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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
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Timing of Divorce & catching a cheat (UK civil law)
Q. *OP's own title* I have posted before about the fact that my wife is yet again cheating on me with a work colleague. I tentatively suggested today as she went out to meet a friend for lunch that she looked fabulous, and asked 'Who is the lucky man?...
A. 19 April 2010: Maybe she carried on because you said if she cheated again and you'd end it, then she cheated again and you didn't... She thinks she has you in the palm of your hand. Sounds like taking action is the only way she's gonna take you seriously.... (read in full...)
Help! I need some advice about my mothers controlling attitude
Q. Help! I need some advice about my mothers controlling attitude! I'm 26 and live at home but am currently house hunting so I'm hoping some of my issues will subside, My mum has a way of making everyone feel guilty and ever since I was small...
A. 18 April 2010: You are 26 and a grown woman, and what you do is your business. You can tell your Mum the truth and shouldn't be afraid of her. If she disagrees then tough! You know what is best for you.
She sets herself up for things like this to happen and moan... (read in full...)
Timing of Divorce & catching a cheat (UK civil law)
Q. *OP's own title* I have posted before about the fact that my wife is yet again cheating on me with a work colleague. I tentatively suggested today as she went out to meet a friend for lunch that she looked fabulous, and asked 'Who is the lucky man?...
A. 18 April 2010: I'm not trying to point the finger, but I've only heard one side of the story so this is only a possibility and not necessarily true. But maybe the reason your wife is having these affairs is because she doesn't feel that she's getting enough ... (read in full...)
Nasty comments after my brothers death.
Q. When my brother passed away, an ex-friend from childhood came with her family to the funeral home. She gave me a hug and then said, "I'd say let's get together but I'm moving out of the country- so oh well!" with an evil smirk on her face. (Inside ...
A. 16 April 2010: This girl probably has so many 'friends' because they're too scared not to like her. She knew that you were the only person who'd stand up to her so she got you when you were at your most vulnerable, which was cruel and pathetic. You need to stand ... (read in full...)
Some doubts, his penis has a bend in it, does this have anything to do with his feelings for his aunt?
Q. i am little shy to ask. but want to confirm. my husband's penis is dark and has a bent. is this normal? his sexual desire is very much, that he used to have sexual relations with his paternal aunt. does his penis particularity got some thing to do ...
A. 16 April 2010: The bend in his penis is completely normal for a guy. Some girls even prefer that.
However if he's had sex with his aunt, that's messed up. You'd be better off with someone who doesn't have these weird tendencies. This clearly bothers you a lot so... (read in full...)
She came off her pill, but we kept having sex without condoms. I'm starting to panic!
Q. I'm writing this because I'm worried, my girlfriend is on the pill, so we have unprotected sex. The thing is she came off the pill a week ago due to a course of medication she was taking, we had sex and stupidly we didnt use protection and i came ...
A. 16 April 2010: I'm afraid there is every possibility she could be pregnant, as you can conceive at any point in your cycle. If she is pregnant then she will miss her next period so you'll soon know. Don't worry her yet as a. stress can also delay your period and ... (read in full...)
Does jelquing actually work? And will my penis be too short for my future wife?
Q. okay, I'm 17 years old, I'm a virgin and I do want to abstain from sex untill I'm married. my penis is about six inches long when erect, my question is: does jelquing work and if so, in what stage of my erection should I start the excersize?? and is ...
A. 16 April 2010: Dude, six inches is above average =] And before you ask, NO, it won't be too big. My boyfriend is roughly 6 inches and that's about right for me =D... (read in full...)
I have been trying to get pregnant for 7 months and nothing has happened! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. hi i have been married for 7 months and im been trying to get pregnant. Im 21 years old and im just wondering is there something wrong with me? Should i be stressing out? I have tried everything but still no baby ...
A. 16 April 2010: Did you know that each time a normal healthy couple has unprotected sex, there is only 20% chance of conception? It may well be bad luck but it would be safe to have a checkup. Have you ever had any abortions? As this can cause infertility. Your ... (read in full...)
Questions about pregnancy.....
Q. If you think you may be pregnant, would you still ovulate and have discharge? ...
A. 16 April 2010: You wouldn't ovulate because you wouldn't need to - your most recently released egg is fertilised so you don't need to fertilise any others. However you can still get the discharge because that's just the vagina's way of keeping itself clean.... (read in full...)
Can you have periods but not ovulate??
Q. hi all, i just have a quick question cant get any sense from gp. if you have periods, irregular ones and have ovulation pains you must be able to get pregnant right periods equal ovulation, ovulation equals ability to concieve??? or not??? please ...
A. 16 April 2010: Yes you can. My Mum has only one ovary, and the tube on the remaining one is clipped so she can't ovulate. But she still has irregular periods, which are quite heavy due to fibroids. However if you don't have clips or anything then you probably can ... (read in full...)
Is this why she dumped me?
Q. I was with my ex for 1 year. Our relationship was tough, as she was restricted, she was a very busy person and sometimes her parents wouldnt let her do things with me such as stay the night. Or go on holiday even though she is 18. Im the opposite, ...
A. 16 April 2010: She probably left because she felt she wasn't enougb for you. She cared for you enough to want you to find something better. She thought two days a week wasn't enough for you, especially with all the time you had on your hands. Maybe she thought you ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if this is an allergic reaction to latex condoms?
Q. Hey I was just wondering if anyone is allergic to latex condoms? Me and bf use durex extra safe and every time we use them I get a burning type feeling down there and it really makes sex not enjoyable. I think it may be an allergic reaction but im n...
A. 16 April 2010: How much foreplay do you use? Maybe that is something to do with it - if you're not lubed up, that can also cause the burning sensation. Try fingering yourself whilst wearing a latex glove and see if that gives you a reaction.... (read in full...)
Age difference poll.
Q. im starting a poll to see the age gaps in relationships from ages 14 - 16 e.g. im 14 i went out with a girl tht was 13......
A. 16 April 2010: I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21 =]... (read in full...)
..Who You Lose Your Virginity To
Q. I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
A. 16 April 2010: No, I'm afraid you haven't swayed me. The first time you sleep with someone you love is more important than the first time you do it at all. I'd rather the former were enjoyable rather than painful, so if I have to do the latter in order for that to ... (read in full...)
..Who You Lose Your Virginity To
Q. I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
A. 15 April 2010: I'm not encouraging girls just to go out there and lose their virginity to a stranger. The guy I lost it to had been a friend for two years and we are still friends nearly a year after splitting up. I just think that girls who did the same as me ... (read in full...)
..Who You Lose Your Virginity To
Q. I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
A. 15 April 2010: No I don't think it would have hurt less if I loved him that's the point. I'd rather sex with someone I loved didn't hurt, but first time sex is always gonna be painful, so I'd rather get it out of the way with someone I didn't love so that the ... (read in full...)
..Who You Lose Your Virginity To
Q. I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
A. 15 April 2010: When I said it hurt, I meant physically, not metaphorically. And the time that felt wrong helped me to make the decision. If it hadn't felt wrong I would probably have stayed with this guy for a bit longer until he left me. But I'm still glad that ... (read in full...)
Am I too old for sex? What else can I use other than lube to make it comfortable?
Q. Hey everyone, I really hope you can help me with this odd problem I am having. I am a 25 year old virgin and have finally found someone with whom I feel comfortable enough to take it to the next level. So for a few nights we have been doing more ...
A. 15 April 2010: Not gonna lie, it does hurt at first for most girls. The majority of girls in fact. But everyone gets over the pain eventually, because the more you do it, the quicker it goes away. Try introducting yourself gradually, one finger for a few times, ... (read in full...)
15, don't like the life I live, and want a baby
Q. I am 15 years old and want a baby. I do not beleive i am completely ready to have a baby, but what parent is? I have recently moved away from all my family and friends due to my parents divorce. Having parents that were together was really diffacult ...
A. 15 April 2010: As far as friends go, go out, have fun, be confident, and go to clubs. People always find it easier to talk to someone who is confident in themselves. So don't be afraid just to go up to someone and say hi. Because even if you're faking the ... (read in full...)
15, don't like the life I live, and want a baby
Q. I am 15 years old and want a baby. I do not beleive i am completely ready to have a baby, but what parent is? I have recently moved away from all my family and friends due to my parents divorce. Having parents that were together was really diffacult ...
A. 15 April 2010: I have read so many questions recently about girls the same age as you wanting a baby. This may be a comfort to you as it's just a normal hormonal thing and a phase that a lot of girls go through at your age. I'm sure you know all the good reasons ... (read in full...)
Do some women really just get nothing from clitoral stimulation?
Q. Simply put, as the title states I'm just curious if some women out there genuinely get nothing from clitoral stimulation. I'm completely open to the possibility that I'm doing it wrong, but it's really getting to the point where I'm frustrated with ...
A. 15 April 2010: Some people get nothing from clitoral stimulation. Some get none from penetration. Some just get a lot more from one than the other. But unless there is no way to satisfy a girl, then you don't need to worry because you can just give her what she ... (read in full...)
Is this a normal period?
Q. Okay, im only 13 and ive had my period for almost a year but its not regular. Every day i have dischage in my underwear. Its either clear white o yellow.. is that bad? should i go see a doctor? it really bothers me and i change a lot because of it. ...
A. 15 April 2010: Discharge is just your body's way of keeping clean (unless it's thick, yellow and smells.) But I'm 18 and have been having discharge every day since I was about 13. If you wanna make your periods more regular then book an appointment with your ... (read in full...)
There's only one problem..
Q. I have been married for five years now. My husband and I recently separated and now he wants me back. The problem is he sucks in bed. I have been enjoying my sex life, which I haven't in the last past three years. My husband was decent in bed at ...
A. 15 April 2010: Some couples are purely less sexually compatible than others. You have a much higher sex drive than he does, and he's probably not very experienced. You could see a sex therapist or get hold of a copy of the karma sutra. If he doesn't last very ... (read in full...)
I want sex more than 4X a week! How do I do this with husband?
Q. am 23 years old and my husband is 31 yrs old, he is from a very traditional family, he loves me so much, he knows about my past. i was not a virgin when i got married to him and he didnt care about my past. we rarely had good sex as i ve got ...
A. 15 April 2010: Firstly, four times a week is a lot! You obviously have a very high sex drive. I can think of two possible explanations for this: either you have a higher sex drive because you're 23 and have had less sexual experience than him as he is 31, so maybe ... (read in full...)
Burning sensation during sex.
Q. hey i had a yeast infection 5 weeks ago and got treatment for it but it still burns badly when i have sex with my bf and i find it hard to sit down because of the pain. it is not because of lubrication problems because i am always wet its lik...
A. 15 April 2010: Maybe the infection hasn't completely cleared up. Either go back to the nurse or continue with the treatment and see if there is an improvement.... (read in full...)
Timing of Divorce & catching a cheat (UK civil law)
Q. *OP's own title* I have posted before about the fact that my wife is yet again cheating on me with a work colleague. I tentatively suggested today as she went out to meet a friend for lunch that she looked fabulous, and asked 'Who is the lucky man?...
A. 15 April 2010: First of all, how do you know that she is cheating? Because you need evidence to at least suspect her. What is it that she is doing that is making you suspicious and could there be any other reason for it? You said yet again, so I'm assuming she has ... (read in full...)
..Who You Lose Your Virginity To
Q. I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
A. 15 April 2010: Not trying to start an argument (although I suppose the subject is open to debate,) but how is my opinion misguided when it is something I've experienced for myself?... (read in full...)
Sex before marriage?
Q. do you believe in sex before marriage?...
A. 14 April 2010: Yes, I do. Human urges are only natural. If you sleep with someone, you can just leave, but if you marry them, that's not something easy to get out of. If you end up marrying someone because you're desperate to sleep with them, then one day you ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend on a dating site?
Q. I recently found an Adultfriendfinder.com email in my boyfriends yahoo account. I have not asked him about it yet but the user name is his initials and some numbers. It looks like he's had it for a while. The only thing he put on the site was the ...
A. 14 April 2010: When my Dad was jobless, he registered with several different sites to email him when jobs were available or with other helpful info. My Dad has now been in a job for several months and he still gets these emails from the site. Maybe he signed up ... (read in full...)
His roommate doesn't want me there
Q. The situation is fairly complicated. I work as much as I can (which is tough since I work at a place that is on a call in/needed basis) and I'm a full time student. As of right now I've been living between my house and my boyfriend's apartment. I ...
A. 13 April 2010: Your boyfriend probably hasn't said anything to his roommate because he's too scared or doesn't wanna get kicked out. I would confront the roommate yourself about the issue, and ask him exactly why he has a problem with you staying there. Maybe you ... (read in full...)
Does who you lose your virginity to really matter?
Q. Well,now I have another dilema.I want to get over my teacher and feel that another guy would help.He's 18 and can drive iv known him for 5 years and he proposed that we have some 'fun',I'm up for it or at least would be if my sister hadn't given him ...
A. 13 April 2010: In all honesty, I lost mine when I was 17 to a boyfriend that in the grand scheme of things I didn't really care much about anyway. We had sex after 2 months and split up after 6. But I don't regret it, I mean, if you actually enjoy first time sex ... (read in full...)
How can I apologise to her to make up for snapping at her?
Q. I feel terrible! I was very tired and cranky after work. I rushed home to walk my dog and make it to dinner with my friend *I am also her boss. She is much younger so I am like a mentor to her career and life. I have been her boss and friend for 2...
A. 10 April 2010: Just saying sorry won't be enough. But she might not like being bought off. So take her somewhere nice like a park or something, get her an ice cream and give her a hug =]... (read in full...)
Can't quite orgasm ...
Q. When my husband and i have sex I can't orgasm. I get really close it keeps building and building to the point of pain and then I completely panic and make him stop touching me. We stimulate the clit and he's inside me that's what gets me there but ...
A. 10 April 2010: Why do you panic? Nothing bad can happen. Is it the sex that hurts? Maybe you should try using lube... is there anything particular that he does that's particularly pleasurable? If so do it more. If it's because he doesn't last long enough, then the ... (read in full...)
What do you think of: "I want to get you pregnant because I love you"?
Q. if i man said to you that last time you made love to you... he wanted to get you pregnant.. and he said he wanted to do it because he loves you.. what would you think? and this was many years ago....
A. 10 April 2010: Well reading your reply, I think you should get back together and take it from there. If things go well then you might find it easier to make a decision. Do you have kids and do you want one? Because if the answers are no and yes then your clock is ... (read in full...)
My Mum hates my boyfriend
Q. hi im facing a vry big problem ryt nw n im vry devastated at this point n hav no idea what to do...:'( my mom found out about me having sex with a boyfriend..i really love him alot...nw my mom says she hates him alot n wil never let me be wit hi...
A. 10 April 2010: For a start, you are 18 (at least), so you are an adult and your Mum cannot tell you what and what not to do. Sounds like you really love him and you don't regret sex with him for any reason other than your Mum. As long as the sex was protected then ... (read in full...)
No vibrator... how can I improvise?
Q. How can I get a vibrator without ordering it off line and where can I get one that cost less that 20 bucks? What else can I use if i dont have a vibrator or dildo?...
A. 9 April 2010: Yeah I was gonna say I heard an electric toothbrush was good. If you like clitoral stimulation then pointed the showerhead to it can be very pleasurable =]... (read in full...)
Yeast infection on penis now peeling! HELP!
Q. Help! Earlier in the week I had a yeast infection on my penis (yes guys get them too). I have had it once before and had read that diluted tea tree oil can help clear it up. I diluted it but not enough and afterwards it sort of burnt. Good news...
A. 9 April 2010: How long has it been peeling for? That sounds really painful =[ You probably just didn't dilute the tea tree oil enough. Was it the same make of tea tree oil as last time? Because if it's different then I suppose it could be an allergy. Put some ... (read in full...)
Sex the night before my period -- could I be pregnant?
Q. i had unprotected sex the night before my period started but it only lasted a day.can i be pregnant?...
A. 9 April 2010: You can get pregnant at any point in your cycle, you should use protection at ALL times if you don't want to conceive. Stress can make your period late so try not to worry.... (read in full...)
Five days late -- could I be pregnant?
Q. On 4th march I had my period. But this month it had been 9th of april but still I didn't get period. Am I pregnant ? How can I be sure ? There are some test strips available in market. Are they good to be believed ? Well they give right result ? I ...
A. 9 April 2010: The pregnancy tests in supermarkets are normally very reliable, although the surest way is to see a nurse. You could take two different brands of test, however it doesn't normally show up on the test for two weeks so you could wait another week ... (read in full...)
I'm finding it hard to belive I might be pregnant
Q. hi im 1 week and 4 days late on my period. today i took a pregnancy test and it came out positive straight away, two dark pink lines. i went to the docs and got a midwife appointment. does this actually mean im pregnant? im finding it hard to be...
A. 8 April 2010: Why are you struggling to believe it? Is it because you always expected it happening to someone else and not you?
Was your intention to conceive or was this something you were trying to avoid?... (read in full...)
Giving him head makes me puke!
Q. I have been with this guy for almost a year and i still cant give him head like i have to my other bf i dont know why, i start fine and when i start to go deeper i puke. Someone help me plz. P.S. he is the biggest guy i been with but i could ta...
A. 8 April 2010: Yeah it's your gag reflex, if something goes too deep down your throat it makes you sick. Maybe your boyfriend has a larger penis than your ex? Exercises to help you do deep throating are basically just inserting something like a banana down your ... (read in full...)
Does he need some "cave time"???
Q. I just spent a lovely couple of days with the man I've been dating for 3 months. We live a couple of hours away, we talk quite a bit but don't get to see each other all that often, so when we do it's quite special. I went down to see him th...
A. 8 April 2010: Do you know for sure that he got the text? Check your delivery reports.
Sometimes I send my boyfriend a sentimental text, and he doesn't always reply because he doesn't know what to say! Sometimes guys just aren't good with words. But I know for... (read in full...)
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