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| Latest articles: Being Happy In a Relationship
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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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My girlfriend had me charged for a crime when she was the one who has been abusive
Q. My life is in such a mess! I was with my girlfriend for about two years. Anyway, after a few months I caught her cheating. But I took her back. Then I caught her cheating again and I took her back. She then started to raise her hands to me abou...
A. 6 February 2013: Hi. Your doctor could have a very good point here, because your ex has breached the doctor patient confidentiality.
Even though she may not have told anyone else about what she found in your records, still, she had no right to access your med... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had me charged for a crime when she was the one who has been abusive
Q. My life is in such a mess! I was with my girlfriend for about two years. Anyway, after a few months I caught her cheating. But I took her back. Then I caught her cheating again and I took her back. She then started to raise her hands to me abou...
A. 29 January 2013: Hi. It just sounds like bullying to me, the threatening text messages.
She might be just feeling bitter that it's all over, etc.
You are wise in changing your phone number.... (read in full...)
Is this friendship worth trying to save, or am I wasting my time?
Q. I have been friends with this guy for about a year. We're both in college. We used to stay up all night on the weekends, doing silly things or just hanging around watching movies, and we would talk on Facebook for hours. I am very solitary by nature ...
A. 24 January 2013: Hi. Yes, it probably is your best course of action now - to give him some space - as it seems like some kind of stage he is going through.
Perhaps he is taking these drugs to handle the stress of studying, and it helps him to chill out.
... (read in full...)
My friend and I are getting closer, but with our shared history it's complicated. Where is this going?
Q. before i start, i just want to say that there is a long history behind this story. Almost a decade to be precise. I met S when I was in high school and we became quite good friends very quickly. I had a bit of a crush on him but he was in a relati...
A. 24 January 2013: Hi. You're very welcome.
If you have any more problems, please let me know here.
Or you could always write to my private mailbox - then I won't miss seeing it, if it was a completely new posting.
Thanks.... (read in full...)
My friend and I are getting closer, but with our shared history it's complicated. Where is this going?
Q. before i start, i just want to say that there is a long history behind this story. Almost a decade to be precise. I met S when I was in high school and we became quite good friends very quickly. I had a bit of a crush on him but he was in a relati...
A. 24 January 2013: Hi. So are you saying that his ex, got remarried to this other man?
And the three of them have remained friends?
Well anyway, that is good news, the baby isn't his.
Thanks for clarifying that, because it changes things a lot to what I f... (read in full...)
How can I get everyone in the house to help? Not just me?
Q. Hi, My mom has long run a busy household which was always full. All my life my mom only ever let me Hoover or dust and that was when I asked to do it. If you ever offered to do dishes or washing she would tell you " you won't do it properly" No...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi. High blood pressure which is untreated - because she doesn't like taking tablets - is potentially a life threatening situation.
Stroke being one of those consequences.
Possibly also heart attack and kidney problems.
Perhaps she isn... (read in full...)
Is this friendship worth trying to save, or am I wasting my time?
Q. I have been friends with this guy for about a year. We're both in college. We used to stay up all night on the weekends, doing silly things or just hanging around watching movies, and we would talk on Facebook for hours. I am very solitary by nature ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hello again. It does seem that things have changed for him in a short time, doesn't it?
So it's possible that things might have started to change for him during the holidays between semesters, do you think?
And so it's nothing you have done wr... (read in full...)
My ex will not see me and is using her mother as a shield
Q. Dear cupids My heart is breaking because the girl I love (Caroline) is refusing to speak to me. Caroline has ended our relationship on a weekly basis pretty much for the whole of the last year. But we truly love each other and we both know we are m...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. I guess the on again and off again type situation, really depends on what it is that happens right before she decides to call it off.
Like, is it some kind of misunderstanding between you, for instance?
Has she been married before? ... (read in full...)
My friend and I are getting closer, but with our shared history it's complicated. Where is this going?
Q. before i start, i just want to say that there is a long history behind this story. Almost a decade to be precise. I met S when I was in high school and we became quite good friends very quickly. I had a bit of a crush on him but he was in a relati...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. The very first concern of yours now, is that his ex is pregnant.
And it's all the more of an issue, because he was hanging out again with his ex recently - before you and he got together as a couple - which I'm guessing is when she fell... (read in full...)
Is this friendship worth trying to save, or am I wasting my time?
Q. I have been friends with this guy for about a year. We're both in college. We used to stay up all night on the weekends, doing silly things or just hanging around watching movies, and we would talk on Facebook for hours. I am very solitary by nature ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. I am getting mixed messages from you here, regards the status of your relationship.
And by that, I mean, you are or were in contact quite a lot by Facebook, talking to each other.
And then you only sometimes seem to be actually seei... (read in full...)
How can I get everyone in the house to help? Not just me?
Q. Hi, My mom has long run a busy household which was always full. All my life my mom only ever let me Hoover or dust and that was when I asked to do it. If you ever offered to do dishes or washing she would tell you " you won't do it properly" No...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. This is the problem with being a perfectionist - your mother, I mean.
She believes no-one else can do as good a job as she can, with everything that needs to be done.
Unfortunately, with this way of thinking, it just makes more work ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had me charged for a crime when she was the one who has been abusive
Q. My life is in such a mess! I was with my girlfriend for about two years. Anyway, after a few months I caught her cheating. But I took her back. Then I caught her cheating again and I took her back. She then started to raise her hands to me abou...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. I totally agree with you about formally pressing charges against your ex girlfriend.
It seems that, as you said yourself here, she is simply trying to get you back for the photos she saw, of you kissing some other girl, and has told the... (read in full...)
FWB become girlfriend. Is it too soon to propose?
Q. My girl and I started seeing each other a year ago last week. I was not long out of a serious relationship and in the beginning it was just a 'friends with benefits' arrangement. We had known each other for almost three years and lived together for ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi there. Even though you feel sure you love her and want to be with her, is that really enough?
When a person thinks about wanting to marry someone, they must be absolutely sure of this, before they actually make the proposal of marriage... (read in full...)
Can I make my breasts perky?
Q. I'm 16 years old, and I hate, hate, hate my boobs. They're cone-shaped and point downward. I'm 36B, and I'm completely healthy. I'm terrified when boyfriends ask to see them. In the past, I've had guy friends accidentally see them, and all th...
A. 22 January 2013: Hi there. Because you have lost 50 lbs, which is quite a lot of weight, there could be a bit of loose flesh in your breast tissue, which is why they are hanging lower, rather than straight out and down just at the bottom.
And I really think th... (read in full...)
I want to talk to this boy but I don't know how
Q. Im in high school now and when i was in grade 9 i met this boy in the bus. but im in grade 12. I would see him sometimes, depending on what time i got to his bus stop. we would look at each other and every time i got off at my bus stop i felt that ...
A. 22 January 2013: Hi. You're very welcome.
Hope it goes well for you. Take care & best wishes.... (read in full...)
I broke up with abusive boyfriend but he keeps bothering me!
Q. i broke up with my ex four months ago.He was quite abusive and very manipulative. He used to blame me for everything which was happening in his life. he lost his job also. on that time i was very emotional but still i broke up because it was t...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi there. How can he blame you for his job loss?
It seems he likes to make himself feel like a victim of life, doesn't he?
He refuses to take responsibility for anything that goes wrong in his life.
We all need to take responsibility and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend asked for undetermined break!
Q. Hello everyone, i don't know how to deal with my boyfriend. There is something that happened to my life and i told him exactly what happened the whole truth, but however i wasnt comfortable telling my family yet, i grew up in a family where we weren...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi there. Has it always been a long distance relationship, or did he move away once he asked for a break with you?
If you haven't cheated or lied to him, well then what is it he is upset about?
He has no real reason, does he?
In hindsi... (read in full...)
I want to talk to this boy but I don't know how
Q. Im in high school now and when i was in grade 9 i met this boy in the bus. but im in grade 12. I would see him sometimes, depending on what time i got to his bus stop. we would look at each other and every time i got off at my bus stop i felt that ...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi there. If you feel his eyes are on you as you get off at your bus stop, it's fairly safe to say, that he could be interested in you.
Really, all you can do is whenever you find yourself walking towards him on the bus, or if you see him at t... (read in full...)
Is he intimidated by me or just playing games with me???
Q. I was an assistant to the managers at my job during the holiday season which lasted three months and in this time I got to know everyone in the store and all the new holiday hires. One person in particular worked in all different areas of the store ...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi there. He obviously has some feelings for you, which is why he keeps hanging around you all the time and talking to you.
He probably seen the OMG look on your face that time he mentioned all his body piercings to you etc., and has been won... (read in full...)
Do guys back off if their friends show interest in you?
Q. So to make a long story short, a guy from my school was very interested in me, but I have feelings for one of his friends. One day I was talking to the friend, and he basically told me that he finds me attractive but that he felt we couldn't act ...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi there. This guy you like either doesn't really know how you feel about him, or, he is a little shy about approaching girls that he likes.
And this is entirely possible.
He knows his friend likes you also, and so is waiting until the coast ... (read in full...)
How can I stop caring for this guy who obviously doesn't care for
Q. I started dating this guy 3 years ago. At first he seemed so sweet and trustworthy. After a few months we started to fight over the fact that I was still friends with my ex boyfriend. We would fight a lot because I could tell he didn't trust me...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi there. From what you have said, I am guessing that you are still together.
Is that right?
Have you ever sat down together and talked about this BIG issue for him, of you still being friends with your ex boyfriend?
If you haven't up unt... (read in full...)
Why does she keep on asking me about my Gf?
Q. This girl I work with continuously asks me about my relationship. She (and I) were a little bit flirty with each other for a while but I know she has a husband so I never persued anything. Any way I started dated another girl about a few months ago ...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi there. When you and her were flirty with each other earlier, perhaps she was hoping to take it further with you.
Or else, she was just enjoying those little flirtations between you.
Kind of fun, to break the monotony of life.
Perhaps... (read in full...)
My sister has an obsession in staying in touch with my ex boyfriends. Its very unsettling!
Q. This may sound strange, but my sister seems to have some kind of obsession with my ex boyfriends. When I break up with someone I rarely stay friends with them, not because I dislike them, but because I like to make a clean break and move on and I ...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi there. It is rather unusual to say the least.
From what you say, it doesn't sound like she is keeping in touch with them so she can date them herself, because she brings them over to talk to you - if she's with you at the time.
Otherwi... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my feelings for my best friend
Q. My mother's cousin's son and I have been best friends for three years. It's getting close (less than a year) to the time when we will be going our separate ways to go to college, and I'm extremely upset. I don't think I love him, but I can't imagine ...
A. 19 January 2013: Hi there. It's possible that part of your confusion is that you and him are actually related.
So for you at some level, it crosses some boundaries.
Sort of like taboo.
Cousins sometimes do have romantic relationships.
Over t... (read in full...)
My friends are still friends with my ex and taking her side. I feel like I'm being stabbed in the back!
Q. Hey dear cupid readers, first of all, some background information. I am in college, and part of a social group consisting 2 guy friends and 1 girl-friend and a few of her friends. Well this girl in our social group, I used to date her for a few mo...
A. 18 January 2013: Hi there. It sounds like this girl you recently stopped dating wanted more than you did from your association with her.
In other words, you weren't both on the same page.
And when she kissed other guys when you were seriously dating her, seem... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble sleeping and need some advice!
Q. I need serious help falling asleep. I have gotten into a really really bad pattern and it is destroying me. I'm a very deep sleeper and once I'm asleep I can be gone for a good 8 hours but recently I just can't get there. I used to go to be...
A. 18 January 2013: Hi there. I realize that running a business from home will take a lot of your time, and you are probably doing it all on your own, are you?
The challenging part of running a business from home, is that you are constantly in the workplac... (read in full...)
Why does my opinion mean less to my GF than others?
Q. My girlfriend and I are coming up on our first year, and we began living together about eight months through. I'd have to say in all honesty that we are as opposite as night and day....I spend a lot of time in intellectual pursuits and (just to make ...
A. 18 January 2013: Hi there. Apart from your suggestion of how she could wear her hair, it really depends on what kinds of things she does ask your opinion on.
Is it something that could be life changing, for instance?
Does she ask your opinion on something onl... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and our sex life has dwindled. What can I do to get him keen again?
Q. My sex life has been in a lull since I've been pregnant, and particularly since I started showing. It seems whenever I want to have sex, but husband isn't that interested, but when he's usually interested, it's in the middle of the night when I'm ...
A. 18 January 2013: Hi there. Very often when a woman becomes pregnant, a man begins to look at her as being a mother.
It puts you into the "Mother" category, at any rate.
And I honestly believe this is a big part of his change in attitude towards having s... (read in full...)
If I confront my husband, who cheated in the past, with these texts, he'll take issue with my snooping. What do I do?
Q. About 3 years ago I found out that my husband had been joining dating sites, and chatting and cheating on me with other women he had met on these sites. This had been going on behind my back for 5 years. I realise how good he is at keeping secrets ...
A. 18 January 2013: Hi there. How did you find out the first time, that he had been previously cheating on you for 5 years?... (read in full...)
I don't want our last two awkward meetings to be the last memories we have of each other. Advice?
Q. So my story happens on New Year’s Eve. (back ground info) I am 21 and my friend is 18. We have been neighbours for most of our lives. We were very close as children and I have great memories of being with him. but we grew apart when I was a teenag...
A. 17 January 2013: Hi there. I guess it really depends on what you would hope that might happen now.
Are you attracted to him?
Or, do you only want to remain friends?
Or do you simply want to eraze the awkardness from those past two occasions?
Because it... (read in full...)
Do I say something about my friend's thieving girlfriend? Or say nothing? Or tell one of his family?
Q. I have a bit of a moral dilemma. I found out that a friend of mine is dating a girl who was arrested and fired from her job for retail theft in the store she worked in back in September. I have never trusted this girl because something just wasn...
A. 13 January 2013: Hi there. I realize the fact that she stole from the retailer where she worked, could definitely make her seem somewhat untrustworthy.
The main thing is that she WAS caught, and so her employer at that retailers, obviously considered it signific... (read in full...)
Why does he only phone me from work? Why doesn't he answer when I call him? Could he be playing me?
Q. Okay PLEASE HELP. So I am 19. Keep in mind I have always had a very old soul and countless people have told me this. I am not your average teenager I should probably be older I act like it... Anyways. I have always liked older guys. Recently, ...
A. 13 January 2013: Hi there. Although he has said he isn't married, nor does he have kids, but can you be sure?
For now at least, unless you find out otherwise, you are going to have to trust him on this.
It does seem rather odd behaviour just the same, don't ... (read in full...)
Is the timing just wrong for us to be together? Do I keep pursuing her?
Q. Greetings Everyone, So here's lies my issue and I hope someone has gone through a similar thing. My girlfriend and I had been dating for roughly 7 months. The relationship was really great, we got along wonderfully, and seemed to click fast. We...
A. 12 January 2013: Hi there. It seems the main source of your problems here, is the longer hours she is now working.
And as a result of this, she is tired and cranky, and so has very little energy to pursue the relationship.
And she clearly sees that as unfair t... (read in full...)
My BF is going through a rough time and is homeless. How can I comfort him?
Q. So this guy I've been seeing for a while is going through a bit of a rough time. Long story short, he's basically homeless right now, and it particularly sucks because he's very new to the area and he considered the people he lived with family. ...
A. 9 January 2013: Hello again. I'm glad having a job has given him some sense of hope.
It's always a really good thing, when you have employment, which means a regular income each week, which is so important.
He at least then, has an idea of exactly how much... (read in full...)
He is being manipulated by another woman. How should I get him back?
Q. This is my story: I met a really great guy two years ago. We eloped too fast and talked about marriage too fast. The first problem started when I found out he had unfinished business with his ex girlfriend and was still communicating wi...
A. 9 January 2013: Hello again. Sometimes, it's just the wisest thing to follow your heart and what it's telling you.
It sounds like you have some idea of how you are feeling about all of this, and so it could be for the best if you do follow your heart on this one... (read in full...)
I'm almost 21 never had a boyfriend and feel like such a loser
Q. Hello I would like to ask for help to determine why I'm so lonely. Okay to start I'm about to be 21 and I've never had a boyfriend I feel like such a loser! I don't know if it's because I'm depressed or what? I have a low self esteem and I also only ...
A. 8 January 2013: Hi there. You are probably worrying too much about how you come across to others, and so much that you don't relax enough to let your true self really shine through.
And so no-one ever really gets to know who you really are.
When people w... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep on trying to light the kindling in the fire that just keeps going out??
Q. Well me and my, long distance relationship keep on trying to rekindl the fire but nothing works its like she has a bf and says that she still wants to keep in tounch. So we keep on talking every couple of times a month not as much as we use to. I ...
A. 8 January 2013: Hi there. Perhaps it is that you and her both have different expectations of what you want from the friendship.
Have you ever met each other, or has it always just been contact by email or phone calls?
And as to whether she has a boyfriend ... (read in full...)
How do we deal with communication problem in our marriage?
Q. Ive been married for 5 years and it just now hit me that for the past 2 years we have had communication issues. For example every time i try to talk to my husband he doesnt reply to me all he says is "ok" and i tell him well give me your opinion ...
A. 8 January 2013: Hi there. Perhaps part of the problem is the TIMING, of when you say something to him, or ask for his opinion on something.
For instance, when you mentioned to him that he doesn't play with your son very often, he just rolled over and went to ... (read in full...)
He is being manipulated by another woman. How should I get him back?
Q. This is my story: I met a really great guy two years ago. We eloped too fast and talked about marriage too fast. The first problem started when I found out he had unfinished business with his ex girlfriend and was still communicating wi...
A. 8 January 2013: Hi there. First of all, it seems like when he met you, there still was some unfinished business with his ex at the time.
There is no doubt about it whatsoever.
So what might have happened, could be that when he met you, he was fresh out of tha... (read in full...)
My BF is going through a rough time and is homeless. How can I comfort him?
Q. So this guy I've been seeing for a while is going through a bit of a rough time. Long story short, he's basically homeless right now, and it particularly sucks because he's very new to the area and he considered the people he lived with family. ...
A. 7 January 2013: Hi there. Well one great thing for him, is the fact he is starting a new job, so that means he will have a steady stream of income.
I don't follow you about when you said, his father invited him over to this country - USA - but then kicked h... (read in full...)
As the man, should I be doing the asking?
Q. I have a lady in my life. We are friends, good friends and I'd like to be more than friends but it hasn't reached that point. I'm old fashioned. I've always believed a man has to court the lady, that when a man wants to do something, ie go...
A. 31 December 2012: Hi there. Even though it is LDR, it doesn't sound like it's too hard for you to see her, from what you have said here that you could see her anytime, just as long as you have time to plan it.
So going by that statement, it must at least be a rea... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like I need a man to complete me?
Q. hello cupid,i hoping you can help me anwser some concerns i have about me. i have been married for 20 years now. but thinking back i really got into this marraige really fast. within a week of my husband and myself dating we moved in together and ...
A. 31 December 2012: Hi. I really believe it will make a HUGE difference to how you think about life generally, I really do.
I hope you will go ahead and buy it.
It was the one thing that made ALL the difference to me, without doing ANYTHING else at all.
In th... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like I need a man to complete me?
Q. hello cupid,i hoping you can help me anwser some concerns i have about me. i have been married for 20 years now. but thinking back i really got into this marraige really fast. within a week of my husband and myself dating we moved in together and ...
A. 30 December 2012: Hi there. Before we can love anyone else or have them love us, we first have to feel good about ourselves and love and respect ourselves, unconditionally.
Perhaps your thinking always went - before you met your husband - "I want to get married ... (read in full...)
The girl I love has a boyfriend and she says she loves us both. She won't choose between us. Advice?
Q. Basically, I'm just looking for some sort of help or advice. This girl was in love with me a few months ago but I was going through a lot at the time and just declined a relationship with her. We remained good friends and we love and care about each ...
A. 27 December 2012: Hi there. There is no point in wanting her to choose between you, as she does have a boyfriend, and this is standing in the way of you and her really being together as a couple.
So with that being the case, you can only continue to be friends ... (read in full...)
The feelings of infatuation I had with my boyfriend have gone. Should I end our relationship?
Q. Have any of you ever dated someone who at first you were so infatuated with and thought was this amazing person that couldn't be better for you and made you so incredibly happy... but then over time realised those feelings you had have faded and ...
A. 27 December 2012: Hi there. When people ate attracted to each other at first, you will get some feelings of butterflies in your stomach.
Because you are falling in love, and it's all new and exciting and fun.
And this is normal for most people.
Howev... (read in full...)
How do I come out to my transphobic parents?
Q. I am a FTM transgender and gay, meaning I like men. I am currently dating a questioning but that is not the problem. This is my problem. How do I come out to my parents as transgendered when they're transphobic? This is very crutial as I want to ...
A. 27 December 2012: Hi there. I'm surprised that your parents didn't have a clue of this before now.
I honestly don't know the term "FTM", but I do understand the term transgender.
So what you are really saying here, is that you are genetically male and at the ... (read in full...)
Questions about orgasms and squirting?
Q. Ladies.....I am new to g spot stimulation and am in need of help. I have a vibrator which has helped me to find my g spot since now I can find it with self exploration. I can squirt which I love the urge to pee feeling and then just letting mys...
A. 27 December 2012: Hi there. Orgasms can vary, and it entirely depends on which part of the genitals gets the most stimulation.
There can be orgasms that result from stimulation of the clitoris, and there are orgasms that result from stimulation of the G-spot, ... (read in full...)
How can I put a stop to my ex bad-mouthing about my now Gf? It hurts my Gf so much.
Q. my girlfriend and soon to be wife puts herself down and its all because of me. well not exactly me its because of my past and her past. before her i had a girlfriend and our relationship did not work out and during those times i was falling in l...
A. 25 December 2012: Hello. Probably the most important thing to consider here, is that you and your current girlfriend, trust each other completely.
And that is the best possible foundation for a long and happy life together.... (read in full...)
How can I put a stop to my ex bad-mouthing about my now Gf? It hurts my Gf so much.
Q. my girlfriend and soon to be wife puts herself down and its all because of me. well not exactly me its because of my past and her past. before her i had a girlfriend and our relationship did not work out and during those times i was falling in l...
A. 16 December 2012: Hi there. There is certainly some insecurity there, for sure.
It's very clear that your ex wants you back.
And maybe this is because she has no-one of her own at the moment.
So she would rather have someone she knows, than no-one at al... (read in full...)
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