feelings, however, I suggest you don't give her ultimatums because that can drive wedges between a couple ... (read in full...)
What was your most embarrassing moment while on a date?
Q. What was the your most embarassing moment wile on a date? :)...
A. 2 October 2010: Um...ok so it was my time of the month and I felt compelled to bust out my ratty, granny panties. But, then the guy I'd been seeing called and invited me out for a walk...I put on moderatly sexy clothes :p So, we're walking and he puts his hand ... (read in full...)
He just wants to be friends but I'm pregnant with his baby.....how do I get him back?
Q. i want my boyfriend back but he wants to be just friends but i'm having his child. he broke up with me before summer. how do i get him back......
A. 1 October 2010: There's no formula for getting someone back or making them want or love you...if there was, Brad Pitt would be married to 92% of the female population...I know it's a rough place, carrying this man's baby and not having him but, there's not much you ... (read in full...)
My friends want to take me to a stripper or pro, but I want to wait for a true lover
Q. My birthday had just pass and i turned 18 i am a virgin and never had a girlfriend friends had asked me when im i going to lose my virginity and because iturned 18 they wanna take me to lose my virginity to a prostitude or stripper but i dont know ...
A. 1 October 2010: In my opinion, you shouldn't. I mean, did all of THEM have their first times with strippers and protistutes? These are women who make their living through sex and what happens when it becomes a job is that it stops being pleasurable, it's a chore. ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should or shouldn't tell
Q. I just read a guy's recent post about losing trust and respect for his girlfriend after finding out she's been in contact with her ex a lot. It got me wondering if I should tell my boyfriend that before I met him, I was briefly dating a guy who's ...
A. 1 October 2010: In my opinion, the past is the past. If your boyfriend is still friends with his exes, there's no reason why can't be especially since you no longer feel attracted or tempted to get back with Bob. But, you still might want to tell Tim because some ... (read in full...)
What's more important ?
Q. Ladies! what's more important to you a man or money? Gentlemen! what's more important to you love or hanging out with your friends? :) thinks carefully ladies and gentlemen!...
A. 30 September 2010: Money. Nothing like a good wad of cash to make out with, cook for, watch movies with, and have as a passionate tango partner...rawr! I'm going with the cliche answer here: love. When I die, I want to know that I had found my soulmate and left behind ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for 13 years old to want to have sex?
Q. I'm 13 years-old and my boyfriend is 13 too this weekend my boyfriend want's me to give him a hand job and a blow job , is it normoal for kid;s our age wannaing to do that ??? Thanks i hope some one can help me with my Question xx ...
A. 30 September 2010: Normal yes since you are both in puberty. But, it's not a good thing to have sex at your age. 13 is much too young. Your body is going through the changes it needs to become mature but your mind isn't catching up to your body yet. The mind has to be ... (read in full...)
Sex is very uncomfortable or my girlfriend and that is the last thing I want for her!
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for nearly 10 months now. We've had sex a few times but it is very unsatisfactory. We were both virgins going into the relationship, so it's not like we're unhappy at each other, it's just frustrating. The ...
A. 30 September 2010: I suggest you look up female lubricants with special "features" look up the KY brand. Also, try a lot of clitoral stimulation. The Joy of Sex is a book which explains different sexual aspects and explains how both male and female bodies can respond ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is just TOO big!
Q. Ok. So i'm new to this whole thing. But - i have a problem and i'm hoping theres some people out there that are going through the same thing. So my new boyfriend and i started sleeping together last week. He's Black. and he is HUGE. I sometime...
A. 30 September 2010: What's probably happening is that he's hitting your cervix and for a lot of women, that's a painful/uncomfortable experience. There's nothing to do but tell him. Say that you love being intimate with but because his penis is so big, it's hitting ... (read in full...)
My gut says she is hiding something
Q. Ok so im somewhat seeing this girl latetly she has been going out and drinking a lot she has a lot of guy friend and everything plus she is still inlove with her ex. she allways seems to treat me like crap after she sees him and its like she is ...
A. 30 September 2010: I'm sorry but from what you've written, I'm inclined to think that she doesn't love you as you love her. She's still in love with her ex, she slept with her ex while seeing you and she's going out constantly and drinking without you. That gut ... (read in full...)
He tells me he doesn't want to get married again! Should I stay with him?
Q. I have fallen in love with a man that is 17 years older than me. This is not a problem at all for me or him either, I am very happy, I just cant tell if he is or not. I have two children and I do not want them to get hurt if I am in a relationship ...
A. 30 September 2010: You have been with this man 8months and who knows, maybe after some more time, he may change his mind. But, if he never does, I don't see why you two can't become a common-law couple. My "adopted" uncle is a total hippy and doesn't believe in ... (read in full...)
13 and pregnant
Q. I am pregnant im am 13 my boyfriend is 14 we have been together for almost a year now I love him so so much but i have no idea how to tell my mom and their is no way to tell my dad trust me...I just need to know im not alone and i need advise on how ...
A. 30 September 2010: Wait until she is alone, or ask for some private time with her. Then, tell her bluntly. She will be angry, dissapointed, and may cry but she's your mother and no matter what, she's there to love and protect you. Don't hold off on this. You need to ... (read in full...)
What does my ex mean?
Q. Well on saturday I made this sign for DJ Pauly D from the Jersey Shore and I posted it on his page on facebook he left me a comment saying he liked it and all that I was pretty happy about it so I told a few people and I even told my ex since we on ...
A. 30 September 2010: Sounds like he's jealous or maybe just annoyed by Jersey Shore since he said he was better than DJ Pauly and sent you a mix. BUT the fact that he responded to your cute comment with "oh" tells me he either didn't know how to reply OR didn't care ... (read in full...)
How do I control my thoughts about my future sister in law?
Q. Hello, I'm a 22 yo student, happily engaged with a beatiful girl, currently living at her parents' place. This is a choice we mae a couple of years ago, because we know we couldn't get enough money to live in an apartment while we study, so we st...
A. 30 September 2010: These kind of "contracts" can be very potent toxics. I know from statistics that the chances of couples into open relationship, or sharing spouses staying together are slim. Sex can get VERY complicated when people try to simplify it. Look, you ... (read in full...)
Can you get an STD from oral sex?
Q. okay so i am 16 and i am quite grown up for my age like i go clubbin i drink i am freinds with older peaple and i have done drugs like twice! I lie an awfull lot to my mum i do it basically everyday and i know it is really bad but something ha...
A. 30 September 2010: Doing drugs, clubbing, and lying doesn't make you grown up, dear. That only comes when you're indepedent with your own sense of values and integrity. Before engaging in sexual activity, you should do your research. You should know your partner VERY ... (read in full...)
How do I get older women to notice me?
Q. what is the best way for older females to notice me? im 19 i like females from 25 and up to 45. people help me out. im not ugly or anythin i look good . i mean alot of women my age want to go out with me. but ilike older women. any advice well be ...
A. 29 September 2010: First off, adopt a more mature way of dressing (if you haven't already), while you're hunting for your older goddess, forget the wise-ass t-shirts, the scuffed converses and baggy jeans. You want to portray power and confidence, nothing even close ... (read in full...)
What is the job of being a hostess to a baby shower
Q. I'm having my first child a baby girl and my hmegurl/godmother insisted on trowing me a baby shower. Next month is the baby shower. Every since I decided to have one I been feeling confused about the job of being a host. I have brought the ...
A. 29 September 2010: Oh wow, actually, since you're expecting someone else should have bought all the supplies (invites, cake, food etc). It's like you are throwing yourself a shower! You don't have to get agressive though, just tell her, "I'm not making a lot of money ... (read in full...)
Will he think I'm trying to buy his love?
Q. ive just started seeing this guy.. hes really sweet soo caring.. sensitive and just perfect. i really like him and hes really into me.. theres this mens perfume that he really likes and wants to get.. and he says hes gunna ask his cousin...
A. 29 September 2010: Nope, I don't think he'll see it that way and why should he? But, if you haven't been seeing each other that long, he might feel awkward accepting expensive gifts from you. So his reaction depends on how comfortable you two are with each other...I ... (read in full...)
Know any good quotations?
Q. Hello I am giving my girlfriend a gift because she is an up and coming writer. I wanted to ask does anyone know of any good quotes to motivate her that I could include in this gift about writing, creative writing or writers? Any inspirational qu...
A. 29 September 2010: "Be clearly obscure." "Writing's really not that hard, you simply sit down and open a vein." "In your words, it's not always what you shout but what you whisper." "Writers are the only liscensed schizophrenics." ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend got DUI and says if I wasn't so jealous it wouldn't have happened!
Q. I have been living with my fiance for 3 years. He and I both drink daily. He has has a problem with crack in the past an cocaine. He has had 2 dui's in two years. He smokes pot everyday and takes pain pills every chance he gets.He is 56 I am 60. ...
A. 29 September 2010: I think this is a case where you two simply cannot be together as a functional couple. He drinks, does drugs, and blames you for DUIs that have NOTHING to do with you as you didn't put a gun to his head and force him to drive drunk. This man doesn't ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, think I'm pregnant but don't think I could abort a baby!
Q. i am 15, and i think i am pregnant. i am goin to do a test tomorrow, i am scared in case i am cause i still have my whole life ahead of me, but i dnt think i could abort the baby, i cant talk to anyone about it, plz help me?...
A. 29 September 2010: I know you've probably heard this a lot but, I feel I must re-state that: the pull-out method does VERY little to prevent pregnancy, if birth control pills aren't taken correctly pregnancy is inevitable, and condoms should be used WITH the pill for ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend expects me to have sex with him he's 14 I'm 15!
Q. Im 15 years old,and im having problems with my boyfriend last night he asked me what my bases are and i told him and now he wants to have sex with me! he is a year younger than me too! I love him and i dont want to break up with him cause that will ...
A. 29 September 2010: Listen hon, he's fourteen. His hormones (like yours) are raging and he's putting pressure on you to experience sex.You are both too young. At fourteen with my bf we were out biking, hitting the movies, and being HUGE goofballs. Not to say that we ... (read in full...)
No dating experience and I don't know how to set up the next date
Q. Hi there, jst a uick question. I have recently started seeing this amazing guy, we met up on a few nights out and then he asked me out to dinner. He asked for my ideas but i told him i wanted him to decide. we had an amzing night and are both ...
A. 29 September 2010: It's so not pathetic! :) If you're still shy around this guy the classic coffee date works beautifully! You're relaxed more and coffee and desserts can be quite calming and fun followed by a nice walk. OR if you both are physical people, something ... (read in full...)
Caught between my father and my boyfriend who are both strong willed
Q. I and my boyfriend seeing eachother from last 3 years. i am 25 and he is 26. my parents wanted me to marry now as its my right age to get married. so i told them about my boyfriend, who is from culture. as i am north indian and he is a south indian, ...
A. 29 September 2010: You love them both so it's not easy to take a side. So before I give advise, I must ask: is your boyfriend's brother already seeing someone or not? Are they engaged? If not, then you can't wait. It could take him years! Talk to your boyfriend about ... (read in full...)
What are some birthday ideas for my friend?
Q. Hi ppl. Um male 21. Its my best friend's birthday next week. She s quiet and shy type of girl. What should i get her for her birthday? Any ideas? Any sweet and thoughtful ideas? Thanks in advance ppl. :)...
A. 29 September 2010: Ay, wish I knew more about her likes and what-not but here goes nothing: concert tickets to see her favorite band (let her unleash some excitement :p ), avoid buying her make-up (not only a lame b-day gift but makes some girls think you think they ... (read in full...)
Does the pain ever go away?
Q. Hi, This may not be the right place for my Q but I thought I'd ask it anyway. My father very suddenly collapsed and died in my arms over 20 yrs ago although it feels like yesterday. Each year on the anniversary of his death (today) I a...
A. 29 September 2010: I'm so sorry for your loss...I lost my dad three years ago and think of him every day. Shards of pain stab at my heart when I do and I can say that the pain never fully goes away. But, my dad was a happy man and to see me cry always made him ... (read in full...)
We have been together 17 months now and we still have not had sex!
Q. Okay so about a year and a half ago, I was at a small house party with a few friends and I met a guy, I was only 16, and although I wasn't a virgin, sex was the last thing on my mind. Me and this guy fancied each other and we exchanged phone numbers ...
A. 29 September 2010: All you can do is at this point is be patient with him. He sounds lovely! But, if he wants to wait, look up other alternatives to satisfy you. Meanwhile, focus on the emotional aspects of your relationship, build it so that your love blossoms into ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be choosing his child with his ex over our child!
Q. My boyfriend has two kids, one by me and one by his ex. his ex decided to move to another state now he wants to drop our home and jobs that supports our child to hang out with his other son can you help?...
A. 29 September 2010: He has the right to want to be a part of his other son's life too. He's really not choosing one child over the other. I know it may look that way but it's really not. If you don't want to move, tell him. Advise him to get a court order to contest ... (read in full...)
I cheated on b/f with his brother but now I want him back
Q. Dear cupid,i realy need your help becouse iam lost,i had a boyfriend of one year and we where so happy until i cheated on him with his brother ,he found me in bed with him,he broke up with me and i continued dating his brother,after a couple of ...
A. 29 September 2010: I'm sorry but there's very little chance he'll take you back. You didn't cheat with a stranger but a family member he trusted. You forever tainted the image of his brother in his mind and probably made him feel like less because while you were ... (read in full...)
Another baby with my ex?
Q. ok so i have a son from a previous 4 year relationship. My son's dad and i are no longer together but he has regular contact with my son and we are both on good terms. He has now asked me to have another baby with him. I was completely thrown by the ...
A. 28 September 2010: I'm not sure this is a good idea. A baby should be born to parents in a strong relationship. It's nice that you two get along and that he's still involved in your son's life yet, having another child with him can prove to be quite challenging. Sex ... (read in full...)
Christmas gift for my country boy?
Q. im wandering what to get my boyfriend for christmas. i'm 18 and he's 21, and by christmas we will have been together for 5 months and he already means the world to me. but i have no idea what to get him. he's a bit of a country boy if that helps ...
A. 28 September 2010: A hoe? JKJK sorry, my weird sense of humor couldn't resist :p In the olden days, I'd suggest the new Kenny Chesney cd buuut since these are modern times, guys do love electronic gadgets (visit a Sony store and look around) OR get him a cool t-shirt ... (read in full...)
Should I send him pics, or should he be respectful of my decisions?
Q. My boyfriend of almost a month wants pics but im not that comfortable about it. He is sorta mad about it because I said idk. Its also a semi long distant relationship. I really like him! Should I do it or should he be repectful of my decisions? ...
A. 23 September 2010: You're right to be uncomfortable. In this day and age, you have to be very careful about what you send on the internet. Once you send a picture, it's not your property anymore. Someone could hack ur bf's comp and sell such picture OR if you break up ... (read in full...)
We want to have a baby but my husband drinks way too much!
Q. My Husband and I want to have a baby. here is the Problume. He is 52 I am 32, he Drinks WAYYYYY too much, not drunk every night, but he drinks a bottle of wine a night. He had a heart attack and noooo that didn't stop him from Drinking or ...
A. 21 September 2010: Awesome! Your lucky to have a man who works so hard to please you! Hope you guys succeed and have that beautiful baby!... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my sexuality?
Q. Well Hi I've got a messy situation I need some help to fix! Let's start at the beginning, At The end of April I just had this dream that basically a big sign I was gay I woke up wondering just thinking it over if o was gay then I typed 'Gay K...
A. 21 September 2010: It would do you good to see a counselor, who has to know? Leave her a note saying there's an issue you'd like to speak about and politely ask her ensure your privacy about the fact that you're seeing her. When I went to school, I saw a counselor and ... (read in full...)
We want to have a baby but my husband drinks way too much!
Q. My Husband and I want to have a baby. here is the Problume. He is 52 I am 32, he Drinks WAYYYYY too much, not drunk every night, but he drinks a bottle of wine a night. He had a heart attack and noooo that didn't stop him from Drinking or ...
A. 21 September 2010: Alcohol consumption always has a direct effect on fertility and when paired with smoking-yikes! Even if he succeeds in impregnating you, how are you going to stay around secondhand-smoke and risk hurting your baby? My cousin was born with health ... (read in full...)
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