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No replies yet... 27 April 2016: Can you ever forgive me? Will you ever believe me? I swear it, I love you. It was not you, it really is me-my fault. How could I ever tell you about it all? I love you because you remind about the best I have within myself. I can laugh with you. You ...
The Art of Arguing. What helps you to resolve issues in your relationship?
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28 May 2015: There's a song by Ne-Yo that absolutely cracks me up now whenever I hear it. "When You're Mad" talks about how sexy it is when your partner gets angry and more than implies the joys and benefits of make-up sex! Deep within my nature, I do hav...
Jack and Jill Are Crushing
No replies yet... 28 August 2011: Jack thought Jill was hot. She wore short, jean skirts with leggings underneath. She had nice legs. Her shirts were always nicely filled and her lips looked very...lush. She was smart too. Really cool. Jill though Jack was cute. He was funny, h...
Nice Guys
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28 June 2011: Nice guys- a lot of us have overlooked them, rejected them, or simply ignored them. Then, we become interested and they're married. So, it's like a chick flick scene where a pretty girl tells her nice guy admirer that he's too much like a brother ...
Virginity
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7 November 2010: Every time I see a sex question posted by a young girl 13-15, I cringe and tell myself, "Don't you dare read this." Myself stubbornly refuses to listen, blows me a raspberry, and reads on - hell is sometimes unleashed. The questions which affect me ...
A Glimpse into Love
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10 October 2010: I'm the kind of girl who goes around barefoot, fights pessimism daily, and has thoughts wild enough to graze with antelope. I've heard love on the radio- songs that sigh heartbreak or gush with joy at finding someone who truly grasped their he...
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My boyfriend was acting grumpy/irritable towards me so I went home. Now he's even more upset! Ideas?
Q. I feel so aggravated right now. I hope someone can give me some advice.My boyfriend and I have been dating a year. We have our fun times but he can be quite a bear to deal with at times. Very moody. I chalk it up too him working a swing shift. I am ...
A. 28 May 2015: Please pass him a pacifier cause yes, that is quite babyish! It's not fair of him to take out on aggravations on you-especially after a good day and a nice nap! You were right to leave him to his grumpiness, I would have done the same. What point is ... (read in full...)
He lied about having a baby and a wife, I can't trust him anymore but I'm still with him!
Q. I lived with my bf for a year.. He's from Iraq and I am from South America but we both live in United States. I discovered some pics on Facebook about him and a baby which I asked and he said it is his nephew..after that like 3 months after a woman ...
A. 28 May 2015: Reading your question saddened me...This isn't an easy situation at all. In my humble opinion, move on. This man lied to you about having a baby, his son, his very own flesh and blood. That's a HUGE red flag to me. Even when you faced him knowing ... (read in full...)
If I hate him, can someone please help me figure out why I stay?
Q. I'm seeing a man I like sometimes, hate sometimes who annoys me most of the time. He can be sweet but still. Now I'm shocked that I've spent seven months with him! He's the opposite of what I appreciate in a man: ungentlemanly, often conceited and ...
A. 14 January 2013: Hey Im using my friends account so I'm white/Irish not from the Cayman Islands. Thanks for replying to my question. i feel like im going crazy. but i thought about what u both said and some things made sense. Especially about not wanting to admit i ... (read in full...)
I want to know what's happening to me and why I don't want to marry him.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years and he wants us to get married soon. However, though I do love him a lot, I don't want to marry him. I feel tremendously guilty about not wanting to marry him (it's not as if I am against ...
A. 16 August 2012: First off, no, you do not sound like a total bitch. You sound like an intelligent woman who is taking he time to think things through before making a big decision. You don't want to marry him because you're in doubt and you're looking at this ... (read in full...)
What should I think about this comment by my wife?
Q. So, during a conversation with my wife, she said to me that she has times when she doesn't want to love me, she wants to hate me, and does. That actually hurt me a little, but then she became really uptight when i told her i was hurt by her comment,...
A. 4 May 2012: Well, the man I love most in the world right now is also the man I hate the most. Thin line between love and hate, friend. It's not because you're horrible but because you may have said or done something that cut deeply. As human beings, we tend to ... (read in full...)
She used to have affairs with married men. Is she dating material??
Q. I met this really beautiful girl a couple months ago. She seemed nice and sweet too. Almost too good to be true! I asked her to lunch and surprise to me she said yes. We sort of started a relationship. I mean not too serious yet. Just movies a...
A. 29 February 2012: To me personally, yes. I am old-fashioned too, but it comes down to more than that. Marriage, to me is a deep promise, a commitment of body, heart and soul between two people, a partnership. I realize that in modern times, marriages can be something ... (read in full...)
In a LDR, is it normal that my gf thinks I should call once every 2-3 days?
Q. What does it mean when your long distance girlfriend complaints that you call her too much? Calling her once a day is appearing too much, she asks for once call in 2-3 days. To me that is extreme. She gets angry when I do. We are both are very...
A. 24 February 2012: Wow. That's really extreme. I don't think this is headed the right way..to me, it sounds like YOU are putting maximum effort and she's barely doing the minimum. I agree that you should talk and see what's going on cause to me, this is sounding so ... (read in full...)
In a LDR, is it normal that my gf thinks I should call once every 2-3 days?
Q. What does it mean when your long distance girlfriend complaints that you call her too much? Calling her once a day is appearing too much, she asks for once call in 2-3 days. To me that is extreme. She gets angry when I do. We are both are very...
A. 24 February 2012: A long distance relationship is tough, good communication is what makes and it keeps strong. To me personally, it's not quite normal that she wants ONE call every 2-3 days.But perhaps, there's something bigger here like perhaps the times you call ... (read in full...)
Is he using me for sex even though he has a girlfriend?
Q. this is a long story, everything i will mention is pretty important to the case but basically i just want a strangers point of view on what i should do... im 16 and i was dating this boy (j) in september, and i really loved him. sounds silly but...
A. 24 February 2012: Yes he's using you. IF you were his love, his one and only, the one he thought of all the time, he'd move mountains to be with you and ONLY you. The fact that he slept with you and is refusing to tell his girlfriend and break up with her proves it. ... (read in full...)
What does he mean? He's says I'm and open book with no writing in it.
Q. Hi I like this guy and he knows I like him but he never told me if he likes me or not so he started saying he likes some girl everyones saying he likes me and is trying to get me jealous. I didnt give any reactions and he goes Im like an open book ...
A. 20 February 2012: Ouch. It means that you're not deep-you obvious, "easy" to read but there's nothing really interesting to find out about you. On one hand, it could mean that you're just very innocent and pure if you have these so-called blank pages...but on the ... (read in full...)
I've split from my G/f but she's going to have our baby in 6 months time. Am I entitled to be at the birth of our baby?
Q. I have just split up with girlfriend and she is having our baby in approximately 6 months time. Please may I ask for anyone's kind advice in regards to if i I am definately entitled to be at the birth of my baby? I would very much apppreciate an...
A. 19 February 2012: No actually, which is a shame...But, you are allowed in the hospital. I'd talk to your ex if I were you. Tell her that no matter what happened between you two, you guys have created a baby and will always be bounded through that child. If you two ... (read in full...)
Ex told me my penis was too small and now I have serious confidence issues
Q. Confidence. I'm a guy with a average to small penis. I've always been fairly good in bed using what I got. When I was in the process of breaking up with a girl I was absolutely in love with she said "Well you're a guy with too small a dick" for some ...
A. 19 February 2012: First off, you have to realize that this woman threw that in your face for the SOLE purpose of hurting you and making you feel less like a man. She was hurt and probably knew that was a good way of getting back at you. Hon, you admitted already that ... (read in full...)
I had a vaginal delivery and havent had sex since. How will it feel now? Will I be loose down there?
Q. My ex bf and I broke up 16 months ago I was 8 months pregnant at the time. We recently got back together and I am kinda nervous about the whole sex thing. When we dated last we has a great sexual relationship but the last time we had sex I was well ...
A. 19 February 2012: Hello there, first off, congrats! :) Actually, the "loose" thing is a bit of a myth, the vagina is flexible yes, but it does retain a certain amount of tightness. Women who usually feel "looser" are those who have delivered more than once. Age ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a "leg-fetish"?
Q. I understand the whole foot-fetish thing, but is there a specific fetish toward 'legs'? A female friend and I were discussing what we were in to and I told her I'm a sucker for a killer set of legs, which she said is a foot-fetish. However, I'm not ...
A. 3 December 2011: Doesn't sound like a fetish to me! A fetish would be if you needed to have your idea of perfect legs in order to become aroused and/or achieve orgasm. Me, I LOVE strong, masculine hands on a man. It's a turn-on but not THE turn-on lol. I wouldn't ... (read in full...)
My married lover wants to continue seeing me while he ties up loose ends with his soon to be ex-wife
Q. I am involved with a man who is still married but unhappy. he tells me he will file for divorce within the next 5 months because he is unhappy. he wants to wait to do it because she is not able to support herself financially due to their debt.......
A. 2 December 2011: So here's the thing, you don't want to, in this situation, let him have his cake and eat it. No contact till the ink has dried on those divorce papers. Doing so only adds to temptation and more confusion. He can justify it by saying it's just a ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make sex without condoms easier?
Q. My boyfriend has quite a tight foreskin. It split once, and we had to abstain from sex (and he had to abstain from masturbation) for around 12 days whilst it healed. He's always complained that sex without a condom (I'm on the pill and we're bo...
A. 2 December 2011: Your boyfriend has Phimosis, a condition where the foreskin is (sometimes) unbearably tight. Usually, regular manual handling of the area can ease the pain a little but, I think he needs to see a doctor. There are different options they can give him ... (read in full...)
Inside, I identify myself as a woman-I'm confused! How can I find someone who understands me as I really am?!
Q. Ok so new at this. Not sure if this question qualifies for this site but here goes anyways. Basically I'm 34 years old and on the inside I Identify as female. So transgender I guess. When I was younger I ad lots of accepting friends. Long blond hair ...
A. 2 December 2011: I can understand that. But, as Miamine said, it's a safer world out there. More and more people are opening their hearts and minds to gays, transgenders, and bisexuals. I have always believed that what people fear most are what they cannot or refuse ... (read in full...)
Inside, I identify myself as a woman-I'm confused! How can I find someone who understands me as I really am?!
Q. Ok so new at this. Not sure if this question qualifies for this site but here goes anyways. Basically I'm 34 years old and on the inside I Identify as female. So transgender I guess. When I was younger I ad lots of accepting friends. Long blond hair ...
A. 26 November 2011: Lilly, you're not alone in this though I know it can feel like that so much of the time. You wonder about being able to talk to someone openly about your hopes, fears and dreams but then, it's scary too to trust someone with so much of yourself. I ... (read in full...)
How do I lessen the pain for my first time?
Q. I'm 16, and I've recently watched my first porn videos (just like 4 or so), but I stopped quickly because I felt so bad for watching them, like I've done something I wasn't supposed to. I feel like I did something wrong, and I'm really embarrassed ...
A. 25 November 2011: I would NOT suggest that you try what you saw. I'm glad to hear that you are not planning on having sex yet but hon, that's no way to "ready" yourself. In fact, that could come with serious consequences-you could really hurt yourself! Some women ... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend's sex drive plummet?
Q. I really don't get this. My boyfriend became impotent overnight.He had very high sex drive, and ready for sex anytime. Now when ever we want to have sex, what is less and less,he is losing his erections right after he would enter. So we can't have...
A. 25 November 2011: Well hon, these things happen. Men aren't machines. He could be stressed out, maybe experiencing a hormone imbalance etc. A lot of factors can cause a drop in sex drive: age, medication, stress/anxiety, illness etc. Be patient with him for now. ... (read in full...)
Will we get together? And if not what should I do about being his "bit on the side"?
Q. Me and an old friend have started talking a lot more like we use too. We did stop talking for a bit because we both was busy. we have been flirting like we use too, however he is 2years older than me and he has a girlfriend. I do enjoy spending time ...
A. 28 October 2011: Show more respect for yourself and stop being his "bit on the side." Can you take someone calling you that to your face? Are you comfortable with that? Cause you are what you do...I hate to sound harsh but if this guy cheated on his girlfriend with ... (read in full...)
Stealing someone out of a relationship
Q. okay now I need to know if it's ok to steal someone out of a relationship. I wanted this guy first and he got with his ex and still showed signs of interest in me. Seeing as at one point I was there first but may have messed up, pretty sure I did ...
A. 28 October 2011: I understand where you're coming from BUT I wouldn't advise it. No matter what the situation, this man chose to be in a relationship with someone-a committed relationship and that counts for something. If you try to "steal" him back, I promise you ... (read in full...)
Ladies, aged less than 30, would you date a guy even if he isn't ''FUN''?
Q. Would you consider a relatively young male to be dateable even if he is a 180 degrees from the hard party bad boy persona? I am not saying that I am weak, nor that I can't stick up for myself and who I care about. I simply have no interest in ...
A. 28 August 2011: I'd pick you over a wild clubber any day! I mean, there's nothing wrong with going to clubs and parties if that's what one likes and plays it safe but I personally find that fun is versatile. I can have fun reading an awesome book, I can have fun ... (read in full...)
Can I kick start puberty?
Q. Well! I'm nearly 14 and I have had no signs of starting puberty and its getting embarresing! I have had no growth spurts or anything and I'm getting self councious about it now and I was wondereing if there was anyway to kick start puberty and what ...
A. 1 July 2011: No worries, hon! We all have our "clocks," some of us go along more quickly and others, slower. Puberty is tricky, you may have started already! It starts with hormones first and then, they manipulate physical changes little by little. For example, ... (read in full...)
Nice Guys
Q. Nice guys- a lot of us have overlooked them, rejected them, or simply ignored them. Then, we become interested and they're married. So, it's like a chick flick scene where a pretty girl tells her nice guy admirer that he's too much like a brother ...
A. 1 July 2011: Weeelll, Chigirl, I forgot to mention: some women lose out on nice guys when a wiser woman sees value. Of course, I understand, we are complicated beings "good" or "bad." Anyone at all can break a heart :) I totally agree. What made me write this ... (read in full...)
How can he get a DNA test done?
Q. My boyfriend has had some trouble over the paternity of a child he was supposed to have concieved in a previous fling last year before he met me. He has doubts because the baby came 2months early and weighed nearly 7lbs on birth. The mother insists ...
A. 17 June 2011: Not sure how it works in the UK, but here a supoena can be done to force the mother to allow a DNA test, especially if the alleged father pays child support. Have your bf stop any payments he makes to her and she should get the message that without ... (read in full...)
Affair with married man....things are getting harder... I need advice!
Q. Ok- i need some advice. I have been dating a married man for about 9 months now. everything has been so much fun, we talk every day and have a great time together- and yes, we fight... more so lately. Let me start off by saying that his wife ...
A. 17 June 2011: The thing is: he is married with a wife and child. You are not his priority, they are. His marriage sounds unstable but still, by law he is obliged to ensure that his family is taken care of. He's working hard for THEM. So, you love him but you ... (read in full...)
Why do women keep walking all over me? And what should I do about my ex?
Q. [Mod Note: 2 posts have been combined into 1] my gf has been blowing hot and cold never letting go of her past. (i was her rebound) which over the time we were together i came to realize. She has lied to me about contact with her ex several times i ...
A. 17 June 2011: You sound like a great young man and believe me when I say it's them, not you. You have a kind nature and they took advantage. So, the advice I'm giving you might be tough to follow but please try: do NOT let her keep stuff at your place, that gives ... (read in full...)
Should I compromise my dreams to move to be with bf, or should he do the same to be with me?
Q. I'm dealing with a really hard problem right now. I'm graduating with my AA this fall and moving to attend UF. I'm pursuing my bachelors in psychology, and hopefully attending medical school after that. UF is supposed to be the best university in ...
A. 17 June 2011: The only advice I can give you is this: you can't compromise your dreams, if you think your bf is the one, the most you guys can do is work on a plan of compromise. Think and plan carefully. UF is a huge school and a huge opportunity. My two friends ... (read in full...)
My wife passed away a month ago, is it too soon to think of dating?
Q. My wife past away one month ago from today. She has a cousin that reminds me a lot of her. And I'm falling for her. They look alike. But I don't think this is the reason that I'm interested. If I never knew my wife and met this woman, I'd still be ...
A. 12 June 2011: First, I am sorry for your loss, it is never easy knowing how to deal after...But what worries me a bit is the elapse of time. Everyone grieves differently of course but before you date again, I would hope that you get in touch with underlying ... (read in full...)
Worried about my weight
Q. Okay, I suppose this isnt really a relationship question, but i'm really hoping you guys will help me with this.. Im going on a trip soon with some friends, I am a size 12 jeans and I HATE how my body looks, We are going to spain so the climate ...
A. 30 April 2011: Do you have a bike? Cycling for 30-60 minutes can really hlp tone up the legs and lose weight..provided it's done regularly and with intensity. Example, bike hard for 15, slow down the next fifteen. To lose weight, exercise is a must. Three times a ... (read in full...)
How can I put on more weight as I hate being called skinny?
Q. im a 14 year old and i weigh 86lbs. before you call me bulimic,anemic,or anything else let me tell you i do none of those things. i dont know what to do people at school make fun of me and tell me im skinny. it really bugs me cuz i eat but i dont ...
A. 30 April 2011: First off, no one here is going to call you names hon so throw that out the window...and second, you are still growing at 14 and it might take for you to "fill out" more as your body is just now getting ready for adulthood. But, being slender isn't ... (read in full...)
What does it mean to let go of someone you love and if they come back then it is meant to be?
Q. could someone explain this quote to me? what does it mean to let go of someone you love and if they come back then it is meant to be? would that fit into the categorie of someone leaving you for someone else then coming back to you and telling you ...
A. 25 April 2011: Well, sometimes, it's just not the right time for two people to be together. It can be for different reasons like one person not being ready or something that affects both like distance. There's a feeling of regret though at times because the bond ... (read in full...)
I'm in crush with my parish priest!
Q. I'm in crush with my parish priest.I like to be with him. For him, i was in the church for the whole day as my house was near to the church. when i've not seen him for one day also i feel very depressed and sad. Even i know that he is a priest i ...
A. 25 April 2011: If he's a parish priest, I would assume that his one and only love would be his God...Gosh, I can't tell you how many crushes I've had and believe me, I know the feeling. I can relate. I won't tell you to "just get over it" since it's difficult. ... (read in full...)
How do you know if people are hurting on the inside?
Q. Is it true someone who can look so happy and confident be feeling depressed or lonely inside? I wondered this because i was watching this film that showed a girl who was beautiful, fun loving had great friends and family.... But when she would write ...
A. 25 April 2011: It is true. We can hurt terribly and still, project a happy image. Sometimes, simply because we don't want others to worry about us or maybe, we want to "handle" the pain ourselves. If you're worried that people around you are feeling like this, ... (read in full...)
She's a vast improvement to my last GF. Am I being paranoid? Worrying that she'll become like my last Gf?
Q. Hello all, and thank you for reading this in advance. I feel like a rather foolish boyfriend. You see, 2 months ago I ended a rather horrible relationship. My girlfriend treated me like garbage. She put me off for her friends, ignored me, and woul...
A. 25 April 2011: Well, it's normal to actually feel like this...after a bad experience, some of us tend to worry that we'll go right into something similar...again. So when you get these thoughts, take a deep breath and remind yourself that she is not your ex and ... (read in full...)
I've received an offer to work in the porn industry. What are the advantages and disadvantages?
Q. i worked as a shot girl in a club. i basically wear a g string, a micro skirt and a crop top. for those who dont know a shot girl goes around dressed like i described handing out shots. anyway, i got chatting to a guy one work night. i finished earl...
A. 25 April 2011: Hon, IMO don't go for it. Let me tell you: in STD's, the porn industry only tests its models for HIV and Herpes...so you can still be exposed to: genital warts, chlamydia, gonorrhea, crabs, pubic lice, all forms of hepatitis, and of course, urinary ... (read in full...)
Is it worth it to keep up this long distance relationship?
Q. I've met this guy online about 5 months ago and he was very sweet and caring. He's a couple years older than me and although we've never met he tells me he has very strong feelings for me. He lives in New York though and i live in Arizona. Its very ...
A. 25 April 2011: Honestly hon, I have a bad feeling about this guy. If I may ask, how much older than you is he? I agree with Blonde30s-he sounds controlling. You see, one method a controller uses is to 1-tell you that you're being "bad" or in this "inapropriate" ... (read in full...)
Am I immature because I don't have a boyfriend, don't drink or I'm not pregnant or don't have my own house at 17, like everyone else???.
Q. A lot of the girls around here are doing what most grown up's do, like getting pregnant at a young age and having their own house while I'm still stuck at home with my parents. I'm immature because I don't have a boyfriend, don't drink or I'm not ...
A. 16 April 2011: LOL ok, sorry. But if being an alcoholic, pregnant, attached and home-owning seventeen year old is now the symbol of maturity-I now embrace the seal of immaturity. Hon, there is nothing wrong with you. Be proud that you are who you are. Drinking, ... (read in full...)
When adults see a young couple and say..."You don't know if he'll be your only and last boyfriend." or, "Oh, young love. It never lasts."...is it true??
Q. Hello... I'm 17 years old, and I have a boyfriend since last year. Recently, I've been a little bit concerned of all those things adults day when they see a young couple... Examples?: 1. "You don't know if he'll be your only and last boyrfriend...
A. 16 April 2011: You know, you seem quite mature to me. And it's good that you have these questions. I cannot give you an answer that "tells" you what to do though, I'm afraid. You may only be 17, but your choices now will affect the rest of your life. So I will ... (read in full...)
Can you lose sexual attraction for someone?
Q. is it possible to loose sexual attraction to someone? I was in a relationship for five years it ended because he was too verbally abusive."ur fat, the "b" and "c" word and all that nasty stuff.Anyways months have passed and he has been dying to come ...
A. 16 April 2011: Of course, hon. In fact, I'm quite glad that you're no longer attracted to your ex, forgive me, but he sounds like moronic, butt-headed, insensitve dog-dung. Your feelings are perfectly fine, embrace them. Your experienceing beatiful feelings now: ... (read in full...)
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