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The Art of Arguing. What helps you to resolve issues in your relationship?
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28 May 2015: There's a song by Ne-Yo that absolutely cracks me up now whenever I hear it. "When You're Mad" talks about how sexy it is when your partner gets angry and more than implies the joys and benefits of make-up sex! Deep within my nature, I do hav...
Jack and Jill Are Crushing
No replies yet... 28 August 2011: Jack thought Jill was hot. She wore short, jean skirts with leggings underneath. She had nice legs. Her shirts were always nicely filled and her lips looked very...lush. She was smart too. Really cool. Jill though Jack was cute. He was funny, h...
Nice Guys
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28 June 2011: Nice guys- a lot of us have overlooked them, rejected them, or simply ignored them. Then, we become interested and they're married. So, it's like a chick flick scene where a pretty girl tells her nice guy admirer that he's too much like a brother ...
Virginity
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7 November 2010: Every time I see a sex question posted by a young girl 13-15, I cringe and tell myself, "Don't you dare read this." Myself stubbornly refuses to listen, blows me a raspberry, and reads on - hell is sometimes unleashed. The questions which affect me ...
A Glimpse into Love
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10 October 2010: I'm the kind of girl who goes around barefoot, fights pessimism daily, and has thoughts wild enough to graze with antelope. I've heard love on the radio- songs that sigh heartbreak or gush with joy at finding someone who truly grasped their he...
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Should I wait or save myself
Q. I am a 24 year old guy. I have never had a serious relationship in my life. I have a feeling 98 percent of guy my age have already had sex. I never have. I have tried to wait for something serious but I honestly have never been treated right by ...
A. 28 June 2010: I truly think that if you do it with some random girl, you'll kick yourself later when an awesome girl comes along. I'm not saying to wait forever, but at least wait for a girl you genuiningly like and trust. You dont want your first to be some ... (read in full...)
Gay friend wants to be straight!
Q. My friend is gay and we have had intercourse in the past with no problems (I am Bi). But the last time we had sex he cried afterwards and said he no longer wanted to be gay. Since then he has shut me out of his life and I no longer get to see him. ...
A. 27 June 2010: GIve him some time, hon. It sounds like he's having a rough time and may be feeling horribly because his sexual orientation is stressing his life out. Being gay, he might be experiencing a lot of negativity from family and friends. So, tell him that ... (read in full...)
It's all or nothing for this army guy. Is he just being selfish?
Q. A guy I was talking to from the army doesn't want to have anything to do with him because he can't deal with me not being sure if I would be with him and move with him to georgia...we have been talking for a month now I really do like him but he ...
A. 23 June 2010: you hit the nail right on the head-this guy is selfish with a capital "S." He's not worried about how much you'll miss your friends and family, he doesn't seem to care that you'd be more comfortable getting to know him better, and the fact that hes ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend expresses sudden disinterest with me.
Q. I'm a 24 yr old male with a beautiful 25 year old girlfriend. I have been living with my girlfriend for 2 months now and we've been dating a total of 5 months. When we were dating and didnt have the title of girlfriend yet, she told me several times ...
A. 23 June 2010: I think your girlfriend may feel a bit frightened by the fast rate with which things are moving between you too. Love can be the most frightening thing in the world for most people because it makes them so vulnerable, more open to be hurt. By trying ... (read in full...)
He keeps joining dating sites even though we're engaged and I'm pregnant, am I wasting my time?
Q. So... I'm almost 8 months pregnant. I was just engaged on mothers day and my relationship was a fairy tale.. i never imagined things could be so good but i also knew it was too good to be true. 2 days ago i caught my fiance signing up for dating ...
A. 19 June 2010: You don't deserve this, not at all. You've done everything right and are getting badly repaid for it. I respect the fact that you've thought of your daughter in all this...my father, though I adored him cheated on my mother constantly and this had a ... (read in full...)
Help! My religious beliefs prevent pre-marital sex and my boyfriend's demands are so scary!
Q. hey The guy he loves me he is not from my country,,,well i luv him and he luv me alot he said 2 me he want 2 have sex with me and i was shocked because he knowing that i cant have sex before marry its forbidden in my religion then he said ok (i wi...
A. 17 June 2010: DO NOT GO TO THE HOTEL WITH HIM! PLEASE! I understand where you're coming from, when you love someone you want to make them happy but this boyfriend is pressuring you for something you cannot give. I don't mean to scare you, but going to that hotel ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if my husband is lying about another woman?
Q. I'm not a jelous person and i've never been, until recently - we went to watch the soccer with friends and i wasn't feeling gr8 so i went to lie down, when i woke up i went to the bar got a drink and danced a bit then the party i was with wanted to ...
A. 17 June 2010: This is a definite red flag, hon. If your husband feels he has to lie, theres something going on. I'm not going to say that he's cheating right off (he truly may not be) but it's clear that he may have a strong attraction to this other woman and may ... (read in full...)
Can anyone else not see how my girlfriend has provoked my jealousy?
Q. When my girlfriend tells people about how jealous i am she leaves out a good bit of details that actually lead to the jealousy or well made it worse. There are 3 main things that made it worse and drove me to the point where i questioned her about ...
A. 17 June 2010: Well, first off, I can sort of understand where you're coming from. It's not cool to compliment guys in that way in front of your boyfriend-especially if you know it hurts or bothers him. I really don't think she means to, but if she truly cares for ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend and I got back together but she's pregnant with another man's child
Q. Iv been with the same girl on and off for about four years, and things arent getting much better. During one of our longer break ups, I was starting to really move on, it took a really long time for this, for me to even stop crying at her name. No...
A. 17 June 2010: Tough situation to be in...I will not tell you to do but, think of this: you said it yourself, you only want your girlfriend when she's with another, you hate that she's carrying another man's child, and you found youself close to someone else. Ask ... (read in full...)
Can someone on meth really love anyone?
Q. Does a person on meth feel bad for things they have done wrong? If on meth do you black out and for get things you do or later remember and regret? If doing Meth and hurt your loved ones does the drug make you not care? Educate me please and tell...
A. 17 June 2010: To go further, think of a starving man-he'll do anything and everything to survive and get food. On meth, the brain will be in a panic for more, it's on starvation mode for meth. The addict will not think of family or friends, meth comes first ... (read in full...)
Can someone on meth really love anyone?
Q. Does a person on meth feel bad for things they have done wrong? If on meth do you black out and for get things you do or later remember and regret? If doing Meth and hurt your loved ones does the drug make you not care? Educate me please and tell...
A. 17 June 2010: I'm sorry to hear that your friend is on this drug...it greatly affects the brain by increasing pleasure sensors and hormones, making it eventually impossible for the brain to produce natural chemicals that bring about happy, good feelings. A person ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with her!
Q. Hello everyone, I really need help. Im...im suffering from obsessive love and I need to know where I can get easy and simple financial help, along with some advice. Here is my situation, I have fallen in an obsession with an 18 year old women( and ...
A. 17 June 2010: For honest financial advise, try a Credit Union-non profit organization whose purpose it is to help you with finances. As for you obsessive loves, first off, how are you so sure they are "obsessive"? Thats a strong word! Honestly, maybe you're just ... (read in full...)
I'm always sad and lonely!
Q. why do i feel so empty most of the time? i work three days out of the week, which my husband drops me to work in the morning and a stay home mom the other four days. he gives me two hundred dollars spending money every week. we have a beautiful ...
A. 17 June 2010: Hon, you're not doing wrong. You work, you take care of your beautiful little girl, and it seems like you try very hard to make this man happy...but, do you realize that he's being verbally abusive to you? He curses you out when he does't get his ... (read in full...)
What is a good moment to go for a first kiss?
Q. Hello, Uhh, okay so me and this girl like each other, we've met up once and both really enjoyed ourselves, we only talked which was great I felt like I got to know a lot about her. we're meeting again and this time i really want to kiss her, I w...
A. 17 June 2010: Aaaww, thats so sweet! Right moments usually include that silence after you've both laughed and are smiling, or on her doorstep saying good night...don't be quick about it, that can end up with you bumping heads or something :p gently cup her face ... (read in full...)
I'm only attracted to men in the military!
Q. I have an attraction to military guys and that seems like all that I want, why can't I seem to like/date anybody else?...
A. 17 June 2010: Well, they are pretty hot! lol But hm, if you come from a military family, you'd be more drawn to them because you understand the culture, you admire the sacrifices, and people are comfortable with what they know best. If not, this can have ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel like a failure and other times I'm great
Q. Sometimes I feel like a failure. Don't get me wrong I'm a happy guy and my grades are way above average. It's just at times there is something I can't do and it's like my mind just shuts down and I am unable to do that or any other tasks. I am a ...
A. 30 March 2010: I think you're being a bit hard on yourself, hon. No one can do everything you know? Einstein even had things he could not do. We're all human. Just remind yourself that you're an awesome guy, getting awesome grades-which of course, means you're ... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate to go to a guys house on a second date?
Q. BIG question...What's appropriate for a first or second date? I went to dinner with this guy for our first date and now, he wants me to come over his house and he admitted that he was really attracted to him and joked we might end up in bed or ...
A. 30 March 2010: Thanks a lot guys :) I know what to do now... But uh, does anyone know how to remove the question now? lol I'm a bit embarassed. ... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate to go to a guys house on a second date?
Q. BIG question...What's appropriate for a first or second date? I went to dinner with this guy for our first date and now, he wants me to come over his house and he admitted that he was really attracted to him and joked we might end up in bed or ...
A. 30 March 2010: Thanks guys :)... (read in full...)
She says the baby is not mine, but I am worried she is lying
Q. on Dec 02, 2009 I ejaculated on a females stomach. I went into the bathroom to get a towel and left the room for a few minutes. I received a call today 03/02/10 from this girl stating she is pregnant and is due on july 9,2010. my question is--is it ...
A. 3 March 2010: Hm...I don't really know what to say about this situation but like some, I've heard horror stories about women getting themselves pregant through sneaky means...You sound like a good guy-caring about whether or not there's a possibility you fathered ... (read in full...)
I hate my dark, dark skin
Q. I am Cuban and I am dark skin and I like to think that Im exotic with my foreign tongue and look. But all my life I have had people be mean and criticize me for who I am. The media in America portrays majority of the people being beautiful as white ...
A. 3 March 2010: Well honey, first off, don't try to lie anymore about who you are...and believe me, there are plenty of men out there who ADORE dark-skinned women. One of my best friends is a blond, blue-eyed guy who constantly dates dark women. That's how we met ... (read in full...)
I think my vagina is too tight, could I be having some sort of problem?
Q. i tried to have sex with my bf but penetration was hard and too painful so we had to stop whatever we was heading to. most of the times we would only make out and do some oral sex and fingering and it would not hurt me. i get really too wet that he ...
A. 1 March 2010: MMmmm...well this is a bit of tough one to answer. Have you tried additional lubrication perhaps? Like KY, oil etc.? If you have and there's still no go, you might want to see an OB-GYN. Get a medical take on this issue. Your boyfriend might be a ... (read in full...)
How can I get back to my normal life and get a good job?
Q. Hi, my Name is Manoj I am 26 year Old i was very active person and i used to take challenges of any Type but it all getting working in negative ways nowdays. Il explain you how it happened when i was preparing for my exams i used to study a lot d...
A. 1 March 2010: First, you need to need a consult a doctor dear. Obviously, there's something bothering you and its preventing you from sleeping and enjoying the life you have. Talk to a counselor if you can or a spiritual leader that you trust. In the meanwhile, ... (read in full...)
I'm confused with this sex buddy situation and don't want him to use me
Q. Alright well I was talking with the this for like 2 weeks... we talked about sex stuff prior and we finally hung out and ended up having sex. Big mistake on my part cause after that the guy started just talking about sex nonstop with me. i told him ...
A. 1 March 2010: Hey there, I agree with you-you shouldn't be used for that. If this guy is insisting on making you a sex buddy, lose him and fast. What happened between you two wasn't blamed, and he honestly can't blame you for it. Being sex buddies with someone ... (read in full...)
Has my friend's husband crossed the line with me?
Q. I would like your opinions please as to whether you think my friend's husband has "crossed the line" with me? I have been close friends with them both for over 20 years. There has always been a bit of a spark between us and even my friend has joked ...
A. 1 March 2010: I don't think you're blowing this out of proportion, his touching you on your tummy, and kissing your neck are not really "friendly" behavior. He may not really be attempting to "show" his feelings since you mentioned this happens when he's had a ... (read in full...)
Am I bad in bed because my boyfriend lost his erection during sex?
Q. i have this problem well actually its not me that has it, however i think i am contributing to it. My boyfriend lost his erection during sex and this is the second time it has happened.. We were in the missionary position and to be honest when it ...
A. 1 March 2010: First off, your boyfriend might be suffering from erectile dysfunction depending on his age etc., it's a medical condition some men have that keeps them from keeping an erection, and it's nothing to be ashamed about, plenty of men have it and it can ... (read in full...)
Why do guys act like complete jerks in front of their friends?
Q. Hi guys Apart from complete immaturity, why do guys act like complete idiots in front of mates? Was seeing a guy only been out a few times, saw him he was out with his mates. He was a total moron!!!! his mates spoke and were funny, he spent ...
A. 1 March 2010: lol Guys with their mates can be incredibly different from when they're with you. Sometimes, they simply feel like showing-off a little in front of friends, showing that they're such hot stuff, they don't let their brains be addled by a girl. ... (read in full...)
Should I keep the baby?
Q. im 27 and have two boys from two previous relationships and my boy of more than a year is 28 and has a two kids as well with his ex whom he was with for 5 years. we have been living together for a year now and it was great at first but little by ...
A. 1 March 2010: You're in a very tough situation, and it's probably very overwhelming. I'm not going to tell you to keep or get rid of the baby. I will tell you though, to take some time to yourself and think. Your ex doesn't seem like a very kind person, and no ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps getting raunchy pics of a girl he doesn't know. But won't tell her to stop. Am I being controlling?
Q. My boyfriend is 18 and we been together for 8 months now and it's the longest relationship he's had. But there's this girl who he doesn't know who she is but texts him. And she sent him a picture and in the picture she took with her cell and she was ...
A. 28 February 2010: Your boyfriend-no offense-sounds real selfish-like a jerk really. As his grilfriend, you have the right to be upset about his getting this sort of pics and STILL talking to the sender. Some people would consider that a form of cheating. How would he ... (read in full...)
I'm Curious about my penis size!
Q. Hi I am 14 yrs old and i am curious about penis size!! My penis is 3.5 inches when flacid and 5.3 inches when erect. Do i have a small penis? and will it get bigger?...
A. 28 February 2010: Hey there, no worries about the size. You're still growing so you really won't know your "real" size until you're about 18 or so, depending on when you started puberty. Right now, you're not "small" or "big," you're still growing so you really can't ... (read in full...)
Bothered about her interest in my friends!
Q. Hi I've been seeing this girl for the past two months, and everything is great. We both just got out of bad relationships, and feel like we know what we want and don't want. We both communicate well together, and even the topic of jealousy h...
A. 28 February 2010: Glad I could help a little and I hope you guys are very happy together :)... (read in full...)
What the hell is wrong with me?
Q. Sex has always been an issue in our marriage. I've always wanted it more than my wife and it'll often only happen if I initiate it. But I find I'm quite sulky about it at times. If she says no I'll become moody and if she says yes, I'll someti...
A. 28 February 2010: AS to what is "wrong" with you I couldn't say...maybe stress? Resentment of some sort? But, communicate your feelings to your wife. Don't go about it in an accusing, forceful, or frustrated manner. Makes sure too, that she's in a calm, content mood. ... (read in full...)
I don't know if he is playing mind games or not!
Q. basically i met this guy in july.hers a description i found which basically sums him up because writing the whole story would be tooo long The first few weeks or month is sheer bliss. This guy starts off real aggressive, hot and heavy. He can't ...
A. 28 February 2010: Well, if you really want to confirm his feelings for you, then ok, try seeing him face to face. But, don't have any big expectations. Just go for the closure...If possible, have a friend drive you and wait in the car. And if he didn't text back ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and scared my daughter will feel left out once the new baby comes along...
Q. I've just found out that im pregnant and i feel really guilty bout it. Im 28 and i have a 5 yr old daughter already from a previous 5 yr relationship. Ive been single for 3 yrs so its just been me and my daughter weve done so much together she such ...
A. 28 February 2010: Aaaww you're not being silly at all...It's a worry my mother had too. But, you're doing a good job, letting your daughter participate in everything that has do with the new baby. Of course, she's going to feel little jealousies at time, but always ... (read in full...)
What type of man would be best for me?
Q. Who would u choose? A man whos reilable.honest.could trust 100 percent. Caring. Sensitive and shy. But you dont quite fancy them totally like u dont wanna rip their clothes off! Or a man whos gorgeous. Fit body.you just sit there thinking oh my god ...
A. 28 February 2010: Well, it'd be nice to have a guy who has a balance of these two things, but its not quite possible...
I won't tell you who to "chose." But, I will say that though you may not be extremely physically attracted to someone at first, that can change a... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of what the reprocussions of losing my virginity!
Q. Please help! I am a 20 year old virgin and not sure about losing my virginity yet. My problem arises when I'm around my boyfriend-whenever I'm around him, I get massive sexual urges. I mean REALLY strong urges. I just want to touch him all over and ...
A. 28 February 2010: No, you don't have to have sex at all. There are other ways of enjoying sexual pleasures. If you're turned off by oral sex, there are some ways to make it more enjoyable and "safe" like buying flavored condoms. There's both "dry" and "wet" rubbing, ... (read in full...)
My ex - can't live with him and can't live without him
Q. Here is my situation: My bf and I broke up. We have a child together and a house. I moved out since I couldnt afford the mortgage and he could. He has this drug usage (weed to be exact) that makes him extremelly hyper and i couldnt stand being ar...
A. 28 February 2010: Honey, I think you have to move on. If this guy refuses to stop his drug usage, especially since you two have a child together, he's being selfish and immature. He could get arrested for possession, get into a crash while high-and then, where would ... (read in full...)
Too close to my ex, can't seem to let him go.
Q. Ok, it is soo complicated...I was with my ex for a year and a half.... just 3months ago he broke up with me...but we are still such good friends because we were soo close when we were together..when I see him we nearly always kiss and if the ...
A. 28 February 2010: Honey, you need to see other people. He's taking advantage of your friendship to sleep with you etc. I know it's hard and believe me, I've been in the same boat, but you need a distraction that will help you gradually get over him. But, first off, ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has pushed me to the edge - do I dump him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 17 months now. It's pretty serious, we're getting a flat together and everything. I try not to think too far ahead because all manner of things can go wrong but I'm pretty sure he's the one. But this last ...
A. 28 February 2010: Honey, if you don't feel any trust for him, it can't work. It sounds like he's not ready for a really serious relationship. The maturity on his part just doesn't seem to be there. And he can promise and promise till he turns blue, but it won't ... (read in full...)
I feel like the only reason he stays with me is because he feels he owes me
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together 2 and a half years. we always been one of the closest couples you can meet. the last few months he doesn't seem to talk to me as much or want to be around me, almost as if he's fallen out of love with me. o...
A. 28 February 2010: Wow, I don't know really how to answer this. But here's what I think, after some time, relationships sort of settle down and become a little less excting than they used to be. Think of initiating more date nights, little outings, don't leave it up ... (read in full...)
Hooking up with my friend... still.
Q. So back in August 2009 I hooked up with a friend. We decided to continue hooking up, but to just remain as friends. Well 6 months later we're still in the same boat, however I guess you can say the ocean we're sailing in has changed. Over the months ...
A. 28 February 2010: Have a talk with him about it, whatever you do, DON'T be confronting. He seems like a sweet guy and who knows? He may have some issues he's simply getting. Becoming more "boyfriend-like" may mean he's gradually, slowly by slowly, adjusting to a more ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and her bisexual friend want us to have a threesome but they won't elaborate further
Q. My girlfriend and i tie each other up during sex. I'm male and when she's fully bonded she loves me rubbing my penis along her body. She recently suggested her female bi sexual friend wants to join in. I am very open to the idea but they wont tell ...
A. 28 February 2010: Well, you really need more information first. I totally agree with that. There are things they might want to do that you are not comfortable with and vice versa. They might want to make a sexy surprise and that's understandable, so just ... (read in full...)
I don't know if he is playing mind games or not!
Q. basically i met this guy in july.hers a description i found which basically sums him up because writing the whole story would be tooo long The first few weeks or month is sheer bliss. This guy starts off real aggressive, hot and heavy. He can't ...
A. 28 February 2010: He does sound like a nice guy...and though I don't know much about this situation, it does not sound like he's playing mind games. You seem to have hurt him...slapping etc. And I don't think he understands your issue with kissing very well. He may ... (read in full...)
Bothered about her interest in my friends!
Q. Hi I've been seeing this girl for the past two months, and everything is great. We both just got out of bad relationships, and feel like we know what we want and don't want. We both communicate well together, and even the topic of jealousy h...
A. 28 February 2010: Well, first off, it's normal to feel that way, after getting out of a bad relationship, there's always a little fear that the following on-the one that's going great-is going to get messed up too. It could be that your girlfriend found whatever you ... (read in full...)
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