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writes:so this morning this girl from my boyfriend work called him, i knew it was a girl because of the way he spoke to her during the conversation he kept asking her how long she was going to be there. And he told her that he would come out that he has to go and brush his teeth and get ready and stuff. so after their conversation, i asked him what it was about he said that she wanted him to come to the mall, i was like are you serious!! and you told her that you would come out!! he kept saying that it was nothing.Well he must think i am some idiot, why if he is with me he would want to go to the mall and meet up with a girl, i am not stupid, so i asked if he needed something in the mall he said no, so then i aid why are you going to the mall and meet her, he said that i was making a big deal out of nothing. so i told him that i am right here and you are going to go get ready to meet a girl in the mall walking around with her as if you guys are together??? he did not say anything so i told him that he is wasting my time and what he is doing is very disrespectful and that it is just shady and that i cannot be i a relationship like that because he is using me and making me look like a fool. He said that we do not have to be together then and then he left!I do not think i was wrong for breaking it off, because if that is your friend at work if she said that she was at the mall why would you care to waste gas to meet her there, you do not want anything from the mall, and your girlfriend is at home? That for me is being a player and me for one got not time for that!!what do you think??
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 I see. If you'd given us that information before you probably would have got some different answers. In that case, I wouldn't trust him.
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reader, RyanS +, writes (22 May 2010):
 Hi, your clarification has helped. He is not serious about your happiness if he is willing to do something unimportant (like going to the mall) even if it hurts you. At the least if there was some serious work, he should have said: "if you want, you also come with me to the mall."
He is not showing any value towards your feelings, which I don't like.
Btw, no serious guy will call his office-coworker as babe. The signals are not positive. You please find a better guy.
Wish you happiness. Take care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advise, but the thing is he has flirted with women at his work before, taking them to work, texting them wanting to go over to their place, calling them baby while he was with me and some other stuff! so i think the way i reacted was justified because i just do not want to be made a fool of and that is what it looks like to me! if he was not interested in the girl in would not have been so eager to meet her at the mall!
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (21 May 2010):
No offence girl, but that's no reason not to trust him. That's like saying he's not allowed friends of the opposite sex. And I'm positive that you've got male friends. They may have been meeting over coffee. You did over react and I think maybe he stormed out because he was annoyed at you rather than because he had something to hide. Maybe he didn't tell you about this girl because he knew you would react like this. Let it slide, and don't say anything to him until you have a real cause for suspicion.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Yup, suspicious. He does probably like her. Here's a question though, did you two have plans for the day? Did he ditch you for her, or just get invited to do something that he was interested in? Either way, it is probably best that you ended it. You didn't trust him, and he wasn't doing anything to earn trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): Did you ever consider that they were genuine friends? My boyfriend has friends that are females at work, and first of all I did get jealous, but then I just thought that there would be more signs that he was cheating, if he was.Guys and girls can be friends without anything between them you know.If he was being all secretive about her, and has never talked to you about her before, those are signs he could be hiding something from you.
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