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The Cheater's Badge

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27 April 2016: Can you ever forgive me? Will you ever believe me? I swear it, I love you. It was not you, it really is me-my fault. How could I ever tell you about it all? I love you because you remind about the best I have within myself. I can laugh with you. You ...

The Art of Arguing. What helps you to resolve issues in your relationship?

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28 May 2015: There's a song by Ne-Yo that absolutely cracks me up now whenever I hear it. "When You're Mad" talks about how sexy it is when your partner gets angry and more than implies the joys and benefits of make-up sex! Deep within my nature, I do hav...

Jack and Jill Are Crushing

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28 August 2011: Jack thought Jill was hot. She wore short, jean skirts with leggings underneath. She had nice legs. Her shirts were always nicely filled and her lips looked very...lush. She was smart too. Really cool. Jill though Jack was cute. He was funny, h...

Nice Guys

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28 June 2011: Nice guys- a lot of us have overlooked them, rejected them, or simply ignored them. Then, we become interested and they're married. So, it's like a chick flick scene where a pretty girl tells her nice guy admirer that he's too much like a brother ...

Virginity

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7 November 2010: Every time I see a sex question posted by a young girl 13-15, I cringe and tell myself, "Don't you dare read this." Myself stubbornly refuses to listen, blows me a raspberry, and reads on - hell is sometimes unleashed. The questions which affect me ...

A Glimpse into Love

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10 October 2010: I'm the kind of girl who goes around barefoot, fights pessimism daily, and has thoughts wild enough to graze with antelope. I've heard love on the radio- songs that sigh heartbreak or gush with joy at finding someone who truly grasped their he...

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How can I ask her to come to this party with me?

Q.   I got this big party Im going to tomorrow and it will be college kids and high school kids. I was invited by this girl and she said I could bring people. Im bringing my bro and I really want to at least include this other girl I know and her ...

A.   30 October 2010: Vid chat would be cool...try something like getting a small, ring box. Get sheets of paper and write in huge, dark letters: I promise to respect and take care of you. I won't ever drink or cuss or dance on a table with a lampshade on my head. I ... (read in full...)

Will you marry me?

Q.   That's how everything started. Before the dating phase, my boyfriend and I used to go out in a huge group and have fun. I liked him a lot, but I didn't know if he reciprocated my feelings, so all I could do is flirt with him, hoping that some...

A.   30 October 2010: Aaawww! Thanks for sharing that! :D ... (read in full...)

Break up or hate music?

Q.   pretty simple question to ask. this girl I thought I liked isn't what I thought and she has helped me realize this with some of her actions lately. Anyway my question is what is the best break up music or hate music. Something that will really...

A.   30 October 2010: Chop Suey....Not Meant to Be- Theory of a Deadman. Superman - Eminem. I f**** hate you - Godsmack. Heart Shaped Box - Nirvana. In the Air Tonight - Phil Collins. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend of 2 years has never gotten me to orgasm.

Q.   I have been with my guy for 2 years and he has never gotten me to orgasm...that i know of. Is there something wrong with me? Is he doing something wrong? I feel like i'm starting to hurt his ego. Help please......

A.   30 October 2010: Honey, it's VERY normal for some women not to orgasm during sex. Vaginal orgasms (orgasms through penatration) occurs rarely is achieved more by older women. Clitoral orgasms through clit stimulation are reached easier. So, you guys might want to ... (read in full...)

Signs that he's into you

Q.   how do you know if your boyfriend is really into you? ...

A.   30 October 2010: Most likely, you'll hear from him...He'll call, he'll text, and he'll want to spend time with you. He won't pester or pressure you for certain things (sex), a guy who does this is basically only into you for your body. He'll offer his help, for ... (read in full...)

What is dirty talk?

Q.   What do men want when they say they want dirty talk. Can anyone give me some ideas of what they are talking about. Do they want me to call them a dirty boy and start spanking them? Or is dirty talk more of "oh f*** me baby?" Just wanted to see what ...

A.   30 October 2010: Dirty talk is basically sexually charged "conversation." Over the phone, you usually put on a sexy, husky voice and talk about the things you want sexually done to you and things you'd like to do to your partner...During sex, it's usually more of an ... (read in full...)

Do breaks ever help a relationship?

Q.   Do breaks ever help a relationship? My fiancee and I have been together for about 3.5 years, a little over a week ago she suggested we take a break, but still remain monogamous.. since then she has been to a party with several people and got real...

A.   29 October 2010: That's not sounding so good to me...I'm going to have to agree with CaringGuy on this.... (read in full...)

Do breaks ever help a relationship?

Q.   Do breaks ever help a relationship? My fiancee and I have been together for about 3.5 years, a little over a week ago she suggested we take a break, but still remain monogamous.. since then she has been to a party with several people and got real...

A.   29 October 2010: I think it's 50-50 for the most part. But in my experince, breaks can harm a couple . Ur running away and putting distance when there should actually be communication. It's healthy to spend seperate time from your significant other, but I personally ... (read in full...)

Pregnant and no one knows but me

Q.   Okay so I'm pregnant and the guy doesn't know It and neither do my parents. Help me please?!!...

A.   29 October 2010: I feel like lecturing but, it does no good. So here's the deal, tell your parents as soon as possible because the more you wait, the less options you have. You have to act quickly. Tell the guy too. Take another pregnancy test and an STD test. Look ... (read in full...)

Do you think he is interested in me or using me?

Q.   Hi, I'd just like some help with figuring out if a man I've met is genuinely interested in me or is just trying to take advantage of me. We met a few months ago and he comes to my workplace most evenings in the week (not specifically to see me...

A.   28 October 2010: Well, from what you tell me, he seems like a nice man who enjoys your companionship. However, I suggest you take your time to know him before starting a relationship. You say he's older than you and has children, well those can be bumps in any ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend will not treat me as a lover, no sex, kissing, nothing!

Q.   I'm i being unfair when i get no physical contact in my relationship, on which i will elaborate. I have been dating my girlfriend now for close to two years. Within that period she has cheated on me. I found out that she was a escort on which ...

A.   28 October 2010: My God...what a terrible world this can be sometimes. I'm sorry...but yes, from what you said, I suspected it because her behavior is very similar to that of a close friend's. Your girlfriend may be trying very hard to either supress or forget her ... (read in full...)

Could drinking interfere with the results of a pregnancy test?

Q.   i think im pregnant because my period is over a week late. im 15 years old and very worried as the potential father is 21. i have had nearly every other sign so i took a pregnancy test today and it was negative but i was drinking last night and ...

A.   28 October 2010: Yes, take another test and guess what, mothers who drink early in their pregnancy have a high risk of giving their infants horrible birth defects. Honey, what are you doing with a 21yr old...? *sigh* ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend will not treat me as a lover, no sex, kissing, nothing!

Q.   I'm i being unfair when i get no physical contact in my relationship, on which i will elaborate. I have been dating my girlfriend now for close to two years. Within that period she has cheated on me. I found out that she was a escort on which ...

A.   28 October 2010: It is not your fault. I don't know her but it sounds to me like she has underlying issues which prevent her from being intimate with you and yet, allow her to sell her body to strangers. There are women out there who have suffered immensely over ... (read in full...)

I'm so nervous about my children growing up and having sex too young, then ending up pregnant!

Q.   my children are not old enough yet but one day they will be and this subject really makes me nervous. teen pregnancy. iv read a few just in the past few weeks on this site and that was enough for me to want to go get a couple of chastity belts and ...

A.   28 October 2010: I'm not a mom, but when I heard my five year old godchild use the word sexy-I had a similar reaction. My mom preached abstinence but at the same time, taught me how to use my mind and make healthy decisions. The best thing to do is educate your kids ... (read in full...)

He tried to hit me and then spit in my face!

Q.   Here's the thing, We had a argument which lead to him trying to physically throw me out, and then when i started to fight back he spit on my face. I love him but i feel like he went too far and now i don't think i can stay with him. He said sorry ...

A.   28 October 2010: Honey...LEAVE! Spitting in someone's face is the ultimate sign of contempt, disrespect, and overall debasement. It's as bad as being hit (some might say it's worse!) This is NOT a man who loves you! AND he tried to physically throw you out...imagine ... (read in full...)

What does it feel like to have someone you consider a life partner?

Q.   What does it feel like to be with someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with and to have them want to be with you too?...

A.   28 October 2010: It feels calming...you're with a person you know you can lean on, someone you can trust with every fiber of your body. When the person's away from you, there are no suspicions on your part and vice versa...you know without being told that the two of ... (read in full...)

What distinguishes boy from man?

Q.   This is a question mostly for guys but input from the ladies is also appreciated. My question is: What distinguishes boy from man?...

A.   27 October 2010: A boy is unsure about himself, his place in the world and can be easily influenced. He tries various things to find manhood and is still dependent on others to survive. He acts often without thought. He lives in the present. A boy will puff out his ... (read in full...)

Could my dad be cheating on my mom?

Q.   I was browsing through my dad's phone and saw a msg from a woman in our church giving him her banking details and said " i luv u c u on d....." What does that mean? Is he cheating on mom....

A.   27 October 2010: Hm, unfortunately there's no way to tell. This could be completely innocent! Don't worry your head about it and become overly suspicious. Banking details and an I luv u could point to your father simply helping this woman. Is she friendly with your ... (read in full...)

How to completely satisfy a circumcised man?

Q.   i will be with a man who is circumcised i want to please him and leave him satisfied...since i always leave my guys satisfied by my bjs, but ive never had a circumcised penis before. i would like to know if the head [underneath the head] is more ...

A.   27 October 2010: lol...yes, apparently the area beneath the head is more sensitive..I also read that flicking one's tongue very quickly on the peehole is also stimulating. Since there's no foreskin, the focus is on stimulating the shaft and the testicles. You can ... (read in full...)

Is it a problem I can't fully retract my foreskin?

Q.   I can't retract when i have an erection; but when it's not erected; i can retract it but i never went under the head because i'm scared the skin is so tight it won't go back like it was :/ Is it a problem or is it ok if i just leave it like that? I ...

A.   27 October 2010: It's possible that you have phimosis, dear. A condition where the foreskin cannot be retracted. There are ways to fix it without circumcision! The best thing to do is to go to a doctor and he will advise you on the choices you have. I can't tell you ... (read in full...)

Why can't I find a girlfriend? I'm tired of being so lonely.

Q.   Well alright...here goes! I'm a 19 year old Asian American. Throughout my childhood, I have had my string of girls that had a crush on me but I had followed my parent's strict code of "no girlfriend before college" and just sat idly as those girls ...

A.   27 October 2010: Try joining a few clubs at school or maybe even going to sports events...coffee shops around campus. Join some study groups! Awesome way to meet people and get to know to them a little. Junk food and cram sessions bring people together :D I go to ... (read in full...)

I am too quick in bed and I am not satisfying my partner, what should I do?

Q.   when i am with my sex partner, My liquid is falling quickly, my partner has not got satisfaction with my sex, pls. advice , what i do...

A.   27 October 2010: I read that if you masturbate a few hours before sex, you can last longer. Some men also try and force themselves to think about things that aren't sexually exciting to last longer. One thing you can do is: give your partner a LOT of foreplay before ... (read in full...)

Will or relationship survive now that I've found out I'm pregnant?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together just under a year (10 months), and I've just found out I'm pregnant. It wasn't planned, we're using contraception. We both have decent jobs and live together... But I'm worried as to whether we're going to ...

A.   26 October 2010: There's no telling really...relationships are tricky and a baby is a stressor that can either divide two people or bring them closer. What decides that is whether or not you two are willing and ready to work on this. A pregnancy after ten months is ... (read in full...)

Wedding Blues: Maid of Honor who cannot dance, no gift bought yet and other disturbances

Q.   Dearest Aunts and Uncles, I'm in a bind. My absolute favorite aunt who is 32 is getting married! I'd love to get her something special. She's a social worker, lives in New York and is down-to-earth :) So I have four problems. She wants me to walk ...

A.   24 October 2010: lol Thanks guys! Much appreciated! :)... (read in full...)

How can I find my father when I only know his name?

Q.   im 35 was born in 1975 and am looking for my father i havent seen him since i was 3months old what can i do i only know his name ...

A.   24 October 2010: Other than hiring a private detective, you'd probably have to look at old census records and every single piece of information you know about him is crucial. Ask family members. Find out things like: where he worked, if he went to college, age at ... (read in full...)

Are awkward first kisses normal?

Q.   ok. so last night i got my first kiss. he walked me to the door went on and on about how he liked me and how i was such a nice girl. he hugged me then he kissed me. but i wasnt expecting the kiss so he only got half of my mouth. it was so awkward ...

A.   24 October 2010: More than you know! First kisses are rarely ever perfect. If you haven't tried texting him, text him first-just a casual message with a little smile. If he doesn't text back, his loss. ... (read in full...)

He took rough sex too far and now I'm afraid to trust him

Q.   My boyfriend like to be rough during sex. So when he started slapping my face about 6 months ago I told him that he was taking it too far and they only thing I don't want him to do is slap me because I feel like he is abusing me. He still likes to ...

A.   24 October 2010: I agree with Tennisstar. Yet, I'll add that if you choose to stay with this man, there needs to be a talk about this. If he feels alcohol encourages this behavior in him, tell him you will NEVER have sex with him when he's drunk. You deserve NOT to ... (read in full...)

Too close to my kids? Partner jealous? Me unreasonable?

Q.   Hi. I divorced about five years ago, and have three daughters, aged 21, 17, and 13. My two oldest daughters are very much closer to me than their mother, and my relationship with my youngest daughter is improving. My kids are my world...the youngest ...

A.   24 October 2010: Sorry, meant to say you sound like an amazing father...my typing is horrid today :p But oy! That certainly can't go anywhere! Ranting at someone stops you from listening and therefore communicating. I'd try counseling since that offers a mediator of ... (read in full...)

Is the date of filing for divorce also the date that one or both spouses are free to have new sexual relationships?

Q.   I filed for divorce and soon thereafter discovered that my wife is having a sexual relationship with another man. She says that since I have filed for divorce, she is free to have sex with other men and her behavior therefore is not adultery nor ...

A.   24 October 2010: Technically, the day you file for divorce does not mean you actually are divorced. Therefore, you guys are in still in the process which still means you are married. I know of a case where a couple filed for the divorce and the husband died before ... (read in full...)

He sends me songs and tells me what they mean to him!

Q.   What does it mean if a guy sends you songs all of the time? I think he that he likes but never really says. He spends a lot of time picking these songs out and tells me what they remind him of. He even sends songs for me. The songs he sends me a ...

A.   24 October 2010: Hm...lol It could be he's trying to communicate something through these songs or is just music obsessed. You'd have to ask! But, this could be fun...why don't you play too? Send him a few songs-maybe one about a girl confused about a boy's ... (read in full...)

Too close to my kids? Partner jealous? Me unreasonable?

Q.   Hi. I divorced about five years ago, and have three daughters, aged 21, 17, and 13. My two oldest daughters are very much closer to me than their mother, and my relationship with my youngest daughter is improving. My kids are my world...the youngest ...

A.   24 October 2010: You sound like an AMAZNIG- a quality too many men lack. It stuns me that a lot of women always list this quality as a must in their image of the perfect man and yet, can resent it once it's found. As a parent, I would think she'd understand that ... (read in full...)

Is he only interested in me for the sex?

Q.   hi everyone at dear cupid Im very lost and confused at the moment i really really like this guy have done for many months even when he got a gf i liked him,(which he has since split with) Anyway yes i have slept with him a few times but nothing...

A.   24 October 2010: Honey, I'm sorry you are in such a situation...you shouldn't have slept with him without first going on dates or forming a relationship. Then, the man has nothing to chase or hang around for and can write you off as easy. He's using you now...I ... (read in full...)

Attention deficit disorder or just plain abuse?

Q.   I really need some help here. My fiance (or ex fiance - we ended it last night) is ADD and a month ago we moved in together although he is still in the same house with me and my 3 kids. Everything I say gets shot down in flames. I am always the pe...

A.   24 October 2010: No, it's not simply ADD. There are underlying issues here. My good friend has extreme ADD and he's prone to periods of frustration and sadness. But, he's never abused his girlfriend (my cousin). You don't deserve to be walking on eggshells and your ... (read in full...)

Too close to my kids? Partner jealous? Me unreasonable?

Q.   Hi. I divorced about five years ago, and have three daughters, aged 21, 17, and 13. My two oldest daughters are very much closer to me than their mother, and my relationship with my youngest daughter is improving. My kids are my world...the youngest ...

A.   24 October 2010: Take it from a daddy's girl-you can NEVER be too close to your children! My dad was my best friend, debate opponent, teacher, and Harry Potter addiction supporter who always encouraged me no matter what I pursued. Now, I could be wrong here but what ... (read in full...)

I want to ask him if we are a couple or FWB

Q.   Ive been seeing my big brothers friend. At first my brother didnt know, but now its out in the open everyone knows. But now Im confused. We spend alot of time together. I see him almost everyday, he calls everyday, we text throughout the day. And I ...

A.   24 October 2010: FWB: everything revolves around sex. When you meet-sex. When you text-sex. When you talk-sex. You don't go out very often. If/when you do, he's not likely to pay. There are no real conversations, just idle chit-chat. RELATIONSHIP: he calls you just ... (read in full...)

Love on facebook

Q.   I love a girl on facebook, I have never meet her. She is away from me. I tried to tell her that I love her but she always say "Please don't kid at me" How can I tell her that I love her very much...

A.   24 October 2010: Actions speak louder than words. People use "I love you" aaalll the time without meaning it so it loses substance. So, it's best if you two actually meet, take time to know each other outside the computer-or at the very least, speak on the phone. ... (read in full...)

Good websites for dating???

Q.   What are some good websites for local online dating that can be used on mobile internet? (I use my cell)...

A.   24 October 2010: Hm. I hear plentyoffish.com is ok and can be used via cell phone. However, success will depend a lot on your "about me" and your picture...I dunno if you can upload a picture via phone. On this specific site though, don'r post a sexy pic! You'll ... (read in full...)

I want to dedicate a song to a loved one! What song would you choose?

Q.   Hi, I'm not sure if this is the right place for this....if you could dedicate a song or two (or even 3 lol) to someone..what would it be and why? For example "Luther Vandross - Dance with my Father" ...always reminds me of my dad....

A.   22 October 2010: Right on, Daletom! :D Wow! I'm glad to see others out there cherishing these songs as much as I do! :D However, being female, my age is a closely guarded secret...thrown in a steel box, buried under concrete and guarded my two dragons-Fluffy and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's DAD acts like he's his girlfriend!!!

Q.   My bf's dad acts like hes his gf. Kinda hard to explain. First of all i think family is important and would never try to interfere or keep him away. Ok his dad gets butthurt if he doesnt call him like 20 times a day. My bf will call him like every ...

A.   21 October 2010: Did you post your true age? Cause if this is your boyfriend's behavior in his twenties, that's a bit...abnormal. Family closeness IS awesome but there should be boundaries. My mother worried about me as I'm her eldest so if I'd text her a few times ... (read in full...)

Do women like to catch a glimpse of a man's penis or balls?

Q.   Do women like it when men wear shortish kind of shorts and maybe you catch a glimpse of what he is packing here or there (san undies, of course). I love it when I happen to catch a glimpse up a woman's skirt, or into her shorts, or down her top to ...

A.   21 October 2010: Ugh...for me personally, it's not hot :/ A stranger's jingle bells *shudders* just doesn't do it for me. No matter how attractive the man. Some women though check out the rear and love seeing men in beautiful tailored pants or well-fitting jeans. I ... (read in full...)

Why can't a guy get it in his head a girl is taken?

Q.   So I have a boyfriend, but there is this one random guy who is insisting I'm like a whore because I'm friendly and have guy friends but I also have girlfriends too, but this one guy knows I'm taken, and keeps asking me to do stuff. I've told him to ...

A.   21 October 2010: You've told him to stop and he ignores you...this sounds like harassment to me, sexual harassment since he keeps asking you to do these "things." Block his phone number and block him on facebook. If he continues, threaten to report him. I also think ... (read in full...)

I want to dedicate a song to a loved one! What song would you choose?

Q.   Hi, I'm not sure if this is the right place for this....if you could dedicate a song or two (or even 3 lol) to someone..what would it be and why? For example "Luther Vandross - Dance with my Father" ...always reminds me of my dad....

A.   18 October 2010: How sweet! "knights in white satin" - the moody blues because this song is romantic yet deep-speaks of a love that isn't exactly easy. Gotten - by Slash feat. Adam Levigne...reminds me of my first love and the way we can still remember being the ... (read in full...)

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