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*bonyBlossom
writes:My boyfriend works really hard and it makes him tired so his sex drive is lower than mine. We have sex once or twice a week, and normally it just happens. It's really easy to get me in the mood but not quite so much with him. Sometimes I'm horny when he's not, and I want to turn him on but I'm not quite sure how. I don't wanna seem too up front and then get turned down because I find it embarrassing. What's a really good way to turn him on without being too upfront? I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 I'd start giving him massages after work, very slow and sensual ones, to soothe his muscles and stimulate his nervous system. Offer up backrubs and neck rubs, also hand and foot massages are wonderful. You can kiss each finger after carefully and lovingly giving it a massage, and just slide each finger into your mouth for a lovely warm and sensual sensation for him.
I'll bet there are loads of instruction books or look at youtube for some inspiration and techniques, if you need it.
Tell him he's not allowed to move, he just has to lie ther and absorb all this loving attention. A little bit of that and I'll bet he warms up. If he doesn't, well, at least he's had a wonderful massage and you can always sneak a private session with yourself with him none the wiser, if you're all worked up!
Now, for some reason, I need to go take a cold shower.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (16 May 2010):
He probably made out with you because he enjoyed making out with you.
Men love all that closeness and cuddling as much as we do.
See how it goes and if not you can always take care of yourself when he's at work.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (16 May 2010):
EbonyBlossom is verified as being by the original poster of the question He can't really afford to cut down his hours and he gets so tired because the cafe he works in is always understaffed. I'm trying to help him look for a better job.
Thing is that I get turned on a bit too easily, or at least I think I do. Either that or I think I'm horny when I'm not. There's been times when I've really wanted sex but once it started I found I was less interested than I thought I was.
I'd always thought before that he only made out with me because he wanted sex, but maybe it was the other way round - perhaps the kissing turned him on. I'll try it =]
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (16 May 2010):
Just kissing is a good start because it doesn't have to lead to sex, it can just end there if he wants it to.Start there, and also see if you can get him to cut down his hours or be more efficient at work. His tiredness is 90% the problem.Good Luck!! xx
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