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The Art of Arguing. What helps you to resolve issues in your relationship?
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28 May 2015: There's a song by Ne-Yo that absolutely cracks me up now whenever I hear it. "When You're Mad" talks about how sexy it is when your partner gets angry and more than implies the joys and benefits of make-up sex! Deep within my nature, I do hav...
Jack and Jill Are Crushing
No replies yet... 28 August 2011: Jack thought Jill was hot. She wore short, jean skirts with leggings underneath. She had nice legs. Her shirts were always nicely filled and her lips looked very...lush. She was smart too. Really cool. Jill though Jack was cute. He was funny, h...
Nice Guys
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28 June 2011: Nice guys- a lot of us have overlooked them, rejected them, or simply ignored them. Then, we become interested and they're married. So, it's like a chick flick scene where a pretty girl tells her nice guy admirer that he's too much like a brother ...
Virginity
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7 November 2010: Every time I see a sex question posted by a young girl 13-15, I cringe and tell myself, "Don't you dare read this." Myself stubbornly refuses to listen, blows me a raspberry, and reads on - hell is sometimes unleashed. The questions which affect me ...
A Glimpse into Love
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10 October 2010: I'm the kind of girl who goes around barefoot, fights pessimism daily, and has thoughts wild enough to graze with antelope. I've heard love on the radio- songs that sigh heartbreak or gush with joy at finding someone who truly grasped their he...
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I want to dedicate a song to a loved one! What song would you choose?
Q. Hi, I'm not sure if this is the right place for this....if you could dedicate a song or two (or even 3 lol) to someone..what would it be and why? For example "Luther Vandross - Dance with my Father" ...always reminds me of my dad....
A. 22 October 2010: Right on, Daletom! :D Wow! I'm glad to see others out there cherishing these songs as much as I do! :D However, being female, my age is a closely guarded secret...thrown in a steel box, buried under concrete and guarded my two dragons-Fluffy and ... (read in full...)
Why can't a guy get it in his head a girl is taken?
Q. So I have a boyfriend, but there is this one random guy who is insisting I'm like a whore because I'm friendly and have guy friends but I also have girlfriends too, but this one guy knows I'm taken, and keeps asking me to do stuff. I've told him to ...
A. 21 October 2010: You've told him to stop and he ignores you...this sounds like harassment to me, sexual harassment since he keeps asking you to do these "things." Block his phone number and block him on facebook. If he continues, threaten to report him. I also think ... (read in full...)
Losing interest in sex with my fiance; how can I fix it?
Q. I am engaged to a wonderful man who I love spending time with and want to spend the rest of my life with, but for the past six months my interest in sex has completely subsided. He is physically attractive, tall, lean, adorable face, and this ...
A. 20 October 2010: Oops, let me also add that if you're looking for a thrill, explore some ideas with your fiance. You can simply talk to him about doing something different...for example, games :p you guys can go to a bar or club seperatly and pretend to be strangers ... (read in full...)
Losing interest in sex with my fiance; how can I fix it?
Q. I am engaged to a wonderful man who I love spending time with and want to spend the rest of my life with, but for the past six months my interest in sex has completely subsided. He is physically attractive, tall, lean, adorable face, and this ...
A. 20 October 2010: Hm...I can't begin to guess what's going on but, are you taking medications? Started new birth control? Has your level of stress changed? Think you might be pregnant? All these things can contribute to a low sex drive. However, there can also be a ... (read in full...)
Did I deserve to lose my baby?
Q. hey x so i had a miscarrige last year and at the time i just put it to the back of my head an forget about it as well to be honest i was ashamed because i was only 15 but i recently started going out with my best friend and when arguing, he brought ...
A. 20 October 2010: Honey, please, don't think like that. You're young. What happened was something painful but you couldn't control it anymore than you could control the ocean. You had sex at a young age but so do many and though it's not the best choice, you are not ... (read in full...)
There is no trust there any more... should I just move on?
Q. My fiance has cheated on me. He has gone on chatlines and has gotten girls numbers. He says he loves me and that was the past and cant understand why i have trouble trusting him. We fight more now and he says he was immature back then but back ...
A. 20 October 2010: I'm sorry to sound so pessimistic yet, I don't quite feel he's trustworthy. He doesn't seem very sorry. Especially reading that comment he made about being "immature back then" when he was talking about a time period of 4 months. It sounds like ... (read in full...)
I cant understand males and their sexuality!!
Q. I have had an unfortunate past of men. Ive dated guys who beat me up then stalked me for months after i left them. I married and had kids with a guy who came out of the closet. And a lot of players. also although im not proud of it but i used to ...
A. 20 October 2010: If you keep finding bad men, take time out of dating and ask yourself why. Think about how you met these men, what attracted you at first, what kept you with them, and ultimately, what characteristics made them such crap. When you figure that out, ... (read in full...)
I cant understand males and their sexuality!!
Q. I have had an unfortunate past of men. Ive dated guys who beat me up then stalked me for months after i left them. I married and had kids with a guy who came out of the closet. And a lot of players. also although im not proud of it but i used to ...
A. 20 October 2010: I'm not a man but I once asked a man this question and this is his answer (he agreed 2 let me post): "I'm not a dog but I like looking at girls sometimes that aren't my wife. I don't think I can help that. But, if one of them came up to me and ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to understand I'm not interested in her that way?
Q. hi everybody, I am a student and doing my master. I am staying an apartment for rent which is near to my university. my neighbor is 10 years older than me who is divorce with 2 kids. Most of the time she like to cook and invite me to dinner. ...
A. 20 October 2010: There's that old expression, "Don't s**t where you eat" and I believe that it applies to this situation. This woman is your neighbor which means that if you do engage in sex and don't want to continue seeing her, she's still going to be living close ... (read in full...)
Help! Should I go out with him even though other people would take the mick?
Q. He is ugly and fat. I really like him though, Should I go out with him even though other people would take the mick? I know he likes me and has tried to kiss me before....
A. 20 October 2010: You say you really like him and yet, you find him "fat and ugly." If you're not attracted to him, don't go for it. If there is no physical and mental chemistry, it will not work and this poor guy who likes you will suffer extreme pain. If you focus ... (read in full...)
Music to play during sex
Q. Hi. Does anybody know of some nice, relaxing music that we can dowload to play during sex? We do not like hop hop or modern techno.` ...
A. 20 October 2010: Something soft and gentle for love-making: anything by Yiruma (he's an extremely talented pianist), the album "Romanza" by Andrea Bocelli...Miles Davis...John Coltrane, "One More Night" by Phil Collins. A song I think is more suited to wild romps : ... (read in full...)
I didn't tell my online guy that I had a daughter till after we met, now he won't talk to me!
Q. I met a guy online he was in iraq at the time.I never belived in dating sites before,it was my first time chatting with someone oline we start chatting and he was so sweet the more we chat the more I liked him,on one of our chats he asked me if I ...
A. 20 October 2010: You may not have wanted to hurt him, but you did and you also presented yourself in a bad light...you see, being a mom, your child is the most important factor in your life. YOU know you love your daughter but because you lied to this man about ... (read in full...)
I want to dedicate a song to a loved one! What song would you choose?
Q. Hi, I'm not sure if this is the right place for this....if you could dedicate a song or two (or even 3 lol) to someone..what would it be and why? For example "Luther Vandross - Dance with my Father" ...always reminds me of my dad....
A. 18 October 2010: How sweet! "knights in white satin" - the moody blues because this song is romantic yet deep-speaks of a love that isn't exactly easy. Gotten - by Slash feat. Adam Levigne...reminds me of my first love and the way we can still remember being the ... (read in full...)
I'm debating on dumping her...
Q. I'll try to keep this short for you. I'm debating on whether i should dump my girlfriend or not. We've been dating for five months, We're juniors in highschool. I really like her alot, but our relationship has flaws i just cant ignore anymore. ...
A. 18 October 2010: It seems like you're giving more in this relationship than you get. Before you completely break-up, talk to your girlfriend about this situation, how you feel and the thoughts that have been bugging. If she gets defensive, and doesn't even try to ... (read in full...)
Bad news--best friend and I like the same guy
Q. Basicly, I like this guy but so does my bestfriend. She gets extremely jealous whenever he talks or looks at me and espeacaly if he writes on my fb wall. She always tries to make me jealous my telling me in depth what hes said to her and how he l...
A. 17 October 2010: You admit it yourself: this guy uses girls. If you got with him, how sure are you that he wouldn't do the same? You're NOT his gf, he has no reason to be jealous about who you talk to-that's your private bussiness anyway. Even if he does act nicer ... (read in full...)
How can I put my girlfriend at ease and let her know she can trust me?
Q. My girlfriend is really quiet and shy. She's explained to me why (childhood experiences relating to abuse and fitting in pressures). And I'm totally understanding of that. I just want to know what would be the best approach of getting her to trust ...
A. 17 October 2010: Be patient, hon. These issues don't go away overnight. I suggest that you don't try to bring her into like clubs or huge parties or massive gatherings. Spend as much time as possible with her. When it comes to sex, don't goad, plead etc. Let her ... (read in full...)
I find out my boyfriend is a girlfriend?
Q. Heyy, Well my problem is seriously confusingg so bracee yourselff guys ;] i wrote a letter on here ages ago about a boy called Noah, he wouldnt talk to me? Even though i was almost certain i was inlovee with him. Well for six months more he c...
A. 17 October 2010: Hon, if you truly love Panda go for it. But, take things slow. Don't rush. Tell Panda how you feel and you guys can go from there. Find out more each other, back up a little-start over and take time to really think about this...a good friend of mine ... (read in full...)
My Ex Fiance died and now I'm in love with his brother.
Q. I dated my ex fiance for a year and a half. I ended our relationship because he cheated on me. I tried to make it work but my trust and love were gone so I decided in the long run it would be better that we went our separate ways. Neither one of us ...
A. 16 October 2010: This is a very delicate situation and should be handled with a lot of care...Emilo just lost his brother and having you tell him that you love him might invoke feelings of immense confusion, guilt, and distress. His brother's gone and now, the woman ... (read in full...)
How do I introduce my 12 year old to my new partner?
Q. How and when should I introduce my 12 y.o. son to my new partner after my divorce? It has not been long since the divorce, but I have been separated for quite a while, and it is no secret to my ex that I am with someone new. I suspect my son knows ...
A. 16 October 2010: Oh gosh! So sorry! My apologies, I didn't read your info carefully and assumed you were female...so sorry (and embarassed). ... (read in full...)
Am I right to distance myself from cheating HIV+ Ex?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 years (3 great 2 up and down) is HIV+. I have know this from the start, and accepted it, and we have always practiced safe sex, which lead to there maybe not being as much passion in our sex lives, but I was ok with that and ...
A. 16 October 2010: No, you did the right thing. Cheating shows immense disrespect and integrity but the fact that he went around having sex without informing the partners of his status is apalling-just like you, I wonder if he truly did practice safe sex. His morals ... (read in full...)
How do I introduce my 12 year old to my new partner?
Q. How and when should I introduce my 12 y.o. son to my new partner after my divorce? It has not been long since the divorce, but I have been separated for quite a while, and it is no secret to my ex that I am with someone new. I suspect my son knows ...
A. 16 October 2010: As the child of divorced parents, I will tell you that it won't be easy. So make sure that this man is very important to you and that you've known him a while before you introduce him to your son. You should talk to your son, get him used to the ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to other guys but I don't want a relationship with one
Q. So, I'm now 16, and I realize I am attracted to other guys. But, I don't want to have a relationship with one. As for girls, I now am starting to get less turned on by them, and yet, I still do like girls too want a relationship with girls. Am I ...
A. 15 October 2010: You're still young so it's normal to have these confusing feelings about sex and attraction. I'm guessing that you are curious. If you can, talk to a counselor about it. They can help sort out your feelings. Read up on the subject. Go to ... (read in full...)
I am fed up of doing all the chasing with her!
Q. i have been seeing this lovely woman whom i met on a date site, i like her a lot although we dont see each other much she lives 15 miles from me. when we do meet i always treat her nice ie meals etc however my problem is she will not get in touch ...
A. 15 October 2010: Cut the contact and see how she reacts. I was scared to ever contact my first bf, I let him contact me. But he soon got tired of it and stopped. When I finally broke down and called, he told me that he thought I was just being "nice" and only ... (read in full...)
Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?
Q. Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...
A. 15 October 2010: You can't love her all that much if you want to break up with her because your friends are pushing you to. If I love someone, it would take a thousand SWAT teams to wring me away and NOT without a fight. You don't even like the other girl-why force ... (read in full...)
I really like this girl but I freeze when I'm around her HELP!
Q. Ok, so first thanks for viewing my post =). And second lets get down to dirty business lol. Ok so theres this girl I like at my high school and I don't really know her well. She is my best friend's girlfriend's bestfriend lol. SO basically the way ...
A. 15 October 2010: Relax, hon or at least try to :p When you feel nervous and can't speak, try this : make eye contact and give her a smile. She'll smile back which can work on relaxing you. Another thing you can do is hang out with her around some friends since ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be a guy who doesn't like porn
Q. Ok here is the situation, I am visually turned on by females, and always have been. Thats important because the next part of what im about to say hinges off that fact. Porn as a whole has never done anything for me. I have always been more ...
A. 14 October 2010: Well, tell those guys you prefer the real thing, real women. Fake chicks don't do it for you :p You can't imagine how many women would LOVE that quality in their significant others. I don't know some why men feel that watching porn makes them more ... (read in full...)
How to be considered as a potential boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I am a 20 year old guy and I was wondering what is the best way to get a girls attention so that she actually conciders you as a potential bf....
A. 14 October 2010: First off, you want to maintain a balance between friendship and love interest. Don't fall too deeply into a girl's friend category. Stay on her radar. Dress well and get yourself sexy, memorable cologne. Scent stays with girls after a hug etc ... (read in full...)
By the time he gets into it, my jaw is tired. Help!
Q. I've tried giving my boyfriend oral several times (he's the first guy i've done it for) and even though i've gotten better according to him, i can't make him come. Its hard at times because he's big and too thick for my mouth, we're opposite in ...
A. 14 October 2010: Instead of focusing so much on the penis, try exploring the testicles-they're sensitive and can give men a lot of pleasure. I read up on it and the scrotum (right between the two boys) can actually cause some men to orgasm if manipulated right. You ... (read in full...)
What was your best first date? I need ideas!
Q. what was the best first date you ever had? what made it so great and did you end up together? im just curious and looking for great date ideas!...
A. 14 October 2010: My best first date lasted about 12hrs. We had breakfast and then, out to the beach..we were having so much fun burying each other etc etc. We went out to lunch after and then spent the day at an amusement park racing go-carts and trying out stupid ... (read in full...)
What do I do about my inability to let go of my fairy-tale fantasy?
Q. Hi, so I am an almost-sixteen-year-old girl and I have known for some months now that I like girls. I have never had an issue with gay people or anything like that and I am comfortable with the realization that I myself am gay but at the same time ...
A. 14 October 2010: I really don't think you have to let go of your fairy-tale. So gay marriage isn't legal all over the states yet- you can still have a BEAUTIFUL wedding ceremony. You can have your children either through adoption or artificial insemination :) ... (read in full...)
How can a real girl ever be enough for a man?
Q. How can a real girl ever be enough for a man? I mean, I have talked with many guys my age, and they have all agreed when I asked them whether a porn star has a hotter or better body than a normal girl, they have all said yes! The typical porn star ...
A. 13 October 2010: I have to agree with CaringGuy. These men sound like complete idiots-insensitive jerks. You sound amazing! The kind of girl most men pray to find and I know this because my guy friends always rant about finding total witches while the good girls are ... (read in full...)
Past affair, how to deal with it
Q. I have been married for 6yrs but with my husband for 15yrs, in the 3rd year of our relationship he slept with a someone else, got her pregnant, she told him, he told her he didn't want to have a child to her and that she was too young (16), she ...
A. 13 October 2010: Well, I agree with anonymous that your husband should have a paternity test done. If the child is his, the child does have the right to know who his father is. The child is also entitled to his financial support and you know what, it's better your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a cheater? Or am I wrong?
Q. BOYFRIEND CHEATER? My boyfriend had a past of online dating sites and porn sites because he was addicted to sex and didnt get any affection or attention from females in real life. When he met me, he said his world changed and he is in love for t...
A. 13 October 2010: I should also add that theres emotional cheating. Even if he hasn't "done" anything, talking to these girls and forming bonds like this is a form of cheating. It's healthy to have friends. However, when you're in a serious relationship, something's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a cheater? Or am I wrong?
Q. BOYFRIEND CHEATER? My boyfriend had a past of online dating sites and porn sites because he was addicted to sex and didnt get any affection or attention from females in real life. When he met me, he said his world changed and he is in love for t...
A. 13 October 2010: I would say that yes, there's something going on. He's still addicted and is, at the very least, thinking of cheating... (read in full...)
Going on my first-ever date -- at 20! Tips appreciated.
Q. i need help! tomorrow i am going on my first date ever and i have no clue what to do! i am in some serious need of dating tips. for example, what are some topics i can bring up if things start to get awkward? What food should i eat? What should i ...
A. 13 October 2010: Awesome! Ok, first off, relax! Be yourself! Now, here are some topics to avoid at all cost : politics, religion, income, ex relationships, sex, and whether or not he wants kids (men tend to run, hearing that on the first date). There's nothing wrong ... (read in full...)
A Glimpse into Love
Q. I'm the kind of girl who goes around barefoot, fights pessimism daily, and has thoughts wild enough to graze with antelope. I've heard love on the radio- songs that sigh heartbreak or gush with joy at finding someone who truly grasped their he...
A. 12 October 2010: Thanks everyone :)... (read in full...)
How do you tongue kiss?
Q. im from northern ireland and over here we kiss anybody with tongues and the thing is i dont know how! all my friends already know how to! so my question is what do you do with your tongue? i would ask my friends but im a little embarressed, any ...
A. 12 October 2010: Weeelll, you never want to just shove your tongue into someone's mouth. You kiss slowly at first, suck gently on the lips and then introduce the tip of your tongue past the lips. Don't wiggle it around like a worm :p Gently swirl your tongue around ... (read in full...)
Virgin problem!
Q. Hey, I'm a girl, I'm 17 and 4 months and I'm still a virgin (worryingly). Is this really old? In the past when it's come to the stage of ''we're drunk, lets have sex'' i've always ran away from the scene. But now i don't know if i should hav...
A. 12 October 2010: Honey, you're fine! It's great that you're still a virgin at seventeen and it's even better that your first sexual experience wasn't through drunken sex...that's eeww. Think about it, the guy would reek of alcohol, stumble through everthing, maybe ... (read in full...)
We had sex and he orgasmed inside me..but didn't tell me!! What should I do?
Q. I was with my boyfriend in the car the other night and we were making out and it got to the point to where he wanted to have sex. i was resisting and he knew it and i even said no once but finally i gave in because he wasn't giving up. Then after i ...
A. 11 October 2010: As soon as possible-buy the morning after pill or Plan B. It can prevent pregnancy but its effects become weaker and weaker as the days go by. I think it stops working 3 days after the sexual encounter. But honey, this guy not only pressured you ... (read in full...)
I want us to be intimate but she won't get tested and its very important to me that she does
Q. Im scared i wight walk down the same road again. please help. i lost my virginity at 17.8 years, thereafter i engaged in a more riskier than usuall lifestyle. one of my biggest problems was that i would not ejaculate with a condom on, so most time...
A. 10 October 2010: I support what you're doing. I don't think you should abandon this issue as I agree with anonymous- she could have something, or be frightened that she has something. Talk to her. Tell her you'd really like to pursue a relationship with her and ... (read in full...)
Did you like someone who was in a relationship? How did it end?
Q. Hey everyone.. Has there been anyone out here who liked someone and that someone was been in committed relationship!if yes please share your story and tell me how it ended? Ps:there is this guy I like let's call him x and his gf Y,so I really lik...
A. 10 October 2010: Stay far, far away from him. When I was seventeen, a twenty-one yr old told me he liked me. I was flattered and what not and really did like him. Then, his WIFE calls me after finding my number on his phone and proceeds to curse me out even though ... (read in full...)
A Glimpse into Love
Q. I'm the kind of girl who goes around barefoot, fights pessimism daily, and has thoughts wild enough to graze with antelope. I've heard love on the radio- songs that sigh heartbreak or gush with joy at finding someone who truly grasped their he...
A. 10 October 2010: lol! Maybe. This is female purging so hm, I guess so :p... (read in full...)
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