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| Latest articles: ..Who You Lose Your Virginity To
This question has 13 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
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How can I have sex with a girl without a condom and not get her pregnant?
Q. How can you have sex with a girl with out a condom, but have sex like putting it in and out with out getting her pregnant? ...
A. 23 July 2010: Firstly, for what reason can you not use condoms? Is it an allergy?
There are TONNES of other forms of contraception. Google them. The vast majority are something that the girl has to take care of though.
A word of advice, as a surprising amoun... (read in full...)
Missed period, Virgin
Q. I am 18 years old and have not had sex. My period is about 67 days late and I am freaking out! I have been trying to do some research on why it might be like this. I have been regular since I started when I was 14. I haven't felt stressed at all ...
A. 22 July 2010: Serious weight loss, or even serious weight gain, can make you skip a period. Sometimes you just miss them for no reason. It could be caused by illness or anti-biotics. Wait until your next one is due and if it doesn't come, go and see a doctor =] ... (read in full...)
I feel like I may not reach being 18
Q. well i have been feeling very depressed for a good 8 months now. my hair started falling out,i would get terrible migraines an throw up, wouldnt enjoy things that i once used to enjoy everything was like a task, i would cry every single night, co...
A. 22 July 2010: The fact that you have a dream that you still want to pursue is a good start to recovery! It means you still have something to live for. Good luck =]
Secondly, the anti-depressants ARE a good idea. I have a mate who had a lot of counsell... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin?
Q. Hi! IT's Been a long time since i'm asking myself that i was virgin or not!i still can't understand i haven't asked anyone yet.3 Years ago i had an infection in chanels of urine and it stinged a lot so i put my finger inside and when i pull ...
A. 22 July 2010: Lets define the term 'Virgin'
A Virgin is a girl who has never had sex.
Sex is a man inserting his penis into the girl's vagina and the couple thrusting/moving/pleasuring each other.
You have never had sex.
Therefore you are still a vir... (read in full...)
Sex day after period equals pregnancy?
Q. hi l sleep with my bf just after a day l finished my period l wanna know if there is any chances dat l could be pregnant....
A. 22 July 2010: OK, too many people are really naive about this so I am going to answer very simply.
-You can get pregnant at ANY point in your cycle.
-It is unlikely but still possible to get pregnant the day after your period.
-Get yourself on the ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and my mom's 42 year old friend has the hots for me!
Q. I'm 17 and my mothers best friend is a teacher she tough me as a privet tutor for some of my studies I took at school. She is always popping round to our house to see my mum however she confessed to me the other day that since I was 13 and she ...
A. 22 July 2010: NO. She is TOO OLD for you. I'm really sorry but it's fact - she'll have different expectations to you, and if you stayed with her you would probably never have a family. You won't get to have fun with girls your age.
Tell her very clearly ... (read in full...)
Is oral sex something that most couples actively and regularly practice?
Q. Hello all. I'm a 24 year old male, about half a year into my first real (and sexual) relationship with a girl that I love. My question is about oral sex. We have never done that in our sex life - we have stuck to regular penetrative intercour...
A. 22 July 2010: I can guarantee you it is NOT exclusive to porn - loads of people do it! It's not for everyone though - and everyone has a different sex life with each partner that they have. My ex and I used to have oral sex every weekend - however my current ... (read in full...)
I feel like I will never be ready for sex.
Q. Lately I'm afraid that I will never be ready for sex. I am 17 going on 18. My guy has never pressured me and always lets me set the pace of whatever we're doing, but I know he wants to have sex. So do I - I'm very attracted to him and he turns me on ...
A. 22 July 2010: Maybe you were brought up in a family that was not very open about sex, or you were not very educated, which could be why you feel dirty about it. And you really shouldn't. Lack of sex is actually bad for your health! You haven't mentioned any ... (read in full...)
Is it that bad to be a virgin, & why is it such a big deal?
Q. I'm 17 and im gay, but i'm also a virgin, i've never really been in a real relationship, which seems weird because if you saw and knew me you would've never guessed. but everytime i try to pursue a relationship with another female, when i t...
A. 22 July 2010: It isn't a big deal really, especially if you're 17. People use sex as an excuse to boast and make themselves feel good when they don't have much else to feel good about. Then when they boast other people feel pressured to do it too. Some people lie ... (read in full...)
14 and thinking about losing my virginity, can anybody tell me about their first time?
Q. i started dating this wonderful guy in April of this year. we're pretty young and all but we love each other. he swears he loves me more and i believe he loves me :] he turned 15 last month and i turned 14 5 months ago. we were dating on his ...
A. 22 July 2010: Firstly, what's the age of consent in Brooklyn? It would be better to wait until you're within the law, as if someone found out they could report the two of you.
Secondly, I'm glad that you're choosing to lose it within a relationship. Well don... (read in full...)
How can I stop my period cramps? They are becoming unbearable!
Q. So heres the deal. My past few periods I've been getting very painful INTENSE cramps and I mean INTENSE. I'll have to miss softball/volleyball games, practices just because of my cramps. They've gotten so painful, I've actually cried a couple times ...
A. 20 July 2010: OK, here's my periods before I went on the pill:
-Painful
-Made me feel sick
-Broke into a cold sweat
-Heavy bleeding
-Had do be really careful when I was doing stuff with my boyfriend
-Had really greasy, spotty skin
-My cycle was somewher... (read in full...)
A question about birth control...
Q. Hi! This is probably a little long , but I just am a little worried Basically I'm taking the combined birth control pill and have been doing so for roughly two months. This is largely because my periods were VERY irregular (a three or four ...
A. 20 July 2010: You can take your pill up to 12 hours late and it will still be effective - you took yours between 8 and 10 hours late so you have nothing to worry about. It can take a few months for your body to get really used to the pill (in a regulation/period ... (read in full...)
I think I am too young to have a baby but I believe everything happens for a reason, so maybe this baby is meant to be?
Q. Please help, we really need advice... My fiance and I are getting married next year and we live together right now. In May we had unprotected sex and he finished inside me. The next day in the afternoon I took Plan B, so it was in the time ...
A. 20 July 2010: I'm sure that, despite the blood, sweat, pee, poop, sick and tears, that you'll have a great time =] Congratulations and good luck!... (read in full...)
She won't have sex till she knows me better?
Q. Hello just a quick question, what does it mean when a girl says that she won't have sex with me untill she knows me better? does this imply she's after something deeper then just a 'one night of naughtiness?' or does it mean something else?...
A. 19 July 2010: Depends on how well. She's either looking for a relationship, or just wants to know how well she can trust you. Question is, what are you looking for from her?... (read in full...)
Help get me free
Q. me and my friend were drunk and had sex, and i didnt think anything of it. but now she is litteraly obsessed with me, and i dont have feelings for her like that. i cant tell her i dont like her that ship has sailed,and idk what else i can possibly...
A. 19 July 2010: You just need to sit her down, be sympathetic, stress that you wanna be friends, but that the sex was a mistake and you don't want to be anything other than friends. Sounds to me like she secretly liked you, and took the sex as proof that you liked ... (read in full...)
I used my mascara stick for pleasure and now I'm having pain
Q. i started to use my mascara stick to pleasure me i did it so hard and fast that i bleed and i keep doin it bt i thought it was normal because wen i first had sex i bleed. but now near my appendix (right side) they av started to hurt. wat shud ido? ...
A. 19 July 2010: You bleed during first time sex because it breaks your hymen. Any bleeding caused by events since then is usually caused either by an internal scratch or loosened menstrual fluid. If it's hurting it's probably a scratch and if it persists, go to a ... (read in full...)
What is Cybersex?
Q. everyone talks about cybersex...what does it do...whats the point...how do you do it...can anyone please help me i really need it please. thanks...
A. 19 July 2010: Not that I've ever done it but it's basically like phone sex - having a sexual conversation with a person on the internet, maybe looking at sexual pictures or watching each other on webcam, and masterbating. However I would not recommend cybersex ... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex in the bathroom??
Q. ok so me and my bofriend want to have sex.......but the thing is hes not a virgin and i am.......he wants to do it in the bathroom and idk if i could do it in the bathroom.........and idk if i want to do it with him or not.......how would we do it ...
A. 19 July 2010: IF you are SURE you are ready, get him to take your virginity in the bedroom first, just because the softness of the bed will make you relax more and then it will hurt less on the first time. When you have a little experience, try doing it in more ... (read in full...)
Sex doesn't feel right!
Q. when i have sex with my partner it doesnt feel right it feels like its in my stomach and is touchin my belly button a dont get any pleasure at all but i have a few times it just wont go away what could i do to help make this feeling stop. ...
A. 19 July 2010: So, you're feeling the poke? This is because your cervix hasn't contracted. And the likeliest cause for this is lack of arousal. Have some more foreply to get you more in the mood and then your body will be more prepared. Depending on the ... (read in full...)
How do I keep track of my period?
Q. I had my last period on June.24 or 25 .. Ended in about a week .. Anyways when will I get my next period .. I don't keep track so I'm going to starts doing that now :)...
A. 19 July 2010: It's supposed to be every 28 days, but some girl's cycles are longer, some shorter (before I was on the pill, mine were between 30 and 35 days.) Mark every 28 days on your calendar/phone calendar, or set an alarm to go off the morning you are ... (read in full...)
I find this strange but also erotic what should I do?
Q. my sister moved back to my house, not working just lazing around the house. she loves watching porno, we don't have any kids, but sometimes i come home from work early and she is masterbating. I find this strange but also erotic. what should I ...
A. 19 July 2010: The fact that she's your sister is a bit weird. But maybe, when you have a girlfriend, you'll get kicks out of watching your girlfriend masterbate to porn. When you're in a relationship, maybe you could try mutual masterbation?... (read in full...)
What I told my teacher was totally confidential. Is she allowed to tell anyone?
Q. okay this is more just about me getting closure but im fourteen and i got pregnant when i was thirteen, the day after my fourteenth birthday i told a teacher at my school that im close to and she tried to convince me to get an abortion but i said ...
A. 18 July 2010: She shouldn't have told anyone. Anything you tell your teacher is confidential, and the only time they are supposed to tell anyone is if they think you are in danger. Your teachers may not realise how bad the relationship between you and your mum ... (read in full...)
Did I sexually assault someone?
Q. Hey Everyone. Sorry that this is so long, but it’s been bothering me and I have to get it off my chest, and see what people’s opinions are so hopefully I can put my mind to rest. Here is my story as I best remember it and as truthfully as possible. ...
A. 18 July 2010: It's good that you've recognised this. You have reacted very strongly, a lot more than you needed to as most people would have just forgotten about it, and it is probably because of your depression and OCD. If this has affected you so badly, I'm ... (read in full...)
How to be happy without drugs...
Q. So I have dabbled in to just about every drug in my past. Only a few have stuck with me and those are marijuana and pain killers. I also drink on occasion. Anywho I recently quit the drugs and just drink on occasion. Since I have quit I feel like I ...
A. 18 July 2010: Firstly, nice one for getting clean! It's not easy so big well done =D
Secondly, as for the whole being 'boring' thing, this is because you fell into the drugs trap. Before, drugs were your life, and there was nothing outside of that. Now that you... (read in full...)
Did I sexually assault someone?
Q. Hey Everyone. Sorry that this is so long, but it’s been bothering me and I have to get it off my chest, and see what people’s opinions are so hopefully I can put my mind to rest. Here is my story as I best remember it and as truthfully as possible. ...
A. 18 July 2010: You are really thinking waaay too deeply into this. It sounds like a normal event to happen at a house party or something. You were probably drunk and the girl was probably drunk too and, even though it wasn't the most polite or respectful thing to ... (read in full...)
My mom found my birth control!!!
Q. Yesterday my mom found my birth control. She's very upset about it however, I am 22 and I don't see the problem in taking it. I am her only child and she has always been very overprotective of me, I don't think she realizes how old I am. I've never ...
A. 17 July 2010: WOAH talk about overprotective! You'r 22, an adult, and you can do what you want. Don't let your Mum stop you. Stress to her that you're capable of your're own decisions, for goodness sake you're in your twenties! And tell her that by carrying on ... (read in full...)
Should I have a circumcision?
Q. I'm in a little dilemma. I'm 15 years old and uncircumcised. I'm embarrassed about it. I don't know if I should get circumcised. If I decide to do it, what would be the right age to have the procedure done? ...
A. 17 July 2010: Most guys are embarrassed because they are circumsized. Unless you have an unusually tight foreskin, or for religious reasons want to be circumsized, then you have absolutely no reason to. Most guys are uncircumsized.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with unintentional biting during orgasm?
Q. I hope someone would share his experience and give me an advice how to deal with my little problem. My girl is blessed with very strong orgasms, but when it happens, she often unintentionally scratches and bites me. We solved half of this problem....
A. 17 July 2010: Don't use a gag, that will probably put her completely out of the mood!
I understand if you're worried about getting hurt, has she bitten you hard enough before to make it really hurt you? If so, then I'm afraid it's up to her. It's all very wel... (read in full...)
How do you cope with being apart?
Q. My boyfriend and I have it really easy. We see each other every day. Sometimes it's all day, sometimes it's all night, sometimes it's just for half an hour. But still every day. I've gotten really used to this. And now tomorrow, we have to spend a ...
A. 16 July 2010: Well I'm still not seeing him tomorrow, but instead of being busy, he now wants some alone time as he had a really bad day at work today. So I'll be worrying about him =[ Any more tips?... (read in full...)
How do you cope with being apart?
Q. My boyfriend and I have it really easy. We see each other every day. Sometimes it's all day, sometimes it's all night, sometimes it's just for half an hour. But still every day. I've gotten really used to this. And now tomorrow, we have to spend a ...
A. 16 July 2010: Well I've got a mate staying over tomorrow now. I might be going to the cinema with my Dad as well. And I asked him if I could call him tomorrow and he said "Of course you can!" I'm not gonna see much of him today but I have an incredibly busy ... (read in full...)
He hasn't apologised this time...
Q. When my boyfriend gets upset or angry over something, he sometimes takes it out on me. This is something he's always been aware of and normally he makes an effort not to do it and apologises if he does. But this time he hasn't. At the very beginni...
A. 16 July 2010: Sorry it took me ages to reply, thanks for your answers. To janniepeg, he's definitely a guy A. We are still young. And it doesn't help that we are both stubborn. He said to me "I asked you not to trace my steps for me, but you carried on, that's ... (read in full...)
I want to make my sex life more exciting, but I don't know how to make it happen!
Q. Last night we were playing I Have Never at a friend's barbeque. Myself and my boyfriend joined in the game. It was a bit upsetting because, even though I already knew most of my boyfriend's sexual history and experiences, it's never something a girl ...
A. 15 July 2010: We're hopefully going for a beach picnic on sunday night. And I'm not seeing him on the saturday and it'll be the first time I've gone a whole day without seeing him since God knows how long. Maybe then...?... (read in full...)
Do girlfriends discuss their lovers in detail?
Q. Another post had me wondering... when you girls talk about your BF's to fairly close or very close friends, what is the limit on discussion? Do you just say things like "he's great in bed" "he's very tender", or do most women go into more detail ...
A. 13 July 2010: It depends a. how much you are willing to give away, b. how your partner would feel, and c. how easily the subject makes the person you are talking to uncomfortable.... (read in full...)
Is my penis normal?
Q. Hi i would like you people to help me when am aroused my penis tend to bend towards my left side as in it is not straight am even afraid of making out with girls am i realy normal....
A. 13 July 2010: Yes, really, you are normal. That is all =]... (read in full...)
Is sex between siblings bad?
Q. i would like to know if sex between siblings, is bad or actually a taboo? and why? is it just because of society norms? is it because we have been born and educated with the thought that it is bad, even though we have experimented when we were kids? ...
A. 13 July 2010: It is a crime. It's called incest if you didn't know.
This is because, should one sibling become pregnant, the two sets of genes coming from each parent are too similar, and the child could be born with all sorts of disabilities, deformit... (read in full...)
Can alcohol and headache tablets stop the pill from working?
Q. Hi:) 2 nights ago i had sex with my boyfriend,I`m on the pill but i drank alcohol that night and i took 2 panadol tablets for a headache before we had sex,we didnt use a condom or anythin. Im worried that the alcohol and tablets would have a...
A. 13 July 2010: Regular paracetamol, aspirin, ibuprofen etc (panadol included) should not affect the pill as they are commonly used by everyone (but read the manual of your pill just in case.
If you get drunk and are sick within three hours of taking your pil... (read in full...)
I think I am too young to have a baby but I believe everything happens for a reason, so maybe this baby is meant to be?
Q. Please help, we really need advice... My fiance and I are getting married next year and we live together right now. In May we had unprotected sex and he finished inside me. The next day in the afternoon I took Plan B, so it was in the time ...
A. 13 July 2010: Personally, it was your combined decision to have unprotected sex, and you are both in a stable environment, so I think it is your responsibility to bring up the baby. It isn't the child's fault that it was created. I'm not totally against abortion, ... (read in full...)
My husband said he thinks sex is dirty, but I still want to have it!
Q. Hi, Iam 30 years old and have been married for 6 years. have 2 beautiufl lil girls.three year old and 2 year old. I have had issues with sex ever since i got married. It has improved with time, but my husband told me last night that he thinks s...
A. 13 July 2010: Firstly, you are NOT being punished for your past. There is absolutely nothing wrong in sex before marriage (so long as it was safe sex.)
Sex is supposed to be something shared between two people who love each other, and in this circumst... (read in full...)
I don't understand what she wants!
Q. i'm in love with 15yrs old girl, but she don't say anything after proposing her, she only say i don't want to say anything about that matter. and previously we just looking at each other but after some day she inform to her brother about me. so what ...
A. 9 July 2010: Did you have a relationship before?
And also, 15 is waaaay to young to make a lifelong commitment. Wait until you have been in a long relationship with an older girl who you love and who loves you back.... (read in full...)
Is my sex life normal at my age?
Q. I am over 60 and still have sexual intimacy on average once a week. Question; I prefer to 'finish off' outside her body is this normal and is once a week at my age normal? How much longer can i expect to be able to 'step up to the plate'?...
A. 9 July 2010: This is great and very healthy as it helps keep you fit and means you don't have erectile dysfunction! Plus you're never too old to have fun! Just make sure you don't sleep with anyone who's too young for you.... (read in full...)
What do you find is the best way to make sex really romantic, passionate and emotional?
Q. I'm just really curious about people's experiences. I've heard loads of ways that sex has been really orgasmic and physically pleasureable for people, but I'm curious about the passion and romance of it. What made you feel the connection the most ...
A. 8 July 2010: I totally agree with the spontanaeity of it =] I also personally, like being able to see what's going on down there! I think low lighting is better than pitch black, and then you can look down and see you pleasuring each other =p Obviously combined ... (read in full...)
He hasn't apologised this time...
Q. When my boyfriend gets upset or angry over something, he sometimes takes it out on me. This is something he's always been aware of and normally he makes an effort not to do it and apologises if he does. But this time he hasn't. At the very beginni...
A. 4 July 2010: He has plenty of chances to take it out on me that he doesn't take, it doesn't happen every time, which is proof that he is trying, and I've seen other seemingly volatile relationships working out. I'm learning too, I don't pussyfoot around him like ... (read in full...)
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