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female
age
41-50,
*verwhelmed wife
writes:hi i have been in this marriage for 4 1/2 years and we have been together a year before we married i love him sometmes i ask my self why because of how he acts like a spoiled 31 yr old brat we have 2 kids and i have 1 child from a highschool relationship who is 13 well the most recent disagreement starts out with us arguing he constantly calls me the b word then he spits on me then he leaves and runs to his mom like the rest of his brothers and im sorry we have a 3yr old and 1 yr old he does not work and relys on the internet to make us money but of course you have to send them money before you can make money the internet scam he seems to be truthful i was recently laid off so when i am not online submitting application i am going to every place of business to seek employmen and i come home to him asleep on the sofa no effort on his end he depends on me to take care of his traffic tickets bond him out of jailed and pay his court fines he has never bought me anything not even the wedding bands i know you must think im crazy but its a sincere love until i got tired and put him out hell yeah i curse but it seems like he is never satisfied from the meals i prepare or anything buthe still tells me he wants six kids but i dont but he does not want to work should i move on and intialzed the divorce we have been apart since september 27,2010 and i am expecting again due in feb 13,2010 he has not called but gets his mom to call which she has not called in 4 days but pops and calls today should i just move on and call it quits please help i am so confused after all he is my husband and the father of my kids?
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (2 October 2010):
 You sound like someone strong- dilligently going out there to find work and support your family. I applaud you for that and for trying to make it work with your...husband (for lack of a better word). He doesn't want to try and solve his problems together with run, he runs and hides behind his mommy's skirt and that right there shows me that this man isn't ready/fit to be a proper husband. He wants you to be like his mother, cooking for him and getting him out of trouble-you both don't work, he doesn't even try to but he wants six kids??! No way. If hes around your age, changing will be almost impossible for him. He can still try and be a dad to your kids but I think he's failed you as a husband. A husband supports his wife, takes care of her needs and sacrifices for his family. He doesn't seem to be doing any that. I would suggest you move on cause again, changing this man will be nearly impossible. Hope this helps...
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