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*eauty V Brains
writes:I would Just like to know how many teachers actually fall a little bit for their students, this question is for male teachers only. Have you ever had a crush/fell for/had thoughts that your student was ever attractive? and has you student ever told you they had a crush on you? share your stories her please x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): i read your point about age difference when 21 and dating someone in their thirties, and the truth is that when you're an adult it is completely different.
Example: when i was a freshman (14) i dated a senior (17). I was mature for my age, but still inexperienced in dating, the opposite sex, and life in general. When i became a senior and was friends with some freshman i learned the differences that only experience can cause.
There is an ENOURMOUS difference between 12 and 14, 14 and 16, 16 and 18. when you hit 19 and you come across a 15 year old you'll see it too.
even a friend of mine who is 20 tried dating a 30 year old, and it was two difficult because of where you are in life. She was in college, he was looking to start a family.
The truth is until after you at least finish your education, age gaps are difficult, complicated, and can't be compared to later in life.
I am friends with a couple of my proffessors, and some teachers from high school.
friends and relationships are totally different. i'm friends with my MOM, and she raised me. Age is just a number in friendship. But more then that it does become a factor.
Now when a college professor is dating a 25+ student, though it's a conflict of interest, i can't say it's perverted. or even a young teacher, like 22 or 23, dating a student who graduated and is 18. Beyond that... i can't say it's right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): 1. My football coach married a high school senior.2. An old girlfriend married her science teacher . And he was a Priest. Dated him in high school for a year.3. In college, many students dated the teachers. Many wound up marrying them.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 May 2010):
If in his late teen/early twenties upwards seduces a young woman under the age of consent, then he is a pervert and that's it. It might take two to tango, as you put it. But there's no use in arguing with the law. Also, though you say that it takes two to tango, there is a difference in the mentality of some teenage girl (or boy) and a teacher. A big difference. At the end of the day, it's illegal to have sex with a child. That's it. That's what it is when a student and a teacher have sex. And the law should stand in the way, because if it didn't, there would be an even bigger generation of young women and young men who are used and abused even more. It's bad enough as it is. You'd have seriously dangerous men and women saying what they could to use and abuse young people. That's why the law exists. To protect all those teenagers from themselves. If it didn't, then it would be a license for all those paedophiles you've heard of and haven't heard of to use every young person they could.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (17 May 2010):
 I expect teachers deal with student crushes every day. I found some old links that might help you in your research
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-sent-a-love-letter-to-my-teacher.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-apologise-to-my-teacher-for.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-obsessed-with-my-teacher-and-feel-i.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-teacher-is-amazing-i-like-him-help.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-can-i-say-to-my-teacher-when.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/in-love-with-my-teacher-he-is-single.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): I did teaching for two years and I can honestly say no. If you are 13-15, tell me, have you ever fallen for a 7-9 year old? Doesn't that seem a bit wrong/sick to you?
Cos 6 years is about the minimum age difference between any teacher and yourself. No normal teacher is going to be attracted to a student, but there are some perverts out there I guess.
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reader, Beauty V Brains +, writes (16 May 2010):
Beauty V Brains is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno i do not have a 'crush' on any of my teachers, i just think its an interesting subject with different points of view. I mean we're just human, we cant help how we feel and most of us dont want to feel the way we do about someone at sometime. and i truly believe that teachers who like their students aint all perverts, i mean im friends or really close with one, why does the age difference have to be such a big deal. if you were 21 dating a man in his 30s, people dont have negitive comments bout you. why should it be different for teens. people cant help falling for someone younger than them, if you want the science of it:it aint some big old love story, all men and woman look for someone fertile which includes beauty, clear complection and such. its not their fault theres an age difference, i think all the blame should not be put on the as some might say 'seduced'. as they say it takes 2 to tango, i think if its not just some sex frenzy and its true love then why should they have a law stand in the way. its stupid people should be allowed and not shunned for falling for an older man...give you opinion
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): As an ex-teacher(a lecturer in fact)I have seen students proposing teachers.The teachers laugh about it in the staff room.The student ends up as a laughing stock among all the teachers.If we look young and pretty,some students are going to get attracted to us.But for me,I have always looked on them as kids.I am sorry I just can't think of them romantically.I never have and I never would.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 May 2010):
I know a male teacher at our school he dated a student. He was arrested and sent to jail and is now on the sex offenders list. His life is ruined. She got expelled and no one has heard of her since. So if you have a crush on a teacher and you think it will work out, think again. It won't.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Three years ago I was dating a guy whose Dad was a high school teacher in another nearby high school. He was about 45 and he cheated on his wife with a 17 year old sixth former from the school. They had sex in the cupboard in his classroom during school hours. When the board found out about their relationship he was sacked and I think she was expelled. It was on the local news and his son (my ex) was really badly bullied for it.Now they are married and he is pregnant. But by the time she's 40, he'll be nearly 70, and should he die when he's 80, his kid would only be 30 and that's too young to lose a parent.So, if you're in love with a teacher and want a future with them, think of all the consequences that you, them and their family would have to go through.
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