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writes:Is it true someone who can look so happy and confident be feeling depressed or lonely inside? I wondered this because i was watching this film that showed a girl who was beautiful, fun loving had great friends and family.... But when she would write in her diary she would write about the loneliness and insecurities she felt about herself.It was quite sad because when they showed her with her family or friends, she was just this blissful, sociable free spirit and yet she was cold inside. There were some hints in the film that showed small bits about her feelings and nobody around her even noticed it! It made me think, a lot of the time things go unnoticed and we only see what we want to see. So could it be that people, people who we are even close too and seem fine and unaffected on the outside, could be feeling hurt, lonley, depressed or lost on the inside!?
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reader, shawncaff  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 There is a famous old poem called Richard Corey by Edward Arlington Robinson about this. It goes like this:
Whenever Richard Cory went down town,
We people on the pavement looked at him:
He was a gentleman from sole to crown,
Clean-favoured and imperially slim.
And he was always quietly arrayed,
And he was always human when he talked;
But still he fluttered pulses when he said,
"Good Morning!" and he glittered when he walked.
And he was rich, yes, richer than a king,
And admirably schooled in every grace:
In fine -- we thought that he was everything
To make us wish that we were in his place.
So on we worked and waited for the light,
And went without the meat and cursed the bread,
And Richard Cory, one calm summer night,
Went home and put a bullet in his head.
--
Unfortunately, it is true that outward appearance does not match someone's interior reality. And we cannot really ever know what a person is feeling unless they indicate it.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 It is true. We can hurt terribly and still, project a happy image. Sometimes, simply because we don't want others to worry about us or maybe, we want to "handle" the pain ourselves. If you're worried that people around you are feeling like this, don't. I say this because it won't do you good to worry over something that hasn't revealed itself to you. Now, if you notice such feelings in friends, you can just ask them if there's anything they'd like to talk to you about and offer a shoulder to cry on or a bit of support or even a hug if that's what's needed. If you ever feel like this, remember that you are never alone. You can always reach out to someone...Unfortunatly, these feelings are part of life but you know what? So are happy, unbelievable feelings that will make you smile and grin and laugh even when they've already long passed. The best thing about being down is coming right back up :D
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