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hey :-)

I'm Amy and I'm 21 =]

I joined this site a while ago but I haven't been on here for months, busy with university!

I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now =] He is short and Portuguese and squishy and I love him and he makes me happy!

I kinda know what pain Is. I know what love is and i definitely know what confusion is! I also have experience of problems in the bedroom and can relate to many others who do too.

Not all of my relationships have been a bed of roses, and all of them have had different difficulties.

I always do my best to give a balanced and considered answer :-)

Yout can also contact me here:

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..Who You Lose Your Virginity To

This question has 13 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...

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She loves me and doesn't want to hurt him (boyfriend)!

Q.   I dont understand what it is like.. She loves me but she says she doesn't want to hurt his bf.. Shes confused.. but today his bf came to know that she talks to me..So its like everything is shattered right now! I was talking to her n we both were c...

A.   9 December 2012: I thinkyou need to point out to her that by carrying on like this all three of you are suffering. If she leaves him, he will be upset at first, but will then have a chance to find a better relationship so it works out better for everyone.... (read in full...)

I'm getting feelings for my married friend. Is she into me as well?

Q.   Ok first off I'm a single guy and this is something that just happened I didn't plan it. I have a married female friend I have recently reunited with, a few weeks ago she came to see me at my house to watch our favorite shows. She's always told me ...

A.   7 December 2012: She may well have feelings for you, but I wouldnt risk making a move on her as a. She might not feel the same way, and b. Stating the obvious, shes married! But if you dk both have feelings for each other it would be a waste not to act on them and ... (read in full...)

She loves me and doesn't want to hurt him (boyfriend)!

Q.   I dont understand what it is like.. She loves me but she says she doesn't want to hurt his bf.. Shes confused.. but today his bf came to know that she talks to me..So its like everything is shattered right now! I was talking to her n we both were c...

A.   7 December 2012: I can understand her frustration, as Ive been there myself. But if she doesnt love him, then she shouldnt stay with him, Not only because shes not truly happy but also shes making you unhappy and shes giving her boyfriend false hope and preventing ... (read in full...)

Can't talk to her without her getting angry, what do I do?

Q.   I am in a relationship and my partner can be easily annoyed and agitated! If I try and tease her or make a joke she can get really defensive and angry and that just makes me angry and agitated! I love her but it can make me feel bad and I feel that ...

A.   7 December 2012: It sounds like a total personality clash to me. You should be able to relax and be yourself in a relationship, not constantly walking on eggshells. You may love her, but maybe it isnt meant to be.... (read in full...)

Did he really love me if he got another girl pregnant?

Q.   i had a boyfriend for 8 years. while together he got another girl pregnant who is his classmate. did he really love me? he said it was all accident and did not love the girl. added he will just give the girl's request to get them married and later ...

A.   7 December 2012: It sounds way too risky. If he loved you and was remorseful for his actions then he wouldnt marry her in the first place. If he really loved you then he wouldnt have slept with her. And even if he did remain faithful to you, there would always be a ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants space so she can find out if she is happy

Q.   I am 22 years old,I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now.last night she told me that she isn't sure if she can be happy and I deserve someone who is 100% committed to me.she said she wants to take a 2 week break so she can hopefully find ...

A.   7 December 2012: I dont think there is much else you can do, because if you push her to see someone then you may end up frustrating her more and pushing her away. Its sad but I dont think there is much else you can do. Although I still think you should show her the ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants space so she can find out if she is happy

Q.   I am 22 years old,I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now.last night she told me that she isn't sure if she can be happy and I deserve someone who is 100% committed to me.she said she wants to take a 2 week break so she can hopefully find ...

A.   6 December 2012: In that case I suggest she sees a councillor. These issues are probably deep seated from her past experiences and are not easy to deal with. Definitely recommend it to her, show her this page if need be.... (read in full...)

I have feelings for my friend, but he's with someone else.

Q.   I am not sure what to do with these feelings that I have for my friend... he is going out with someone else, so I understand already that I should let go but it is very hard because my feelings were already intense before I found out. I have tr...

A.   6 December 2012: You shouldnt make a move on him as that could ruin what you already have. I think you need to change your mindset, and keep your options open, without forcing it with someone else.... (read in full...)

My best friend's younger sister wants me to pop her cherry and give her a crash course in lovemaking...but she has a boyfriend

Q.   There's a girl who wants me to take her virginity and teach her about sex with a guy. She's a friend, but not a girlfriend, and I'm unsure about how to handle it. I'm 23 and hope to graduate next May with a degree in marketing. I'm unattached ...

A.   6 December 2012: 1. Are you 100% sure you dont have feelings for her? If so then definitely dont go there. 2. Are you definitely sure she doesnt have feelings for you? I think you need to clarify this with her before doing anything.... (read in full...)

I'm not the happy girl I used to be, how do I get that back?

Q.   hii.. im in relationship with my friend from past 2 years... and after it many things happened in our life that v got frustrated with it.. i mean not with each other... but wat was happening with my own life and also his life.. he tries ...

A.   6 December 2012: Do you or your boyfriend talk to each other about your problems? Keeping them inside isnt helping with your frustration. If you both spoke to each other about your problems so you knew you were there for each other, you might both be able to relax ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants space so she can find out if she is happy

Q.   I am 22 years old,I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now.last night she told me that she isn't sure if she can be happy and I deserve someone who is 100% committed to me.she said she wants to take a 2 week break so she can hopefully find ...

A.   6 December 2012: You need to find out from her whether she thinks she doesnt deserve to be happy, or if she just isnt sure how she feels about you. The fact that she says you deserve someone who loves you 100% and that she wants a break suggests to me that she needs ... (read in full...)

My partner said I ruined his life!

Q.   Hi, I feel terrible and ill because my partner has basically said i have ruined his life. We got together a few years ago in uni and had been saving for ages to get a house together. due to him being a little hot and cold (loved me but didnt...

A.   6 December 2012: I think he just said it in the heat of the moment and didnt actually mean it. However I think you should tell him how much it hurt you when he said it. Just tell him youre there if he wants to talk, but dont expect much from him relationshipwise as ... (read in full...)

Did I take my daughter's happiness away? I think her and my new stepson have feelings for each other

Q.   Summer 2012, I got married for the first time at age 52 to a 37 year old woman. We met on eHarmony Spring 2012 and things just clicked. She was married once before for two years and has a 20 year old son. I have a 19 year old daughter. My issue is ...

A.   6 December 2012: I can understand feelings on all sides here. It may well have been very awkward for your daughter and stepson when you married your wife, but if you and your wife love each other then the marriage was worth it. What you should make clear to your ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is respectful and caring but indifferent about love, what's the story?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. Whilst he behaves is respectful and caring, he never tells me he loves me, in fact he tells me he doesn't. Should I accept this at face value and leave, or I should be a little patient with him? He ...

A.   30 November 2012: In your case, i would keep your options open and not expect anything serious from him. If you are uncomfortable with keeping it casual then i would leave.... (read in full...)

Could I have Vulvar Vestibulitis? Does anyone else know what this can be?

Q.   Ever since I first had sex nearly four years ago, I have had a burning pain at the entrance of the vagina during sex and have sometimes had to ask my boyfriend to stop. I have even had pain inserting tampons sometimes. I was on the combined pil...

A.   5 October 2012: Just another question to honeypie, what protection can you get from oral sex? And I've been tested for std s since I've been with my current boyfriend.... (read in full...)

Could I have Vulvar Vestibulitis? Does anyone else know what this can be?

Q.   Ever since I first had sex nearly four years ago, I have had a burning pain at the entrance of the vagina during sex and have sometimes had to ask my boyfriend to stop. I have even had pain inserting tampons sometimes. I was on the combined pil...

A.   5 October 2012: And also to clarify this nurse specialists in sexual health and family planning... (read in full...)

Could I have Vulvar Vestibulitis? Does anyone else know what this can be?

Q.   Ever since I first had sex nearly four years ago, I have had a burning pain at the entrance of the vagina during sex and have sometimes had to ask my boyfriend to stop. I have even had pain inserting tampons sometimes. I was on the combined pil...

A.   5 October 2012: I don't have unprotected sex and never have, that's why i don't want to come off the pill. For years i just put it Down to not being stretched enough as we don't have sex very often. I've spoken to my nurse about it in vague detail, which is why i ... (read in full...)

What should I do? I want to talk to her on Facebook, but I'm afraid it's too late and I've lost my chance

Q.   Ok, so, this summer I met this amazing girl, who, as it turned out, was a lesbian. She developed a crush on me - everyone knew about it even though nothing was ever said. She would stop and stare at me as I walked past, get incredibly nervous ...

A.   5 October 2012: If you live in different countries, then i wouldn't hold out much hope of a relationship working,as LDRs generally have a lot of problems and do not last. But you can learn from this experience so that you don't make the same mistake with the next ... (read in full...)

Why has he stopped "liking" and commenting on my FB? Does he like me a bit? or am I reading too much into it now?

Q.   So last semester "X" knew me through my friend but we never hang out. Over the summer he would "like" and comment on my Face Book a lot AND I would comment back. It must have been quite frequent because my friend and my Ex bf noticed him. My Ex ...

A.   5 October 2012: This is what I think. Reckon he was either confused, or had a bit of a crush on you.But when it started going further he probably sensed that you liked him more than he liked you and maybe felt like he had been leading you on a bit too much, which ... (read in full...)

I cheated on my workaholic wife -- now what?

Q.   I have been married for 10 years and have two kids under the age of 10. My wife recently was made an executive at her fortune 200 firm and has not been home much since. She leaves for work around 7 AM and most evenings she gets home after 10 PM. ...

A.   5 October 2012: I think this has got to be one of the most difficult situations I have read on here. You really need to talk to her and tell her how this makes you feel because she is probably so wrapped up in her work that she doesn't even notice how this aff... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wont give me oral sex anymore

Q.   my girlfriend and i have nearly broke up over a debate we had . i asked why she will not give me oral sex anymore and she said it was because my penis is wet from precum so its disgusting . in te past she has given me oral sex alot but now its been ...

A.   16 July 2012: That's weird and a little bit mean of her. Precum is completely normal and not disgusting or harmful at all. You could suggest putting a condom on first. But I am intrigued to know if you are having any other problems in your relationship as this is ... (read in full...)

I'm having issues with oral sex. Help!

Q.   Hi everyone. This is really embaressing. My guy wants me to deep throat him but he's too big! I literally just choke and have to stop and go back to just normal oral. Will the gagging go away with practise or is he doomed to never be satisfied? ...

A.   16 July 2012: If it's uncomfortable then he doesn't have the right to make you do it. You can 'train' your gag reflex over time e.g. with a banana by gradually inserting it a little further every time, if you choose to, but he can't make you if you don't. It's up ... (read in full...)

I didn't bleed but it really hurt. How do I know if my hymen was broken?

Q.   My boyfriend was fingering me and it really hurt, but I never bled. Did I break my hymen? How can I check?...

A.   16 July 2012: It can be impossible to tell. Loads of girls break their hymen through activities like sport and dancing, or inserting a tampon. Some girls never even have a hymen in the first place - I never had one. If you are a virgin or if he was a bit rough ... (read in full...)

How do I make him break up with me instead?

Q.   My love life is crazy now. I met a guy and i really like him and he loves me but we have a long distance relationship and i think i have gotten over him i promised him i would not break his heart. How do i make him break up with me instead?...

A.   16 July 2012: You shouldn't stay with someone if you don't love them - it's stopping both of you from finding someone who does love you back. It's not fair to try and put him off you, so if you tell him the truth he will respect your honesty.... (read in full...)

Our sex life is a shambles

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. I'm 20 and he's 23. In all other respects our relationship is great but it's just the sex life that is a mess. I'll give you a bit of background on our sex lives before we were ...

A.   27 April 2012: Thanks for the advice. In all honesty, I'm glad you all said what I was thinking. I think deep down I knew I needed to take the plunge, I guess I've just been too scared to do it in case it doesn't work. The other problem is that I can't tell him ... (read in full...)

Girfriend has not orgasmed, am I doing something wrong?

Q.   I have had sex with my gf three times and fingered her millions of times but not once has she orgasim ,should i do it longer ? My gf said her playing with my penis turns her on, is this a good thing ?...

A.   27 April 2012: Lots of girls can't reach orgasm from penetration alone, so try plenty of clitoral stimulation. Make sure she's fully in the mood and use lots of water based lube if you have too. Ask her to tell you her likes and dislikes in the bedroom and ... (read in full...)

I love my girlfriend but I am attracted to others!

Q.   Hello everyone, I have been in a relationship for the past 5 months with a wonderful girl. She is attractive, works hard, cares about me immensely, and pretty much matches everything I had pictured I wanted in a girl. However recently, I have...

A.   7 February 2012: I think this happens to a lot of couples. Sometimes I think this is how my boyfriend feels about me... Although, quite honestly, I kind of do the same as well. When you settle into a relationship it takes more to keep it fresh and exciting. Try ... (read in full...)

I'm very insecure about fiance's porn useage!

Q.   I have become very insecure about my fiance's porn usage. We have been together for over a year and are very much in love. I am pretty much always up for sex because I have a very high sex drive. I am always trying new things with him, try to ...

A.   7 February 2012: You need to talk to him again. He needs to know how much it bothers you and how it makes you feel about yourself. Ask him totally honest questions about why he doesn't want sex as often and if he prefers watching porn. If there's a problem or he ... (read in full...)

Which guy do I choose?

Q.   Please help. Which guy do I choose ? Hi long story so I will try to make it short. I have been seeing this guy from another state and he drives up to see me on the weekends . It has only been 3 weeks of seeing each other but we can't keep our hands ...

A.   7 February 2012: If you're not attracted to the old school friend, then that pretty much rules him out - at least for now. I would just carry on seeing him as a friend and see if any feelings towards him spring up. As for the other guy - what is he looking for? Does ... (read in full...)

I'm off the pill but we are still having trouble in and out of the bedroom. Is there anything I can do?

Q.   I have had a lot of troubles in the bedroom with my boyfriend. It has been going on for a few months. When i decided to go off the pill, because it was affecting me negatively emotionally and healthwise.. and it also took away all urges to eve...

A.   13 December 2011: When you lost your sexual appetite, he probably started watching porn a lot because he didn't want to pressure you into sex when you didn't want to. This may well have led to sex addiction. Now when you have sex, he is probably incredibly anxious ... (read in full...)

It's not like I'm asking for sex constantly, just a show of affection, and my Gf doesn't even do that!

Q.   PleAse help. Hi there I'm having a huge problem in my relationship. My girlfriend of 8 mionths just doesnt seem to want to show me affection. She begrudgingly let's me hug her have sex with her and will let me kiss her if she's feeling generous but ...

A.   13 December 2011: That sounds mean. But I have to ask, as there are two sides to every story, does she NEVER kiss/hug/sleep with you? Or are you quite clingy? Because you could be, without realising it. Maybe she feels embarrassed by PDAs. Some people are - I know... (read in full...)

I keep falling for guys who are gay?

Q.   I have a problem- I'm in my 30s, female, and I keep falling for guys who are charming, smart - and guess what! Gay! No, these are not the "obvious" ones. They tend to be the gentlemanly reserved kind who wears sweaters, and who are sincere and ...

A.   13 December 2011: There are plenty of straight guys that aren't aggressive! But again, reading your second followup, I think you need to be more open minded about guys rather than finding someone who is 'ideal.' Don't 'try' to find a relationship because it's better ... (read in full...)

I keep falling for guys who are gay?

Q.   I have a problem- I'm in my 30s, female, and I keep falling for guys who are charming, smart - and guess what! Gay! No, these are not the "obvious" ones. They tend to be the gentlemanly reserved kind who wears sweaters, and who are sincere and ...

A.   12 December 2011: Try not to be so closed minded with guys you date. Spend time with someone who 'isn't your type' and get to know them better as a person rather than brushing them off because of the way they dress or their interests. You also haven't said where ... (read in full...)

My bf is chatting online with girls... should this bother me?

Q.   My boyfriend has that game word with friends and all these girls chat with him an I read one an a girl said she was layin in bed he could join he didn't say anything bad back he just put lol an what? Should this worry me. Or is it just a guy thing ...

A.   12 December 2011: I'm not exactly sure of what sort of game you mean. Is it an online game? Or a chat room?... (read in full...)

I need opinions please? Have I been rejected??

Q.   I met this girl the other day when my friend took me to another friends house. We all started to play poker, and she didn't know how.being the great guy I am, I volunteered to sit out a few hands and teach her! Now, we began talking as I'm doing so, ...

A.   12 December 2011: Some people hardly ever use facebook. Several people I know go on maybe once every fortnight! Have you asked for her number or offered her yours? If she rejects you she could just want to be friends right now, but that's better than nothing. You'll ... (read in full...)

I need opinions please? Have I been rejected??

Q.   I met this girl the other day when my friend took me to another friends house. We all started to play poker, and she didn't know how.being the great guy I am, I volunteered to sit out a few hands and teach her! Now, we began talking as I'm doing so, ...

A.   12 December 2011: Some people hardly ever use facebook. Several people I know go on maybe once every fortnight! Have you asked for her number or offered her yours? If she rejects you she could just want to be friends right now, but that's better than nothing. You'll ... (read in full...)

I can't understand why she is acting like this... Is she trying to punish me?

Q.   She's 21, and i'm in my late 20's; we're in grad. school together. She was obviously interested in me for over a month. Then, there was some petty drama (frustration--finals). After, she would answer my calls, but then be evasive. Then she started ...

A.   12 December 2011: That incredibly immature for a 21 year old! Honestly, if she's behaving this way I would leave her and look for someone more mature. Either that or ask her why she's doing what she's doing, and what you've done wrong? If she refuses to cooperate ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and my family hasn't talk to me since I told them I'm pregnant. How do I get them back?

Q.   I'm 15 and having a baby what should i do? i'm keeping the baby but my family hasn't talk to me since I told them. I want my family back, so what should I do? I can't do this on my own, they want nothing to do with me. ...

A.   12 December 2011: It would help us make an informed answer if you gave us some more info. How careful were you with contraception? How old are you and what's the age of consent in your state? Are you in a relationship with the dad and if so how old is he? What were ... (read in full...)

I am 15 but attracted to much older men. Is something wrong with me?

Q.   I want a real man is that so wrong? but the problem is i'm 15 and no real man would go for someone as young as me, i understand that i'm going through "changes" but I've always been more mature for my age and i find myself day dreaming about older ...

A.   12 December 2011: It's not a problem, but it's something that you know, realistically, can't happen. Loads of girls are attracted to father figures, and guys do often mature later than girls do, but if you dated a guy much older than yourself then he would expect ... (read in full...)

Its gotten ugly between me & my ex. Should I try to make it right?

Q.   my ex left me out of nowhere, then randomly a week later called me one night, because he heard i saw one of my exs that he doesnt get along with, he was going off on me saying "did you f**k him did you f**k him!?!?" i finally got off the phone with ...

A.   12 December 2011: I wouldn't bother. He was really nasty to you and what he did could be classed as harassment. It sounds like a classic case of 'If I can't have you then no one can.' I would just leave him in the past and get on and do your own thing. If you patch ... (read in full...)

Signs a guy likes you...or not?

Q.   What are some signs that a guy likes you? And what are some signs a guy doesn't? Please include body language, eye contact...etc. I need help ):...

A.   26 October 2010: Sounds cheesy but, eye contact is DEFINITELY a sign he's into you if he's making more eye contact with you than other guys you're friendly with. If he's self conscious about his feelings for you he'll probably keep looking at you and away again. ... (read in full...)

My husband doesn't want our third baby!

Q.   Hi I am 24 years old and have been married for four years.I recently found out that I am pregnant for the third time and was scared but excited.My husband does not want me to have the baby and says he will leave if I do.I can't understand how he can ...

A.   19 August 2010: Well the baby is inside you and it is your choice. If you are having money worries I can see why he is worried, but blaming you and leaving is totally unnecessary - leaving you is only going to make things harder financially. Why does he blame it on ... (read in full...)

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