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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 19 June 2012: Hi. He doesn't seem to want to stop seeing her, so perhaps you need to take some action of your own.
Perhaps one day when he comes home from work, you could pass him in the doorway - and be all dressed up and makeup and hair nice etc. - and say ... (read in full...)
Mission impossible? How to make friends?
Q. Any ideas on how to make friends ? Im really shy and after hi I don't know what to say and I really wanna change that I miss having friends. Help me please any ideas ?? ...
A. 15 June 2012: Hi there. You are probably still going to school I guess, so there are lots of girls your own age there every single day, so lots of opportunities to make some friends.
If you see a girl who looks like she is a friendly type and is sitting ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with this guy?
Q. Hi, Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we see one another every fornightly sometime weekly has he lives away with work. We get on great, I've met his family been invited on their holidays n...
A. 15 June 2012: Hi there. Trust is a big issue for him, so it's going to get in the way of commitment for him at the moment, until he learns to trust people again.
And that won't happen overnight.
He has a fear of being hurt, and this is no doubt getting in... (read in full...)
How do I ask him if we're going to get together?
Q. dear cupid, soo, there's this guy...who we'll just call ryan. he and i met back in january and started "talking." we both thought that we were going to wind up actually dating, but life kind of got in the way, and a relationship between the two ...
A. 15 June 2012: Hi there. It seems that you have a pretty good rapport between you, but there is still some emotional baggage you are both carrying around from your previous lost loves.
There is no doubt whatsoever that this is getting in the way of you and him ... (read in full...)
I could care less if I ever have sex again. Is it my birth control?
Q. Ok, so I have no clue what’s going on with me, so here we go. I’ve been with my hubby for 10 years, and we just had our first child last year. Fortunately we have a great baby, he is never sick and is always happy, and sleeps through the night. ...
A. 15 June 2012: Hi there. Before you became a mother, how was your sex life then?
Up until you became pregnant, you must surely have got into the mood for love at some point during your average monthly cycle.
Did you used to enjoy making love, prior to h... (read in full...)
Two guys have asked me out but I don't want to be with anyone because previous boyfriends cheated on me!
Q. Why does this keep happening to me? Is it normal? So I've had 5 boyfriends and I loved them all and gave them my all cause I'm just like that. My previous ex was my first love. Ive never felt that way about anyone else before. We were f...
A. 15 June 2012: Hi there. First what you need to do is learn to trust men again.
It is possible that you gave so much of yourself to these guys, that you forgot to give to yourself.
By that I mean that you possibly made their needs more important than y... (read in full...)
Can a Catholic date a Muslim?
Q. Hi i was like this girl at school but im a catholic and she's muslim is it ok if i ask her out and she said yes ? ...
A. 14 June 2012: Hi there.
There are two different customs here, and if you get too deeply involved with her, there may be issues down the track from her family.
They would naturally want their Muslim daughter to be going out with a Muslim boy, no doubt.
The... (read in full...)
How do you safely have sex twice in a row while using condoms?
Q. This might be a little TMI, but that's why I'm here rather than asking a friend. So my partner and I rely on condoms and we frequently like to go twice in a row. I get REALLY nervous trying to put on the fresh condom on the second time. There's ...
A. 14 June 2012: Hi there. What would be the best thing to do - and simple and quick - is once the old condom is removed and disposed of, get some tissues and wipe his penis clean of any residue semen.
Discard that dirty tissue.
Then wipe your hands completely... (read in full...)
Friend's dad has the HOTS for me! SOS!
Q. Hey everyone so I think my friend's dad has the hots for me. I know he's really friendly and that's what i thought at first. I spend a Saturday evening with my friend and then we went to her house to watch the game. When I went her dad didn't k...
A. 14 June 2012: Hi. I think that is a wise thing - to be cautious, around him - and keep all your wits about you, when you are at your friend's place.
However, as I was saying before, don't go to her place as often as you used to do. Ask her to your place mo... (read in full...)
I'm 14, pregnant, my B/f has left me, my parents are druggies and I live in a foster home. What do I do now?
Q. Hi I'm fourteen. Me and my boyfriend have been trying to get pregnant for a while now! i finally got pregnant. But now my boyfriend (hes 16)left me. I really don't know what to do now. we were going to move in together and start a life. How should i ...
A. 14 June 2012: Hi. As you want the baby, well that's all the more reason to tell your foster parents right now.
They will be able to advise you and you can all come up with a suitable solution.
They might be willing to help you bring up your baby.
The oth... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 14 June 2012: Hi. You haven't said if this other woman is married herself - or single.
Either way, it's very unlikely he would ever commit to her completely, because look at what he would lose! YOU!!
And all those wonderful years you have spent together. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 13 June 2012: Hi there. Do you really want to put up with that?
I realize he is open about it, or you have said that he shoots his mouth off about it.
And who does he shoot his mouth off about it to?
Does he brag about it to you?
Or do you hear i... (read in full...)
I'm 14, pregnant, my B/f has left me, my parents are druggies and I live in a foster home. What do I do now?
Q. Hi I'm fourteen. Me and my boyfriend have been trying to get pregnant for a while now! i finally got pregnant. But now my boyfriend (hes 16)left me. I really don't know what to do now. we were going to move in together and start a life. How should i ...
A. 13 June 2012: Hi there. As you are living with foster parents, it would be wise to tell them what has happened.
Out of respect, at the very least.
As your foster parents, they can advise you and help you as well.
I am guessing that they had met your n... (read in full...)
Friend's dad has the HOTS for me! SOS!
Q. Hey everyone so I think my friend's dad has the hots for me. I know he's really friendly and that's what i thought at first. I spend a Saturday evening with my friend and then we went to her house to watch the game. When I went her dad didn't k...
A. 13 June 2012: Hi. I had another idea about why he acts this way.
He is probably now wanting to find another partner, or at least someone to start dating.
It could even be that maybe, he is using you and your friend's other friends as a sounding board. ... (read in full...)
Friend's dad has the HOTS for me! SOS!
Q. Hey everyone so I think my friend's dad has the hots for me. I know he's really friendly and that's what i thought at first. I spend a Saturday evening with my friend and then we went to her house to watch the game. When I went her dad didn't k...
A. 12 June 2012: Hi. Perhaps the next time you see your friend, ask her what she thinks about how he talks to you, and let her know that you aren't very comfortable with how her father behaves.
And as a matter of interest, you could ask her if that's how he carri... (read in full...)
Friend's dad has the HOTS for me! SOS!
Q. Hey everyone so I think my friend's dad has the hots for me. I know he's really friendly and that's what i thought at first. I spend a Saturday evening with my friend and then we went to her house to watch the game. When I went her dad didn't k...
A. 12 June 2012: Hi there. First of all, I have a question for you.
Is he a single father?
Or does he have a wife and they are together?
And if they are together, where is his wife when he says these things to you?
To me though, it does kind of sound li... (read in full...)
Why do girls say they want to see me and don't try to?
Q. Ok so I've been talking to a couple girls lately even one of my ex's. One of the girls I'm talking to is a girl I met on a dating site awhile back and we've been facebook friends. I've never met her in person and have never talked to her on the ...
A. 11 June 2012: Hi. It seems that you don't feel happy unless you are in some kind of relationship.
It's really important to find a way of making your own life interesting, without the absolute need for someone else to do it for you.
You can't depend on ... (read in full...)
Love or Marriage? Which should I choose?
Q. I need advice: should I stay with my current boyfriend who I am totally in love with but he's six years younger and from a different world -- or find someone i can tolerate that is more serious, settled and ready for marriage? I'm going to b...
A. 10 June 2012: Hi. It's hard to really know if he is not telling you the truth.
He possibly is being honest though, when he says he is not ready for a relationship right now.
He doesn't feel it's being fair to you to keep on seeing you when he has no intent... (read in full...)
Why do girls say they want to see me and don't try to?
Q. Ok so I've been talking to a couple girls lately even one of my ex's. One of the girls I'm talking to is a girl I met on a dating site awhile back and we've been facebook friends. I've never met her in person and have never talked to her on the ...
A. 10 June 2012: Hi. Perhaps as you say, you do overthink things and read into something said, as there being more there, than what was actually meant.
Unfortunately, that's a part of being human.
We all do this at times, and read between the lines and someho... (read in full...)
Why do girls say they want to see me and don't try to?
Q. Ok so I've been talking to a couple girls lately even one of my ex's. One of the girls I'm talking to is a girl I met on a dating site awhile back and we've been facebook friends. I've never met her in person and have never talked to her on the ...
A. 9 June 2012: Hi there. Perhaps you don't make any definite plans, so they think you might be half-hearted about seeing them.
Why don't you just call up the girl with the daughter, whose father was having surgery, and ask how it went and if he is okay.
... (read in full...)
I've only slept with one person - Did he ever like me?
Q. Does telling a guy you've only slept with one other guy put him off you? Basically, I really liked this guy but I think that after telling him my inexperience, as he might see it, I don't think he's interested anymore. Do I see if it's potentially...
A. 9 June 2012: Hi. Don't be too concerned about it.
Just see what happens from now on, and if he wants to see you again.
Don't give up on it altogether.
Where there is life, there is hope.... (read in full...)
Old flame from 33 years ago has written me, where do I want this to go?
Q. ok here goes, while in high school I was so in love with this guy, while we were super friends I don't think he really thought of me in the girlfriend way. After high school he went into the service. You have to understand I never forgot about him. ...
A. 9 June 2012: Hi there. Perhaps you are just flattered that he has contacted you again, after so long.
You are already with a wonderful man whom you love very much, and with grown up children together.
Do you really want to risk giving that all up on an old... (read in full...)
I think the man I am dating is a closet gay and its really putting me off
Q. I am in my early 30's and have met a lovely guy in his late 20's.. however I am worried he is closet gay. As soon as I met I thought gay, the way he looks, hot but pretty, his clothes, his maner everything, he told me he wasnn't we kissed and had ...
A. 8 June 2012: Hi there. It's a tough one, since it seems that it's very obvious that he could be gay, but doesn't know it yet.
I have never had this happen to me, and it must be very worrying, I'm sure.
Have you ever seen how he is towards other men, while... (read in full...)
I've only slept with one person - Did he ever like me?
Q. Does telling a guy you've only slept with one other guy put him off you? Basically, I really liked this guy but I think that after telling him my inexperience, as he might see it, I don't think he's interested anymore. Do I see if it's potentially...
A. 8 June 2012: Hi there.
It's not necessary to tell a guy how many men you slept with before him.
They don't want to know that, nor do they need to know.
It is simply not their business at all.
If he is treating you well and with respect and dignity, an... (read in full...)
Am I scared to leave my lying cheating boyfriend?
Q. well me and my botfriend have been together about a year now well friends for six and well a couple weeks into our relationship he said he was going to an uncles house for a couple days. but he dont know i accidently read a text message from a girl ...
A. 8 June 2012: Hi there. Do you really want to stay with a cheater?
Surely, you wouldn't want a man you simply CANNOT trust.
And it seems that he really can't be trusted, wouldn't you say?
I believe you are scared of being alone, and so someone is better... (read in full...)
I want my space but my parents won't allow it
Q. hi i belong to a conservative family n i m the only child of my parents. my propblem is that my parents are very protective about me.i am a reserved type of girl so i have very few friends but i am losing out on them because i am not allowed to g...
A. 8 June 2012: Hi there.
You are an only child.
It could be that before you were born, you parents had a lot of trouble trying to fall pregnant, and then once you were eventually born, they treasure you more than anything.
And they are undoubtedly scared o... (read in full...)
My depression and anxiety issues kept me from going out to meet his family! Now he's posted a cryptic Facebook status!
Q. My boyfriend of nearly 2 months is ignoring me. I suffer from Depression and Anxiety problems, which means that going out in public to meet him and hang out is very difficult for me. He says he understands but I honestly can't see how he does! Eve...
A. 8 June 2012: Hi there. When you say you have depression and anxiety issues, are you also saying that you can't leave the house at all?
If you have a fear of public places and become anxious, you can have medical treatment for that or some counsell... (read in full...)
Why do I turn off and feel sick just when I feel like I'm just about to orgasm?
Q. Hey, I'm 18 years old and I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I'm finding it hard to get into sex. We've now had sex 6 times, it bled the first 2 times quite a bit and then it bled a bit more on the 6th time (is that normal?). The ti...
A. 7 June 2012: Hi there. Perhaps you are feeling a bit self conscious about your body.
Perhaps you don't accept your body for what it is.
You need to just focus your thoughts on what is happening to your body and all the tiny little sensations as th... (read in full...)
Can this rebound relationship last? What are the signs it's a rebound relationship?
Q. ModNote: two questions about the same issues combined. How can you tell if your being used as rebound? What are the signs and things to look out for ? (for guys) Women advice please, or guys if you have experienced being used as rebound befo...
A. 1 June 2012: Hi there.
Why don't you ask her if she still wants to be with him?
It seems like she's not completely over him just yet.
Also ask her - "Are you happy with me?"
And see what she says.
She met you when she was starting to get bored w... (read in full...)
My father passed away and I don't understand why my friend has taken his car. Shouldn't it go to family?
Q. Hi everyone... I just wanna ask this question, it's not a relationship question. Ok so my dad passed away and he had a car he used to drive when he was alive, but he didn't finish paying off the car before he passed away, but it was remaining on...
A. 1 June 2012: Hi there.
You are not living with your mother, but living with a friend instead.
Is your mother alive?
Did your father leave a will?
Because someone just can't take over ownership for something which is not their property.
That is s... (read in full...)
How do I break up with my boyfriend?
Q. Hello, everyone. I have a few important questions: should I break up with my boyfriend? if so, then how i do let him know my decision? if he handles it badly, how do i handle him? if i handle the break up badly, how do i handle myself? if i ...
A. 1 June 2012: Hi. I guessed that he could be your first boyfriend, only because of your age, so I made that assumption as around the age of 16 years old, girls get interested in boys and vice versa.
It's about the average age.
No matter what happens, al... (read in full...)
How do I break up with my boyfriend?
Q. Hello, everyone. I have a few important questions: should I break up with my boyfriend? if so, then how i do let him know my decision? if he handles it badly, how do i handle him? if i handle the break up badly, how do i handle myself? if i ...
A. 30 May 2012: Hi there. This guy is your very first boyfriend, isn't he?
And if that's the case, well then it seems rather special to you, for that reason.
It sounds like from what you say now, that it has run it's course.
Perhaps you don't rea... (read in full...)
Does a woman have to look like one of these pornstars to get attention when she isn't there.
Q. I have a really bad problem. I have always been offended by fantasies my boyfriends have. I take them as a personal insult. I take porn use as a personal insult. It all started with my first boyfriend who was into milfs, I hated it. I always ...
A. 27 May 2012: Hi there. It could be curiosity, and nothing more.
It can become an unhealthy addiction, when he can't find anything more interesting to do.
It can be like a drug to them.
It's nothing that is your fault. This is all about him.
Perhap... (read in full...)
Is my back too large?
Q. Hi everyone! Right this may sound silly but i'm a UK size 10 which I would consider to be a healthy size, i'm 5'4 and 34E bra size. Anyway, I was looking through the internet today and I saw someone comment saying anyone who is a UK size would ne...
A. 27 May 2012: Hi there.
34 Inch back is measuring around your ribcage.
So that's the actual bra size.
The "E" is the size of your cup.
The size of your bras (which in your case), depends on the size of your ribcage.
The size of your bra, (34 inch ... (read in full...)
Found that my husband had a membership on a tranny dating site
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years married for 7. In that time we have had a few problems and have split twice for short periods of time for stupid petty things, the last time being Oct 11 but i was thrilled that we got back together on new ...
A. 24 May 2012: Hi. Yes, it must be incredibly frustrating for you the way things are right now, and him becoming defensive when you were not really criticizing him, at the time.
People often do become defensive when they are hiding something, or at least so... (read in full...)
How does a person get quality dates?
Q. I'm pretty {sure, not everyone's cup of tea and with several flaws, but I'm attractive still}, smart, witty. I don't have issues getting male attention when I go out, but I do have issues getting quality dates. I don't really care for the kind of ...
A. 21 May 2012: Hi there. When you say some guys seem to stare at you - or more like look at you for a while, then look away - well they are probably trying to see whether you are looking at them.
This is perfectly normal behaviour as two people first and fore... (read in full...)
Found that my husband had a membership on a tranny dating site
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years married for 7. In that time we have had a few problems and have split twice for short periods of time for stupid petty things, the last time being Oct 11 but i was thrilled that we got back together on new ...
A. 19 May 2012: Hi. Well then I guess you are going to have to gently ask him if he is happy.
When you are talking generally about anything at all, and casually ask him something like - "You don't seem very happy anymore. Is there anything worrying you?"
... (read in full...)
Found that my husband had a membership on a tranny dating site
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years married for 7. In that time we have had a few problems and have split twice for short periods of time for stupid petty things, the last time being Oct 11 but i was thrilled that we got back together on new ...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi. I just thought of something else that it could possibly be.
If as you say, your sex life is almost non-existent now, and he clams up each time you try to talk about it with him, is it possible he has some kind of erection dysfunct... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi. You did well to say nothing about the future.
Keep it up and concentrate on just having good times together and creating nice memories.
Don't be too concerned by the fact he slept on the lounge, he probably didn't want to catch the flue o... (read in full...)
Love or Marriage? Which should I choose?
Q. I need advice: should I stay with my current boyfriend who I am totally in love with but he's six years younger and from a different world -- or find someone i can tolerate that is more serious, settled and ready for marriage? I'm going to b...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi. It really depends on what you are willing to tolerate, before it really does become too much for you, and you can't take any more.
He is not willing to give you a straight answer at the moment, and it might not be that he is stringin... (read in full...)
I thought everything was going okay but he got distant and today he broke up with me!
Q. Hey guys, I know there are a million breakup questions already posted but I'm feeling so down in the dumps. My boyfriend and I of over 2 years broke up today. He's in the Marine corps and is stationed across the country. I thought things w...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi there. He might feel a little threatened by the fact you know where you are going in your life, whereas he has no sense of where he's going at all.
Perhaps he is scared by the idea of not having some direction in his life.
He might see ... (read in full...)
My mom is dating a 33 year old guy, who's closer in age to me than her! Its so embarrassing!!
Q. My mom who is 49 years old is now dating a guy who is 33 years old and I don't know how to feel about the whole situation. I mean he's closer in age to me than her, she's never done anything like this before so I don't know whats going on. She has ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi there. Unfortunately, there is not really much you can do about this, as it's your mother's choice whether to see this younger man or not.
Are they actually seeing each other, or are they only chatting online?
Because there is a big differe... (read in full...)
Found that my husband had a membership on a tranny dating site
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years married for 7. In that time we have had a few problems and have split twice for short periods of time for stupid petty things, the last time being Oct 11 but i was thrilled that we got back together on new ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi there. It is rather a worrying thing to find out, for sure.
There must be all kinds of doubts floating around in your head right now, I'm sure.
It could be plain old curiosity, and nothing more.
Perhaps he is in a process of finding him... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi. You mentioned he said he wouldn't make a good father, plus that he would feel locked down and want to run away.
This is probably a fear of commitment, plus it shows you that he isn't quite ready for it just yet.
I don't think you said a... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 9 May 2012: Hi there. Does he treat you well and take you out to nice places?
Why I ask this, is I just want to make sure you are otherwise genuinely happy with this guy.
It's possible he is still making up his mind about you and the prospect of marr... (read in full...)
Love or Marriage? Which should I choose?
Q. I need advice: should I stay with my current boyfriend who I am totally in love with but he's six years younger and from a different world -- or find someone i can tolerate that is more serious, settled and ready for marriage? I'm going to b...
A. 30 April 2012: Hi there. This decision really depends on how deeply he follows his Muslim religion.
His nationality isn't really an issue, it's more a case of what his personal beliefs about life and religion are.
No matter how much you love him, his religio... (read in full...)
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