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writes:I would really like to get some kind of an idea of how many people regret losing their virginity because of the person or your age or those who wish they'd lost it earlier?People who wish they'd waited until marriage and those that wish they hadn't?Im not looking for full disclosureI think it would be really helpful for so many teens on the site who would probably like some kind of a census on this kind of thing.Any takers?Anonymous is great Reply to this Question
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reader, Becca64  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 I dont regret it, no.
I made sure it was with someone I loved very much. I would have regretted it if it were a one night stand or similar, or if i didnt really love the guy (but not everyone feels that way).
We broke up around 2 weeks ago, but i still think happily of that first night (we were together 2 years)
He knew it was my first time, it wasnt his. He took things slow and took care of me, being gentle and kind.
Just make sure its the right person. If you are 100% sure its the right thing for you to do at that time i dont think you will regret it
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): I lost my virginity to who I thought was my best friend just a few weeks ago, I'm 18 by the way. I regret every minute of it. We met at college and at the time he had a girl friend. By the end of the second semester they broke up and I thought maybe he cared for me but I was totally wrong and in love with a guy who only used me. I'm leaving the state in 2 months and we will never see each again. As it is we live across the state from each other when we're not in the dorm. Since being home he's back with his girl friend and not speaking to me. Did I mention I regret every minute of it? Before this I was really considering waiting until I was married or at least engaged. Now I will be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much for your input :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): I lost my virginity when I was thirteen years old. I regret it in some ways, and not in others. I was full of myself after that, and at such a young, tender age. I had a "popular" boyfriend and walked around like I was 'all that'. We had sex nearly everyday and I got very emotionally attached to this little boy. I had no reason to be, though.
I ended up getting pregnant--at thirteen. We were careful---but not careful enough. That was a mess.
I regret it because he should not have been my first. I was too young. It's embarrassing now to even think of how stupid I was!
Though, I don't, because it taught me such a lesson. We were just two little kids, he turned out to be a jerk, and still is to this day, and we didn't know what we were doing at the time. It was emotionally draining for years after. He did not treat me well, I was too young for that. But, I changed SO much after that. All my life I am very much changed--for the better. An entirely different person.
I've now just turned twenty two days ago. I have a beautiful, lovely daughter whom is six. I am going to school part time and working my ass off as a secretary. I am engaged to the man of my dreams whom I've known since I was four. He knew the boy who I lost my virginity to and had my child with when we were younger and was always there to care and love me. We were best friends and he'd always hated him anyway. But, he loves my daughter dearly and I couldn't ask for a better life. I do not regret my daughter. I wish she had a father who I acknowledged her existence, but I love her.
Losing your virginity is not something you can forget everyday. I remember my first boyfriend every time I look at my daughter. Don't take it for granted.
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reader, daletom  +, writes (2 June 2010):
I was 23 years old when I exchanged virginity with a girl of the same age (she took mine and I got hers in return). I don't have any regrets about being each others' first partner. It happened on our wedding night, and we are still together (and having sex with each other) almost 36 years later.
I DO wish I had managed the physiological mechanics of our first intercourse better. At that time, I probably would have been just as pleased if we had started having sex before marriage, but after becoming engaged. Now I'm not so sure - I think that waiting might have had some emotional benefit. It was important to her to wait until we were married - so it's probably better that I waited, too.
During our engagement we worked up to "everything but intercourse". She has some regrets about that, but I think it helped us keep our promises and reach the goal of waiting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): No.
Should probably have taken it slower and savoured it more and not rushed what's one of the biggest greatest moments in anybody's life, but...no. No regrets. You have to start somewhere.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (2 June 2010):
 Lost my virginity at 17 to an ex after two months. Then fell in love with another guy. Split up with my ex four months later. Got with the other guy and we've been together for nearly a year. Extremely in love with each other. No regrets. Why? Because I love my new boyfriend and always have, wanted to enjoy sex with him because I love him so much. And it didn't hurt because I wasn't a virgin so I enjoyed it like I wanted to. Had some practice so he was also very satisfied. Wasn't intimidated by the fact that he has also slept with others. And glad he had because made him better at sex than if he'd been a virgin. I have no problem with losing your virginity to someone that you're not gonna stay with because I benefitted from that situation =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010): i don't regret losing mine to my current boyfriend, he was the right person. i do wish i had waited just a little longer, but that doesn't really matter. i think its different for everyone, no one should lose their virginity because everyone else is, they should wait til their ready and with the right person
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