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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
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Does he need some "cave time"???
Q. I just spent a lovely couple of days with the man I've been dating for 3 months. We live a couple of hours away, we talk quite a bit but don't get to see each other all that often, so when we do it's quite special. I went down to see him th...
A. 8 April 2010: Do you know for sure that he got the text? Check your delivery reports.
Sometimes I send my boyfriend a sentimental text, and he doesn't always reply because he doesn't know what to say! Sometimes guys just aren't good with words. But I know for... (read in full...)
Pregnant with twins! Thank god it was only a dream but why do I keep dreaming this?
Q. I know that this really has nothing to do with relationship advice, but I need help anyway! I'm a good girl, 18, and never even dated. But lately I've been dreaming that I'm pregnant! These are becoming very frequent, like 3 in the past week! T...
A. 8 April 2010: Is it something to do with where you are in your cycle? Or maybe it was just on your mind a lot after the first dream so you kept coming back to it? I believe that some people have a mental connection, I'm sure I have one with my boyfriend AND my ... (read in full...)
Is there a correlation between gender and sex drive?
Q. I am curious. I have a pretty good sex life, but I think my sex drive is a little higher than that of my boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, it doesn't bother me, because I am getting enough to keep me satisfied and I know we both love each other to ...
A. 8 April 2010: After reading Betty Boup's answer, I think it has a lot to do with our pasts. My boyfriend is 21 and has been having sex since he was 15. I'm 18, and lost my virgninity when I was 17. I've only had sex with two people and I really didn't enjoy sex ... (read in full...)
Should I masterbate?
Q. I just told my dad i have considered masterbating. I dont know if I should do it though. Can anyone help me? Please message me as fast as possible! Thank you! ( Im 13 and a male.)...
A. 8 April 2010: It's normal, not a sin, and even healthy. It means you can tell a girl what you like when you're older and are considering having sex. It gives you something to do when you're bored. Guys even get a sleep hormone after they cum so it's really good ... (read in full...)
Husband does not want to have sex with me and would do anything but that!
Q. What should I think when my husband hasn't made love to me for months. He has had a back problem for a while yet has done nothing to get better. He goes to work, he even works around the yard but when it comes to bed NOTHING! I don't know what to ...
A. 8 April 2010: Maybe he is suffering from Erectile Dysfunction and is too embarrassed to tell you... this is totally normal for older men and there are loads of treatments for it.... (read in full...)
She threatened to have an affair or go to a sperm bank to have another child
Q. My wife had a pituitary tumor that grew after she gave birth to our first. Another pregnancy would be risky. She asked what I thought about having another child. I said I voted no as I didn't want to lose her or take the chance of killing my ...
A. 8 April 2010: For a start, I'm sorry that your wife is so ill. And if I were you I would have said exactly the same thing to her - it could potentially kill her. Maybe her wanting to be a mother is to prove to herself that she is still a woman as she feels that ... (read in full...)
How does the pill work?
Q. Hey Aunts, Just got the pill today from the doctor, and he told me to take it on the first day of my period - only question is, does that mean the active pill, or the inactive pill in the 'start' area of the packet (I realise that this is like tak...
A. 8 April 2010: The pill stops you from ovulating (releasing eggs.) It takes 7 days for the pill to take effect unless you take it on the first day of your period (then it becomes active immediately, but you wouldn't really wanna have sex on your period anyway ... (read in full...)
Insecure about having sex
Q. I am a 21 year old virgin guy with 3.5 inch penis. I'm really worried about my sexual life about my penis size. please help. Am I normal? Can I increase the size?...
A. 8 April 2010: I think there are herbal remedies that can increase penis size a little, but to make a really noticeable change you'd need surgery. Tbh, if you can please a girl in other ways (with your fingers/tongue) and she loves you then she's probably not ... (read in full...)
Casual sex with a stranger.
Q. Lately I have been having fantasies about random sexual encounters, and it is something I really want to try. But I have no idea how to go about this. I have been in relationships for so long and I find all these men that just want to fall in love ...
A. 7 April 2010: Don't go to a male prostitute because you can easily catch something off these people. You could think about hiring a male escort, that's probably the safest way to do it. But sex with a stranger can never be completely safe, as you don't know their ... (read in full...)
How can I kiss her? She's almost a foot shorter than I am!
Q. I need to know the best way to kiss a girl who is almost a foot shorter than me because I really love this girl but I cant figure out how to kiss her because I dont want to bend at the knees cause that just ssems like it would be rude to do and i ...
A. 6 April 2010: Most people don't find it a problem. Bending down won't offend her, I'm sure she'd rather that than you not kissing her at all!
Pick her up with her legs around your waist or let her stand on your feet if it's that much of a problem =]... (read in full...)
I'm 13, b/f 16, and we think I'm pregnant! HELP!
Q. I am 13 years old almost 14 and I think.I am pregnant my boyfriend said he would stay but I'm scared about our parents reaction me being almost 14 and his being 16. We both don't believe in abortion.I'm scared.... Any advice?...
A. 6 April 2010: Firstly, did you have unprotected sex? Or did the contraception fail? Ad is your period late? You're too young to be having sex, but protected sex is better than unprotected so if you intend on carrying on then go on the pill. You don't have to be ... (read in full...)
Is making out with another girl considered cheating?
Q. I have been in a serious relationship over for a year and a half. Occasionally, when I go out with my friends, I make out with other girls. My boyfriend is aware of this. However, the other night, I ended up sleeping with another girl. Should I tell ...
A. 6 April 2010: Of course it's cheating! What sex you cheat with makes no difference. Why did you sleep with this other girl? Maybe you want their attention because your boyfriend isn't enough for you?
If you want to keep your boyfriend then I suggest you stop... (read in full...)
My mother never lets me out of the house
Q. my mom doesn't let me out the house ever! once in a while she would let me have the rare opportunity to go to a b-day party, but only if it doesn't involve boys! i tried talking to her but nothing changes. I've stopped asking if i can go out cuz i ...
A. 4 April 2010: Maybe your Mum thought that if she kept saying no you'd stop asking, which is what happened. So you should keep asking her to let you out.
You should also ask her why she doesn't want you to go out. Reassure her that you are aware of the risks of... (read in full...)
Both seeing someone, but yet wanting one another
Q. *OP's own title* So,here is the next prgress about us. We are both seeing someone.he has been with his gf for 2 yrs and ive been with bf for 1 1/2 yrs. We have been texting how much we need and wanting each other. also sexually too. Now, i...
A. 4 April 2010: What do your instincts tell you?
This is exactly what happened with me and my boyfriend before we were together. I followed my instincts and told him how I felt, and we both agreed to break up with the people we were seeing to be together... (read in full...)
I lied to him about my breasts, but if I tell him the truth I'm scared he'll think I'm deformed!
Q. Hi all, I recently ran into a problem with my boyfriend. When we first started having sex I would always wear my shirt, and he always wondered why. Well, one night we started drinking pretty heavily, and my inhibitions flew out the window, and he ...
A. 4 April 2010: If his feelings for you change because of this then he's really shallow and not worth it in the first place. I highly doubt it will affect his feelings anyway. He might be a little disappointed that you lied but I'm sure he'll forgive you as he'll ... (read in full...)
Choosing between guys AND whether to abort or not!
Q. Well guys I'm stilled confused. My husband left me about eight mths ago and now I"m pregnant with another guy's baby. My husband recently contacted me with the hopes of us getting back together. When i went to see him he ask if I was pregnant and I ...
A. 4 April 2010: What do your instincts tell you? Go for the guy you love and who you think loves you more. Who makes you happiest. And do bear in mind that every relationship ends for a reason.
And whoever you choose, it's your child, you're it's mother and you'... (read in full...)
The condom split! How do I tell Mum I want to keep it?
Q. Hey, I've recently had sex with my boyfriend but the condom ripped i'm only 13 an yes I know I am under-age an silly, but I think I want too keep the baby if I am pregnant, I know there is a-lot more to it than just having a baby! But I will look ...
A. 3 April 2010: OK so you're 13 and really you shouldn't be having sex yet. But what's done is done. At least you used a condom. If you're going to continue to have sex, go on the pill. You can still go on this even if you are underage and everything you tell the ... (read in full...)
Does the caneston duo oral pill affect the contraceptive pill?
Q. *OP's own title* Can caneston duo (The pill and the cream)(Thrush treatment) affect the contraceptive pill? Ive searched all over the internet and ive read through the leaflet that came with it 4 times, it mentions nothing. So im not too sure whet...
A. 3 April 2010: If it says nothing on the canasten leaflet or the leaflet that comes with your pill then it's totally safe, as it's law to put all the possible symptoms on the box =]... (read in full...)
LDR--He keeps telling me he loves me but I just don't feel the same
Q. Hello everyone. I'm facing a really difficult situation right now. I have been in a long distance relationship for over 6 months now. When me and my boyfriend started dating, things were really great and I really felt in love. However, with t...
A. 3 April 2010: When he comes to stay, tell him you are having a lot of doubts about the relationship. Tell him you want to try to talk about and solve the problems while he is there, and then make your decision whether you want to stay together or not on the ... (read in full...)
I feel like I want to run away! Do I have a disorder?
Q. Someone please save me :( Deep down I know something is wrong with me. Mentally. I just can't take it anymore! For so long i've gone bottling EVERYTHING up because I don't want to bore people with my life story or for them to think i'm some c...
A. 3 April 2010: I think you're getting worse because you're just bottlig more and more up inside. Nobody can call you an attention seeker if you've been hiding it for ages and you're only just coming out with it. I know the last thing you want is attention. I mean, ... (read in full...)
Isnt she completely over the line here?
Q. My wife was snooping through some of my personal belongings and found a picture of my exgirlfriend and an old letter that she had sent me. She asked me why I had kept those two things and I told her quite honestly that I didn't even know I still ...
A. 3 April 2010: Firstly, this is all a little bit immature. I mean, how important is oral sex in the grand scheme of a relationship? It's fair that you don't go down on her if she doesn't on you. My boyfriend and I are in the same situation, but it doesn't bother ... (read in full...)
Does this sound like a one night stand?
Q. )OP's own title* I've never had anything like a one night stand before. I usually spend months dating a guy before sex comes into the equation, so I have no idea whether the way this guy was acting suggests it was a one night stand or something more...
A. 3 April 2010: Well his interest in you has gone on for more than one night hasn't it! He's definitely interested, I mean it's not even sex he's asking for. It may have just started with sex, but maybe it took that for him to realise that he liked you. Or maybe ... (read in full...)
An overwhelming feeling of sadness when I orgasm
Q. Lately, I've been having an extreme fit of sadness when I orgasm. An accurate description of the feeling would be; an overwhelming sense of extreme sadness, hopelessness, and a feeling of desperate longing. The strange feeling only lasts for the ...
A. 2 April 2010: I agree with you, it's probably an association with your ex girlfriend. This will probably be cured during your next relationship because you'll have someone new who loves you back to associate the feeling with.
If you think you are depresse... (read in full...)
I told him I want to sleep with him, but then he tells me he is a virgin! What should I do?
Q. So there's this guy who goes to my school and we've fancied each other for years, and we dirty text quite a bit, and last night I slipped out that I really wanna f**k him, and that I'm not the type of girl to sleep with just anyone but I'd make a ...
A. 2 April 2010: Do you have feelings for him? Because if not then don't go there. Like you said, it'd be his first time and he'd want it to be special. Often if two people sleep together outside of a relationship, one develops an emotional attachment and the other ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone but I'm in a relationship! What should I do?
Q. Ok well i'm in love with another guy. but i'm in a relationship. my now boyfriend is an alcoholic and tends to treat me lik crap when he's buzz. but the sex is great. the other guy is romantic and sweet don't drink an very very sexy. what should i ...
A. 2 April 2010: Why would you wanna be with an alcoholic who doesn't care about you when there is a perfectly decent guy who loves you and you like back? Just for the sex? Sex isn't a priority. Ditch your boyfriend and go out with the other guy, before you miss ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend shows off by getting into fights
Q. My boyfriend allwase gets in fights around me i dont know why but i think that he is defending me what if he is just showing off to me? Well i dont know because i didnt ask him and i dont have the guts to ask him....
A. 2 April 2010: Well does he get into fights over arguments about you? He wouldn't be defending you if nobody was trying to hurt you. If someone says something bad about you or tries to hurt you then he's defending you. But if it's a small argument blown out of ... (read in full...)
How can I hang out with my secret boyfriend?
Q. so i have a secret boyfriend, not going to tell my parents, and we reeeally like each other. but we don't know how to hang out over summer vacation, any suggestions?...
A. 2 April 2010: Why is your boyfriend a secret? I can't really help you until I know why you don't want people to know about him.... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to have a baby and have even saved up the money for it!
Q. helloo please could you help me! i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it. i have told my boyfriend and he agrees with me 100% he wants a baby and he has s...
A. 2 April 2010: p.s.
Go on the pill.
Then go to a party and have fun, being grateful that there's nothing to stop you being there =]... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to have a baby and have even saved up the money for it!
Q. helloo please could you help me! i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it. i have told my boyfriend and he agrees with me 100% he wants a baby and he has s...
A. 2 April 2010: NO. Wait. I don't mean to sound harsh but becoming a mum at 14 is a BIG mistake.
Firstly, babysitting for someone else isn't the same as looking after your own. The baby will be your responsibility ALL the time, you will get really tired and will... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forces me to have sex with him!
Q. i've got problems with my new boyfriend.first time when we meet..everything was consider okey between us.but,one day...he start to talk about sexs.everytime he text me..he always said.."i want you baby"...plss....sometimes i feel fedup with ...
A. 2 April 2010: This guy sounds dangerous. You don't wanna sleep with him and that's fair enough, and it's none of his business who you've slept with. It's like he's being selfish. He wants you only to have sex with him, and be willing to do it at any time. That's ... (read in full...)
Is her dad wrong to let them sleep together?
Q. My friend is 13 years old, we are both in year 9. I used to fancy her but then I found out she smokes. That's a big turn off for me. She has a boyfriend who is 16 and in year 11. I know she sounds like, well, not a great person but she's cool rea...
A. 2 April 2010: Her Dad probably (naively) thinks they're not having sex. Maybe he doesn't want to interfere. Maybe he knows they're using protection and thinks if he takes the condoms away they'll do it unprotected.
It is surprising how many 13 year olds are... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to fake virginity when she marries?
Q. I just want to know if it is possible for a girl to hide her premarital sexual relations form her husband (she's been having regular sexual relations with other males for 5 years before marriage). She is going to marry after 6 months ...
A. 1 April 2010: Why can't you tell your husband you're not a virgin...?
And not having a hymon doesn't mean you're not a virgin anyway, some girls are born without one. And some lose them through other physical activity.... (read in full...)
Why do men cheat on me?
Q. am i a fool about wanting to be trully loved. i am the best women a man can ask for. i am hot and sexy, smart and loving great in bed. why do men cheat on me?...
A. 1 April 2010: How do you react when guys cheat on you? Do you do something about it and leave them/tell them off or do you let them walk over you and do nothing about it?
Because if it's the latter, then men who wanna cheat date you because they know they can... (read in full...)
Did I lose my virginity... or not?
Q. I dont know if I'm still a virgin! His penis slid on my vagina but not inside. Does this mean I'm a virgin still? He didn't cum, there was a condom, but he had pre cum and it lasted literally a minute coz I wanted to stop. I'm so confused abou...
A. 1 April 2010: You didn't have sex. You only lose your virginity if you have sex. Simple as.... (read in full...)
Would you be offended if someone put you in a situation like this?
Q. Imagine this situation: you are walking down the street with a close friend, lets call her Jane, and the two of you run into an old friend of Jane's, whom you've never met before. The two of them start catching up and end up talking for half an ...
A. 1 April 2010: I suppose it depends on how often they are able to see the other friend. I mean, I'd be offended if it was someone my friend say every week, but if it was like someone they only saw once or twice a year then I wouldn't have a problem with it. I'd ... (read in full...)
I want my wife to have the tatoo of her ex removed!
Q. Tattoo must go. That's my issue with my wife. My wife never dated much and was a virgin until she met this guy, and even then was while they were dating, however, her parents were a nightmare and she ended up leaving home and moving in with B...
A. 1 April 2010: This is a tough one. If I were you, I'd feel exactly the same.
However, tattoo removal can sometimes be more painful that actually getting the tattoo itself (?) because it's done with a laser. It is also very very expensive and can sometime... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gaga for Gaga!
Q. Hi folks. This is a bit of a silly one but how do i get my stupid boyfriend from bringing up Lady Gaga every day? I had no problem with her apart from the idiotic and attention seeking things she does but obviously it doesn't affect me so it was ...
A. 1 April 2010: One of my mates just split up with his girlfriend because of her unhealthy obsession with Michael Jackson. How serious is your relationship? Because if it isn't serious, I'd leave because it's just gonna really annoy you and could even end up in an ... (read in full...)
My periods are late again, am I going to get pregnant?
Q. hi ... i just want to ask that in last month my periods actual date was 5th march but it came on 26th ...and now in this month i have done sex with my boyfriend on 27th night that too 3 times and my periods are delayed and we have used condoms ...
A. 31 March 2010: If the condom didn't split, then you're just late. The only chance of you being pregnant is if there was a tiny hole in the condom. Did you see him take it out of the packet and put it straight on?... (read in full...)
Should I stay over at his house? He says all he wants to do is cuddle.....
Q. I have been in a relationship with my bf for a month now and he wants me to go to his room and stay over for a night. He said he only wants to cuddle me to bed and won't do anything. Should I agree with him?...
A. 31 March 2010: You've been together a month, it's not like you're rushing into things if you're just staying over. If you trust him then go. However you sound like you don't trust him. Why is this?
Make sure you do other stuff together like watch a movie or... (read in full...)
Would I make my boyfriend horny if I sat on his lap?
Q. My bf asked me to sit on his lap. Does that makes a guy horny if I do so?...
A. 31 March 2010: The first time I sat on my boyfriend's lap, he got a boner, and we weren't even dating, so quite possibly =]... (read in full...)
When is the right time to move in together?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 and a half months nw,ever since we dated we been spending a lot of time together and we spend nights together,i have my own rented house but i spend most of my time at his house,we are thinking of moving in ...
A. 31 March 2010: I would wait until you've been going out for a year. When you live together you have to be with each other all the time and be used to each other's habits. If you're not used to them and then you're flooded with them all at once then the stress can ... (read in full...)
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