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| Latest articles: Being Happy In a Relationship
This question has 9 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Love or Marriage? Which should I choose?
Q. I need advice: should I stay with my current boyfriend who I am totally in love with but he's six years younger and from a different world -- or find someone i can tolerate that is more serious, settled and ready for marriage? I'm going to b...
A. 10 June 2012: Hi. It's hard to really know if he is not telling you the truth.
He possibly is being honest though, when he says he is not ready for a relationship right now.
He doesn't feel it's being fair to you to keep on seeing you when he has no intent... (read in full...)
Found that my husband had a membership on a tranny dating site
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years married for 7. In that time we have had a few problems and have split twice for short periods of time for stupid petty things, the last time being Oct 11 but i was thrilled that we got back together on new ...
A. 24 May 2012: Hi. Yes, it must be incredibly frustrating for you the way things are right now, and him becoming defensive when you were not really criticizing him, at the time.
People often do become defensive when they are hiding something, or at least so... (read in full...)
Found that my husband had a membership on a tranny dating site
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years married for 7. In that time we have had a few problems and have split twice for short periods of time for stupid petty things, the last time being Oct 11 but i was thrilled that we got back together on new ...
A. 19 May 2012: Hi. Well then I guess you are going to have to gently ask him if he is happy.
When you are talking generally about anything at all, and casually ask him something like - "You don't seem very happy anymore. Is there anything worrying you?"
... (read in full...)
Found that my husband had a membership on a tranny dating site
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years married for 7. In that time we have had a few problems and have split twice for short periods of time for stupid petty things, the last time being Oct 11 but i was thrilled that we got back together on new ...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi. I just thought of something else that it could possibly be.
If as you say, your sex life is almost non-existent now, and he clams up each time you try to talk about it with him, is it possible he has some kind of erection dysfunct... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi. You did well to say nothing about the future.
Keep it up and concentrate on just having good times together and creating nice memories.
Don't be too concerned by the fact he slept on the lounge, he probably didn't want to catch the flue o... (read in full...)
Love or Marriage? Which should I choose?
Q. I need advice: should I stay with my current boyfriend who I am totally in love with but he's six years younger and from a different world -- or find someone i can tolerate that is more serious, settled and ready for marriage? I'm going to b...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi. It really depends on what you are willing to tolerate, before it really does become too much for you, and you can't take any more.
He is not willing to give you a straight answer at the moment, and it might not be that he is stringin... (read in full...)
My mom is dating a 33 year old guy, who's closer in age to me than her! Its so embarrassing!!
Q. My mom who is 49 years old is now dating a guy who is 33 years old and I don't know how to feel about the whole situation. I mean he's closer in age to me than her, she's never done anything like this before so I don't know whats going on. She has ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi there. Unfortunately, there is not really much you can do about this, as it's your mother's choice whether to see this younger man or not.
Are they actually seeing each other, or are they only chatting online?
Because there is a big differe... (read in full...)
Found that my husband had a membership on a tranny dating site
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years married for 7. In that time we have had a few problems and have split twice for short periods of time for stupid petty things, the last time being Oct 11 but i was thrilled that we got back together on new ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi there. It is rather a worrying thing to find out, for sure.
There must be all kinds of doubts floating around in your head right now, I'm sure.
It could be plain old curiosity, and nothing more.
Perhaps he is in a process of finding him... (read in full...)
Mother's snoring fiance is driving me crazy! I'm scared I'm going to snap!
Q. I'm a 21 year old fresh out of college female living with her mother. My moms fiancee lives with us. There's big issues going on in the house and frankly, I could care less for the guy (I don't really know him, we don't talk, we never have. I've ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi. The arguments they have are probably all stemming back to the fact they sleep separately.
This threatens their intimacy, not just sexually but also not being able to just lie in bed together and chat - like most couples do.
It's safe to ... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi. You mentioned he said he wouldn't make a good father, plus that he would feel locked down and want to run away.
This is probably a fear of commitment, plus it shows you that he isn't quite ready for it just yet.
I don't think you said a... (read in full...)
He is draining me of energy with his constant need of attention!
Q. Been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now, we are both in our 40s, I have children but he doesn't. We live in different towns around 30 mins drive away. I would say we see each other around 3-4 times a week depending on his football plans. ...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi there. It sounds like you and him need to sit down together and have a heart to heart chat about the way things are, and about how you feel about everything and about him.
It doesn't sound like this has happened up until now, but it sounds l... (read in full...)
Am I overly paranoid about guys?
Q. Am I overly paranoid about guys? I've met a lot of different people and made a lot of new friends in the past few months, but I've notice that I've become more "standoffish" towards some guys. Mainly when guys ask me random questions, I ask them...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi there. It depends on what you would like guys to say to you, I guess.
One thing is for sure though, if a guy is shy, he may ask some seemingly peculiar questions sometimes, and that is because of his shyness and probably not really knowing ... (read in full...)
My moms health is getting worse and she refuses to see a doctor?
Q. Hi, I could really use some advice. My mom is not well. She has some kind of mood disorder which causes her to cry, lash out in extreme anger, and then be perfectly fine. Sometimes all of these moods happen in the same day. I have asked a doctor, ...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi there. It could be one of a couple of things, or else a combination of both.
If your mother is approaching her late 40's to early 50's, it's highly likely that she is going through menopause, which can often include depressive symptoms... (read in full...)
Friend's troubled relationship...what do I tell her?
Q. Please advice what to do!! This guy has gotten inside my friends head and is messing with her mentally and emotionally, and probably has no idea... Basically she's seeing this guy, they both made the effort a few times to see each other since they...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi there. It's probably not the best idea to put him on the spot by asking - "Where do you see this relationship going?"
What would probably be even better, would be if she perhaps called him (on the telephone) - rather than text him - and just... (read in full...)
How Do I Prove To Women That I've Finally Matured?
Q. I let a really good opportunity slip years ago when I might have had the chance to have a girlfriend, and now I'm determined not to make the same mistake again. My question is how do I show women that I've matured and am not the rotten person I once ...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi there. Probably by honestly living by the belief system you now have - through years of learning from your past mistakes.
By not taking things or people for granted.
And by accepting that sometimes we can't always have what we think we want... (read in full...)
Mother's snoring fiance is driving me crazy! I'm scared I'm going to snap!
Q. I'm a 21 year old fresh out of college female living with her mother. My moms fiancee lives with us. There's big issues going on in the house and frankly, I could care less for the guy (I don't really know him, we don't talk, we never have. I've ...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi there. No, I don't believe you are in the wrong for saying something.
You have a right to a good night's sleep, just as much as everyone else in the house does.
When your mother's fiance is not there, you are going to have to sit down with... (read in full...)
Is it true, what my doctor says, that erectile dysfunction is just a part of ageing, and is not a result of any medical problem?
Q. Do you think is this true, what my doctor says, the erectile dysfunction is just a part of aging, and its not a result of any medical problem? I have very sever erectile dysfunction, and a total lack of desire. He checked everything , did go to ...
A. 9 May 2012: Hi there. To gain and sustain a full erection is really about blood circulation to the penis.
Are you carrying any extra body weight?
If so, well then the extra fatty tissue in the lower abdomen could be reducing the blood flow to the erec... (read in full...)
30 year age difference. How do I tell my parents?
Q. Am a 20 years young woman who is in love with a 50 years old man he wants us to get married as soon as possible,i don't no how to brake the news to my parents ....
A. 9 May 2012: Hi there. Even if you are in love with this 50 year old man, the 30 year age difference puts you in two totally different stages of life.
He has probably already been married and has grown up children about your age!
And do you know if he i... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision by asking the question I was afraid to have an answer to?
Q. I just cornered my boyfriend of a year and a half and asked of he saw a future with me. He said he can't make me any promises and that his future is shady - but that he loves me My gut has been fearing this for awhile. He told me to get Some sle...
A. 9 May 2012: Hi there. Does he treat you well and take you out to nice places?
Why I ask this, is I just want to make sure you are otherwise genuinely happy with this guy.
It's possible he is still making up his mind about you and the prospect of marr... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend secretly want me pregnant?
Q. Hello Dearcupid, I think my boyfriend secretly wants me to get pregnant. He keeps asking me when my cycle is, and brought up how I threw up one morning. I'm on the pill, so my breasts have gotten bigger and he asked me if I thought it was because ...
A. 30 April 2012: Hi there. How long have you been going out together?
Is it a fairly new relationship - less than 1 year?
You are going to have to come right out and ask him.
You could say about his fascination about the pollination of flowers etc., and say... (read in full...)
Love or Marriage? Which should I choose?
Q. I need advice: should I stay with my current boyfriend who I am totally in love with but he's six years younger and from a different world -- or find someone i can tolerate that is more serious, settled and ready for marriage? I'm going to b...
A. 30 April 2012: Hi there. This decision really depends on how deeply he follows his Muslim religion.
His nationality isn't really an issue, it's more a case of what his personal beliefs about life and religion are.
No matter how much you love him, his religio... (read in full...)
We had a big argument - some perspective is needed
Q. My boyfriend and I are having a dispute. It seems to have come down to who is "wrong" and who is "right." Here goes... I asked him if he wanted to spend time together last Sunday. I asked him about a week in advance. He agreed. A few days lat...
A. 19 April 2012: You're very welcome. Take care.... (read in full...)
How do I rekindle a lonely relationship?
Q. I love this guy we've been together for 5 years with 2 babies,the problem is that we don't spend time together and have less talk. i sometimes feel lonely. he have 2 sis and 1 bro to him they are always perfect,i'm always the last person he think...
A. 19 April 2012: Hi there. Are you a long distance relationship?
How often do you see each other?
What probably needs to happen is for the pair of you to sit down together and simply talk.
Talk about what you feel about everything and what he feels about ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her she misunderstood me?
Q. I was talking to a girl I like online (we have been talking for about a week) and she asked me that if she was there would she be a girl I sleep with. I replied with this exact line: "no way you would not be" (notice the lack of comma, it is a ...
A. 19 April 2012: Hi there. It's all about good clear communication.
Although, it's a simple statement that you made on that day to her, it would be very easy to read it as meaning:-
"There is no way I'd ever sleep with you!"
Don't forget now, that people ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to love me again?
Q. My boyfriend and i are together 3 years he is 44 and i am 42. Basically he became good friends with a woman for about a 2 years ago. he helped her settle into our country they were friends and now he is telling me he is in love with her and he c...
A. 19 April 2012: Hi there. I don't believe sex is going to fix things here.
It's not the answer at all.
It does seem that you not wanting to have children with him - or at all really - could be a big part of the problem, for sure.
By what you say here,... (read in full...)
We had a big argument - some perspective is needed
Q. My boyfriend and I are having a dispute. It seems to have come down to who is "wrong" and who is "right." Here goes... I asked him if he wanted to spend time together last Sunday. I asked him about a week in advance. He agreed. A few days lat...
A. 19 April 2012: Hi there. It's more a case of not making definite plans between you and him in the first place.
He realized a few days later, that he had previously told his friend he would attend his child's christening. He just forgot about it when he was s... (read in full...)
4 women that want me, but if I'm honest I only want my ex! What should I do?
Q. A few months ago my girlfriend broke up with me. We talked about it and she told me that we had grown apart. She said that there is no chance of us getting back together. It sucks, but I've come to except it and I've put it in my mind that I've ...
A. 17 April 2012: Hi there. As it is only a short time since the breakup of your last relationship, you really need some time to be on your own to settle down and get over it properly.
At the moment, it's just too early to get into a new relationship. It would on... (read in full...)
She called of our wedding but claims to still love me, what should I do?
Q. My fiancé called off our wedding a couple of weeks ago (at the time it was about 1.5 months till the wedding). She said that she just had a gnawing feeling that would not go away, she was nervous to get married and not sure if she was ready. ...
A. 17 April 2012: Hi there. From what you have said here, you haven't just met recently, have you?
You have said she prayed for months that you were the one for her, and that her nervous feelings would go away.
So she must want to settle down with you eventua... (read in full...)
Could she be shy? Or just not interested?
Q. There is this girl that I have been in love with since Kindergarten but I don't think she feels the same way. We've known each other forever and I think she just wants to be friends. Or at least never thought of me that way. She is a bit shy and ...
A. 16 April 2012: Hi. Well that ought to make it even easier for you as you are already talking to each other.
As you have known each other for most of your lives now, it's a case of making the transition to something more than friendship.
If you and her usua... (read in full...)
Could she be shy? Or just not interested?
Q. There is this girl that I have been in love with since Kindergarten but I don't think she feels the same way. We've known each other forever and I think she just wants to be friends. Or at least never thought of me that way. She is a bit shy and ...
A. 13 April 2012: Hi there.
Well for a start, you at least must start saying hello to her.
When you see each other, smile and say hi or hello, and after a couple of weeks of this, you might be able to strike up a conversation with her.
Do you see each other... (read in full...)
Feelings of a crisis and tiring b/f just leave me exhausted!
Q. I feel im having a mid life crisis at 22 years old, i know this sounds so dramatic but i never even noticed until my brother said it and said he had one the same age too. I have being with my boyfriend now for 5 years in november, hes 35.... hes had ...
A. 13 April 2012: Hi there. It might be time for you to move on - without him.
It's all up and down, isn't it?
Whenever you tell him what's worrying you, he might be feeling like you are "dumping" on him.
By "Dumping", I mean dumping your problems on him.
... (read in full...)
Why has the consistency of his cum changed?
Q. hello i have a question i need help with please. im 18 and me and my boyfriend are sexual active for about 4 months now. well a couple weeks ago his cum started to change. it used to be sticky but now its very liquidity. is that normal or can ...
A. 3 April 2012: Hi there. If he is otherwise healthy, eats a balanced diet, gets regular exercise and sleeps well, there probably is no problem.
Semen can change from very white and thick in consistency, to light creamy and clear, to thin and clear like raw egg ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend problems - Is it really over?
Q. Hi everyone. I would appreciate some advice about my situation with my boyfriend. We've been together for four and a half years and always been long distance only seeing each other on weekends. I always go to see him because I still live at home ...
A. 30 March 2012: Hi. Perhaps he is trying to let it be over by not contacting you.
Maybe that is his way.
Rather than just coming right out with it and saying that he doesn't think it's working anymore.
He's just going through the motions instead, it seem... (read in full...)
What advice can you give me to help with this situation?
Q. I need to understand why my husband lies about stupid things... I've asked him not to look up porn on my contract phone and he did it repeatedly and when busted he lied and said he didn't look it up... I told him if he wants to watch porn then we ...
A. 27 March 2012: Hi. In one way, he does have a point. Any problems between two people in a relationship, should only be discussed by those two people and no-one else.
Anyone you tell, can only give you a personal opinion based upon their own individual experien... (read in full...)
Boyfriend problems - Is it really over?
Q. Hi everyone. I would appreciate some advice about my situation with my boyfriend. We've been together for four and a half years and always been long distance only seeing each other on weekends. I always go to see him because I still live at home ...
A. 27 March 2012: Hi. Perhaps the next time he calls you, and if you decide to see him, you could say to him - once you get home and settle in - that you would like to talk about something that is worrying you.
DO wait until you get inside the door and sit down... (read in full...)
What advice can you give me to help with this situation?
Q. I need to understand why my husband lies about stupid things... I've asked him not to look up porn on my contract phone and he did it repeatedly and when busted he lied and said he didn't look it up... I told him if he wants to watch porn then we ...
A. 21 March 2012: Hi there. Do you and him make love at all?
If not, or if you did and now it seems to have stopped, could he have an erection dysfunction, do you think?
There's no real doubt about the lying is there?
You have caught him out pretty frequentl... (read in full...)
I'm just the stop gap girl!
Q. Hey, I'm so fed up I'm just always the girl in-between, I met boy and we start dating and it always ends with them texting me sorry ur an awsome girl but I'm getting with someone. This have happened to me for a year now and can't remember how ...
A. 21 March 2012: Hi there. What kind of relationships were they, with these guys?
Did they take you to nice places and spend money on you?
Or, once you had your initial first date, did it then become that they called you then came over and it was just sex, an... (read in full...)
Eight years later and I am still confused about what he wants!
Q. I want to know if I am in love and what the hell is going on? I have known this man for 8 years, we went on a couple of dates 6 years ago, then he moved away for college, then we started up a long distance relationship for five months 4 years ago ...
A. 21 March 2012: Hi there. He probably still wants to be at least friends.
Don't try and read too much into it at the moment.
You have said you moved to another country. Was that for the work you do?
So he's in England, but you are not. Is that right?
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend problems - Is it really over?
Q. Hi everyone. I would appreciate some advice about my situation with my boyfriend. We've been together for four and a half years and always been long distance only seeing each other on weekends. I always go to see him because I still live at home ...
A. 21 March 2012: Hi there. Perhaps what is really the problem, is that he is getting tired of it being long distance.
Every time you have seen each other, it has to be all crammed into 2 days.
And then there's nothing until the next weekend, and the next and... (read in full...)
G/f says the trust is gone and she is afraid of me. I never did anything to her!
Q. My girlfriend and I had a very emotionally intense relationship. She started full steam ahead (usually what I do) and I just went along for the ride. She has a 12 year old son that I was introduced to and spent time with as well. We had a future ...
A. 6 March 2012: Hi there. Although you didn't get physical with her during the arguments, do you remember whether you made any threatening remarks to her that could have been misinterpreted?
During arguments as emotions get fired up, we all sometimes say thin... (read in full...)
Could stress be making my sex drive so high?
Q. Hi, I am a 21 year old woman and recently my sex drive has risen thru the roof. I want sex all the time and I sometimes a sit around my friends imagining sexual things with them. My father recently passed away and I have been experien...
A. 1 March 2012: Hi there. It could be that when you are feeling this way, it's the stress and anxiety of losing your father, manifesting itself as an urge to have sex. It can feel the same way.
It could even be a physical state of emotional overwhel... (read in full...)
How can I stop letting the past creep up on me and make me upset?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been through alot! we have a 7 month old daughter, i dont know where to start. few the past few weeks things with my boyfriend and i have been great! they couldn't be better. he is super nice he tells me he loves me every ...
A. 28 February 2012: Hi there. Who is this girl who sent him pictures of herself?
Is she a past girlfriend, and was it serious?
It's a good idea to not go through someone else's phone, because it is private property after all.
You probably wouldn't like i... (read in full...)
How do I mend my broken heart? I've been having an affair with a married man!
Q. how do i mend my broken heart? Im a married woman and i have been involved with a married man for the past 5 years, i fell deeply in love with him he said he loved me too. I helped him pay off bills and have been there as much as i could. He is a ...
A. 28 February 2012: Hi there. What he said is right.
It would be wiser for you to use that same energy into improving things with your own husband.
Even if this other man did say he loved you, it was probably very unlikely he would have ever left his wife for you... (read in full...)
I can not talk about how I feel about him to him, he does not want to hear about it.
Q. The father of my baby says we are only friends, but everyone arounds us says we are more than friends. I do not know if he really interested or if he is trying to take it slow funny cause I am pregnant I know; by him . In the beginning he told me he ...
A. 24 February 2012: Hi. It seems like you are going to have to be content for now with the help he does give you.
He doesn't appear to be ready to fully commit to you at the moment.
He might be in a state of overwhelm.
Because he is the father, he realizes ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has jealousy/insecurity issues as well as personal issues. I want out but am afraid.
Q. I want to break up with my girlfriend of nearly three years. We live together with her parents, and we are supposed to move into a new place on Thursday. I am not happy in our relationship because she is jealous and spiteful of me. Whenever I ...
A. 23 February 2012: Hi there. Three years is a long time to throw away, isn't it?
Although she has student loans, plus a job she hates and her strained relationship with her parents, the major issue in her life could be that she is wondering where the relation... (read in full...)
B/f talks to too many girls on facebook and its starting to drive me crazy
Q. my boyfriend talks to lots of girls on facebook who are "old friends" as he says. i'm normally not a jealous person but this is starting to bug me as its in excess of 10 different girls, and the "chats" are quite overly friendly. they say things ...
A. 23 February 2012: Hi there. The only way to truly be free of this, is DON'T visit his Facebook page.
Just don't go there at all.
The more you go there, you see all stuff you don't want to really see, so why do it at all?
These girls might well be old friend... (read in full...)
Wife and I haven't had sex in a year, she says go somewhere else
Q. My wife and I have not had sex in almost a year now and I do not know what's wrong. I try to talk to her about it but can't get any straight answers. She says she still loves me but that I should go find someone else who will not only love me but ...
A. 23 February 2012: Hi there. Your wife might be going through menopause or getting close to that point in her life.
Apart from the lack of sex in your marriage, do you have a pretty good relationship otherwise?
Do you talk easily to each other, and do you reall... (read in full...)
I can not talk about how I feel about him to him, he does not want to hear about it.
Q. The father of my baby says we are only friends, but everyone arounds us says we are more than friends. I do not know if he really interested or if he is trying to take it slow funny cause I am pregnant I know; by him . In the beginning he told me he ...
A. 23 February 2012: Hi there. Perhaps he isn't ready to commit to you yet.
He could still want his freedom, and he knows because you have a child together and possibly you believe, this baby you are carrying now, is also his.
Maybe he is weighing up his freedom t... (read in full...)
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