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The Art of Arguing. What helps you to resolve issues in your relationship?
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28 May 2015: There's a song by Ne-Yo that absolutely cracks me up now whenever I hear it. "When You're Mad" talks about how sexy it is when your partner gets angry and more than implies the joys and benefits of make-up sex! Deep within my nature, I do hav...
Jack and Jill Are Crushing
No replies yet... 28 August 2011: Jack thought Jill was hot. She wore short, jean skirts with leggings underneath. She had nice legs. Her shirts were always nicely filled and her lips looked very...lush. She was smart too. Really cool. Jill though Jack was cute. He was funny, h...
Nice Guys
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28 June 2011: Nice guys- a lot of us have overlooked them, rejected them, or simply ignored them. Then, we become interested and they're married. So, it's like a chick flick scene where a pretty girl tells her nice guy admirer that he's too much like a brother ...
Virginity
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7 November 2010: Every time I see a sex question posted by a young girl 13-15, I cringe and tell myself, "Don't you dare read this." Myself stubbornly refuses to listen, blows me a raspberry, and reads on - hell is sometimes unleashed. The questions which affect me ...
A Glimpse into Love
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10 October 2010: I'm the kind of girl who goes around barefoot, fights pessimism daily, and has thoughts wild enough to graze with antelope. I've heard love on the radio- songs that sigh heartbreak or gush with joy at finding someone who truly grasped their he...
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We want to have a baby but my husband drinks way too much!
Q. My Husband and I want to have a baby. here is the Problume. He is 52 I am 32, he Drinks WAYYYYY too much, not drunk every night, but he drinks a bottle of wine a night. He had a heart attack and noooo that didn't stop him from Drinking or ...
A. 21 September 2010: Awesome! Your lucky to have a man who works so hard to please you! Hope you guys succeed and have that beautiful baby!... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my sexuality?
Q. Well Hi I've got a messy situation I need some help to fix! Let's start at the beginning, At The end of April I just had this dream that basically a big sign I was gay I woke up wondering just thinking it over if o was gay then I typed 'Gay K...
A. 21 September 2010: It would do you good to see a counselor, who has to know? Leave her a note saying there's an issue you'd like to speak about and politely ask her ensure your privacy about the fact that you're seeing her. When I went to school, I saw a counselor and ... (read in full...)
He's a one minute man! how can I make it last longer?
Q. So I've been talking to this guy for some months now. We met in March and we've made out a couple of times, etc. So this past weekend, one thing led to another and we had sex. It was embarrassing. For the guy. So he's pretty well-endowed, bu...
A. 21 September 2010: Misfitchik has great points so I'll only add: If he masturbates and cums an hour or two before intercourse, he'll last longer because the sperm build-up has already been released. As you guys have sex more often, I'm sure he'll gradually learn to ... (read in full...)
What gift can I send to my boyfriend in hospital?
Q. Hello Guys, My bf will have a surgery in 2 days.. I was planning to send him flowers to the hospital. Do you think is it good idea sending a guy to flowers to the hospital? or what kind of gift I should send to him considering he will have bypass g...
A. 21 September 2010: A cute lil card or a gag gift to make him laugh. I have one of those silly little key chain toys that has the weirdest, most hysterical laugh when you squeeze it and it cracks me up! (CVS or Walgreens) If a portable dvd player, get him a guy flick ... (read in full...)
Older boyfriend doesn't want sex so much and its making me feel insecure
Q. I have been dating an older man for almost a year. I am twenty seven and he is forty five. He is a good man as far as paying the bills and helping me raise my daughter. Our sex life has been dwindling lately and every time I try to talk to him ...
A. 21 September 2010: Kidnap him and have your dirty way with him! lol The thing is, he might be "feeling" his age. As age goes up, libido sometimes goes down and he might blame his lack of interest on you because there's no way he's going to admit that he's sexually ... (read in full...)
We want to have a baby but my husband drinks way too much!
Q. My Husband and I want to have a baby. here is the Problume. He is 52 I am 32, he Drinks WAYYYYY too much, not drunk every night, but he drinks a bottle of wine a night. He had a heart attack and noooo that didn't stop him from Drinking or ...
A. 21 September 2010: Alcohol consumption always has a direct effect on fertility and when paired with smoking-yikes! Even if he succeeds in impregnating you, how are you going to stay around secondhand-smoke and risk hurting your baby? My cousin was born with health ... (read in full...)
Should I trust that he won't cheat if I'm lying in his bed?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 8 years. 5 of those years have been long distance (seeing each other 5 times a year for a week at a time). recently I found out that he has been cheating for 3 years mainly with one girl, he says he doesnt/didnt ...
A. 21 September 2010: No way! He cheated on you over the period of three years and then tries to put the blame on YOU. "I would have kept my pants zipped if you had done what I wanted, left your family and friends and moved in with me. Yeah, it's all your fault. You made ... (read in full...)
Would he never consider dating her,because she is a bit taller?
Q. Me and my best friend just started high school last week and we try to befriend our classmates, but it seems she already has taken an interest in a guy. he looks and stares quite often at her, and when she catches him, he doesn't look away, he just ...
A. 20 September 2010: My ex loved that I was taller. Bought me heels and everything when I was already two inches taller! But he's a man...this guy is a high schooler and so he might care about the way people view him. Your friend sounds lovely! He probably is crushing ... (read in full...)
I've asked someone to marry me... now I'm having second thoughts after we fought!
Q. I have met someone and asked her to marry me .... things couldnt be better until we had our first fight ... then 2nd then 3rd , all within 5 days ... now im really rethinking this thing . When we argue it is a nitemare ,,, i try every way i can ...
A. 20 September 2010: First off, don't give to pressure by others at your church etc. You're not living your life for them. These arguments shook you up enough to make you question your decision so I have to ask : How long have you two known each other? How soon after ... (read in full...)
Should this man be trusted?
Q. Ok.. I just started dating this man who is 35. I am 24. I have known him for about 2 years but we hadn't dated before, though he had asked me out a couple of times. One of the reasons I did not date him before, aside from me being unavailable, was ...
A. 20 September 2010: Huge red flag!! You're not being silly at all. Having affairs with married women is bad enough but your friend's wife...? That shows a lack of morality, control, consideration, and loyalty. Serial dating? Big uh-ho. He seems like a man who enjoys ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish? Or is my mom selfish for jumping into a relationship?
Q. My mom was married when she was 20, and was with the man for 12 years until he cheated on her. I've never heard much about him until almost a year ago now. and I'm almost 19. she had started talking to him in October of last year, and went to visit...
A. 20 September 2010: In this case, I think your mother is being selfish. She's been swept off her feet by this man and isn't exercising any caution. She's not taking your feelings into consideration and probably is excusing this in her mind by telling herself that ... (read in full...)
Do I have the baby or not?
Q. I am pregnant, of the guy who i have been having sex with, we have only been going out for awhile, bt we rarely used condom, nn he knows, ii didnt use proteccion of any sort. Now the problem is, doo I have the baby or not? Bec the guy who I truly ...
A. 20 September 2010: I agree with Jilly and Birdynumsnums-why would you have unprotected sex?! You can't really ask us what to about this baby but you do need to visit a Planned Parenthood or a doctor and get not only a pregnancy checkup but a STD test. A guy can look ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Should I ring him or not?
Q. ive been getting to know this guy..i like him and i think he likes me too..even though he hasn't said anything. i have free minutes and we talk all the time..but i feel like am the one whos always calling him. he texts me sometimes. w...
A. 20 September 2010: Don't call him. If you're always calling, that needs to change if he truly likes you. If this sounds "old-fashioned" sorry but men usually have the call women to set the date and ask if the women are still eager to meet up. You called him in the ... (read in full...)
When wearing revealing clothes, do women want men to look?
Q. When women wear revealing clothes - like skin tight exercise stuff, or a busty plunging neck line, as two examples - do they want men to notice? Does it make women happy to catch you staring, if you do so discretely? I am a bit confused about ...
A. 20 September 2010: lol! Ok, when some women wear "revealing" clothes it's for the sake of fashion and of course, we all like to be admired however, we're taught that if we respond positively to looks and stares, men brand us as "easy" hence, most of us avoid this. In ... (read in full...)
22 year old guy who's never made it to third base!
Q. I'm 22 years old and I'm still a virgin.Hell I've never even made it to third base.I'm just getting so tired of waiting. I really wanted to wait until I had some one I loved, I even prayed to God to send me someone but either he doesn't care or is ...
A. 20 September 2010: Try online dating. POF is pretty good and free! You can also hide your profile so others can't see you (if you worry about privacy) but you can still see them! You sound VERY attractive so you'll be getting messaged left and right. Living w/ ur ... (read in full...)
Should I walk out of this mess even though I'm pregnant?
Q. i am in a relationship with a married man about 20yrs older than i am.at first he always condem his wife he alway told me that im d only that can make him happy hes just wit her because of the kids.eventually i moved in with him but in a different ...
A. 19 September 2010: Someone once told me : when a man stops making you smile, reflect. I took it to mean that once I didn't feel happy with someone, it was time to think about why. You're reflecting. He is not only married, but 20yrs older than you. Those are two BIG ... (read in full...)
Freshman wants to go out with middle schooler?
Q. Would it be okay if a freshman maybe went out with an 8th grader? Cause I'm a freshman and I really kind of like this 8th grader I do community theatre with. Idk if I should, cause I'm not sure if it'll work out....
A. 19 September 2010: Sure! Why not? There's only a year between you two, now if you were a college freshman that'd be a different story! :p You can give her different tips about high school so when she joins, she'll be more comfortable which she'll appreciate. Are you ... (read in full...)
How do I know what my ex boyfriend wants?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I have been seperated for 9 years after being together for 2 years. We have a nine year old son together. The reason we split was because he was 19 and I was 22. He was immature and not ready to be a dad. My ex has a girlfriend ...
A. 19 September 2010: You're like his mistress. He doesn't want a real relationship with you and is using you while ignoring the son you two have together. Don't continue like this with him. If he truly loved you, you would not be a fwb. You would be a girlfriend or ... (read in full...)
I'm too dry while having sex! Help!
Q. hello when having sex with my boyfriend i become very dry i was never like this before until i got a mirena coil put in its a type of contraception just at womb, we use lube nearly all the time and after a while it goes and i become dry again it...
A. 19 September 2010: Go see your Doctor and tell her about your problem. Maybe a change in birth control method is needed. Ask about using lubricants...or just go and get em yourself! lol KY is a very famous brand with sooo many different varieties for added pleasure. ... (read in full...)
22 year old guy who's never made it to third base!
Q. I'm 22 years old and I'm still a virgin.Hell I've never even made it to third base.I'm just getting so tired of waiting. I really wanted to wait until I had some one I loved, I even prayed to God to send me someone but either he doesn't care or is ...
A. 19 September 2010: You're wrong, not all guys screw all in sight. My best guy friend is 25 and a virgin. He's good-looking, smart, and funny, girls want him but he's waiting. He found a nice girl and we hope she's it! Hold on if this is something you truly believe in. ... (read in full...)
I want to know how do I ask my husband's brother to satisfy me as his brother is impotent?
Q. Hi, I need your advice. I am a beautiful 23 year old married girl. Its been almost 2 years now that I am married. My husband is impotent. He cant satisfy me and I am still a virgin. I cant share this with anyone as my parent are dead and so is my...
A. 19 September 2010: You don't ask. If you have an affair with him and people find out, you will humiliate and hurt your husband and earn the disgust of his family. Even if no one knows, what happens when/if your husband finally can have sex with you and finds that you ... (read in full...)
Relatives criticizing me for what I wear around the house
Q. my question is regarding wearing below navel low on hips. i am a housewife live in karachi. i wear sarees or salwar kameez suits. at house i avoid any under garments. i feel comfortable wearing any bottom below navel low on hips and at home without ...
A. 18 September 2010: Your body, your house...your comfort! If your husband is ok with it it's no big deal. It's not like you're walking around naked :p But, since your relatives are of a different mind, just to keep the peace, come to a compromise. They are elderly ... (read in full...)
Wife cheating on me and planning on leaving me. How do I get over this?
Q. Recently I found out that my wife is cheating on me with some other guy. Though, I think they have not slept yet but she is madly in love with him. We have been married for almost 15 yrs now and have kids. Our marriage has not been the best in ...
A. 18 September 2010: She's no longer your responsibility. If she wants another man, let him support her. Go to a lawyer, tell him about your wife's affair and the divorce plans, he will help you with gathering proper evidence about this affair that will hold up in ... (read in full...)
My friend is seeing a married man and I don't see things working out, how do I tell her and make her see things?
Q. I have a friend who is seeing a married man, they had a brief fling when his wife was pregnant with their 3rd child. Since then it has transpired to something more serious and they have now been continuing a LDR meeting every couple of months or so ...
A. 18 September 2010: Your friend knows that she is doing wrong. But, she selfishly claims that they love each other so it's ok to hurt others. There's a 97% chance that this man will not leave his wife. The cost of divorce is high and anyway, your friend gave him what ... (read in full...)
My husband used to make me cry but now I'm interested in a co-worker, is that right?
Q. i'm 21year old girl.. and also married.. my husband is not so good in behavior.. he always hurts me a lot... and i always use to cry and cry and cry.... but nowadays m not thinking about that thing much also m not crying.. because I feel like i l...
A. 17 September 2010: I think you're overlooking something, dear. You are married and your husband is making you cry, making you miserable. Does he say hurtful things? Does he cheat? Has he ever hit you...? If you say yes to any of these questions, you are being abused. ... (read in full...)
What words can I use to express to my boyfriend how sexy his voice is?
Q. So my boyfriend has a really sexy voice and whenever we are talking on the phone he voice just puts me to sleep cos it feels really good to my ears.. And it takes a lot to make me sleep. So we were thinking of names for what his voice does to me. ...
A. 17 September 2010: Soothing, melodic, tantalizing, mesmerizing, sexily hypnotic, deliciously seductive...hehe... (read in full...)
After finding out my partner used a prostitute, I'm wondering if he's the man I thought he was?
Q. My man and I have been together for almost three years now, and marriage is on the cards. We’re mature (early 50s) and have both been married and divorced, so it's inevitable we each have a past. Watching the news on TV the other night ther...
A. 17 September 2010: I completely understand where you're coming from and agree with your view on the world's oldest proffession...but, in this case, you shouldn't be so harsh with this man. He was honest enough not to deny involvement in something you would have NEVER ... (read in full...)
Gay guy with a crush on a confused guy
Q. Ok, I know... I am CREEP I'm a WEIRD-Oooo I don't belong here. I am 49 years old now, and I grew up on a Mission Field. I a 'missionary kid' but I'm a gay, male and I have a crush on a married male who is confused, I'd say, about their ...
A. 16 September 2010: Don't bash yourself. Attraction is not a crime but as this man is married with kids and doesn't even know if he's really gay, making a move just wouldn't be the right thing to do. You will both feel burning, unbearable guilt if you do ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's dad fancies me!
Q. Hello, I am in a right pickle, I have been with my partner for 2 years now, we have lost 2 babies and we live together. Lately it has been hard for us and we didn't no whether we should end the relationship, but I dot want to just stay in the...
A. 16 September 2010: Don't go there, please don't. You're confused now because of whats happened and is happening and you want comfort...if you care about your bf even a little, you will ignore this attraction to his dad. Also, be honest with him, if you don't feel ... (read in full...)
Period is late -- could I be pregnant?
Q. Alright. I am 19 and My fiance and I just started having sex. It was my first time with him. I am 4 days late on my period could I be pregnant? He used a condom the first time, but he did not use one the second. But he did pull out before anything ...
A. 14 September 2010: Yes, there is a chance that you are. Take a test as soon as possible. First Response might be the best to use as you are only four days late. Pulling-out is not a form of birth control. If you're looking to make sure you don't get pregnant, go on ... (read in full...)
Son looking at pornography on the computer?
Q. I recently caught my son on the computer looking up pornography and masturbating, i sent him to his room and told him not to ever again, and that it was wrong. i think i did the right thing, but I'm not sure. he's only 11 and it seemed like he was ...
A. 14 September 2010: He is too young to view such things! But sexuality is an extremely sensitive thing when it comes to children and teens. You should have talked to him. Punishing kids for sexual curiosity sometimes leads to them feeling ashamed and dirty when they ... (read in full...)
Nervous about meeting online b/f for first time!
Q. Hi! I live in Washington state and I've been in a LDR for a couple months now with this guy on the east coast. I'm going to visit him in 4 weeks and I'm extra excited! Only thing is, I'm kinda nervous too!! I've been in a couple relationships be...
A. 25 July 2010: You're kinda young to be travelling to meet your bf, are your parents aware and ok with it? But to answer your questions, you're both going to be a little nervous, that's normal :) Take your time, get used to each other first, don't jump right into ... (read in full...)
Should I tell a new guy about my ex?
Q. ok I meet someone new but idk if I should tell him about my ex I mean this new guy is awesome but yet still very childish should I b honest with him n tell him that I lasted with my ex 4 bout 3 yrs?? I mean I don't have feelings 4 my ex anymore n I ...
A. 25 July 2010: Yes, leave the past in the past. Honestly, men don't really like ex talks...especially when first dating a girl. Usually, it makes them uncomfortable and makes them wonder if you are still hung up on your ex. If he asks, be honest but keep it brief ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be upset that he never included me in his birthday plans?
Q. I would very much to strangle my boyfriend, is that legal? lol jkjk Seriously, I sorta want some revenge. We've been dating for five months and its his birthday tommorow, his friends always try and get him clubbing so I joke , "I'm probably not ...
A. 24 July 2010: Thanks so much for the insight! You guys are right, it is his birthday and whatever the reason, he'd like to be with his buddies. Sooo, I'm hitting a male strip club (SO kidding!) hehe I'm going to a concert with no hard feelings and genuingly hope ... (read in full...)
He had a girlfriend and I'm going to a wedding they'll both be at...what do I do?
Q. I'm 16 and i went to spain with my friend for a week to visit my family. My family also had some friends visiting that were living in the villa next to where we were staying. over the week we had a bit of a thing didn't go too far. He nearly t...
A. 24 July 2010: Ugh, stay away from the two losers...they seem to deserve each other. If you feel you HAVE to go, try and bring a date-A guy friend or something...that way, they're less likely to approach you and if they do, you have backup. Show the guy you don't ... (read in full...)
Is he just scared to tell me how he feels?
Q. I can't stop crying my eyes out. I just told my boyfriend of 4 months that I love him but he didn't say it back. I thought all the right signs and signals were there that he did and that he was just afraid to say it, so I said it first. Sign 1: I...
A. 21 July 2010: He sounds like a really great guy and I do think he cares for you. Probably, he just wants more time with you before he's confident enough about his feelings. My best guy friend had his girl tell him she loved after five months and he calls me ... (read in full...)
Why does the creep factor go up the older you get?
Q. Why is it when a young man craves sex, it's just young a man craving sex. But when that young man gets old and craves sex, he suddenly considered a Dirty Old Man, or even a Sex Addict. Someone help me with this. ...
A. 21 July 2010: lol! It's only creepy when it's older man hitting on much, much younger women for sex. If an older guy feels the same drive he felt in his twenties, I say more power to him. However, he can't have that twenties behavior along with the drive, that's ... (read in full...)
He tells me he'll kill me if I leave him
Q. Yesterday was my b-day and I went out with my girls after while we went back over to where my car was and jumped in the vam (that I gave my fiance)as I'm getting in I reach in the side pocket and pull out (5) condoms you can tell it was a(6) pack ...
A. 11 July 2010: The best thing to do is run, call the police and file a report. Get a restraining order against him. This man is a danger to you and your children. If you have family, tell them whats going on, stay with them if at all possible. If you don't seek a ... (read in full...)
50 year old virgin
Q. Hi i just turned 49 this year and was with some friends when i realized that i was the only one without a family. In fact i have never had any real relationship before... the closest i got was in 98' when a work partner(also a good friend) moved ...
A. 8 July 2010: No, It's not the end, not at all. Don't discourage since people find love at all ages...you're not in your seventies so in addition to love, you can also start a family. So, put yourself out there more. If you havent the time or are too shy, dating ... (read in full...)
Do the words mean something or are they just mundane pet names?
Q. Stupid question maybe, but I'm very curious. I've been seeing a Peruvian man for the past few months and needless to say, the accent is unbelievably hot and I adore the language :p but, I wonder about the things he says in Spanish. I wonder if ...
A. 30 June 2010: Thanks a bunch :) but hm...do these words mean he somehow cares for me?... (read in full...)
I feel guilty and terrible because I gave oral to a guy while drunk. Any advice?
Q. basically I'm feeling incredibly guilty because I gave head to a guy last night. Im quite young so that was my first time... He was one of my best friends but he also went out with my best friend for a little bit a couple of months back. I feel so ...
A. 29 June 2010: Deny it happened, laugh it off and make jokes about it. People are less likely to think ur denying something if you find the situation even slightly amusing. If the guy tries to confront you, laugh at him, "Wow dude, how drunk did YOU get?! We're ... (read in full...)
Should I wait or save myself
Q. I am a 24 year old guy. I have never had a serious relationship in my life. I have a feeling 98 percent of guy my age have already had sex. I never have. I have tried to wait for something serious but I honestly have never been treated right by ...
A. 28 June 2010: I truly think that if you do it with some random girl, you'll kick yourself later when an awesome girl comes along. I'm not saying to wait forever, but at least wait for a girl you genuiningly like and trust. You dont want your first to be some ... (read in full...)
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