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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
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How do I stop being jealous over my FWB?
Q. I need some help.. I was going out with this guy at work, like having sex only and I think I fell in love with him. Well, I don't think he feels anything for me. This is my first type of relationship like this (like having sex with a guy only and ...
A. 14 May 2010: This is why FWB should never happen. Because in most circumstances, one person falls for the other and the other doesn't feel the same and is having sex with another girl, then it is clear to me that all he is interested in is sex. So don't go there ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being jealous over my FWB?
Q. I need some help.. I was going out with this guy at work, like having sex only and I think I fell in love with him. Well, I don't think he feels anything for me. This is my first type of relationship like this (like having sex with a guy only and ...
A. 14 May 2010: This is why FWB... (read in full...)
Girlfriends sexual past is causing trouble for me...
Q. I just found this site and decided to ask about something that is causing me trouble to see what others think. I have been with my current girlfriend for two years... She is older than me, and I was a virgin when I met her which I think is one of ...
A. 14 May 2010: Well you say you're early - mid twenties, so I'm assuming shes mid-late twenties. And by that time, most people have a bit of sexual history. Maybe she is a reformed party girl. My boyfriend slept with 12 girls before he was with me, some of them ... (read in full...)
I'm dating my step brother but we're not blood. Is this so wrong???
Q. I am a 26 year old female dating my step-brother who is almost 18, but am I wrong? We love each other. His parents are freaking out, because we are step, we are not blood kin, what is the big deal? What should we do?...
A. 14 May 2010: I think maybe the fact that you're 26 and he's still 17 is more of a problem because relationships like this don't tend to work out. If you're around each other all the time, then when you break up it could be very hurtful and awkward. Perhaps this ... (read in full...)
I think I am ready to lose my virginity, but is this a wise decision?
Q. I am currently overseas and undergoing a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend who is back in my own country. I will be returning to my country in 3 months time and I was considering should I give my virginity to him then as I guess I am ...
A. 14 May 2010: You said "I guess I am ready." Wait until you are sure. That could be before the next time you see him or in years to come. Have a good hard think about it. If you are ready, then I don't see why not =]... (read in full...)
The guy I fancy told my friend he thinks I am unattractive! How can I get over him?
Q. help! I like my semi-friend (he's a guy) but he doesn't like me back. in fact, he told one of my friends he finds me unattractive! how can I get over him?...
A. 14 May 2010: Could he be saying that to hide the fact he likes you? It's possible. However you are so young, keep your options open. Find yourself before stressing over guys.... (read in full...)
I am a virgin, should I forget this non-virgin girl?
Q. Hello, I'm 22 and from a Greek Orthodox Christian background. I'm still a virgin, not because it has been drummed into me that it is a sin to sleep around but because I choose to respect women and the fact that I only want to make love to a woman ...
A. 14 May 2010: You said you want to lose it to someone you truly love, yes? Well after discovering she's not a virgin, you don't seem sure about your feelings for her. This is an answer in itself.
However, spooning doesn't necessarily mean sex. Plus not being a ... (read in full...)
I have been a player all my life but this women brought me to my knees
Q. Ok I recently moved to Southern California my brother owns a business I started working for him and I met one of his employees...love at first site she was beautiful my kind of people and just really cool...but she had a boyfriend of 4 years...he ...
A. 10 May 2010: Dude it's love, that's normal!!!
Give her an ultimatum. Tell her she has (so many days) to choose if she wants him or you. Give her the offer on a plate. Tell her that if she says no then you won't speak to her again. And stick to it. BUT give her... (read in full...)
Blood when I pee. Is there something seriously wrong?
Q. This is slightly embarassing but i have researched it and cant get a definate answer. Me and my long term boyfriend broke up about 8 weeks ago and since then i have got a new man in my life. Now i am not a virgin and had sex hundreds of time...
A. 10 May 2010: Are you sure he was a virgin? Because he could have had some kind of STI.
Sometimes when you get fingered, he can scratch you inside with his fingernail, this has happened to me a couple of times.
See a doctor to make sure it's not an infection... (read in full...)
Every time I propose she says "I hate you"
Q. Hi... I love a girl 4 last many years. She was my old classmate. The only problem she cant accept is that she is 2 months older than me. She takes it as a problem even though i dont because i love her that much.how can i make her understand her....
A. 10 May 2010: She doesn't love you. You can't expect her to commit the rest of her life to you! It's not just about what you want. Both partners have to want the relationship for a commitment to be made. If she doesn't love you, she doesn't love you. Stop asking ... (read in full...)
16 and sleeping with somone twice my age!
Q. Ok, so i'm 16 and did something very stupid! I slept with someone twice my age. I do regret it. It was just a bit of fun but everytime i see him, it's like my heart skips a beat, i just have a big smile on my face, i'm not in love with him! The ...
A. 10 May 2010: In all fairness, a 32 year old man who sleeps with a 16 year old girl is a bit of a perve. If you were 15 when this happened then this actually makes him a criminal because he had sex with an underage. This does show your maturity though - you're 16 ... (read in full...)
Can ex's really be friends?
Q. I cut all contact when my ex boyfriend broke up with me for reasons only known to him, but he asked me when I was ready to contact him because above all our friendship was the most important thing to him. I feel ready to talk to him again, I mis...
A. 8 May 2010: I have 5 exes and I am friends with 4 of them. It is completely possible. You need time apart to let your feelings for them die. Then meet up and, providing those feelings don't come back, then there's no reason why you shouldn't be friends =]... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to start taking care of herself and looking better?
Q. How do I get my girlfriend to start dressing better w/o me spending all my own money shopping for her? Also, she for some reason thinks it's ok to not paint her finger/toe nails or properly fix her hair anymore(she used to). How do I tell her these ...
A. 8 May 2010: She's reached a point of security - you lvoe her, so she doesn't have to impress you anymore. How bad is the situation though? I mean, not eating healthily, not washing, is really bad for her not to mention a massive turn off. But if she's just not ... (read in full...)
He says he needs to be with his friends but then texts me saying he's bored!
Q. every few weekends my boyfriend will go out clubbing/hang out with his friends and he will text me halfway through the night asking to see me and that he wants to hang with me. he tells me he needs to see his friends but why does he text me asking ...
A. 8 May 2010: Maybe he spends time with his friends that he doesn't enjoy because he feels it's his duty as a friend. Or perhaps they are giving him a hard time. Tell him you're concerned that he's not having fun with them and ask him why, this way you don't ... (read in full...)
Do I forget about my fantasy of my wife having sex with another man?
Q. i have been married 3years, and from past 2years i m having a strange fantasy of watching my wife having sex with other man. my wife has sometimes flirted with other man in-front of me to support this idea.... but this growing with time. i love her, ...
A. 8 May 2010: Fantasies like this, when made a reality, can often go horribly wrong. E.g. she could think she's in love with someone else, you could become jealous overnight, she could catch something/get pregnant off the other person, the other person may ... (read in full...)
I can't stop masturbating!
Q. i carnt stop masturbating! i do it all the time every day. i dont know what to do to get my mind off sex and masturbation...
A. 8 May 2010: Is this because you are bored/have a lot of spare time, or is it something else e.g. you recently came out of a sexual relationship? Once it stops, sex is very easy to miss!!!
Maybe you should aim to masterbate one less time every day until yo... (read in full...)
Husband accused me of cheating but I haven't
Q. Well I have a problem and need some advice. My husband and I have been together 5 years And have 2 kids. Well he accused me of cheating on him yesterday while I was at work and I have never honestly even had thoughts about it it took a comment out ...
A. 8 May 2010: Come right out with him and say to him:
What have I done that makes you think I've cheated?
When he can't come up with anything, he'll realise how stupid this all sounds and will hopefully let it settle. If not have a talk to this mate of his... (read in full...)
Our date's tomorrow and I don't know what's happening!
Q. Alright, so I asked this girl out about a week ago and our date is coming up. We've been talking all week at school and through texting a lot. She really seemed like she liked me. Then, two days ago I texted her saying "hey". She didn't respond. ...
A. 8 May 2010: Ask her when she's pree to meet up again. If she wants to, she'll give you a date, sooner or later. If she doesn't give you any date, then I'd move on unless she happens to make another move =]... (read in full...)
Why is this girl such a bully to me?
Q. basically this girl who is also my friend keeps debating with me on every single issue i say and will always take the opposite side. she keeps hitting and poking me even when i tell her to stop. and takes my stuff and puts it in her jeans pocket ...
A. 8 May 2010: Either she's just mean and looking for a victim, or she has a messed up way of showing an interest. Usually bullies are looking for a reaction, so if you just act like you don't care, then she'll stop. If she happens to like you and carries on, tell ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I've climaxed?
Q. Hey guys I'm 13 and i masturbate a lot but I'm not sure if i have had a orgasm yet. i cant ask my mum because she doesn't know that i masturbate anyways. can someone help me?...
A. 8 May 2010: You'll get a sort of electric (and AMAZING) feeling running through your whole body, and your muscles will tense and your back will arch. Well, that's what happens to me, I assume it's the same for other girls =]... (read in full...)
Girls and sexual peak
Q. Why can't women reach their sexual heith at 18 like guys instead of 40! I hate it! (Im a virgin.)...
A. 3 May 2010: Sorry mate, that's just the way we're made. It's pretty bad for us too when we're craving sex and our partner is snoring away...
And btw it's 20 for guys and 35 for girls.... (read in full...)
Have these websites got their facts right?
Q. Hey just a quick question regarding the contraceptive pill. Im on the 21 day contraceptive pill yasmin, and on the NHS website, netdoctor, and the fpa (family planning association) and any other information websites on the yasmin pill all say tha...
A. 3 May 2010: The NHS website would not publish anything deemed to be incorrect. However, if pregnancy is not a risk you can afford to take, then follow the precautions in the packet purely for your own peace of mind =]... (read in full...)
What does a wet vagina mean?
Q. when my girlfriend and i have intercourse without a condom(dont worry were adults and shes on the pill, were careful) she gets wet before we have intercourse, she gets wet while we kiss and make out but when i'm in her and penetrate her nice and ...
A. 3 May 2010: It's a natural lubricant. If your vagina's too dry then sex is really painful! The lubricant is secreted during foreplay and that's why arousal before sex is so important.... (read in full...)
Where do people masturbate?
Q. Hi. I'm not sure if this is an appropriate question or not, but, I was wondering...most of guys and lot's of girls masturbate. I just wanted to know, WHERE they do it. I mean like, in your room, the bathroom etc. 'Cos guys would need to clean up...
A. 3 May 2010: I like to hop out of the bath when I have the house to myself, get dry, wander into the bedroom, shut the door, flop on the bed and... yeah. It's the most comfy place and I don't share it with anyone else in the house! Can't really think I'd want to ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't let me give her oral sex and leaves her pubic hair ungroomed, I like it shaved. Any ideas?
Q. I've been married now for over five years. My wife and I have a great sexual relationship with some of the best sex I have every had. There are two things that I'm having trouble speaking to her about. My wife leaves her pubic hair ungroomed. ...
A. 3 May 2010: If she doesn't want oral sex, then she doesn't want it. Some women just really hate it (can't imagine why personally.) Has she ever tried it before? If not then try and make a deal for her to try it just once, as it's only fair. But if she still ... (read in full...)
How do I explain to a woman that I don't want to have kids?
Q. I had a vasectomy years ago, and to be honest, I'm quite happy with the decision. I definetely don't want to have kids EVER. But how do I explain this to a woman if I ever find one. Will she hate me? Will she immediately leave? How should I...
A. 3 May 2010: It's a tough one. But there are plenty of women who also don't like the idea of having kids for whatever reason, e.g. their career is more important, pregnancy could be dangerous to their health, they can't afford it etc. I think it's something you ... (read in full...)
I am 13 and a lot of other girls tell me I should have sex, but I don't want to!
Q. im 13 years old and a lot of other girls are saying that i should have sex but i havent gone through puberty yet and i heard that dry sex reeeeeely hurts and i want to lose my virgenity when im married to the man of my dreams what sould i do?!...
A. 3 May 2010: Do what you want. Don't let other people push you around. Don't break the law. That means waiting =]
It can be really difficult not to let peer pressure get to you, but maybe these girls are just jealous that you know exactly what you want to ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, she's 15 will the age difference be frowned upon?
Q. Just a quick simple question.. A couple of days ago, a girl i'm good friends with asked me out, we get on like house on fire and have all the same interests and stuff but her age is bothering me alittle bit.. Im 18 in a matter of weeks and she's ...
A. 30 April 2010: Some very old fashioned people may not approve. But -
a. You are your own person and can do as you please (within reason)
b. You've stressed that you don't intend on breaking the law.
c. You shouldn't care what people think about something ... (read in full...)
I'm very attractive and always being hit on!
Q. i am a very actrive female and all my friends boyfriends and husbands try to hit on me. I dont come around and that is the reason. It makes me feel good that i am beautiful, but i dont like the people who i get it from. I have modeled some in the ...
A. 30 April 2010: You've obviously got it, but do you flaunt it? Because if you do, people assume you're looking for/open to attention.... (read in full...)
I just can't measure up to the vibrator.
Q. My MASSIVE problem, someone please....help me. Part 1 : In the beginning.... I have been with this woman for over a year and a half and during this time we have had sex many times. At first everything was great although I was never sure if I e...
A. 30 April 2010: The sad fact is this is probably true for a lot of couples. Have you actually asked her what it is that the vibrator does to make her orgasm that you don't?
Some women just don't orgasm through penetration. Maybe the vibrator stimulates her clit... (read in full...)
Perfect relationship apart from the forced celibacy!
Q. My GF and I have been together for six years, I love her so much she is my best friend and I am hers. We do everything together, joke around around, travel, camp, hike, nights out in the city, you name it we do it. Everyone who knows us says that we ...
A. 24 April 2010: When you've talked to her about it, what is it you've told her? Have you told her about your feelings rather than just asking about hers?
Maybe you should see a sex counsellor. Or maybe sex with you two became a routine and she got bored. You coul... (read in full...)
Do women enjoy sex as much as men?
Q. I an always wondering cause ladies have different answers.. Do ladies love sex as much as men if not more?...
A. 24 April 2010: Of course they do. In fact, my personal belief is that girls have a higher sex drive than guys, they're just better at surpressing it. Some girls prefer oral sex to penetration but I'm sure the same goes for guys.
How much a girl enjoys it depen... (read in full...)
I just had a horrible "first time", or what should have been. I'm too hurt to move on, what do I do?
Q. "Wow, hun...You're so much smaller than my ex...I'm sorry." That's what she told me when we were just about to...yeah Then she got up, apologized, and left quietly. I felt so terrible after, I actually cried lol. We don't see each other anymore. ...
A. 24 April 2010: How insensitive! She sounds immature and shallow in bed. Because y'know, unless your dick is like 2 inches then size doesn't matter. It is what you do with it/your hands/your tongue. Your ex was obviously quite naive and clueless about sex. She's ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to go out with a 12 year old when I'm 16?
Q. Is it ok to go out with a 12 year old girl when im 16. No its not about sex thats completely retarded at this age. She admitted she liked after her mom told me....
A. 24 April 2010: I did that very thing and sorely regret it. I thought it was OK because he was mature for his age and we never got further than kissing, but because he was so immature, and it was on my conscience, I ended it very quickly. Don't do it =]... (read in full...)
How early is too early?
Q. Okay I am currently in a 3 month relationship with my first boyfriend ... still a virgin hes not .. im not sure tho wether i want to "fool around" yet he tries to but he understands that i am inexperienced haa but i dnt want my nerves to ruin it or ...
A. 19 April 2010: Well I got into things gradually, my first hand job on a guy was a long time before losing my virginity. But I was only with the first sexual partner for a month before I touched him. I lose my virginity two months after going out with my boyfriend ... (read in full...)
How do I get back my sexual desires for him?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 16 months now and going strong. We love each other to death, but there's a problem. out of the first year together we spent three quarters apart due to the fact that he's studying overseas. I have never done ...
A. 19 April 2010: 1. Try being experimental
2. Tell him your fantasies and get him to tell you his
3. Try using toys together
4. Try manual and oral stimulation as well as penetration
5. Have lots of foreplay before sex
6. Talk to each other about what you do/do... (read in full...)
Timing of Divorce & catching a cheat (UK civil law)
Q. *OP's own title* I have posted before about the fact that my wife is yet again cheating on me with a work colleague. I tentatively suggested today as she went out to meet a friend for lunch that she looked fabulous, and asked 'Who is the lucky man?...
A. 19 April 2010: Maybe she carried on because you said if she cheated again and you'd end it, then she cheated again and you didn't... She thinks she has you in the palm of your hand. Sounds like taking action is the only way she's gonna take you seriously.... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex, morning after pill, still no period! I'm worried about pregnancy and STI's!
Q. Ok. basically i had sex with my boyfriend for the first time about 5 days ago. We didn't use a condom and now i feel stupid and all my friends have lectured me, at the time he said he would pull out and everything seemed fine. I really liked him, ...
A. 18 April 2010: Pulling out is not a reliable form as contraception and some sperm can sneak out in the pre-cum. The morning after pill is only about 63% effective and that's if you take it really soon after.
You need to do four things:
1. Try not to stress as... (read in full...)
Could I have made her pregnant?
Q. Help! I'm really scared right now. My girlfriend and I have never had sex, but I went over to her house and she gave me a handjob and a blowjob. I came in her mouth, then we went to wash our hands just in case. I fingered her shortly after. She has ...
A. 18 April 2010: Well done for washing your hands and being extra cautious =]
Highly, highly HIGHLY unlikely that she's pregnant. She could be stressed or not very well or maybe her period just hasn't come for no reason (this can happen.)
Just to take the weig... (read in full...)
Is it bad to masturbate so much?
Q. I am 14 years old and i watch porno. i watch the type of porno that is called hentai or animations "mangas" because they usally have stories. everytime i watch it after im done i go and masturbate. i done it a lot lately. at least 3 times a day. is ...
A. 18 April 2010: This could be handy (see what I did there? haha!) when you get older and are having sex with a girl because you'll have built up a resistance which means you can go for longer! However, when you are in a relationship, make sure you don't put porn ... (read in full...)
Afraid to be pregnant
Q. Hello to everyone! I am writing here because I wanted to hear your thoughts on this personal issue. I am a person who loves and adores kids. I always wanted to have children - to be a mom. I couldn't wait till I would be a mother to my children a...
A. 18 April 2010: For a start, you should talk to your doctor about the risks you'd be taking by getting pregnant, and if your children would be liabole to need medical attention.
If you had kids and they got ill, it would NOT be your fault. Because that would me... (read in full...)
Help! I need some advice about my mothers controlling attitude
Q. Help! I need some advice about my mothers controlling attitude! I'm 26 and live at home but am currently house hunting so I'm hoping some of my issues will subside, My mum has a way of making everyone feel guilty and ever since I was small...
A. 18 April 2010: You are 26 and a grown woman, and what you do is your business. You can tell your Mum the truth and shouldn't be afraid of her. If she disagrees then tough! You know what is best for you.
She sets herself up for things like this to happen and moan... (read in full...)
Timing of Divorce & catching a cheat (UK civil law)
Q. *OP's own title* I have posted before about the fact that my wife is yet again cheating on me with a work colleague. I tentatively suggested today as she went out to meet a friend for lunch that she looked fabulous, and asked 'Who is the lucky man?...
A. 18 April 2010: I'm not trying to point the finger, but I've only heard one side of the story so this is only a possibility and not necessarily true. But maybe the reason your wife is having these affairs is because she doesn't feel that she's getting enough ... (read in full...)
Timing of Divorce & catching a cheat (UK civil law)
Q. *OP's own title* I have posted before about the fact that my wife is yet again cheating on me with a work colleague. I tentatively suggested today as she went out to meet a friend for lunch that she looked fabulous, and asked 'Who is the lucky man?...
A. 15 April 2010: First of all, how do you know that she is cheating? Because you need evidence to at least suspect her. What is it that she is doing that is making you suspicious and could there be any other reason for it? You said yet again, so I'm assuming she has ... (read in full...)
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