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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
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My boyfriend wont do anything in bed for me because he says I am too wet!
Q. im really worried because while in bed with my boyfriend i will play about with him by giving him a handjob and i will give him a blowjob and he wont do anything for me i try to drop hints like saying what do i get and he says sex, i spoke to him ...
A. 3 June 2010: Well firstly, I don't see how getting too wet is particularly a problem if he's fingering you, although I guess I can understand why he wouldn't want to go down on you if you did get as wet as he says you do. Maybe this is a cover up because he is ... (read in full...)
I am to embarresed to ask my boyfriend to give me oral, I have never experienced it before.
Q. i lost my virginity to my boyfriend who i have been going out with 8 months. however he will not give me oral in the bedroom, he has told me he isn't against it, he just doesn't want to. i give him oral, and he does pleasure me in other ways, but ...
A. 3 June 2010: Wait until you're both in the mood and feeling experimental, then just come out with it. There's no reason to be embarrassed. But, if he says no, don't force him.... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love my brother's friend!
Q. hi, i am a 14 nearly 15 year old girl and i have fallen in love with my brothers friend. my brother is nearly 5 years older than myself and his friend is just over 4 years older. as soon as i met him i liked him and tried for months to bury...
A. 2 June 2010: Firstly, I think your brother is over-reacting. Maybe he is worried about you stealing his friend. However he shouldn't have reacted like that.
Secondly, if you date this guy, he's gonna need to be able to wait until you are legal before you can ... (read in full...)
I want to be with him but others will judge me!
Q. Hi, Okay so there's this guy and we were going to start seeing eachother, but then he drunkenly announced that he had a gf after 2 weeks of me going out of contact because i had no internet, or credit, so i got really annoyed and told him i hated ...
A. 2 June 2010: I don't think your friends are gonna judge you. I think they're gonna worry about you getting let down. When he told people he had a girlfriend, did he mean you or someone else? You didn't make that clear.
However, as far as strangers go, you shou... (read in full...)
Will sex hurt the first time?
Q. ok...ummm me and my boyfriend are going to have sex soon but im a little scared about it cuz i dont want it to hurt,,,,does it hurt????? will i bleed??? i want to know what im getting myself in to before...thanks...
A. 2 June 2010: Firstly, how old are you? And what is the age of consent in your state? Don't do it before you're legal.
Secondly, most girls' first time is painful to some degree. Your vagina is tight so you need to stretch it by having sex a couple more tim... (read in full...)
Sex is so painful with my new husband... how can I broach this subject with him?
Q. hi please i really need you guys to answer this and help me as i am becoming depressed and dont know what to do.. i have been married for almost a year now, me and my husband had sex only the first nite but not properly... after that i have been...
A. 2 June 2010: Search Vaginismus on google. Could be a case of that?... (read in full...)
Sex is so painful with my new husband... how can I broach this subject with him?
Q. hi please i really need you guys to answer this and help me as i am becoming depressed and dont know what to do.. i have been married for almost a year now, me and my husband had sex only the first nite but not properly... after that i have been...
A. 2 June 2010: I'm guessing that you have never slept with anyone else right?
First time sex for a girl almost always hurts because we are born tight! It happens to nearly every girl. But if it was gonna hurt for that long, then people would never have sex righ... (read in full...)
Do you regret losing your virginity?
Q. I would really like to get some kind of an idea of how many people regret losing their virginity because of the person or your age or those who wish they'd lost it earlier? People who wish they'd waited until marriage and those that wish they had...
A. 2 June 2010: Lost my virginity at 17 to an ex after two months. Then fell in love with another guy. Split up with my ex four months later. Got with the other guy and we've been together for nearly a year. Extremely in love with each other. No regrets. Why? ... (read in full...)
My friend is still angry 6 months later that I didn't meet her boyfriend!
Q. Back in January, my friend wanted me to meet her boyfriend. We made plans, but I got sick and couldn't meet with them. My friend got very upset with me and wrote me a long e-mail saying how I "flake out" on plans and so on. I apologized for not ...
A. 2 June 2010: She sounds really weird. It's true she could be lying. It's obviously a problem with her and not you if she's ignoring your other friends too. Just don't bother caring. When she realises you don't care then she might start to make an effort again, ... (read in full...)
I think I spend too much time with my boyfriend
Q. I have a new bf and everything is going really well! but i feel like i spend too much time with him. im not one of those girls who has a bf and that's her only priority i need my friends. But i feel like they are all together without me and that im ...
A. 2 June 2010: Do your friends have boyfriends? Maybe they are worried that you've fotgotten about them now that you have a boyfriend. Prove you haven't forgotten by arranging to meet up.If some of your friends are guys, then maybe your boyfriend can tag along? ... (read in full...)
I have a fear of eating with acquaintances!
Q. Before I explain my problem, I'd just like to clear up one little thing: I don't have an eating disorder, I'm a healthy weight, and I love love love to eat, most of the time. With that in mind, even I'm finding it difficult to believe tha...
A. 1 June 2010: I think most people are self conscious when eating with a date to some extent. But maybe if you're both eating then you won't be so self consious - you'll be concentrating on your food, and he on his. If not, maybe you could get something you can ... (read in full...)
They're totally in love but it's driving me nuts!!!
Q. Hey. My best friend is in a long-distance relationship with a guy the same age as us (18) and they're totally in love. I don't have a problem with this. Her boyfriend comes to stay with her every few weeks and they're very happy together. The pr...
A. 1 June 2010: Firstly, if you were in love with someone who lived a long way away, would you waste precious time with other people who you can see any time when he came to stay? I don't think so.
At 18, we are adults. There is nothing wrong with having a seriou... (read in full...)
I am scared that my partner might leave me when I get old.
Q. I am scared that my partner might leave me when I get old. I was 22 and my partner was 37 when we started dating. I am now 24. His previous girlfriend was only 20 when she got with him and he was 32. His first girlfriend however was one year ...
A. 1 June 2010: That's a difficult one. I mean if he does want to leave for younger girls then he's not gonna tell you the truth. But how long has he committed to you and how long did he commit to his exes? And why did they break up? If he didn't leave them for ... (read in full...)
How can we spend more quality time together alone?
Q. My fiance' works 7 days a week, owns his own business, has 3 children (2 at home). My only child is out on his own. Problem is, fiance' can't seem to make time for me. He's either at work, on phone with work, or on computer watching work. Then ...
A. 1 June 2010: You really need to sit down with him and make him realise that by ignoring you he is putting your relationship in jeopardy. He probably thinks that now you are engaged he's got you for keeps and you'll always be there when he has time for you. You ... (read in full...)
College break up still upsets me even though we are married now.
Q. I am trying to discover why I am having such strong emotions about a breakup my wife and I had back in college. Today we are very happily married. We met in college and are now in our early 30s. When we met she was a freshman and I was a sophomore. ...
A. 28 May 2010: Jealousy is not something that goes away easily. But, a lot of people feel the need to live a bit when they're young. And the fact that you never experienced the same thing with anyone else probably makes you jealous. But the experience proved to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend seems addicted to facebook...is this a concern?
Q. me and my boyfriend deleted facebook but i keep finding out he goes back on it. i feel kind of sad for him that he can't live without it. but i don't see the need for it. he said he didn't want it so i don't understand why he keeps going on...
A. 28 May 2010: Well for a start, why don't you have it? Why did he both delete it? Social networking is a really good way to keep in contact with your mates so it's understandable that he didn't want to give it up. Maybe he's worried about how you would react if ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's a player?
Q. so this morning this girl from my boyfriend work called him, i knew it was a girl because of the way he spoke to her during the conversation he kept asking her how long she was going to be there. And he told her that he would come out that he has to ...
A. 23 May 2010: I see. If you'd given us that information before you probably would have got some different answers. In that case, I wouldn't trust him.... (read in full...)
Opinions on sexy pictures?
Q. What do people think of allowing your partner to take sexy pictures of you? I'm not talking about nude or even in bra/pants. I'm thinking of a sexy babydoll or chemise, something racy but with no parts showing so if anyone did end up seeing them I ...
A. 22 May 2010: I suppose it depends on how much you trust the person, or how likely they would be to spread it should they have an argument. Probably better to make a hard copy of a picture like that rather than a digital one as these are harder to post online or ... (read in full...)
Who do I trust, God or my friends?
Q. So I have been in a relationship with a gal for over 2 years. we agrued alot. till 2 months ago I stopped. after nearly 5 weeks of not fighting or arguing with her, she decided its over... My heart feels broken. Had dreams of mairrage ect.. I believ...
A. 21 May 2010: I'm agreed with Chigirl. What signs exactly is God giving you that she is still interested?
If you give up on her it's a win/win situation. If she really will want you back then either you'll be there when this happens, or you won't be with her... (read in full...)
Do you think he's a player?
Q. so this morning this girl from my boyfriend work called him, i knew it was a girl because of the way he spoke to her during the conversation he kept asking her how long she was going to be there. And he told her that he would come out that he has to ...
A. 21 May 2010: No offence girl, but that's no reason not to trust him. That's like saying he's not allowed friends of the opposite sex. And I'm positive that you've got male friends. They may have been meeting over coffee. You did over react and I think maybe he ... (read in full...)
Why has my husband gone off sex?
Q. What are the reasons for a married man to completely gone of sex? I really don't know what to think.. This is my husband ,after 26 years... Around 4 years ago ,he stopped touching,having any sexual feelings all together. Almost feels like a spell......
A. 21 May 2010: You say you're in your forties so I'm guessing your husband is roughly the same age? Loads of men at this age develop erectile dysfunction and it's a really embarrassing thing to admit to. So they pretend they're not interested in sex when really ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin, he's not. Why does sex have to make this so complicated?
Q. In summary if you don’t want to read the huge paragraph below: Should I tell my boyfriend about past experience (though minimal) and the somewhat hurtful ex? Should I feel self-conscious about him not getting a full-on boner during our second i...
A. 17 May 2010: Don't mention your history unless he asks. Guys hate hearing about their girl's exes. Take things slowly and when you are ready. I'm sure he'll ask you when things get heated if you are a virgin (unless, of course, it doesn't matter to him whether ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'm going to get Aids or HIV from him!
Q. Hi everyone. I'm 22 years old woman.I have sex with my ex boyfriend. We are dating about like a 6 months. and now we already broke up. The reason I broke up with him because I found out he's using drug. Like cocain, rock and all kind of drug. I dont ...
A. 17 May 2010: Leave him now because:
a. it is possible to get HIV from him if he has got it from a needle.
b. do you really want a boyfriend who is on drugs?
Get tested now, and if you ever have sex with a guy whose sexual history is unknown to you, then ... (read in full...)
Is there a subtle way I can bring up sex with my girlfriend?
Q. Is there a subtle way to bring up sex with your significant other? in my case, with my girlfriend, im not interested in anything kinky, just not the same position every time, i guess you could say i want to switch the positions up a little bit, be...
A. 17 May 2010: Wait until you're having sex. Try just lifting her leg up, rolling her over, or pulling her onto your lap. See if she resists and if she does, don't do it again. Try having sex somewhere other than the bed. If she really doesn't like and and resists ... (read in full...)
Problems with condoms?
Q. in my past, present, and probably future relationships i have never liked using a condom. i dont know if its just me, the brand, or what. i think that smell like plastic, ranted they are, but still not a turn on. they inhibit my..pleasure. to ...
A. 17 May 2010: Loads of guys hate using condoms, that's normal. Try using extra thin or flavoured or ribded/dotted condoms for a different feeling/smell.
Condoms are the only protection against STDs, but they are only 95% effective against pregnancy as they can... (read in full...)
Is what my boyfriend and I have a deep enough connection to consider getting married?
Q. I'd like advice from anyone out there who is currently married or who has been. I want to know if you think that what my bf and I have together is a deep enough connection to one day consider spending the rest of our lives together. We're...
A. 17 May 2010: Well you're certainly not too you to get married. And I'm pretty sure he loves you too because, unless you have reason to believe he's cheated, then he wouldn't have stuck with you for all these years. All couples have their differences. He tries to ... (read in full...)
Should I have a baby with my boyfriend? I'm scared of being sick!
Q. Right me and my boyfriend have been together 1 1/2 years now.. his 22 and am 19 we have just come of a break but he is saying he wants us to have a baby.. i dont no how to feel about this as i have a phobia of being sick and morning sickness really ...
A. 17 May 2010: Firstly, you've just come out of a break which makes this relationship sound unstable, so bringing a child into the world now would be unwise. Especially as you are still a teenager. You shouldn't have a kid just because he wants one. Anyway having ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that this could turn out to be more, or can a man and a woman really just be friends?
Q. I have been with my partner for 2 1/2 years now. We have been so happy together, but since I have been with him, all his friends one by one have just kinda ignored him through this time, I used to be friends with them all on face book so it was all ...
A. 17 May 2010: I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 11 months. There is a guy he is really good friends with and I am also really close to this guy. However I have never felt any feelings of love or lust for this guy, even though I feel I could tell ... (read in full...)
Feeling the "poke" during sex. Is this normal? Its painful!
Q. hi guys. this is for the ladies mostly, but guys are welcome to chip in too! any advice much appreciated. my boyfriend and i are very much in love. about 4 months ago i lost my virginity to him. he wasnt a virgin but he was very gentle and carin...
A. 17 May 2010: The reason we do foreplay is to prepare the body to have sex. For women, this includes:
Lubrication at the entrance of the vagina.
Contracting the cervix upwards so that the penis won't touch it.
Perhaps you are not getting aroused enough. ... (read in full...)
How do I turn him on without being too up front?
Q. My boyfriend works really hard and it makes him tired so his sex drive is lower than mine. We have sex once or twice a week, and normally it just happens. It's really easy to get me in the mood but not quite so much with him. Sometimes I'm horny ...
A. 16 May 2010: He can't really afford to cut down his hours and he gets so tired because the cafe he works in is always understaffed. I'm trying to help him look for a better job.
Thing is that I get turned on a bit too easily, or at least I think I do. Either t... (read in full...)
My friend has erectile dysfunction
Q. Sir, one of my friend penis not getting up it is not Hard, when he going to sex it not getting up what we can do what is the reasone ...
A. 16 May 2010: All of this is true. When my mate lost his virginity he got nervous and couldn't keep it up. And he was always a bit of a Quagmire - always thinking about sex! It didn't help that he is a smoker! Smoking, alcoholism, nerves, not concentrating, b... (read in full...)
He has no passion for anything
Q. My husband is emotionally unavailabe. He is passive agressive but not in a hurtful way. He never tells me "No you cant go here or do that" but when I go ahead and do things, he literally lays on the couch the whole time I'm gone and feels sorry for ...
A. 16 May 2010: Although it only lasted 6 months, I was in a relationship with a guy who was like this. He never helped me out, he avoided arguments at all costs, spent all his time smoking weed with his mates, not trying in sixth form, not looking forward to ... (read in full...)
He didn't trust me but I never did anything wrong!
Q. Hi guys, i've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years but he's always had trust issues when it comes to me. I can't go out to parties without him and if my girlfriends are planning a girls night out we have to argue before i go and he will find ...
A. 16 May 2010: Well you did nothing wrong and he still accused you and that's is very insulting to you. If this happened to me I would be fuming. You don't wanna be stuck with someone like that and paranoia can be really hard to get rid of. Maybe one day his ... (read in full...)
No period but no symptoms either...
Q. I am 15 years old , i lost my virginity a month and 1/2 ago . But i havent came on my period since then , i havent had any symptons of pregnancy . I dont know what to do im only in 10th grade and i am a dancer for school and im scared to tell ...
A. 16 May 2010: For a start, did you use protection? Do you know many forms of protection? Private message me if you don't but I don't wanna patronise you. Secondly, being stressed and worrying about it can delay your period. Take a pregnancy test when it get... (read in full...)
Teachers: Have you ever had feelings for one of your students?
Q. I would Just like to know how many teachers actually fall a little bit for their students, this question is for male teachers only. Have you ever had a crush/fell for/had thoughts that your student was ever attractive? and has you student ever told ...
A. 16 May 2010: Three years ago I was dating a guy whose Dad was a high school teacher in another nearby high school. He was about 45 and he cheated on his wife with a 17 year old sixth former from the school. They had sex in the cupboard in his classroom during ... (read in full...)
Is it common for a man to lose his sex drive after childbirth?
Q. Recently, I seem to have read a lot of problems, on this website and in magazines etc, about men losing interest in sex completely after they've had kids. I really want to have kids in the future with my boyfriend and I know he wants them too. ...
A. 16 May 2010: I think you may have slightly misunderstood my question. I mean when you've got a baby you're hardly ever gonna be in the mood for sex. But recently I've been reading and hearing about men losing interest in sex with their partner long term and it's ... (read in full...)
Having an affair but scared to let my husband go.....
Q. I have been married for 15 years, have two children aged 18 and 12, and I have been having an affair for the last 7 months, and now im in a total dilemma! My husband is generally a good, honest, man, but he plays golf on his days off work and me and ...
A. 16 May 2010: This is how the story sounds to me:
You love your husband who is probably a perfectly nice man. However he does not give you the attention, affection and intimacy that you long for. Feeling embarrassed/selfish, instead of talking to him about th... (read in full...)
Women, what is this?
Q. Well this is embarassing. I don't have any idea what this is. Earlier today I went to the bathroom after this I was about to take a shower when all of a sudden all this white discharge came pouring from me down my legs. I don't think I have an ...
A. 14 May 2010: Most girls get discharge every day just as a way of keeping clean. See if it happens again if it does see a doctor. Did it LITERALLY pour?... (read in full...)
I am worried about the shape and size of my penis, and whether it will cause problems in my marriage
Q. i am 21 year old and due to muslim cast my mom and dad forcing me to get marry and i am also agree but problem is that i have curved shape penis and it is too small and too weak and thin. i am afraid of breaking relation about this topic ...
A. 14 May 2010: Some girls prefer it curved. But you say it's weak, does that mean you have problems maintaining an erection? If so, see a doctor. Look up average penis sizes and see how yours compares.... (read in full...)
How do I stop being jealous over my FWB?
Q. I need some help.. I was going out with this guy at work, like having sex only and I think I fell in love with him. Well, I don't think he feels anything for me. This is my first type of relationship like this (like having sex with a guy only and ...
A. 14 May 2010: This is why FWB should never happen. Because in most circumstances, one person falls for the other and the other doesn't feel the same and is having sex with another girl, then it is clear to me that all he is interested in is sex. So don't go there ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being jealous over my FWB?
Q. I need some help.. I was going out with this guy at work, like having sex only and I think I fell in love with him. Well, I don't think he feels anything for me. This is my first type of relationship like this (like having sex with a guy only and ...
A. 14 May 2010: This is why FWB... (read in full...)
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