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writes:i lost my virginity to my boyfriend who i have been going out with 8 months. however he will not give me oral in the bedroom, he has told me he isn't against it, he just doesn't want to. i give him oral, and he does pleasure me in other ways, but not all the time. i have never asked him to do it because i think that i will be embarresed- he has never done it to previose girlfriends either, i just want to know what it's like, how can i get him to do it?
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reader, ChristineAvril +, writes (3 June 2010):
 I don't know why I keep acting as an agent for "DoubleM", but he has written a masterclass in cunnilingus so get your bf to read him on the subject - you will love it when he tries all DM suggests!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): Things don't have to be all at once. If you did everything there was straight away, what would there to be to look forward to? You two should be able to grow sexually, don't be in such a hurry, relax and enjoy each stage.
As Ebonyblossom says, wait until you're both in the mood and feeling experimental, and ask him for what you would like or guide him to where you want him to be, and as Chigirl, says don't ever fake it a man will never learn what you like if you do.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Wait until you're both in the mood and feeling experimental, then just come out with it. There's no reason to be embarrassed. But, if he says no, don't force him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): If he hasn't ever done it before then he might be nervous he will do it wrong, maybe just say "I'd like to try it, don't worry I'm new to it too"
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Talk to him about it. And I mean not just a random comment, sit him down when you two are alone and you know you will not get disturbed, and then talk about it. Maybe he is just nervous because he has never done it before, maybe he is worried you will smell or it will taste bad? Talk to him about it and try to not get offended if he says he doesn't think he'll like the taste or something up that aisle. Simply offer to clean up beforehand. Do not use regular soaps, just use warm water or a soap specifically meant for that area of your body. And, do not expect fireworks. It is difficult to maneuver down there. Just try and guide him the best you can, and give him loads of positive feedback, moans and tell him how great it is that he tries and how much you enjoy it. Do not fake an orgasm however, that will not do any good. Just enjoy the experience and be happy, and maybe he will want to try again. With more practice and experience he might be able to give you an orgasm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): Why don't you talk to him when it's quiet or when you're both next in that position and ask him if he thinks there are ways for you to enjoy oral at the same time as each other? This way, he can't refuse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): Maybe he is shy about giving oral? Some guys are.
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