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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 7 July 2012: Hi. Probably you just need to find what actually interests you.
Do you have any hobbies?
If not, why not start some?
And perhaps it might end up making you an income!
You can't head in any direction, until you know where you're goin... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 4 July 2012: Hi. If you want to make stuffed animals, you probably need to see if there is a market for it, in the first place.
The problem with that is, stuffed toys are things you can very often buy in department stores, in the toy department, so you coul... (read in full...)
Will I pee or have an orgasm?
Q. I was being fingered by my bf and i felt like i had to pee the whole time will i end up peeing of will my body just have an orgasm?...
A. 3 July 2012: Hi there. To be sure, before you make love, just empty your bladder then you won't have to worry.
An orgasm can feel like you want to pee, but just to make sure, empty your bladder beforehand.
Then you will have no doubt about it at all.
Yo... (read in full...)
Is it true that the most attractive girls don't get married first?
Q. My friend has some theories on why the most attractive girls often stay single longer than the less attractive ones. Tell me if you think this is true, or if there are some major confounders at work that would explain it better. If all ladies ...
A. 3 July 2012: Hi there. It's truly impossible to answer that in one single statement.
Yes, men are attracted to all different women, for all different reasons.
Initially, a man and a woman may see each other from across a crowded room, and there is just so... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to get a job and drive , but I still don't feel ready!
Q. I'll try to make this as brief as possible... My mom and step dad have been pressuring me to drive and get a job, ever since I graduated, which was only a few weeks ago. Now, I took two weeks off from everything to de-stress, but now I've been ...
A. 3 July 2012: Hi there. To have a driver's licence is really convenient, and gives you the independence, which then equates to freedom.
And that's something we all crave, surely.
No longer do you have to ask someone to drive you places, it's just so muc... (read in full...)
I found a txt from another girl
Q. Me and my boyfriend were in his car, and his phone vibrated. i looked down at his phone and saw a girl's name flash up, i didnt recognise the name. i asked my boyfriend whos that. and he said i dnt kno, i dnt kno this girl. i read the txt and it ...
A. 3 July 2012: Hi there. The fact that it came up as a girl's name - or anyone's name for that matter - means as you said, that she is on his contacts list.
If he said he doesn't know who she is - he could be telling the truth.
Even as strange as that ... (read in full...)
I don’t know what to do because he’s ignoring me again?
Q. I’m friends with this guy from my A Level class. Back in March he asked me out and I said yes after the third attempt. I like him but I hesitated because I didn’t want to ruin our friendship that’s lasted 2 years now. After the date he said that he ...
A. 3 July 2012: Hi there. He is probably thinking like you are, regards wondering whether it's wise to take your 2 year friendship to the next level of boyfriend and girlfriend status.
It seems clear that this could be the case, for sure.
So probably, it mig... (read in full...)
CAN YOU FALL BACK INTO LOVE AGAIN?
Q. I met this beautiful girl back in November 2009. She was sweet, cute, fun and she made my heart skip a beat. She added me on MySpace and from there we started texting every day. She lived three hours away but I made my way to her for our first date ...
A. 3 July 2012: Hi there. I think you should always listen to that little voice in your head about what you really want.
That is your intuition talking to you.
Or your higher self - the part of you that knows what needs to happen and what is the best thing t... (read in full...)
I have been having an emotional affair
Q. Mine is related to an emotional affair. I am married andI work 4 hours from home. I have an apartment i maintain 4 days a week. There is a woam I work with, and I am her boss. I am deeply attracted to her. We have gone to lunch, have gone out for ...
A. 3 July 2012: Hi. You are always going to see attractiveness in others at times, even though you are married or in a relationship.
I guess what it really comes down to now, is what you want from this emotional connection with this woman at work.
Have yo... (read in full...)
Is this normal narcissist behavior?
Q. People who are Narcissist use individual as options or conveniences to satisfy their needs, whatever they may be. They get along with people pleasers who sacrifice their own rights to please them and let them have their way. But what about the ...
A. 2 July 2012: Hi there. Narcissistic people usually do only what serves them, with very little consideration for others' needs.
They want what they want, and they don't particularly care if it inconveniences others.
They don't set out to hurt others, mor... (read in full...)
I cant stand the fact that my mom and dad drink. It's not that they become violent, they just become annoying and my dad even ended up hurting himself!
Q. I know this isn't a relationship question, but it's more of a "is anyone else in this situation" question. Basically, I've always been against drinking simply because I deal with it too much from my family. I find that extremely sad. "Why don'...
A. 1 July 2012: Hi there. I guess the real question here is, the reason why they drink.
The answer to that is often a case of boredom, and a lack of anything else better to do.
It's also a way of forgetting one's troubles, and numbing any negative feeling... (read in full...)
I want your opinion on this email I'm planning to send my boyfriend.
Q. I've been struggling lately with a boyfriend who up until a few months ago was highly attentive and we spent most of our free time together, even though we both have jobs and are very busy with college. In the last while he's been choosing to see me ...
A. 1 July 2012: Part 2 - (Cont'd).
....And giving him his freedom, will make a HUGE difference to the quality of your relationship, I promise you.
The more I think about it, printing your email as a letter and mailing it to him, would be a far superior choice ... (read in full...)
I want your opinion on this email I'm planning to send my boyfriend.
Q. I've been struggling lately with a boyfriend who up until a few months ago was highly attentive and we spent most of our free time together, even though we both have jobs and are very busy with college. In the last while he's been choosing to see me ...
A. 1 July 2012: Hi there. You express yourself very well, and put your thoughts out there very clearly indeed.
And this makes it so much easier to interpret exactly what you mean, about how you feel.
So this then makes his understanding of what you say, ve... (read in full...)
How do I completely forget about her?
Q. right so this is gunna be very long i think hahaha but here goes! so basicly i get deppression (not very often at all) and i can feal down about anything petty and im on a bit of a downer at the moment, a girl i had a bit of a crush on (i thin...
A. 1 July 2012: Hi there. With the first girl who you casually had sex with and occasionally flirt with, there doesn't seem to be much going on there at the moment, does there?
She might just be wanting it to remain casual.
Don't text her anymore, as it s... (read in full...)
Do I leave the man I love and return to a life I hate?
Q. I need some help with a choice i have to make. I have no idea what to do so please help me. I had a boyfriend for a year and a half. Lets call him X. We were really close. I moved in with him and his family because i was having trouble at home....
A. 1 July 2012: Hi there. I think you already know who you really want to be with, don't you?
Is there really any doubt about it?
You have said this other man is married, although separated.
Before making any decisions regards going any further with t... (read in full...)
I never get a break from him bitching at me
Q. I don't even know where to begin. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years in December. We have a 6 month old together and are living together. I'm constantly trying to make him happy. He's VERY OCD, so I try my best to keep the house clean, ...
A. 1 July 2012: Hi there. You both need to sit down together and talk about everything, and work on some kind of plan.
Money seems to be at the bottom of some of these arguments, as he asked if you could bring in more money.
That indicates that not enough ... (read in full...)
I have been having an emotional affair
Q. Mine is related to an emotional affair. I am married andI work 4 hours from home. I have an apartment i maintain 4 days a week. There is a woam I work with, and I am her boss. I am deeply attracted to her. We have gone to lunch, have gone out for ...
A. 1 July 2012: Hi there. Perhaps loneliness is a big part of your problem, and why you began this association with the woman at your work in the first place.
I say this, because you mentioned here that you rent a place during the week, so you do not see your... (read in full...)
He broke up with me after 5 years, so now we are roomies.
Q. ** This is a very long, detailed story** Less than a week ago, my boyfriend of 5 years ended our relationship. We had a good relationship and seldom argued. We enjoy most of the same things and overall we get along great. Saturday, we w...
A. 1 July 2012: Hi there. I believe it definitely sounds like he wants you to still be in his life.
Everything points in that direction, doesn't it?
You are still good friends, and he says you can come to him anytime you want to talk about stuff and just k... (read in full...)
Is she going to break up with me?
Q. [Mod Note: You are not very clear with all these 'girls' which one is actually your girlfriend. Whose boobs were you looking at? Who did you walk home? Who was talking to a friend on Facebook? Please give each girl fake names to make this easier to ...
A. 30 June 2012: Hi there. She could be slightly upset about you looking at her friend's boobs.
It's not the real reason for her considering ending it though.
Her message on Facebook saying she might end it with you, was written before the prom night, whic... (read in full...)
What do I do about being stood up by my best friend?
Q. my best friend is a guy and we have been best friends for a year. we are really close but purely platonic. thing is that he's been coming round to mine a fair bit recently to chill out and we have a lot of fun. he was supposed to come round today ...
A. 29 June 2012: Hi there. Is it possible that you want more from this friendship than he does?
When you call him to see what's happened and why he hasn't showed up, he might be thinking of that as being more than just friends, and could be a bit scared off.
... (read in full...)
How do I convince a man I am serious about him and will not cheat?
Q. I need advice...especially from guys. I seem to always have problems with my boyfriend being jealous...I don't know if jealous guys are just attracted to me or if it is something I do or how I look. But it always happens. As usual, the begin...
A. 27 June 2012: Hi there. First of all, is this relationship an LDR?
You mentioned the last 2 were LDRs, so I am wondering if this is one also.
If you can answer me this, then I can help you further.
And if it is an LDR, well because of not seeing ea... (read in full...)
Five months? Is it too soon to say to her, 'i love you'?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 months now and i want to tell her i'm in love with her but i'm afraid it may be too soon as 5 months isn't a huge amount of time. I have had feelings for her for a couple of years now as we have been close flir...
A. 27 June 2012: Hi there. Because you have some history together as flirty friends before this past 5 months, well then I am guessing that you already know each other pretty well.
So with that being the case, and you have now been a couple for the past 5 months... (read in full...)
I fell in love with my one night stand
Q. l am a 30 year old guy and so intrested in older women . l even joined a dating site where l found to be so reliable and finaly got what l was looking for . a 37 year old woman , few hours after chating we had to meet at her place where we could ...
A. 27 June 2012: Hi there. People usually do form an emotional attachment, after making love.
It seems to be a normal course of events.
As the agreement between you, was for it to be a one night stand only, it looks as though she isn't looking for any kind of ... (read in full...)
I know I care too much about what others think of me. How do I stop caring about other people's opinions of me?
Q. Hello people :) this will be a slightly odd question to ask, but how do I stop caring about other people's opinions of me? I have become a much more confident person since leaving home and in the main am comfortable with who I am, who my friends are ...
A. 27 June 2012: Hi there. First of all, you can only please yourself in life.
Just so long as what you do, does not harm anyone else, in any way.
And to disappoint someone, doesn't count.
There will always be people who seem to disapprove of things we ... (read in full...)
I'm embarrassed to tell my mom and my G/f that I have trichotilomania, which is an impulse control disorder. How do I bring it up?
Q. I HAVE TRICHOTILOMANIA sorry for the caps, ive just never said it before. "Trich" is repeated urges to pull hair out. It's a form of OCD. I've been pulling my eyebrows,eyelashes, chest and facial hair out for about 10yrs now, and I've always...
A. 23 June 2012: Hi there. You said here that it started about 10 years ago.
Do you remember if any emotional trauma in your life, also happened at the same time?
Such as losing someone close to you - A close family member, a close friend perhaps?
Were... (read in full...)
Should I leave him? The drugs and drama are really bothering me!
Q. This is going to be a long one sorry, So me and my boyfriend first got together nearly 2 years ago. The relationship was a bit of a joke nothing too serious at first I cheated on him when I was incredibly drunk, it was just a kiss, however later on...
A. 23 June 2012: Hi. He does have a good job, so that's a good thing at least.
Which then means, he isn't taking drugs all day long.
He wants to be in a relationship and when he is, he doesn't stay faithful.
As soon as he is on drugs again, he apparent... (read in full...)
Have I just been missing out?
Q. Hello. I haven't posted here in a while really just because I forgot my password but I am back and I really wanted to share something. I don't really need advice just a discussion if other girls have similar experiences to what I have just had. So I ...
A. 20 June 2012: Hi there. I think that like you said here, the ex just wasn't the type to want to please anyone but himself.
His focus was on him - and not you.
And now, you have met a man who does have focus on pleasing you and he is obviously a more... (read in full...)
It seems like she spends all her time on social media
Q. Hi all I'm really struggling here and need some advice been with my gf 5 years but I have started noticing all she does is bbm text facebook Twitter and I mean from when I get home from work till midnight so I assume she does this all day, by no ...
A. 20 June 2012: Hi there. Yes, it definitely does seem to be a way of life for many young people these days, doesn't it?
Does your girlfiend work?
Or does she have young children to look after during the day?
If there are no children, well then it m... (read in full...)
Will he ever realize his mistake?
Q. So this guy used to be interested in me. Now he's not anymore. He goes from relationship to relationship where the girls either cheat on him with his friends, or leave him because they aren't that into him. Or they break up for some other dumb ...
A. 20 June 2012: Hi there. It sounds like you are doing all the right things to move on with your life.
You are keeping yourself busy and that's important.
I guess that's ok to text him - "Happy Birthday, Happy Thanksgiving, Merry Christmas".
I... (read in full...)
Should I leave him? The drugs and drama are really bothering me!
Q. This is going to be a long one sorry, So me and my boyfriend first got together nearly 2 years ago. The relationship was a bit of a joke nothing too serious at first I cheated on him when I was incredibly drunk, it was just a kiss, however later on...
A. 20 June 2012: Hi there. He keeps taking drugs and seeing his druggie friends, and cheats on your with other girls.
And it hasn't been just a "one off" thing either, has it?
It's happened repeatedly - time and time again!
And in spite of all this, you k... (read in full...)
Is it ok to tell him to tell her mother that if he breaks it off she will kill herself so she can get some help?
Q. My bf has this female friend that they hardly see each other because of distant but they text twice a week at least. She doesn't have any other friends and she got out of an abusive relationship with his help. She refused to meet me and when I ...
A. 20 June 2012: Hi there. As they are only texting each other, they are not really seeing each other, are they?
They are just friends, and that's all.
People who are emotionally disturbed as this girl obviously is, will often make a threat to kill themselves ... (read in full...)
My first female sex partner turns out to be one of my tutors! Now what?
Q. I'll try and make this as short as possible. I'm 20 and I am coming to the end of my first year in college (I left a few years in between school as I had a job at the time). Well I was out one night in town after splitting up with my boyfriend (The ...
A. 20 June 2012: Hi there. What seems like the only thing you really can do, is to walk up to her after her lecture one day, and after all the others have left the room, and simply break the ice.
I mean by this, to say - "Hi (her name), how have you been?"
... (read in full...)
"Those" dreams, of the ex!
Q. It's a beautiful morning here in the South Coast. I'm sitting here with my bowl of Frosties slowly turning to mush in the milk because something is casting a shadow over my Thursday. The dreaded dream of "The ex"! You know the one? Where you're...
A. 20 June 2012: Hi. Your very welcome.
Things in life always happen for a reason, whether they are good or not so good.
And the reason why, is what we learn from the experience about life and about ourselves.
And we do learn something from each expe... (read in full...)
"Those" dreams, of the ex!
Q. It's a beautiful morning here in the South Coast. I'm sitting here with my bowl of Frosties slowly turning to mush in the milk because something is casting a shadow over my Thursday. The dreaded dream of "The ex"! You know the one? Where you're...
A. 19 June 2012: Hi there. I guess it really depends on whether you felt good after the dream or not happy after it.
And perhaps yes, your subconscious was just playing over the details so you could process it in your waking hours later, and then realize why you ... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 19 June 2012: Hi. He doesn't seem to want to stop seeing her, so perhaps you need to take some action of your own.
Perhaps one day when he comes home from work, you could pass him in the doorway - and be all dressed up and makeup and hair nice etc. - and say ... (read in full...)
I always thought of her as a sister, but now I feel something more
Q. i have a friend, he is my best friend from last 3 years and he has a younger sister, she is now 18 years old and my age is 20. she always call me brother (bhai/bhaiya) because i am indian. i also don't have any problem she is just like my sister but ...
A. 19 June 2012: Hi. I think it's wise to ask her out.
Unfortunately chatting online and texting, can become a bit of a way of life and it can become a habit, which is hard to break.
The main reason being, it is so easy, as you don't have to get out of your ... (read in full...)
Is there a way for me to repair any damage that I may have done by sleeping with him too soon?
Q. I met a man on an Internet site. We talked that way for about a week before speaking on the phone. We got along great and after speaking several times a day on the phone decided to meet. A few days after our first date, I made the mistake of ...
A. 17 June 2012: Hi there. You can't reverse what has already happened.
It may not have done any damage at all, as he still talks with you many times a day now - so that hasn't really changed at all, has it?
If by "Cooling Off a Bit", you mean he isn't talking... (read in full...)
Why out of the blue did he text me saying we needed a break? I need closure!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now. Like any other relationships we've had our ups and downs but always work stuff out in a matter of time. We love eachother a lot, my family loves him and his family loves me, etc. ...
A. 17 June 2012: Hi there. Wow. 5 years is a long time to be together.
It's hard to say what is going on in his mind right now.
You have said there was no argument leading up to this breakup by him. And that everything had been fine up till that point.
P... (read in full...)
My friend is interfering in everyone's love life!
Q. hello well one of my friend seem to be interfering everyone loves life like i use to like her one of her relatives and she didnt something for him to lye about your romance ..anyway so i like a new boy that so happpens to like her he flirts with her ...
A. 16 June 2012: Hi there. It seems like your friend is very insecure.
Perhaps if she had a boyfriend of her own and it was a stable relationship, things might all change completely.
It seems like she is jealous when her friends have something that she doesn't... (read in full...)
I always thought of her as a sister, but now I feel something more
Q. i have a friend, he is my best friend from last 3 years and he has a younger sister, she is now 18 years old and my age is 20. she always call me brother (bhai/bhaiya) because i am indian. i also don't have any problem she is just like my sister but ...
A. 15 June 2012: Hi there. Why are you only just chatting online, why is it that you don't just see each other?
Chatting online is wasting time, when you could actually be together.
Even a phone call would be better than simply chatting online, surely. ... (read in full...)
3 times he cheated! Will I ever trust a man again?
Q. I've been on and off with the same guy for seven years now. We started when I was 15, he was 17. The first time we dated lasted 2.5 years. Then he cheated on me. Twice in one week. With my then best friend. I hated them both for a little while (four ...
A. 15 June 2012: Hi there. You probably should give up on him altogether, as there is too much emotional baggage there, and with the child he fathered as well, only complicates things even more.
I understand that you naturally feel you can't trust men ever aga... (read in full...)
Mission impossible? How to make friends?
Q. Any ideas on how to make friends ? Im really shy and after hi I don't know what to say and I really wanna change that I miss having friends. Help me please any ideas ?? ...
A. 15 June 2012: Hi there. You are probably still going to school I guess, so there are lots of girls your own age there every single day, so lots of opportunities to make some friends.
If you see a girl who looks like she is a friendly type and is sitting ... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 14 June 2012: Hi. You haven't said if this other woman is married herself - or single.
Either way, it's very unlikely he would ever commit to her completely, because look at what he would lose! YOU!!
And all those wonderful years you have spent together. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 13 June 2012: Hi there. Do you really want to put up with that?
I realize he is open about it, or you have said that he shoots his mouth off about it.
And who does he shoot his mouth off about it to?
Does he brag about it to you?
Or do you hear i... (read in full...)
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