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| Latest articles: ..Who You Lose Your Virginity To
This question has 13 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
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My husband doesn't want our third baby!
Q. Hi I am 24 years old and have been married for four years.I recently found out that I am pregnant for the third time and was scared but excited.My husband does not want me to have the baby and says he will leave if I do.I can't understand how he can ...
A. 19 August 2010: Well the baby is inside you and it is your choice. If you are having money worries I can see why he is worried, but blaming you and leaving is totally unnecessary - leaving you is only going to make things harder financially. Why does he blame it on ... (read in full...)
How do I make my body smaller and my boobs bigger?
Q. i am 14 and i have small boobs (38A). i am about 5'6'' and i weigh almost 200 lbs. people always make fun of my weight. and my friends talk about how my boobs are smaller than theirs. most of my friends are C's and DD's. i was wondering how i can ...
A. 19 August 2010: To make your body smaller:
Eat a healthy BALANCED diet. This does not mean living off fruit and veg. This means EVERYTHING in MODERATION. No fad diets - they don't work. Try joining a group like Slimming World - one of my mates lost loads of weigh... (read in full...)
Help! I can't physically have sex!
Q. I really need some help/tips with this recent problem that I just discovered. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins and ready to have sex and we tried a couple of times already but he just can't enter me. It has nothing to do with me not being wet ...
A. 19 August 2010: It's because you're tight. He will fit, but you're gonna have to stretch, and more often that not, it hurts! Relax, use plenty of lube, talk to each other about what's happening and things will be easier =]... (read in full...)
I've taken 7 pregnancy tests and all were positive, but did I take them too early?
Q. i had sex like 3 to 5 weeks ago with no protection and im realy scared because 4 days ago i took only one pregnancy test and it came out positive so the next day like at 9 or 10 in the morning i took 6 more and they all came out positive but someone ...
A. 19 August 2010: It's not too early, most pregnancy tests are effective two weeks after conception. The reason pregnancy test results are usually wrong is if they don't detect the pregnancy hormone when it's early. But it's not likely they'll detect a hormone that ... (read in full...)
Will my parents know I'm on the pill?
Q. I'm 17,and yes sexually active. Not too long ago I entered a program at a hospital that my friend mentioned to me that would help. It's basically for teens and you get regualar check ups for those who are sexually active. Since then I've been using ...
A. 19 August 2010: I don't know the laws in your state, but in the UK, anything you tell your nurse is confidential unless the nurse has any cause to be concerned about your safety. She can't tell your parents. As long as you keep your pills somewhere that your Mum ... (read in full...)
Will my girlfriend agree to have sex with me?
Q. i am thinking to ask my girlfriend whether should we have sex, do you think she would say sex cuz our relationship is one year old...
A. 19 August 2010: Depends on:
How old your girlfriend is
If she is a virgin
If she believes in sex before marriage
Give us more details please =]... (read in full...)
Birth control is ruining my relationship once a month!
Q. My girlfriend and I are very careful about sex so we use both condoms and birth control. She has been taking them around 9 months and I'm not sure what pills they are but we are both starting to see some negative effects. Before both control she had ...
A. 19 August 2010: Different people are affected by different brands of pills in all different ways. On my first brand of pills (Marvelon) I put on weight, had 7 day uncomfortable periods and oily skin, on my second brand of pills (Cilest) I lost the extra weight, had ... (read in full...)
Why do single mums seek boyfriends or husbands?
Q. Why do single mums/moms seek boyfriends/husbands when they know they can't ever devote enough attention to them? 95% of the people here that response to questions re:step kids say that the children always come first, then why do they even try to...
A. 8 August 2010: It's a different kind of love dude, and most people need both. They need someone to share the great experiences they have with their kids, someone to look after them and to help with the kids. A father figure for the kids. Lots of reasons dude, it's ... (read in full...)
Questions about the pullout method and pregnancy. All advice is welcome!
Q. I just wanted to hear your own experiences and opinions regarding the following questions, feel free to say anything, i would really like to hear your answers. 1. Have you ever used the pullout method? (esp, how often?) 2. Have you or your...
A. 8 August 2010: 1. No because THE PULLOUT METHOD DOES NOT WORK
2. n/a
3. The combined pill/The jab (essentially the same hormones, but with the jab you don't have periods.)
4. Only before I was on the pill and I was a virgin at that point.... (read in full...)
Is she having orgasms?
Q. well here i am every day wondering if im am doing something right or wrong, its starting to happen constantly now, when me and my girlfriend are busy making love, if i would stop for a sec and take my penus out i see her go al shaking and shivering ...
A. 8 August 2010: A lot of people shake when they orgasm, I know I do. If it is an orgasm she's very lucky as most women can't orgasm through penetration alone! Some girls orgasms can get so intense that they can't take it anymore - ask her if she enjoys it when she ... (read in full...)
I don't like him watching porn alone! Should I just watch it with him?
Q. I don't like my boyfriend watching porn. It makes me feel like I am not good enough for him. Just the thought of him watching other naked girls and doing the nasty with himself makes me sick. Should I just watch it with him? Would he stop watching ...
A. 8 August 2010: My boyfriend said to me, that a lot of guys who watch porn only watch it to get them in the mood - seeing other people have sex makes them want to have sex, but once the touching etc begins, they begin thinking about their girlfriend, doing the ... (read in full...)
How do I help him? No matter what we tried he couldn't stay hard
Q. I'm in a LDR with my boyfriend of 5 months. The first time we had sex, he had trouble getting it up at first but was eventually able to get up and stay up multiple times after. I figured maybe he was nervous because it was our first time or ...
A. 8 August 2010: The same thing happened to my boyfriend one time with me, he felt really embarrassed and guilty. But it went away and the next time we did it he was back to normal. Once it happens the first time, he gets more nervous about it happening again so it ... (read in full...)
Would my lady friend be upset if she found out I went to female massage therapist?
Q. I am talking to a nice lady who is a few years younger than me, and we are just casual friends. I have gone to a female massage therapist, for my back. While this massage therapist is very pretty and sexy to, it is strictly on a professional basis. ...
A. 8 August 2010: Your friend would have to be SUPER SUPER SUPER jealous and controlling to begrudge that. Firstly - it is all professional. Secondly - you're friends, not dating, so you can do whatever the hell you want with whoever the hell you want and you're not ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure that my female anatomy is correct!
Q. Hey so im a virgin but ive been seeing this guy for a while and hes obviously going to eventually want to have sex sometime soon, im almost 16 and he is almost 18 now...but i am self-cautious that i might have an abnormal vagina, i know that you ...
A. 8 August 2010: Have a feel and explore while you're in the bath. If you've started your periods, you know what it feels like when a clot comes out? Try and find that place. It's in between your urethra and your anus and it's not an obvious hole but just grab a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's job is ruining our sex life
Q. A couple of days ago I posted this question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-doesnt-know-how-much-our-sex-life.html After reading it through, reading the answers, and talking to my boyfriend, I have come to the conclusion that his job i...
A. 1 August 2010: We have missed them before. And I'm not bothered about missing them. I worry he'll get tetchy if I try and draw his attention from it.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's job is ruining our sex life
Q. A couple of days ago I posted this question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-doesnt-know-how-much-our-sex-life.html After reading it through, reading the answers, and talking to my boyfriend, I have come to the conclusion that his job i...
A. 1 August 2010: He is hoping to get promoted, and he is very popular with his manager. However we both know that a promotion will not happen in the immediate future. When he stays here, we don't normally get to bed until at the earliest 11.30, as this is when my ... (read in full...)
Is there a 'best' time around my cycle to lose my virginity?
Q. first time doing sex. i'm just curious and when is the best time to have sex before or after my period?...
A. 1 August 2010: There isn't a best time because you will (I very much hope!) be using protection. And any kind of protection, when taken correctly, is effective all the time. I'm sure you are aware of all the sorts of contraception availanle to you, but if you want ... (read in full...)
The guy I really like wants me to date his friend! What should I do?
Q. Ok, so I've randomly ended up in this love triangle kind of situation. A good friend of mine (let's call him John) tells me his best mate (call him James) wants to ask me out. But I kind of have a crush on John and am not really interested in ...
A. 1 August 2010: It is possible that John has sensed that you like him, and because he feels guilty about not feeling the same way, is trying to set you up with James. How well do you think things with James will work out?
You have two choices:
You can eithe... (read in full...)
I want to wait to have sex but I have urges!
Q. What's the average age to lose your virginity? I mean, i'm 14 and a half and have been thinking about this for a while. My two best friends are probably the biggest players in my town, and i know people lie about how many times they've had sex but ...
A. 1 August 2010: If you were 14 and didn't have urges, there would probably be something wrong with you! However, it is best to wait, at least until you've reached the age of consent. And of course it is always better if you are in a relationship with the person ou ... (read in full...)
Why is this married man even speaking to me??
Q. Married man in his 40s likes me? I'm a 15 year old girl and this married man has been chatting with me since last month. It all started with giving him pics of me in my bra and undie. Further more, I've showed myself on cam, but never nude. He ...
A. 1 August 2010: In all honesty, he just sounds like a pervert to me. Men that age talking like that to girls your age only want one thing. I'm glad you haven't sent the nudes. Don't get involved with this man again. If you are below the age of consent, then he is ... (read in full...)
Should I watch the old videos of my boyfriend and his ex together?
Q. hi ladies and gents, Im interested in my bf's ex, i wanna have a better idea of what she looks like and what involvement she had with my bf before i came along. I know he has made some movies with her and taken naked photos. Why do i fee...
A. 1 August 2010: Most girls hate hearing about their boyfriend's ex, especially encounters in the bedroom. Most guys feel the same hearing about their predescesors. Your boyfriend probably just doesn't want you to get upset. Remember, they split up for a reason. ... (read in full...)
High school crush lives nearby... fate???
Q. I recently moved to a new place with some friends. Today, I found out that my high shcool crush lives 3 houses down. I would like to say Hi again but I don't know what approach to use. She knows I had feelings for her in high school and I still ...
A. 1 August 2010: No harm in going to say hi. How did you find out she lives there though? You don't want to give the impression you're stalking her! However, do just go there on a friendly basis, and don't expect anything. She'll probably be a little freaked o... (read in full...)
He doesn't know how much our sex life is bothering me
Q. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21. We've been together for just over a year. We only have sex about once a week, sometimes not even that, or twice a week at a push. I want to have sex a little more often (twice a week every week would be great), but my ...
A. 1 August 2010: I had a brief talk with him last night about the situation. We got onto the subject of him being really tired every night and I mentioned how it got in the way of things. I mentioned how I'd been upset lately and felt like he didn't want to have sex ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know how much our sex life is bothering me
Q. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21. We've been together for just over a year. We only have sex about once a week, sometimes not even that, or twice a week at a push. I want to have sex a little more often (twice a week every week would be great), but my ...
A. 31 July 2010: He has had some issues at work that bother him. But he went for several months on the dole last year and that made him incredibly stressed but we used to have sex about 2 or 3 times a week then. He's staying over at mine tonight and he doesn't have ... (read in full...)
My friends are envious but I hate being so skinny!
Q. This doesnt really have anything to do with relationships but i am and always have been skinny, i absolutely hate my arms they're the worst, my legs are getting better. Loads of my friends think i'm lucky to be this thin but i would rather jus...
A. 29 July 2010: If you are so skinny without an eating disorder or eating small quantities, then it is probably genetic that you are so skinny. I have a friend who is just like you and she's 18. Firstly, do more exercise as it will build up your muscles which will ... (read in full...)
How long should a guy last in bed?
Q. To the ladies what's the least a guy should last in bed?...
A. 29 July 2010: Well ideally an hour or two but that's incredibly wishful thinking!!! My boyfriend has lasted about 15 minutes at the longest with me, sometimes less than 10 though. Try using the 'stop start' technique to build up your resistance. Mast... (read in full...)
Why are men always rejecting me?
Q. I always tell men am in luv with them and they reject me, why is this?...
A. 29 July 2010: You haven't told us enough about yourself, the men or what has happened for us to give you a good answer. Could you give us more details about your problem please?... (read in full...)
I really dislke Moms boyfriend, what can I do?
Q. Hello. I'm a teenage male and I strongly dislike my mother's boyfriend. I just really, really, dislike him. For starters, he's always around and I mean always. He's currently without a job and my mother is always helping him fill out one job appl...
A. 28 July 2010: I'd sit her down and make her read this page. The question AND the answers. It will bring it home to her that she is hurting you and that she needs to do something about it. She is in denial about her partner being unfaithful, so she is also ... (read in full...)
How often does a healthy couple have sex?
Q. My boyfriend says we need to have more sex, and I thought we had sex a lot (about 4- 6 times a week). I just wanted to know how often do other couples (do you) have sex? And how long have you guys been together? Did you have more when you started ...
A. 28 July 2010: I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21. We've been together for just over a year. We have sex once or twice a week. Some people might say this doesn't sound healthy at our age but I think it's alright. Our relationship is ever improving, and not doing it too ... (read in full...)
Teenage questions about sexual health....
Q. [Moderator's Note: 3 questions from the same poster have been merged into this one post] Question 1. Okay, so I take a shower everday, and wash my clothes on a daily basis. But my pants still smell around my crotch area. I'm a virgin, and i've had...
A. 28 July 2010: 1. This is pretty normal. Do you get a clear/white discharge? This could be the smell and this is normal - it helps keep the vagina clean. I get it every day. If not, then are you cleaning yourself properly when you pee?
2. This, to my knowledg... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't really know much about her own body, so what else might turn her on?
Q. Hey, from my past experiences with girls some like being bitten lightly or having teeth run across their erogenous spots. but I dont quite know what to make of my girl...the other day while exploring some things about each other I found out that she...
A. 28 July 2010: Firstly, your girlfriend needs to do a little more self-exploration. Maybe you could try mutual masturbation - explore yourselves with each other. Hell, if she's up for it you could even watch porn together! www.sexinfo101.com it has loads of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's dad died a while ago... how can I get him to talk?
Q. My boyfriend's father committed suicide two years ago. I know the story of how and why.. but I want to know more about him. Like what he was like when he was around and their relationship. But I don't know how to get him to open up and talk about ...
A. 25 July 2010: My boyfriend lost his parents when he was a kid. I guess he's had more time to open up about it. He told me about how they died but it took a little longer for him to talk about them. Don't quiz your boyfriend about his Dad. Just the random comment ... (read in full...)
Does penis size determine if a woman will stay in the relationship?
Q. Is penis size a major deciding factor on if a women will stay in the relationship, or leave?...
A. 25 July 2010: I don't think it's essential as long as it's not freakishly small or large. It's more knowing what to do with it than size. Knowing what to do with your hands and tongue can make up for a lot of it.
What is your penis size? Because I've seen ple... (read in full...)
Is 18 really too young in your opinion?
Q. Okay, so it's my 18th very soon and my boyfriend who I have been with since I was 14 has mentioned getting me an egagment ring more than once. I have thought about it seriously and I want to say yes but I cant help thinking perhaps we are too youn...
A. 25 July 2010: I am not against young engagement under the right circumstances. Firstly, you have been togetehr for four years, so you do stand a very good chance of being together for a while more. People change a lot during their teens but you and your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to kiss me but I'm not ready...
Q. hi, i'm 19 and my girlfriend is 22, and we have been in a relationship for about 6 months. well recently she told me that she wanted to kiss me, now ive never been with anyone before (whereas she has), and i dont feel very confident kissin...
A. 25 July 2010: WOAH. 6 months and not ready for kissing? Most people do that before they are going out! OK, waiting 6+ months to have sex is one thing, but to wait that long for kissing, especially at your age, quite frankly, is really taking it to extremes.... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin after our messing around session?
Q. Ok ive been trying to find an answer to this but just don't seem to find the right one. Well like 2 days ago my boyfriend and i were just messing around, and well he fingered me and then well it led to another thing. He told me he wanted to just f...
A. 25 July 2010: As long as he didn't enter you and do the actions of sex (the thrusting etc) then technically you are still a virgin. And although INCREDIBLY unlikely, there is still a chance you could be pregnant if he maybe fingered you and the sperm managed to ... (read in full...)
G/f very open about sex and I want to surprise her tonight!
Q. I have a very beautiful girlfrind . She loves sex with always new styles . She need a new things every time . She made many things . She like neighbors to hear us when making sex . She likes to make sex in open areas . Now I need to surprise her ...
A. 25 July 2010: Take her somewhere interesting! Maybe you could go down the beach, have sex on the sand, under the pier, maybe even in the sea! On top of an apartment block?... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's dad walked in on us during oral sex, kicked me out and now she wants me to apologize to her dad!
Q. I am 18 and my girlfriend will be 18 next month, we have been dating for 6 months. Her dad is a total hard ass, he is beyond over protective and he hates me jsut because I am dating his daughter. Afew nights ago we were in her basement fooling ...
A. 24 July 2010: He doesn't need an apology, at least just from you, as a. neither of you have actually done anything wrong, and b. it takes two to tango, and I don't get the impression that she made much effort in stopping you from going down on her! Secondly, does ... (read in full...)
My dad is going to press charges against my 21 year old boyfriend!
Q. i am in a relationship with a 21 year old guy, and im only 16, i had kept this away from my parents but one night they heard me talking on the phone with him, and they asked my sisters who it was and they told my dad i had a 21 year old boyfriend. ...
A. 24 July 2010: What is the age of consent? Because if you are over it and have been since you got together, then he can't be punished as he has committed no crime. However, maybe you need to talk to your parents and tell them that you have been responsible. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Sex has become nothing but a chore for me!
Q. My libido has disappeared and this has been getting worse for the last 3 years - since last child born. I now feel guilty for not doing it, and guilty when I do it as I am clearly not enjoying it as much as I or my husband would like me to - it ...
A. 23 July 2010: May I ask what contraception you are using? As some brands of pill can decrease libido in some of the patients that take it. It could also be caused by an insecurity that you may have - either about your body, or your love life. It could also be ... (read in full...)
How can I have sex with a girl without a condom and not get her pregnant?
Q. How can you have sex with a girl with out a condom, but have sex like putting it in and out with out getting her pregnant? ...
A. 23 July 2010: Firstly, for what reason can you not use condoms? Is it an allergy?
There are TONNES of other forms of contraception. Google them. The vast majority are something that the girl has to take care of though.
A word of advice, as a surprising amoun... (read in full...)
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