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writes:I have been with my partner for 2 1/2 years now. We have been so happy together, but since I have been with him, all his friends one by one have just kinda ignored him through this time, I used to be friends with them all on face book so it was all great that we all got along. But they all started getting so distant, for his birthday i tried contacting each and every one of them so we could make it a great day/nighht for him with his mates , but they never replied, or just said it was too far to travel (only an hour away). Any way he was getting really down after that and started searching for other friends on face book. He was all exited to tell me he had been catching up with an old friend he knew since they were 13 (now 20) He was 16 at the time. He said they used to just chat online all night or phone each other, kinda like a sister/ brother relation ship but on the net.So he says to me Oh Is it ok if I arrange to meet up with this friend and have a catch up and chat and some drinks cos he has not even met her before. OMG he said her! thats right!I got so paranoid at that point, just because she is a female friend.I was a mess the day he arranged to meet her for drinks, I could not eat, and was almost sick with worry that they might find each other attractive.Well he came back after the meet up and told me all about her, and said he told her all about me and the kids, so I felt much better.I have always found it hard to trust, due to past relationships, and I am finding this difficult to get my head round. He occasionly meets up with her after work for a catch up and drinks and he seems so happy that he has a friend again.This girl has also come over to our house and we have met too and the kids like her too.Should I be worried that this could turn out to be more, or can a man and women really just be friends? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Ebony
Yes your right he is really happy that he has a friend now :), I know I should'nt be worried, as he tells me sincerly that he loves me, and that everything he does he does for the family. (He found this house for me, him and the kids to live.
I have met his female friend and she is a lovely bubbly confident person. I am the most paranoid person lol, but I am getting better :)
One of my worries is that I am 32 years old and my Bf is only 24, his friend is only 20, so I get worried that i am too old sometimes.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (17 May 2010):
 I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 11 months. There is a guy he is really good friends with and I am also really close to this guy. However I have never felt any feelings of love or lust for this guy, even though I feel I could tell him almost anything. My boyfriend has no concerns with this to my knowledge.
Your boyfriend is probably really happy that he has a friend. Maybe your whole family could get to know her family. Then you'd all make new friends and you'd feel more secure as you'd know her better =]
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reader, Rosiestip +, writes (17 May 2010):
Hopefully you love each other enough so that this won't be an issue, but you will need to find out if he talk's to her about things he doesn't talk to you about. As long term partner's you should be able to share all of your relationhip questions.
If you need relationship advice ask your friends and try to find advice from relationships sites like: http://thecoupleconnection.net/
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