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writes:what is the best way for older females to notice me? im 19 i like females from 25 and up to 45. people help me out. im not ugly or anythin i look good . i mean alot of women my age want to go out with me. but ilike older women. any advice well be greatly appriciated.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Oh ok, I understand better now. The thing is, younger guys have a bad rep. Older women they're out to find experienced lovers and then, leave it at that. Some of them have kids and who they bring home to meet the most important people in their lives is big-they might dismiss you (because of age) as someone who cannot yet be parternal. What could help is you (respectfully) state your intentions, ask them not to cut you out because of age. Tell them you want no games, no flings, no lies. You're a mature young man who wants something solid. Ask them for a chance to be proved worthy. If that doesn't work, don't worry. The right one will take you on.
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reader, N3m0 +, writes (4 October 2010):
N3m0 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey well the thing is that i am mature. ive talked to women at that age and they usually think im 23 or 22 but wehn i tell them im 19 they kind of back off and they talk a little less and they dont open themselves up to me as much. I talked a woman who was 25 but she was married) i didnt mean anything bad) but we talked and she thought i was sincere and that i had a great heart and even more mature than guys her age. The thing is that i speak Spanish and English and i also dance many diffrent types of music, I can handle conversations with older people its just that when i want to take it to more than a friendship level things start to go bad. I also dont pressure or anything that would make a woman feel forced to do anything. Its not just that, i do dress good. I wear Sweater vests dress pants dress shirts everyday, my hair is neatly trimmed i speak formal but not a smart-ass(excuse my language). I have helped many family members with their relationships all of them are adults, but when it comes to me getting help they cant help at all. Mainly the reason that i want to date older women is that im tired of having girlfriends at my age who arent matire enough and they always usually care about the superficial stuff.
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reader, juliefofulie  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 The previous posters have excellent tips -- especially about using the term "female." Big turn-off! Yes, be mysterious; but not aloof. Maintain eye contact; but don't eye rape. Smile. Tell her she's looks stunning. Be sincere; don't be smarmy.Keep in mind that chances are good she isn't looking for a long-term relationship with a 19 year old young man. She may be freshly-divorced, or sick and tired of the baggage that sometimes comes with men her age. Or honestly, the men her age are sick and tired of the bullshit she brings to the table. Whatever, she's probably just looking for a good time -- or she's looking for someone to teach how to be a good man. It's a slippery slope, and you've got to use your best judgment here.Dude, I can't stress this enough -- read everything you can about sex from the woman's point of view. Don't rely on what you've learned from internet porn or your teenage experience. (I mean no disrespect, I promise.) Visit some websites on how to please a woman, written BY women. And let her know you're doing some research on how to please her. And never stop asking her to show you what she wants. She's going to be so impressed by the fact that you're basically a clean slate chock-full of eagerness and godlike stamina. You're going to learn a ton, and have a hell of a good time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): I assume you are trying to get older women to like you for sh*ts and giggles? With all due respect, at your age I wouldn't suppose you are able to commit to something too long term or even be able to provide very well for a woman. I say this only because 19 is young, I assume you are right out of high school and you still have to go to college, land a good job, grow and experience life and mature, etc. That doesn't happen overnight. In the meantime you want to be with an older woman, many of which are looking for all the qualities I just mentioned...a good provider, a man who is settled in his career, who is emotionally mature and can handle all of life's bumps and hiccups. Who's had his fun and is ready to commit and take it to the next level. Older women are often looking for serious commitment, like marriage. I myself being older (I'm 29), I wouldn't date a 19 year old only because I would see it as a dead end relationship, and frankly I have been there done that and its not a road I want to go down again. And I guarantee you many if not most older women feel the same way. A relationship with a much younger man would involve lots of sex and little prospect of it turning into much more than that. Sounds good to you perhaps, but not an appealing prospect for many older women.
With that said, the pool of older women available to you is probably just a handful of women. Perhaps late bloomers, or women having extra marital affairs, etc.
So in that case, you need to know what type of older woman will go for you and seek them out. I would suggest going to bars and lounges where there are older crowds. At certain bars you will find older women all dolled up sitting by themselves at the bar just waiting to be picked up by someone like you probably. So you could try that. But since you are not 21 yet, I guess that could be an issue. However, if you could somehow work that out, I think that would be your best bet.
I wouldn't try to change who you are. Because no matter how well you dress or act, age matters to alot of people. It says alot about a person. I would keep being yourself and just know your audience. If a woman is going to go for a younger man, it doesn't matter how you dress or act, she is going to go for you, period. That's just my opinon. Good luck.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 I dont think mature women go for looks alone, like perhaps younger women will. You need smarts and maturity to attract an older woman. I guess it depends on the woman, but thats my best offer. If I was to date someone as young as you he'd need to show himself worthy of me. And a good looking body proves nothing. Even the most stupid can have a nice body.
I also think being dedicated to one woman only is a good feature. Most older women would doubt your ability to stick to one woman alone, or fear that you would fall in love too fast. So if you can prove them wrong you've got a good start-
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): Ok, well I'm 28 year old woman, and I can tell you that if I had a younger guy interested in me, I wouldn't be picky about how they dressed, or what their style was. Style is not what's important, it's more about what's on the inside. Do you have a good character? Are you honest, faithful, loyal, a good communicator, fair-minded, positive attitude, pull half the load, respectful? But that's just me, that's the standard I would use on a guy of ANY age... it's just that being an older woman I would, if I wasn't married, be ecstatic is a younger guy with those qualities was interested in me. But if you're looking for the superficial details of what would attract an older woman, I'm not really sure what most older women would say, because honestly just like all younger women are different so are all older women. The best advice I can give you is to just be yourself, your BEST yourself, you wouldn't want to attract someone that doesn't like you for who you are, anyway, right? Be confident about who you are. That's attractive to a woman, and I'm sure its' attractive to a man as well. It's about being yourself, and exuding your own best energy brightly and positively into the world.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 September 2010):
Exactly what the post below says. I'm going out with an older woman, and basically it's about being very mature, respectful, talkative, tidy etc. Forget the video games, forget all the clothes mentioned below, forget wise ass remarks, and have some good interests, such as dancing, foreign languages, DIY and just about anything that makes you appear mature. Most of all, be very respectful. Older woman will not appreciate nor take disrespect at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): tbh, and im talking from my own experience, where younger guys have took a fancy to me, how i see it is that its the personality and maturity level that counts. you need to show them your mature. most times guys your age arent and woman cant be bothered with some kid.
act mature look mature, see how you get on... good luck
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reader, followtheblackrabbit +, writes (29 September 2010):
First off, adopt a more mature way of dressing (if you haven't already), while you're hunting for your older goddess, forget the wise-ass t-shirts, the scuffed converses and baggy jeans. You want to portray power and confidence, nothing even close to adolescense. Older women can/will easily reject you if you look too much like their kid brother or son. Next, get more informed, older women are likely to prefer meaningful conversations that aren't about the latest movies or celebs. You don't have to change your personality but try and be calmer, more reserved. An older woman will apreciate you being very independent, it'll be a turn-off to hear that you have to ask your parents for money etc. Don't brag, real men never need to. Don't be an open book, let there be more mystery to you. If you aproach a woman, don't cliche. Being older, they know all the lines. Don't refer to them as "females." Some find that VERY insulting. Basically, act more mature, show that you're an asset and not a liability.
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