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| Latest articles: ..Who You Lose Your Virginity To
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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
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He hasn't apologised this time...
Q. When my boyfriend gets upset or angry over something, he sometimes takes it out on me. This is something he's always been aware of and normally he makes an effort not to do it and apologises if he does. But this time he hasn't. At the very beginni...
A. 16 July 2010: Sorry it took me ages to reply, thanks for your answers. To janniepeg, he's definitely a guy A. We are still young. And it doesn't help that we are both stubborn. He said to me "I asked you not to trace my steps for me, but you carried on, that's ... (read in full...)
What do you find is the best way to make sex really romantic, passionate and emotional?
Q. I'm just really curious about people's experiences. I've heard loads of ways that sex has been really orgasmic and physically pleasureable for people, but I'm curious about the passion and romance of it. What made you feel the connection the most ...
A. 8 July 2010: I totally agree with the spontanaeity of it =] I also personally, like being able to see what's going on down there! I think low lighting is better than pitch black, and then you can look down and see you pleasuring each other =p Obviously combined ... (read in full...)
Our daughter is 7 months old and he is doubling my workload!
Q. Why does he have to make my life so difficult? It's just the little things but they add up and I end up feeling really frustrated. We have a seven month old daughter so I could do without the added stress. I probably sound like I'm whineing but I ...
A. 5 July 2010: He's being incredibly unfair to you. He clearly has no idea what it's like, either that or he doesn't care that that's what you're going through. I think you should show him this page, maybe after he reads the answers he might realise the pressure ... (read in full...)
He hasn't apologised this time...
Q. When my boyfriend gets upset or angry over something, he sometimes takes it out on me. This is something he's always been aware of and normally he makes an effort not to do it and apologises if he does. But this time he hasn't. At the very beginni...
A. 4 July 2010: He has plenty of chances to take it out on me that he doesn't take, it doesn't happen every time, which is proof that he is trying, and I've seen other seemingly volatile relationships working out. I'm learning too, I don't pussyfoot around him like ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty watching porn
Q. I'm not a good english speker.but i tray.... my probllem is watching Porno movies. at that time I'm not happy b/c i used masterbeshen.... after all the thing happen i hate my self. allwayes I ask my mind why im doing this but i didn't get the ...
A. 4 July 2010: I'm guessing maybe masturbation is frowned upon in your culture? Well here it is perfectly normal. It's a good way to find out what you like so that when you're in a relationship, you know what to ask your partner for. But when you're in a ... (read in full...)
Scared to give a blowjob because of the way it tastes!
Q. My boyfriend asked me to give him a blowjob but I dont want too because he'll cum in my mouth I never tasted cum before and if i dont like it i'll be afraid I'll get sick so what does Cum taste like?...
A. 4 July 2010: He can't force you to do anything you really don't want to. However, if he goes down on you, it is only fair that you repay him. Cum doesn't really taste of anything much really, if he has a good diet, the less likely it is to taste bad. (Don't suck ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and want sex! Should I just get it over with?
Q. I'm 19 and I kinda want to have sex but have not really found the person...Sometimes I just want to get it over with and have that amazing feeling that everyone talks about...Should I wait for the right person or just get it over with???...
A. 4 July 2010: First time sex never feels great for anyone, so there is no point rushing into it because it's not gonna be great at first anyway. Just wait until you're in a relationship. Better that you sleep with someone you care about and whose sexual history ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of my girlfriend being pregnant?
Q. So my girlfriend and I were messing around and I ejaculated. I cleaned it up with some tissues and about 15-20 minutes later we started messing around again. She wanted me to stick it in but I noticed some precum at the tip of my penis, so she ...
A. 3 July 2010: Not likely, but still stupid to do it with no protection. Get her on the pill in case you forget condoms again. I took the right precautions before you went inside, but if she was taking the pill respinsibly then you wouldn't have that worry.... (read in full...)
I'm hiding a big dark secret..I'm a virgin!
Q. Hi everyone, I'm adding another woeful post to the list of adult virgins out there who need help. But my situation has an unusual twist... First off, let me just say that no matter how this will sound, I'm not being arrogant. I genuinely need h...
A. 3 July 2010: A girl who loves you won't care. I'm sure plenty of girls are interested in you, and you're just gonna have to learn the same way as everyone else - through experience, positivity and saying yes (obviously within reason.) Don't be passive. And only ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my wife or try and fight a dirty media event that will mar her for life?
Q. I got divorced in Dec 2005 and re-married in April 2009, In 1999 I was involved in an incident that threatened my children's lives in the run up to the Olympics which cost us both financially and emotionally so my wife and I had trust issues due to ...
A. 3 July 2010: You love her and you haven't done anything wrong, so I'd fight it out to keep with her. It's really unfair that they've done this to you with the mobiles, especially the second time after what happened the first time. If it happens again, text all ... (read in full...)
Why my girlfriend does not give me blowjob after I accidently ejeculated in her mouth?
Q. I and am my Girlfriend engaged in normal sex for one year. One day she said," I want to suck your penis. " She did it and I felt not much because she had not practice of doing this. One day I asked her to ejeculate with her mouth. She took away her ...
A. 3 July 2010: She's being really unfair, because you give her oral pleasure it's not fair that you should miss out. Next time, ask her to go down on you, but when you're close to climax ask her to finish you off by hand. Cum in the mouth isn't the most pleasant ... (read in full...)
What explains why some men can have multiple orgasms?
Q. I'm just curious... To explain why I asked, my ex (whom I lost my virginity to and vice versa), before we had sex the first time, I assumed would probably come within just a few minutes since it was his first time. I was fine with that. Turns out,...
A. 3 July 2010: Normally guys only climax once because they need to create more sperm to climax again. I know a mate who used to have sex about 3 or 4 times with his ex in the space of an evening. I think maybe it's because his body is really quick at creating new ... (read in full...)
Tilted penis with spots on!
Q. hiiezzz, Im 19 years old and so worried about my sex life. the problem is when my dick is erect, it tilts so much to the right side, and remains on the right. i fear if i would be able to have sex ever. also there are some spots on my penis, tha...
A. 3 July 2010: Everyone sways one way don't they? That's what I always thought. And some girls actually like different shaped penises. Not that it's a problem, once it's inside her, it's held in her shape, so hopefully it doesn;t hurt to bend your penis towards ... (read in full...)
Could oral sex make a pregnancy test positive?
Q. Just a little help needed. Today my girlfriend took a home pregnancy test with pregnancy stick and it came positive. She had symbols of pregnancy such as constant precum leakage from vagina and cramps in legs and tummy from last 15 days. It all ...
A. 3 July 2010: Oral sex shouldn't affect the result as that would make pregnancy tests very unreliable. If you want an abortion you have to go to an abortion clinic where they will either give her a pill to miscarry the baby, or surgically remove it, depending on ... (read in full...)
I think it's a mans duty to be the breadwinner!
Q. I don't only date men who have a good bank account, personality is what matters most to me. I don't depend on men to buy me things, I work and make my own money. BUT is it wrong for me to think that it's a mans duty to look after his women. I want ...
A. 3 July 2010: Personally I think both partners should work as it makes them equal and means they are both providing for their kids. I also think they should share all the chores and household tasks equally. You can't have a superior and an inferior in a ... (read in full...)
Can my parents really press charges?
Q. ok so im 16 and recently lost my virginity to a 20 year old and am now pregnant! well my parents dont approve and said that they were goin to press charges for statutory rape! but in arkansas the legal age of consent is 15 so can they really press ...
A. 3 July 2010: No they can't. You are over the age of consent, and you did consent to the sex. The furthest your parents will get is losing a very short court battle. However you're still a teenager so next time use protection =]... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my masturbation!
Q. Hey im a 17 year old boy. The problem is i can’t stop masturbating. Evry second of the day i wannna masturbate and im worried it’s not normal. Please help! [Mod note to poster: CAPS off please.]...
A. 3 July 2010: Sounds to me like you're just a late bloomer, as most guys go through this at about 13/14/15. Just don't let it be a priority over important stuff like studying, work or relationships. But also think of it this way, you've built up a massive ... (read in full...)
Worried I may be sick from oral sex.
Q. I just had sex for the first time. Im 18 and it was with a really good friend of mine. I had oral sex with him and were both STD free i checked before i even went near him, and i did swallow. We used protection for intercourse, but he did ...
A. 3 July 2010: I doubt it's related. Chi has a point, maybe it's adjusting to change. How likely is he to lie about his sexual history? Either way, see a doctor =]... (read in full...)
I asked her for sex, she is shy and said no, what can I do??
Q. i m very much attracted to my cousin sister she was really close to me so i asked for sex but she refused and we both are not talking to each other now but we meet daliy eveen she is feeling shy to talk to me now so plz tell me wat should i do now ...
A. 3 July 2010: Respect her wishes and don't push her into sex. Also you said she was your 'cousin sister.' I'm confused, is she your cousin or your sister? Either way, that's incest, and it's illegal as it can have catastrophic consequences should a baby be ... (read in full...)
Looking for a hextrosexual relationship, am I being niave??
Q. Hello this is a question that I have to ask, me and a guy i know were talking the other day (this guy hastnt been the first person to say this) he came up with the theory 'all females are bisexual' and it got me thinking... I am a 22 year old male...
A. 3 July 2010: If all women were secretly lesbians, then your
theory would be true. But bisexuals like guys as much as they like girls (averagely.) Plus, ever heard of a thing called love? Something that emotionally binds you to someone or practically your whol... (read in full...)
Who should buy the condoms?
Q. Hey, who do you think should supply a condom the boys or the girls? or should they take turns? Thanks....
A. 1 July 2010: BOTH. Because then you are equally responsible. Both having them means you will never be caught short.... (read in full...)
Poll: Best sex - was it with an ex or current partner?
Q. So ladies...taking a poll here cuz I'm curious. When it comes to the best sex you've had, was it with your current (final) partner or with a previous partner? By "best", I mean the most sexually satisfying or intense (most mind blowing, most ...
A. 30 June 2010: Current partner, because we are actually in love, and we feel more desired when we make love. I've only has sex with two people though, and my current partner is quite experienced, my ex was a virgin before we had sex. But I do think emotions are ... (read in full...)
I can't even wear a tampon because it hurts so much!
Q. okay so i cannot use a tampon? it is so painful! i even put PKY jelly on the tampon so it is well lubricated! but it hurts so badly that i sometimes cry, it feels like something is tearing or pinching and i just wanna scream! also I hav really heavy ...
A. 30 June 2010: When you put the tampon in, are you actually trying to put it in the right place or at the right angle? Because I had that problem when I first started my periods. Use mini tampons with a plastic applicator as this will also help it go in, and make ... (read in full...)
Need advice on masturbation?
Q. I am 14 years of age and would like to start masturbating, but I can help but feel that touching myself is wrong and I am scared that my mum or dad or sisters might walk in on me. I have tried it once and it was good so I want to keep doing it but ...
A. 30 June 2010: Nothing wrong with it at all. It's a good thing. It means that when you're older and in a physical relationship, you'll be able to tell your guy what you do and don't like. Whether it's clitoral or penetrative stimulation, you can use different sex ... (read in full...)
How can she tell if a boy is a virgin?
Q. My girl friend just told me dat she is still a virgin and would love to marry a virgin guy like her, i luv her so much i don`t want to loss her. Making the relationship last for a life time has been our quest,but i am confused because, i don't know ...
A. 30 June 2010: Just because you're not a virgin doesn't mean it doesn't shock you or make you jump when someone randomly touches your intimate place! If a virgin was horny and desperate to lose it, they may be very welcoming. What your friend said is nonsense I'm ... (read in full...)
How can she tell if a boy is a virgin?
Q. My girl friend just told me dat she is still a virgin and would love to marry a virgin guy like her, i luv her so much i don`t want to loss her. Making the relationship last for a life time has been our quest,but i am confused because, i don't know ...
A. 27 June 2010: You can't really tell. If he has some kind of sti, chances are he isn'ta virgin (although still not a guarantee as some stis you can catch from dirty surgical equipment in an operation.)
If he's not very old, not great in bed, and doesn't last lon... (read in full...)
How can I get to enjoy time spent on my own?
Q. My boyfriend and I spend a lot of time together, so, like most people, after a few days he needs some time to himself. I totally respect this and when he needs it I let him have it. However I will never understand why people like to spend time on ...
A. 27 June 2010: I have a pencil set somewhere that I haven't used in ages, and he should be getting me a bass for Xmas. I've got a keyboard as well but it's harder to play. I'll try and do more of that =]... (read in full...)
Is 12 years too much?
Q. Hey, I'm 22 and worrying about the age gap between my boyfriend and I. He's twelve years older than me and we've been friends since I was nineteen - I met him at 'work' if you can call it that (I play pro sport) - and we've been together for a year ...
A. 27 June 2010: Not at your age. Maybe if you were 16 and he was 28, but you're an adult and have been for some time. There are plenty of couples with the same age gap. The only thing you have to remember is that you're gonna live longer than him, and there may be ... (read in full...)
How can I get to enjoy time spent on my own?
Q. My boyfriend and I spend a lot of time together, so, like most people, after a few days he needs some time to himself. I totally respect this and when he needs it I let him have it. However I will never understand why people like to spend time on ...
A. 27 June 2010: My Mum did that Myers Briggs thing once and it seemed really interesting. I guess I'm a bit defeatist really. I mean I spend hardly any time on my own, but when I do I really hate it. I do the things that CindyCares and CaringGuy suggested, but I ... (read in full...)
How can I get to enjoy time spent on my own?
Q. My boyfriend and I spend a lot of time together, so, like most people, after a few days he needs some time to himself. I totally respect this and when he needs it I let him have it. However I will never understand why people like to spend time on ...
A. 27 June 2010: Thing is, I don't really have that much spare time, and a lot of the above I do with my boyfriend. Thanks for your answer though =]... (read in full...)
My mother caught me masturbating with her underpants! Help!
Q. hey im 14, and my mother caught me masterbating over her underpants. how do i handle this?...
A. 27 June 2010: How embarrassing! She was probably as embarrassed as you were that you know what her undies look like and where she keeps them! Don't panic, just don't do it again. Wait until you're home alone or it's late at night, lock the bathroom door or shut ... (read in full...)
Am I the only guy who prefers petite women?
Q. I'm just wondering why it is that most men prefere big breasts as oppossed to small breasts, the women in porn and magazines reflects that men are more sexually aroused by big breasts and i'm just curious why that is? I'm more sexually attracted to ...
A. 27 June 2010: No, you are not the only one. Everyone has different tastes, but the motherly figure is hyped up by the media. I'm not particularly curvy, 5'5", size 8-10, 32c bust, and I know for a fact my boyfriend thinks I'm gorgeous. He's been with curvier ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be the office gopher anymore!
Q. What would you do if you were working away in a job for the past six months.. had the gut instinct that all the administrators and other women in the company were deliberately setting out to make you look incompetent.. (because their friend missed ...
A. 27 June 2010: Contact a higher authority and explain how you are being victimised and bullied. Bullying in the workplace is illegal and your colleugues can be punished for this. Speak to your boss/manager, or the person who is in charge of them, as this is not to ... (read in full...)
Will I ever find anyone, male or female, who loves me for who I am?
Q. Heyy, Well the thing is I'm a really self-conscious person, I hide myself a lot (mostly my face) and I freak out when I'm standing with or next to a boy or a girl (I'm Bisexual) I know I'm not pretty, and I hate it when person tell me otherwise...
A. 27 June 2010: Firstly, you are only 16/17, so you have so long just to have fun before tying yourself down. Don't stress about that or try to rush into a relationship because that will just delay things even more and put people off.
The other thing most peo... (read in full...)
How do I get more rounded cheeks?
Q. i weight 53 kg and my height is 1,60m so its perfect for me but my problem is my face its too small I don't have cheeks and I don't wanna eat and gain weight I like how I look like now but I don't know what to do with my face I want it round cause ...
A. 27 June 2010: There are loads of make-up techniques where you can use foundation, blusher or bronzer to make your face look more rounded and healthy. Go and see a beautician or search health and beauty websites for suggestions and tutorials on what to do.
http:... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm lying to avoid sex
Q. Okay so I have irregular periods always have and my boyfriend of 5 years knows this, sometimes my periods are longer then usual and heavier then usual...but now hes starting to think im lying about being on my period just to avoid sex with him! He ...
A. 27 June 2010: Maybe you should use the internet or get him to talk to another girl to educate him that it's totally normal for girls to have irregular periods. You could even show him this page! I know that my periods used to be about 25 or more days apart, but ... (read in full...)
How long for pregnancy symptoms to show?
Q. I had sex a few hours ago. We used no condom but i'm on the pill. He came inside me, a little, before pulling out. I'm very worried as to whether I may be pregnant. I'm due my period on saturday and I was wondering if I have falling pregnant will my ...
A. 27 June 2010: If you've been taking your pill responsibly and as prescribed, the chance of you falling pregnant is only 0.01% and most people on the pill don't bother using a condom. The first symptoms of pregnancy (morning sickness, fatigue, sore breasts) ... (read in full...)
Does cheating count when your a kid still?
Q. So, I'm 16 and I've had a boyfriend for quite a while now. Things are good we care about each other and everything but here's the thing, I recently got a job about 3 months ago and since then I've made good friends with a boy who works there. We ...
A. 27 June 2010: "Once a cheat, always a cheat." When you get used to cheating, it's not always an easy thing to stop, unless you become absolutely besotted in a problemless relationship with someone who loves you just as much. But that's not gonna be so easy to ... (read in full...)
A question about the pill
Q. Taking the pill, please help? Last month i started using Loette (the pill). Today is the start of my second round of pills as yesterday was the last day of my period (if this make sense?) I took 7 sugar tablets and now today i took an active t...
A. 26 June 2010: You won't get a period because you need 21 days for the womb lining to build up. However, do realise, that if you don't take an active pill tomorrow, you won't be protected until you have taken the actvie pill every day for seven days straight.... (read in full...)
She won't accept that her weight is the reason men are not interested in her.
Q. My girfriend and I have a very close friend. She is a wonderful girl. It's always the same scene with her. She meets a guy, they are really into each other for a few days / weeks, then the guy realizes how heavy she is and distances himself. (I'm ...
A. 26 June 2010: Perhaps you didn't put is as diplomatically as you should have. But you do have a point. It is true, as a man, and someone who has been overweight, that you would probably know. Perhaps she is in denial of her weight problem. Get your girlfriend to ... (read in full...)
Does masturbation affect virginity?
Q. when i do the secret happit, does that may affect my virginity cause iam getting maried after few months and i must be virgin ? and how can i knew or be sure...
A. 26 June 2010: Lets define the word 'virgin.'
A virgin is a person who has never had sex.
Masterbating is not having sex.
There's your answer.... (read in full...)
Why is she angry with me for trying to protect her?
Q. Heres the story.. My girlfriend and I were at a bar/dance spot in town with friends yesterday. By the end of the night things got out of control because a few guys started fighting the bouncers. Naturally everyone started rushing to watch the figh...
A. 26 June 2010: Some girls are a bit jealous of the fact that guys can defend themselves better than them, and worry that their boyfriends see them as weak, or incapable of looking after themselves. Maybe she had a really sheltered, safe childhood, and wanted to ... (read in full...)
Our daughter is 7 months old and he is doubling my workload!
Q. Why does he have to make my life so difficult? It's just the little things but they add up and I end up feeling really frustrated. We have a seven month old daughter so I could do without the added stress. I probably sound like I'm whineing but I ...
A. 25 June 2010: He clearly doesn't understand how hard it is for you. Stress to him how difficult it is and if he still doesn't believe you, go out for a day and leave him for a whole day to take care of the baby. Maybe go away for a weekend with a friend. Once ... (read in full...)
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