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No replies yet... 27 April 2016: Can you ever forgive me? Will you ever believe me? I swear it, I love you. It was not you, it really is me-my fault. How could I ever tell you about it all? I love you because you remind about the best I have within myself. I can laugh with you. You ...
The Art of Arguing. What helps you to resolve issues in your relationship?
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28 May 2015: There's a song by Ne-Yo that absolutely cracks me up now whenever I hear it. "When You're Mad" talks about how sexy it is when your partner gets angry and more than implies the joys and benefits of make-up sex! Deep within my nature, I do hav...
Jack and Jill Are Crushing
No replies yet... 28 August 2011: Jack thought Jill was hot. She wore short, jean skirts with leggings underneath. She had nice legs. Her shirts were always nicely filled and her lips looked very...lush. She was smart too. Really cool. Jill though Jack was cute. He was funny, h...
Nice Guys
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28 June 2011: Nice guys- a lot of us have overlooked them, rejected them, or simply ignored them. Then, we become interested and they're married. So, it's like a chick flick scene where a pretty girl tells her nice guy admirer that he's too much like a brother ...
Virginity
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7 November 2010: Every time I see a sex question posted by a young girl 13-15, I cringe and tell myself, "Don't you dare read this." Myself stubbornly refuses to listen, blows me a raspberry, and reads on - hell is sometimes unleashed. The questions which affect me ...
A Glimpse into Love
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10 October 2010: I'm the kind of girl who goes around barefoot, fights pessimism daily, and has thoughts wild enough to graze with antelope. I've heard love on the radio- songs that sigh heartbreak or gush with joy at finding someone who truly grasped their he...
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Can you lose sexual attraction for someone?
Q. is it possible to loose sexual attraction to someone? I was in a relationship for five years it ended because he was too verbally abusive."ur fat, the "b" and "c" word and all that nasty stuff.Anyways months have passed and he has been dying to come ...
A. 16 April 2011: Of course, hon. In fact, I'm quite glad that you're no longer attracted to your ex, forgive me, but he sounds like moronic, butt-headed, insensitve dog-dung. Your feelings are perfectly fine, embrace them. Your experienceing beatiful feelings now: ... (read in full...)
Not sleeping in the same bed as husband
Q. Why would a woman go out of her way to let me know she does not share the same bed as her husband???? What does this mean? Is she trying to tell me something?...
A. 16 April 2011: She's communicating loneliness to you and also, "availability." I'm sorry if this sounds cynical but when someone "shares" such intimate information, it's usually for one of two reasons. So my answer here would be yes, she is trying to tell you ... (read in full...)
Why would he say things like this? is he lying?
Q. Why would he say things like this? is he lying? I rang my ex boyfriend to ask a few questions about our relationship cos I feel like I every time I love a guy he leaves me heart broken. My ex lied, cheated and broke up with me. Anyways so I as...
A. 16 April 2011: Well hon, you got your answer. He couldn't commit, he obviously isn't mature enough to handle a relationship. He may really miss you but why put yourself back into that? He cheated on you and lied to you. Move on. It is NOT your fault this ... (read in full...)
My gf needs cheering up after a rough patch. What are romantic ideas to do this?
Q. my girlfriend and myself have gone through a rough patch the last few weeks. She has to work tonight, but will be back home with me tomorrow. I really want to make tomorrow romantic and create some chemistry back between us as i want us to be back...
A. 16 April 2011: I agree with fishdish, a sweet bubble bath can do wonders for relaxation and I highly reccomend either lavender or vanilla oil as lavender soothes and vanilla is both sensual and relaxing. Have a fluffy robe waiting for her and make her dinner-her ... (read in full...)
Why would he suddenly stop wanting sex?
Q. Why would a man , stop wanting sex suddenly with his wife? Is this true, when he says,he has no idea? What are the causes to this,and how common is that? I know man, who cant think of anything else,but sex Why is this happening? I feel humil...
A. 16 April 2011: Actually, the myth that men are constantly thinking of and are ready for sex is just that-a myth. Their sexual drive-like ours-can be tied to their emotions. If he's been under a lot of stress lately that could tie into it. If he's around your age ... (read in full...)
I'm being pressurized into marriage because my GF whom I never really loved, got pregnant and had our baby, by lying to me about using birth control..
Q. Hello. I am in a spot of bother. I had been going out with a girl long distance for about a year, we moved in together and I was pretty sure then that it wasn't true love. After about 6 months, when she was telling me she was taking contra...
A. 9 April 2011: Run to the law!! I agree with CaringGuy-this woman is not to be trusted. Ever. Now, don't tell her a thing, find a good lawyer and explain the situation...Now, we all know a fatherless child can suffer tremendously, a child needs a father too. Your ... (read in full...)
Am I the only person who believes you should give advice if you have experienced a situation?
Q. I have been a member of this site for a long time and have been reading a lot of the advice that is given. A lot of it varies and not everyone has them same answer which is to be expected. A few aunts or uncles I have been following give q...
A. 9 April 2011: Hm. I do see and understand your point. But I have my two cents on this.....ok, I have never had an affair and never been married. However, I have had a friend sob on my shoulder again and again about a married man and his promises-and from that, I ... (read in full...)
Is it right to bring a baby into the world when the father is a herion addict?
Q. Hi, I've just found out I'm pregnant with my first baby The baby wasn't planned but my husband and I have been married for two years and I have openly wanted kids.... anyway... there's one small problem... my husband is a heroin addict... it all...
A. 5 April 2011: First of all, I am very sorry that you and your husband are dealing with the effects of his addiction-it's hard and not too many can understand how hard it is to be controlled by an outside force or hard it is to watch someone you love suffer ... (read in full...)
Why is it that these guys love me at the beginning but always end up breaking up with me for another girl?
Q. hi, so recently for the second time in a year the guy i was with decided to break it off because they were interested in another girl. they both claimed that they loved me then suddenly (out of the blue) it just stopped. both relationships were long ...
A. 6 January 2011: It's LDRs. Very few of them work out because as humans, we need the close, physical contact, the sweet eye contact, the small touches and amazing kisses-those things build up on the emotional feelings of love we already have. For men especially, ... (read in full...)
Do men ever regret leaving a woman pregnant and alone?
Q. A question to all males out there or females in my situation. do men ever regret leaving a woman pregnant and alone? my ex boyfriend left me pregnant and alone, we live in different countries and he has never met his son (4 months old). when i was ...
A. 6 January 2011: Everyone has made excellent points and sadly, your situation is very common these days...Some men are simply boys with testosterone, they run away when they get scared or uncomfortable with a situation and may come to regret running away when they ... (read in full...)
Am I being cynical thinking she's too good to be true?
Q. I need you guys to read over this and tell me what you think because I'm not sure: I met this beautiful girl a couple of months ago. She is literally model gorgeous and then I mean like a victoria's secret angel, not a stick. Anyway, we got t...
A. 25 December 2010: Why so hard to believe? My best guy friend is stunning! Dark hair, dark blue eyes, 6'3 with rock hard abs and a great smile. He's very kind, rides/takes care of horses, plays 6 instruments and does a Brazillian martial art. He's a virgin at 26. As ... (read in full...)
Week old relationship and already fighting. Is this a bad sign?
Q. I'm in a really new relationship, we've only been dating for a week now. I've noticed that we have quite a few differences and don''t always get along. He tends to not always think before he speaks and I get upset sometimes. We also live about an ...
A. 25 December 2010: Not necessarily. Sometimes, it takes a while for two different personalities to understand each other and work out compromises. Relationships aren't purely lovey-dovey, romance, and butterflies all around though how great would that be? :) But, I ... (read in full...)
I think I'm a lesbian but won't be accepted by my peers
Q. I'm a 22 year old and I think I'm a lesbian. I never had any type of.dealings with.a female but this is something that is constantly on my mind. It's to the point where I sometimes watch lesbian porno wishing it was me. But I'm afraid I won't be ...
A. 25 December 2010: You "think" you're a lesbian...it's not a sure thing in your mind it seems. I read this article which stated that a lot of straight women were still aroused when viewing lesbian porn or reading erotic lesbian literature. A lot of women are a little ... (read in full...)
How do I approach this person - I don't know if he's gay
Q. hi, i feel kinda odd asking this but i really fancy someone i don't know very well, but it's not like any normal crush. i work in a bar and he always catches my eye and then one night out i bumped into him and i felt that there was more than just a ...
A. 25 December 2010: The biggest problem is that you don't know if he's gay. On his fb profile, he probably kept his orientation as straight or blank then, right? He may still be in the closet then if gay. So, I suggest you befriend him. Keep it light. Tell him you're ... (read in full...)
Is this birthday card too overwhelming?
Q. if i gave you a birthday card and wrote in it 'i wasnt there, but i know it was very early on a wednesday morning in 1970 that you popped out of your mom and since then the world has experienced your sweetness and the joy it is to know you. i cant ...
A. 25 December 2010: The "popping out of your mom" part would have been a bit too much for me but the rest is quite sweet.... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend the monster wants to try again!
Q. I don't know what is right or wrong anymore about love. My exbf was a monster. He ripped my heart out and taunted and did vicious things to me for entire year after he dumped me. I went all the way down hill and hibernated but he still found ways to ...
A. 25 December 2010: You can't. After so much hurt, there'd have to be something wrong with you NOT to feel any resentment. It's great that he's sorry and getting counseling but you don't owe him anything. Why force yourself? You're a different woman now. I understand ... (read in full...)
Urgent! Please: need more ideas for coupon book for Christmas
Q. I'm making a coupon book for my boyfriend for Xmas. I need ideas of what to give him with hem. I already have a "free 45 min backrub", "free clean any room in the house spotless with in 2 hours", a "get out of trouble free coupon" and a "ZERO ...
A. 25 December 2010: Free french kiss...have to watch anything he wants on tv (sports included)...meal of his choice...one "steamy" shower together... (read in full...)
Now everyone is way too curious or jealous about what I'm up to
Q. I finally have a boyfriend! i haven't had one since 6th grade. The thing is when my boyfriend asked me out i immedeatly put " in a relationship" on facebook. (well not RIGHT away, like 5 hours later). Well the only people who commented were my guy ...
A. 25 December 2010: lol sounds like typical middle school behavior...stirring up drama where there is none just for the heck of it :) Maybe a few are jealous but hey, they'll have to deal with it. You made your choice and your bf made his. There are plenty of fish left ... (read in full...)
Why do boys not like me?
Q. Dear Cupid.... I have one big question. Why dont boys [ever] like me? I am about 5'4, have dirty blond thats about a little past my shoulders, greenish blueish eyes, have a GPA (grade point averge) of 3.7 out of 4 , im skinny (105 pounds) but...
A. 24 December 2010: From the age group you posted, it's not the easiest age to find a good boyfriend. Guys are awkward, stuck between being boys and growing into men. So of course, they are going to lack confidence to ask out a beautiful girl with an amazing ... (read in full...)
I want to get past him stripping for women online and for cheating on me 4 times,
Q. okay so i was with my boyfriend for 2 years, since january 2009, although in july we had a bit of a fallout for about 2 weeks. we got back together unofficially, although i was telling my friends, and then i found out about 2 weeks ago, that since ...
A. 20 December 2010: Hon, believe me, I know how hard it is to let go of someone you love-even when they constantly hurt you. But, you have to think of yourself, your own survival. This man lied to you, cheated on you countless times, and it does not look like he'll ... (read in full...)
Is it alright to go out with married co workers ourside of work??
Q. Hello: Is it un appropriate to go out with the married co workers of the opposite sex after work?? What if they come to parties without their spouses and like you as a person to hang with..is that not good??? I realize a lot of marriages are not ...
A. 20 December 2010: Co-worker relationships can be complicated enough, but married co-workers...more so. If the co-worker is of the opposite sex, rumors may go around the workplace that an affair is going on and you, as the woman, will especially be frowned upon. If ... (read in full...)
The long and the short of it!
Q. I consider myself short at 5'8". I have always had a strong attraction to taller women. The taller the better. Is this normal... do most guys around my height feel this way and do very tall women feel that attraction to shorter men?...
A. 19 December 2010: I don't believe it's all that unusual...I'm 5'10 and am currently a man whose 5'8, average height. However, he loves it when I wear heels and become that much taller than him :) His friends too like my height and I don't know if it's a culture ... (read in full...)
Does he really like me? Or is it just a booty call?
Q. I've started seeing this guy after meeting at a party 2 weeks ago. When we first met he was really keen but I made clear I had a boyfriend, we ended up in the same bed but not sleeping together just chatting. We swapped phone numbers and well I text ...
A. 4 December 2010: I'm sensing that it's all sex for him. If he really liked you, he would hate that you had a boyfriend and would need for you to break-up before he put his hands on you. When a guy likes you as more than a sex object, he also shows respect. I'm not ... (read in full...)
My wedding is in three weeks and I want to break up with my girl?
Q. Hi . My wedding is on 3 weeks and I'm thinking on break up with my girl now ?? Please I need advices thank you. making it short..I am good looking guy and even little shy I always had luck with many women in my life because of that I never tr...
A. 2 December 2010: Your english is fine :) I speak a little spanish and I always worry about it too. I understand where you are coming from. My family is Catholic and since I was a little girl, I learned that sex outside of marriage was bad and that a woman should ... (read in full...)
My wedding is in three weeks and I want to break up with my girl?
Q. Hi . My wedding is on 3 weeks and I'm thinking on break up with my girl now ?? Please I need advices thank you. making it short..I am good looking guy and even little shy I always had luck with many women in my life because of that I never tr...
A. 2 December 2010: Fantasies are just fantasies. We all think about doing things we wouldn't normally do. I understand that you are more conservative in bed and appreciate a woman who is the same...I really don't think your fiance having these fantasies is a good ... (read in full...)
For girls, what's your taste in guys?
Q. I know every girl has diffrent taste in guys but these are just a few questions I can think of off the top of my head that I want to know the answer to 1.Do girls like guys with long hair? 2.Do girls like guys who call them babe or baby? (I d...
A. 30 November 2010: We're al different :) 1. I don't mind long hair, but it's not something that I really look at when I meet a guy and "check him out." 2. I like being called baby more than I do babe but never, ever when I first meet a guy. It's a total turn-off then ... (read in full...)
Should I drop college to be closer to my boyfriend even though my family will hate me?
Q. I am female and I have a long story for you guys. I go to college up in Michigan, I'm 18 and my boyfriend of three years lives in Toledo. I hate being far away from him and I hate being and doing things by myself. At the beganing, I went to college ...
A. 29 November 2010: Keep this in mind, hon: NO one can take the security of an education away from you and yet, romantic relationships can fail for many reasons. Give school a better chance. Join a few clubs to meet people, take up an activity you really enjoy and ... (read in full...)
Meeting older boyfriend's parents and I'm very nervous
Q. so i am a school girl age 16 in uk .. i need help well ...i am seeing this man of 20 and my paretns know about us and everything and so do my friends but his mum and dd doesn't know about us so we are going to go around next saturday and he ...
A. 28 November 2010: Yes, his parents might not apreciate the age gap so it's crucial that their first impression of you shows that you are not immature. Wear something tasteful, but nothing too fancy (shows you're trying too hard). You can wear a pair of nice jeans ... (read in full...)
Sister vs. sister
Q. okay i have a bad situation. my sis and this guy were together. they brroke up cuz he was flirting with me, well now im with him and he talks on the phone and txts my sis alot wat do i do??...
A. 28 November 2010: You leave him. You can't trust this guy. He flirted with you when he was with your sister and now he has you and still keeps talking to your sister. He can't be trusted. I bet he's flirting with other girls too. Being with him could also destroy ... (read in full...)
He wants kids but I don't, sick of his nagging
Q. i'm 22 years old and my boyfriend that i've been with for 3 years wants to have kids...and he keeps naggin me about it...i don't know how to tell him that i dont really want kids..... at all... well idk mayb wen im like 40 but im young and i luv the ...
A. 27 November 2010: Be honest with him and tell him that at 22, you're just not ready. You want to develop more as a person and really enjoy life before you take the initiative to share that life with a baby. Men often don't get how much more women are affected by ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with the cashier at my local grocery store.
Q. I'm in love with the cashier at my local grocery store. The first time I saw her I was so thunderstruck and giddy, as soon as I got home I blurted out to my wife about the beautiful the girl I just saw. I usually think before I speak. A little ...
A. 27 November 2010: In Italy, they speak of the thunderbolt. You see a person and you're struck by feelings that immediatly overwhelm you. I think this is a case of infatuation. It happens! Love takes more time, patience, and work. Infatuation is sudden, overwhelming, ... (read in full...)
13, pregnant and don't know what to do...
Q. hi I'm 13 and pregnant, I'm scared, dunno what to do and not sure who the dad is! Only my best friend knows, not sure what to do... its been 2 months now I'm scared HELPPPP...
A. 27 November 2010: Honey, look, right now it doesn't matter who the father is or any of that. You're young and in a very tough situation. I know you're scared and feeling like your world has ended but, it hasn't. It's important that you tell your parents, they may get ... (read in full...)
I'm 28 and no girl in my life, am I normal?
Q. Dear All, I just wanted to know one thing is it normal not to have a woman in life even when you turn 28. I must am not that bad looking (not to say that it makes any difference). It’s a fact that never had girlfriend. I must admit I do get attr...
A. 27 November 2010: Hello Vineet! :) reading your post, I think you are blowing this out of proportion. You sound like an awesome guy and really, there's no need to rush in these matters. Parents worry, that's part of the job and if they're hankering for ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my GF who has love addiction and now feel sick
Q. Thank you for the wonderful advice from wonderful people like FloridaCatGirl and others for a question I posed a few days ago. I will paste the link to the question at the bottom if you care to read it. I kind of knew what had to be done, I just ...
A. 23 November 2010: I understand how you feel. Moving on is not as easy as people make it out to be sometimes, it's a process. Right now, it's perfectly fine to grieve and anger-it's healthier and more progressive than complete denial and forcing yourself into a ... (read in full...)
Is she marriage quality?
Q. I have been going out with this girl for 1.5 years now. We are both in our forties. She has had many many relationships in the past. I discovered that she falls in love very quickly (like she did with me) and she started many of her relationships ...
A. 22 November 2010: I think you might exagerating a few things...and having said that, if you are bothered by some of her actions-respectfully talk to her and find good compromises. If you're unsure about this woman, don't go for marriage just yet. In my opinion, ... (read in full...)
I helped influence my boyfriend to disown his son
Q. My boyfriend has a 6 year old son by another woman. When I came into the picture there was hardly a bond between them which I was not surprised at, he only saw the child twice a year and spoke on the phone with him. I felt this burning resentment ...
A. 22 November 2010: Wow. The child is SIX and has done NOTHING to you. How could you think that the child shouldn't exist? He has every right to and you know what, forcing your boyfriend to disown his own flesh and blood will have consequences. He can still be forced ... (read in full...)
Dependant on porn and worried about my fantasies
Q. I'm a 39 year old woman and a single mum. Not found a relationship that makes me happy and have become dependant on porn, but I feel sick with myself and this is the only place I feel I can share it without being judged. Problem is that when I surf ...
A. 22 November 2010: The issue of porn: quite controversial but nothing really new to the world. Sexuality can be quite beautiful...with that being said, it can also be made into something ugly. But, you're not hurting anyone. This is just a fantasy you have which you'd ... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't trust me!
Q. hi please help.. im 39 and my fiancee is 41, we are due to get married in 4 months, but i know he doesnt trust me example of this is: my birthday yesterday, he popped out for a half hour, he secretly turned off our internet so i couldnt check my...
A. 22 November 2010: Hm. I wish I knew more about this situation to really form an opinion but why is it that he doesn't trust you? Has this ex contacted you in the past and your fiance found out without you telling him? Has there ever been a cheating incident? Has your ... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend isn't that into me because he wants a threesome
Q. Hi, I recently lost my virginity to my gay boyfriend. It was quite an awkward experience... It lasted for around 3 hours and I didn't get aroused much, because we spent all night drinking coffee and cola and watching movies. So I hope that he ...
A. 22 November 2010: Threesomes are serious bussiness and can be very damaging to relationships and the singular people who engage in them. I also think you both are a bit too young and too new to sex and relationships to go for something like that. Because I don't know ... (read in full...)
He's the one I want to marry even though I am young
Q. I am sixteen years old, and I want to marry my boyfriend someday. I'm not sure why, and we are very young, but someday, I'd like to. I've been dating him a year, and he's been my best friend for three years. He is my best friend, and I am in love...
A. 22 November 2010: Very normal. And who knows it might happen! :p However, don't linger on that thought too much. It's great that you want to wait for marriage. Keep doing what you're doing-work hard, enjoy your youth and the love/romance with your boyfriend. Tomorrow ... (read in full...)
Who should hold whose hand first?
Q. I'm 14 and my bf is 15. On the first date I was very shy, and I know he was nevrous. After we went home, he sms-ed me said he wanted to hold my hand but he thinks I may slap him. On the next date should I let him hold my hand or should I hold his ...
A. 21 November 2010: :) I think you should go ahead and take his hand if he takes a while to get around it and is sweating bullets. He's nervous and believes you will slap him, but if you take his hand that shows that you're perfectly ok with it and relieves the ... (read in full...)
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