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writes:My fiance' works 7 days a week, owns his own business, has 3 children (2 at home). My only child is out on his own. Problem is, fiance' can't seem to make time for me. He's either at work, on phone with work, or on computer watching work. Then his kids require time, of course. We've tried "date night" something always comes up. When I ask for "my time"- causes problems. Not sure what do to anymore...
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Well, he got to the point of asking you to marry him. Is this 7-days per week a new thing, or has he had this business for awhile? Did he have the business and the workload when you met him?
If it's a new business, he's just gung ho about it. Is there a chance you can join him on the business, so that it's a common goal instead of a hindrance to your relationship? Sometimes, a common project, common adventure brings people close in ways few other things can!
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 You really need to sit down with him and make him realise that by ignoring you he is putting your relationship in jeopardy. He probably thinks that now you are engaged he's got you for keeps and you'll always be there when he has time for you. You need to sit him down and talk to him, and then if he won't accept it or nothing changes, then you'll know that you're not the priority. And if nothing changes, stick to your word. Don't just hang around him because then you are proving to him that he can walk all over you and string you along.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 No, it is simply he is having diffculty managing his work/lifestyle balance. It is important to set a time for oneself to work for example 8am to 6pm weekdays and 9am to 1pm on weekends. If he does not do this eventually it will likley take a toll on your relationship as he drowns on overloading himself with work.
It is also important to treat the home as a home not a business and the business as a business otherwise his life will become just one load of work. So in the home it's not a good idea nor healthy to do business and he should make it clear to his clients of his business hours and times of engagement.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 June 2010):
I don't think he will make time. My current girlfriend spent ages trying to pry her husband away from work. In the end, she had to leave him. Your husband is too into his work, and his kids will come before you as well. I'm afraid when it comes down to it, you're third in the list. I you can't live with that (and after a while you won't be able to), then it's time to move on now.
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