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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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I can not talk about how I feel about him to him, he does not want to hear about it.
Q. The father of my baby says we are only friends, but everyone arounds us says we are more than friends. I do not know if he really interested or if he is trying to take it slow funny cause I am pregnant I know; by him . In the beginning he told me he ...
A. 24 February 2012: Hi. It seems like you are going to have to be content for now with the help he does give you.
He doesn't appear to be ready to fully commit to you at the moment.
He might be in a state of overwhelm.
Because he is the father, he realizes ... (read in full...)
Wife and I haven't had sex in a year, she says go somewhere else
Q. My wife and I have not had sex in almost a year now and I do not know what's wrong. I try to talk to her about it but can't get any straight answers. She says she still loves me but that I should go find someone else who will not only love me but ...
A. 23 February 2012: Hi there. Your wife might be going through menopause or getting close to that point in her life.
Apart from the lack of sex in your marriage, do you have a pretty good relationship otherwise?
Do you talk easily to each other, and do you reall... (read in full...)
I can not talk about how I feel about him to him, he does not want to hear about it.
Q. The father of my baby says we are only friends, but everyone arounds us says we are more than friends. I do not know if he really interested or if he is trying to take it slow funny cause I am pregnant I know; by him . In the beginning he told me he ...
A. 23 February 2012: Hi there. Perhaps he isn't ready to commit to you yet.
He could still want his freedom, and he knows because you have a child together and possibly you believe, this baby you are carrying now, is also his.
Maybe he is weighing up his freedom t... (read in full...)
My boyfriends MOM and BRO - are taking drugs and it's effecting our life
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for about five years. We handle everything as if we are married, and yes that has been something we have talked over... I have very humble and quiet personality, my boyfriend is the opposite, but I like to think we...
A. 23 February 2012: Hi there. Your boyfriend's mum is living in his old house, which means he doesn't live with her.
Is that right?
So you are not living in that environment, are you? It's only when you both visit her?
As it causes upset to you, rather tha... (read in full...)
Why does he treat me special one day and the next day act like he doesn't know me?
Q. So there's this guy I like. We've been texting a lot and he's also shown some signs that he likes me, but lately he hasn't been talking to me. Sometimes he'd treat me like I'm Special one day, then the next day treat me like we've never met. I'm so ...
A. 23 February 2012: Hi there. He probably does like you, but maybe he's not sure of how you feel.
So he only goes so far, then backs off a bit.
You might need to give him some encouragement.
The reason he texts you is because he is probably a bit shy, and ... (read in full...)
Is the girl this guy likes me?
Q. HI I used like to this guy and I told him when I told him he never told me if he likes me or not. Then a month later he rings me up and tells me that he likes soem girl for a year and half, this girls feels the same but she not ready to move on. He ...
A. 23 February 2012: Hi there. Perhaps like your friend said, he is referring to you.
He's just being abstract about it, which is rather clever, don't you think?
I'd say he is protecting himself from a possible disappointment, in case you don't feel the same wa... (read in full...)
Pregnancy risks?
Q. dear cupid, if you have anal sex and the guy cums in you, is it possible for any of his sperm to come in contact with your vagina (like, if it happens to run back out of your anus) and get you pregnant?...
A. 23 February 2012: Hi there. It could happen I guess, although there wouldn't be near as much semen going into your vagina after anal sex, as there would be with vaginal sex. Especially if you are lying on your back after it, because your anus is lower when lying on ... (read in full...)
We are so different but I have a huge crush on him! How do I get the courage to talk to him?
Q. hey everyone I really need help,there is this guy in my school, he's soooo cute and adorable, i dont really know him that much i just see him around the hallway and in gym class but not in the same class. he's white and i'm black (weird right), ...
A. 23 February 2012: Hi there. Do you think he is interested?
Do you see him looking at you sometimes?
If two people like each other, there will be at least some eye contact between you.
Perhaps you could begin this process.
You could look at him when he... (read in full...)
What happens to single girls at "singles" tables at weddings?
Q. I'm attending my first wedding, it's my cousins wedding. I'm 19 (almost 20) I'm a college student and i live at home with my family, so i'm not sure if i will be seated with my family? or the "singles" table. do they have "singles tables? haha i'm ...
A. 20 February 2012: Hi there. Usually at weddings, you would be seated with your parents and other siblings.
I don't think there is a "singles" table.
When it's family, whole families (mum, dad and the kids), they would usually be seated together as much as possi... (read in full...)
I love my husband but he never initiates sex, and sometimes pushes me away. Does he not love me anymore?
Q. Hi. My husband I are married fr 2 years now. But we dated for 7 and half years before marriage. We had sex after 2 years into the relationship. My problem is that he never gave me oral sex. But I have recently started giving it to him. He doesn't ...
A. 19 February 2012: Hi there. When you said "we had sex after 2 years into the relationship", do you mean sex didn't start till the 2 year mark? And before 2 years, there was no sex at all?
I am not clear on this.
It seems that your desire for sex and his, are... (read in full...)
7 weeks pregnant, two guys involved, not sure what to do, which one to chose
Q. im currently 7 weeks pregant and involved with two guys who i think the world of that im seeing, i know it s wrong i just can't help it, I know who most likely the father is and that guy i have literally known a month. Hes indian and not got a br...
A. 19 February 2012: Hi. That's wise going to the doctors, as this needs to be checked out thoroughly.
Your mother being with you, can offer you some moral support.
A couple of spots of blood can be minor sometimes, especially if it's watery - and then stops - how... (read in full...)
My husband would rather watch porn and get an erection and masturbate than have sex with me! Where did I go wrong?
Q. I have been married to my husband for almost 14 years and over the last 6 months to a year I have noticed he is into his porn more than he is into me. He came home early one afternoon and asked me if I wanted to have sex with him... I jumped at the ...
A. 18 February 2012: Hi there. When people turn to porn or even drugs or drinking heavily, it's very often not really about sex at all.
Surprising as that sounds I realize, it's more a way of escaping from boredom and a lack of a sense of purpose.
Before he sta... (read in full...)
What makes someone ready to date?
Q. Okay so I been thinking. What really makes someone ready to date? Please don't say you'll know. I want to know what will help me determined if I'm ready for a serious relationship....
A. 17 February 2012: Hi there. If you have met a nice girl and you get along well, that's a good start.
When you talk to her, you find you have a lot in common, that's another good sign.
If when you talk, there's no awkward silences and you feel very comfortable... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's fantasy of me being a teenager has freaked me out
Q. I have recently started dating someone and I'm having a pretty awesome experience with it. I'm really comfortable with him, we talk very personally, and its the first dating experience I've ever had where I wasn't nervous, and I was able to be ...
A. 17 February 2012: Hi there. Perhaps it is just a simple fantasy, however if it bothers you, then say so.
The next time you are together, mention it to him and say it concerns you a little, and ask him why it turns him on.
Hopefully he can have a normal relatio... (read in full...)
I said I'd go out with him but I only like him as a friend
Q. Dear Cupid, Hi today I was asked out by my ex from the begining of freshman year, but my friend) that i kinda liked. I said yes because i kinda liked him, my friends said I'd look cute with him, and feel bad if i didn't say yes(mostly because ...
A. 15 February 2012: Hi there. I'm a bit confused here.
Is this your ex who has asked you out, or is it someone else you are talking about?
And if it is your ex, do you mean that you used to like him and still like him, but only as a friend now?
If it is your e... (read in full...)
7 weeks pregnant, two guys involved, not sure what to do, which one to chose
Q. im currently 7 weeks pregant and involved with two guys who i think the world of that im seeing, i know it s wrong i just can't help it, I know who most likely the father is and that guy i have literally known a month. Hes indian and not got a br...
A. 15 February 2012: Hi there. Even though an abortion seems like a simple solution right now, sometimes it can cause other problems and in years to come when you are in a serious relationship you might find you can't fall pregnant at all!
So that's somethin... (read in full...)
Our sex life isn't working out very equitably
Q. I know I'm a dick for getting frustrated about this and I know that it's my fault, but I don't know what to do. I consider myself pretty good when it comes to sex. I've only had sex with my girlfriend, but I'm usually able to make her cum lik...
A. 15 February 2012: Hi there. If you have a large penis, well then it could hurt when you are in deep.
That's to be expected.
So perhaps be a little gentler with her, and let her be the guide for you.
Also you might be putting too much pressure on her to have ... (read in full...)
Am I overanalyzing his actions or just settling for someone?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years and although we are both in our careers I feel like things have somewhat changed (or I’m just overanalyzing as I usually do) He’s a police officer and has weird shifts that are constantly ...
A. 15 February 2012: Hi there. As it has been 4 years or more, perhaps it has passed the honeymoon "Newness" stage.
It does seem like some complacency has set in for sure.
That is fairly normal though, for any relationship.
It's like wearing a comfy old pair... (read in full...)
Does withholding sex mean one is playing games?
Q. This is sequel to a previous post. How is holding out on sex with your partner playing games? How is games if your intention is not to be manipulative? Must sex be everything in a relationship? I am in a LDR which picked up very fast in the begi...
A. 12 February 2012: Hi. His family applying pressure on him to get married and settled, has probably become a part of the problem. Especially, when it didn't work out that way or in that time frame - Christmas 2011.
Time frames just can't be placed on somethin... (read in full...)
I'm scared to start a new relationship because I don't want to hurt my ex!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 20months 3 weeks ago, the relationship had started to go downhill at around the beginning of november, he still felt the same about me but I was starting to notice the spark disappear. In the beginning of December I ...
A. 9 February 2012: Hi there. You broke up with him for the right reasons.
You couldn't have kept seeing him with your feelings fading day by day. To do so, would have been living a lie.
Are you ready to start a new relationship so soon after the breakup?
... (read in full...)
He swears on the kids that he will be back before May!
Q. My husband left me for his mistress about two months ago and he doesn't think he is having an affair. I did send divorce papers right away but know I'm regretting it. We have been talking and he swears on the kids he will be back before may and ...
A. 9 February 2012: Hi there. It depends on what you lied about, before he went off with this other woman.
Did you fight a lot?
What kinds of things did you fight about?
Do you work, or are you a stay at home mum?
Perhaps over the years and then having c... (read in full...)
Does withholding sex mean one is playing games?
Q. This is sequel to a previous post. How is holding out on sex with your partner playing games? How is games if your intention is not to be manipulative? Must sex be everything in a relationship? I am in a LDR which picked up very fast in the begi...
A. 8 February 2012: Hi. Recently you said he called you to go out, however you told him you were busy, and you couldn't. Avoiding seeing him is only going to prolong the process. You must see each other to sort it out properly. If and when he contacts you ag... (read in full...)
How can I make sure he doesn't reject me?
Q. Okay so its so close to Valentines Day! I'm having guy problems. There's this guy Kris. Hes a year younger than me but way taller than me. We like each other but not enough to date. We used to hold hands and he would put his arm around me but then ...
A. 7 February 2012: Hi. That sounds pretty good to me.
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
I have a bad boyfriend but just can't seem to leave him
Q. I've been thinking about splitting up with my boyfriend but just can't seem to leave him. We've been together 3 years and have a 1 year old. We moved out in the last few weeks and argue all the time. He never wants sex and I want sex whenever we ...
A. 6 February 2012: Hi there. I'm guessing that you don't believe you are attractive to him anymore, since being pregnant and now being a mother.
You can be as attractive as you believe you are.
It seems like somehow, your boyfriend feels a bit trapped now that... (read in full...)
I suggested he date the other girl, but now I'm crushed
Q. I've liked this guy the whole school year. He's not a typical jerk, and he's a real genuine person. I got him out of a lot of bad habits, and he made me a happier person. We haven't dated because 1) I'm barely allowed (real restricted) 2) I have no ...
A. 6 February 2012: Hi there. You said what you felt was right for him, so it probably was the right advice.
You have said you are busy studying and so have very little time to date anyone, anyway.
What you told him is fair, under the circumstances.
... (read in full...)
This is really 'bugging' me!
Q. A friend of mine stopped over today to help me move a piece of furniture and while he was sitting on my couch he mentioned that he has bed bugs in his apartment. I am horrified and I have been itching ever since. Can bed bugs be spread from a person ...
A. 6 February 2012: Hi there. I'm not sure bed bugs or dust mites, which are the same thing, actually stay on people.
They usually hang out among the dust.
Unless they could have been on his clothes.
You could have got some of them on your clothes if you got ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mum I caught my dad in an compromising position?
Q. Last night, I was at a festival with my dad, 2 sisters and some friends. everything was going fine apart from having a few stomach cramps but i noticed something. My dad had his arm around a woman other than my mum. I knew the woman to be a nun who ...
A. 6 February 2012: Hi there. You say your father knows what you saw but denied there is anything going on.
The next time you are all out somewhere, keep a close eye on him the whole time without it being terribly obvious, just to see what else he does in public w... (read in full...)
I try to do what he says but it's getting on my nerves!
Q. i've been dating a guy for 3 months now,.... he is very smart, very nice, kind hearted ... loves his family, and friends... he gives me a lot of attention... supposedly loves me... and i feel the same, but since we started dating everything that i ...
A. 6 February 2012: Hi there. It sounds like he is insecure.
People who are insecure can be clingy and want to be reassured often, that everything is okay.
And if not behaving in that way, they can be very controlling, as he seems to be.
He doesn't want you t... (read in full...)
I lied to my boyfriend but now that I have come clean and am telling the truth he doesn't trust me
Q. I lied to my boyfriend about my online- activities prior to us moving in together. When he found out, I denied it, then I changed my story and told him what I was doing (emblishing the facts as I thought it was what he wanted to hear), I then took ...
A. 6 February 2012: Hi there. It's not really surprising is it, when you keep changing your story?
You say one thing, then you back up later and say something else.
Honesty is the best policy.
At least then people know where they stand with you, and that is wh... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals from my boyfriend and I'm confused. Please help me.
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for about 7 months now and in that space of time we have had to go through alot to name a few, me losing my job, his mum visiting for 3 week (i didnt meet her, she traditional) and he went away for 5 week. when ...
A. 5 February 2012: Hi there. You need to ask him why he can't find a job in your local area.
Then you wouldn't be separated at all.
Are there no good jobs close to where he lives now?
Is it possible he thinks you are clingy? Do you feel dependent on him be... (read in full...)
How can I make sure he doesn't reject me?
Q. Okay so its so close to Valentines Day! I'm having guy problems. There's this guy Kris. Hes a year younger than me but way taller than me. We like each other but not enough to date. We used to hold hands and he would put his arm around me but then ...
A. 5 February 2012: Hi there. He's dating this other girl, Tiffany, so he's with her now?
Perhaps he just wants to play the field for the moment.
He might just want to date all different girls, to see what is the type of girl who most appeals to him.
Not just... (read in full...)
Help!!! How do I let him down gently without hurting him?
Q. Hey guys, short story this really sweet and caring guy and I met a while ago, we started talking, flirting, texting, hanging out etc, and now his feelings have grown stronger for me, while mine have done the opposite. I have realised that my...
A. 5 February 2012: Hi there. You're right, it's not fair to pretend you feel one way, when you feel differently.
Well for a start, it's lying, isn't it?
You don't want to live a lie. You are not only cheating yourself, you are cheating him as well.
You jus... (read in full...)
I want to spend time with my new boyfriend at school but I don't know if he wants to!
Q. hey i have know this guy for like 4 yrs and we started dating 2 weeks ago, but we havent actually spent time together at school :/ and i want to but i dont know if he does and im a yr 2 mouths older then him, could it be because of that? or is he ...
A. 5 February 2012: Hi there. When he is at school, he would probably like to be with his mates.
And you be with your friends.
You can actually spend too much time together, to the point where it feels like being suffocated.
He needs his own space - and you ... (read in full...)
Why did boyfriend's face go numb during sex?
Q. Let's start with I am overweight! However I've been with my boyfriend now for over a month and we have sex everyday at least once, mostly two or three times sometimes more and it's great. However last night we had our first argument and he wa...
A. 5 February 2012: Hi there. As soon as something like that happens, call the emergency number for your country - URGENTLY. Call for an ambulance.
Numbness in the side of the face and chest pain, vomiting is potentially very serious.
He needs to have that che... (read in full...)
How can I explain to my friend he's just not worth it?
Q. God I'm so worried for my friend. We've both dated the same guy but she's the more recent. He dumped her a month ago and he keeps changing his mind about how he feels for her. Just the Other day he went for a walk with her, said he loved her and ...
A. 5 February 2012: Hi there. He probably is restless in all relationships, as a result of his parents' divorce.
It makes a person's life very unstable when they come from a broken family.
There is a natural tendency to fear the same will happen to him, that his... (read in full...)
Breaking down signals
Q. This is one of those times where your stuck trying to analyse everything to figure out what they mean... but it's driving me insane, so I guess I'm looking for opinions to see if any of this is means that this girl likes me or not. I met this gir...
A. 5 February 2012: Hi there. You seem to get along and have fun together, so there is some rapport, isn't there?
You can make each other laugh also.
So that's something positive.
If you are on the same swim team, you are obviously seeing each other severa... (read in full...)
A married millionaire spending time and money on a young beautiful model: Is it possible this relationship is NOT cheating?
Q. Hello, I am writing on behalf of a friend with who came to me with her concerns the other day. I tried to respond best as I could, but I wanted to tap into the wisdom pool here to see what I could tell her further or better. Basically, my fri...
A. 5 February 2012: Hi there. If he was trying to hide anything, you would think he wouldn't leave his email open, wouldn't you?
In other words, if he was cheating he wouldn't be open and honest the way he is, you would think.
As for whether it's cheating, well I... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a neighbour. Should I tell my husband?
Q. Very Sad Hello, this is long so bear with me, I have been married for 12 years with my husband for 13 years, we have two small kids, I have been happy for most of my marriage and my husband is basicaly a good man, however in our marriage he gamb...
A. 3 February 2012: Hi. You will love your husband with passion again, once you get over the guilt from the affair.
Don't stop making love to your husband, so it doesn't make him worry.
Concentrate only on what's good about your mariage and your husband's good q... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a neighbour. Should I tell my husband?
Q. Very Sad Hello, this is long so bear with me, I have been married for 12 years with my husband for 13 years, we have two small kids, I have been happy for most of my marriage and my husband is basicaly a good man, however in our marriage he gamb...
A. 2 February 2012: Hi there. No, he's not laughing at you.
If he seems like he is smug, it's probably that your guilt is making you more sensitive to things than normal. So ignore it.
Don't be nasty towards him, because that would raise suspicion in you... (read in full...)
How can I make her open up her heart to me?
Q. There is this woman who I love so much more than any anyone I came across in my life, for the first time in over a year we begin to talk to each other over some social network site when she invited me. last time we had a real communication we ended ...
A. 2 February 2012: Hi there. This communication now, is after more than a year of no communication - is that right?
So What happened before that year gap?
Were you a couple then, or was it always talking via the internet?
So what I am really asking here is, h... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my boyfriend back?
Q. My boyfriend just broke up with me because my soon to be ex-husband is doing some crazy stuff. He also is now saying that he needs to figure out if getting back together with his ex-wife if a viable option. Both of our ex's cheated on us and were ...
A. 2 February 2012: Hi there. I'm not male, however I can try and help and we'll see how we go.
If your boyfriend is wondering about reconciling with his ex, it might also be wise to consider doing the same.
And it also depends on what your feelings are for... (read in full...)
Small lie by him leads to me worrying way too much...
Q. I need some advice. I have been with my LDR for almost a year and in the beginning he lied about a lot in efforts to make me like him. after a few weeks he told me the truth about himself and vowed never to lie again. well just this week I was ...
A. 2 February 2012: Hi. Perhaps it might be wiser to not ask him if something he says is the truth.
It could make him feel like he's being interrogated.
And I understand because you aren't seeing each other very often, that there is some doubt as to his faithfuln... (read in full...)
Small lie by him leads to me worrying way too much...
Q. I need some advice. I have been with my LDR for almost a year and in the beginning he lied about a lot in efforts to make me like him. after a few weeks he told me the truth about himself and vowed never to lie again. well just this week I was ...
A. 1 February 2012: Hi there. Trust and honesty is important in ANY relationship, not just LDRs.
Perhaps he lied by omission, by not saying something he felt could be taken out of context, so he left it out purposely.
He can obviously see you are insecure in ... (read in full...)
Does withholding sex mean one is playing games?
Q. This is sequel to a previous post. How is holding out on sex with your partner playing games? How is games if your intention is not to be manipulative? Must sex be everything in a relationship? I am in a LDR which picked up very fast in the begi...
A. 1 February 2012: Hi. While ever it remains as an LDR, there is going to be not only physical distance between you, but also emotional distance.
Two people can only get so close emotionally, while you are not seeing each other - or not making love.
You can... (read in full...)
Does withholding sex mean one is playing games?
Q. This is sequel to a previous post. How is holding out on sex with your partner playing games? How is games if your intention is not to be manipulative? Must sex be everything in a relationship? I am in a LDR which picked up very fast in the begi...
A. 28 January 2012: Hi there. If he sees it as no sex means playing games, he is probably wondering why there was sex before and not now.
He probably can't see the logic to it at all.
He might also see it as a rejection of sorts.
If you haven't done so yet,... (read in full...)
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